Chapter 83 Six Principles of Effective Conversation

How to successfully talk with people and how to make the conversation more efficient, there are many rules and strategies worth learning. When talking with people, you must first have a correct attitude, otherwise it will arouse the resentment of others. Once there is a gap in thinking, it will be difficult to have a conversation.Secondly, respect each other, don't be arrogant and domineering; don't be self-righteous, arbitrary; don't be hypocritical, flattering. Only in this way can everyone get along in harmony and have a heart-to-heart conversation. Don't interrupt others' speech, let the other party speak to their heart's content, and you have to listen attentively.Even if you do not agree with the other person's point of view, don't interrupt in a hurry, and wait until the other person has finished speaking before clarifying your opinion.Be good at listening, analyze the sound in the words, so that you can know when the other party's conversation reaches its climax, and know when the other party's speech is coming to an end.In this way, your speech can be timely and secure.

When the topic has changed from the table tennis game to the basketball game a few minutes ago, if you talk about the table tennis game again, obviously you can’t keep up with the conversation rhythm; and when everyone is talking about the basketball game with great interest, you change the topic to the volleyball game again. Obviously, you don't know the "fire"; when everyone is commenting on ball games, but you talk about airplanes, cannons and other things that have nothing to do with ball games, it is obviously too far from the topic, and it will only make people laugh.Watch the conversation closely, keeping your focus on what is being talked about.As long as your mind is clear, your eyes are sharp, and you keep up with the "beat" of the conversation, there will be no awkward situations.

Keep the conversation centered and don't stray from the topic.When everyone is talking about a new miracle drug, don't be saved by hearing someone talk about how your sister took it. Then you go on and on about your sister's story, and you unconsciously deviate from the main topic of the conversation.If the topic is biased, the effect of speaking will inevitably be greatly reduced. The change of topic occupies a very important position in the conversation.When everyone seems to have talked about something at length and lose interest, change the subject immediately.There are many ways to change the topic, one way is to let the old topic disappear naturally.Another way is to rehash what was just discussed and then quickly change the subject.When changing the topic, we must pay attention to the "fire", neither too late nor too early.Never try to force others to follow you by talking about something else just because you're bored while the topic is still interesting.

It's impossible to engage in a conversation well if you don't know anything about the conversation you're about to have.You must not only understand the subject of the conversation, but also the nature of the conversation and the effect you expect to achieve. Only by grasping the key points of the conversation can you have an effective conversation.