Chapter 78 Proactively spark a friendly conversation

When talking with people, maybe you will often rack your brains to think of some very level words to show your ability.However, if you don't take the other party into consideration, what will happen to the other party under your strength?Of course he is not to be outdone, and will work harder than you to find some more level words.What will you do after he finds out?Are you looking for more level words?This cycle goes on and on, and you two are not talking, but fighting wits.In a conversation, words that are too level can sometimes cause depression to the other party, making it difficult to continue the conversation.

In fact, it is not difficult to have a conversation.A few brief pleasantries between strangers can spark conversation.Everyone can be vulgar, everyone can get involved in that short conversation, talking about things that are neither witty nor meaningful.However, such short conversations are necessary for the smooth initiation of formal conversations. The purpose of initiating a conversation is to let the other party speak, and avoid leading the conversation into a dead end.If you can't say something like "The weather is really nice today!", you should ask the other party: "What work do you do?" or "Not" to send you.

When starting a conversation, be prepared to go through a "warm-up" phase.It's not wise to jump into a meaningful conversation without thinking, and don't expect to start off like meeting old friends. A short conversation can not only trigger a conversation for you, but also can be used to warm up for further conversations and guide the other party to make full preparations for further conversations.Then observe the interest of others in this conversation.It's like lighting a bonfire, don't expect to start with a torch, just a small match.Just the right way, this little match can keep a campfire ablaze.

But we should pay special attention to the fact that you should not take it too lightly during the conversation. Excellent eloquence does not depend too much on how smart you are or how tortuous your experience is, but on being good at inspiring and inducing others to speak.If you want to be an excellent eloquent master, you must avoid self-centeredness in your conversation.People are often only interested in themselves, their work, their family, their hometown, their ideals all the time.In fact, a simple question like "what do you do for work" signals to others that you are interested in him, and the result is bound to make others interested in you.

Before asking this simple question, you just need to ask yourself a question in your heart: "What do I want to get through talking?" Is it to express and show off?Or do you want to make a deal with someone else, get someone to sign the protocol, and get his permission and kindness?The mistake that many people make when talking with others is to talk about what they are interested in, instead of talking about what others are interested in.When you talk about the things you are interested in, although you are happy, others may not be happy, so how can you ask others to do things, ask others for help, and how can you achieve the purpose of your conversation?

When you meet someone you've never met, how to spark a conversation is key.Proactively triggering a conversation can eliminate strangeness, shorten the distance between each other, enliven the atmosphere of the conversation, and pave the way for in-depth conversations later.