Chapter 25 Stay away from base praise - flattery

Here's an example: Why did the Deveney brothers, who have been married many times, have such a ostentatious success in marriage?Why did these two so-called "boyfriends" Deveney brothers marry two beautiful movie stars, a famous opera star and another multi-millionaire Hatton?What is the reason?how do they do it St. John, in the Liberty Magazine, put it this way: "Divine's charm for women has been a mystery to the minds of men for many years..." He added: "Nigre, a woman who recognizes men and is an artist, once explained to me, 'They understand the art of flattery, of flattery, more successfully than anyone else I've ever seen. The flattery Art, in this era of true humor, is almost a forgotten thing, and perhaps Divine's charm for women lies in this.'

The difference between admiration and flattery--that is easy to recognize, admiration is sincere and flattery is false.One from the heart, one from the mouth.One is unselfish and the other is selfish.One is admired by people, and the other is shameful and rejected. I recently went to the Gibel Ironpic in Mexico City and saw a bust of General O'Brien.Underneath the bust is engraved a famous quote from General Oberlegan: "Beware of enemies who attack you, beware of friends who flatter you." No!No!I'm not asking people to flatter or flatter, that's a far cry. I'm talking about a way of life, a new way.

King George V has a set of six mottoes that hang on the wall of his study at Buckingham Palace.One of them said, "Teach me not to flatter or accept mean compliments." "Humble praise" is the interpretation of "flattery".I once saw a sentence about flattery, which is worth writing here. It is "flattery is to tell others clearly that he thinks of himself." Liff Walter Emerson said: "Whatever you want to say in any language, you can't do without your own kind." If all we have to do is to use flattery and flattery, then anyone can learn it, and anyone can learn it. Become an expert in "Human Relations".

When we are not thinking about a certain problem, we usually spend 95% of our time thinking about ourselves.But now if we stop thinking about ourselves for a moment and start thinking about the good points of others, we don't have to use mean and hypocritical words, and we can already detect false flattery before the words are spoken. Emerson also said: "Everyone I meet has something better than me, and I will learn from his good points." Emerson's views are very correct and deserve our attention.Stop thinking about our own achievements and needs, let us study the strengths of others, forget about flattery and flattery, and give people heartfelt and sincere appreciation.What people say to you will be valued and cherished, and they will be recited for life... Even if you have forgotten this matter for a long time, he still remembers what you said firmly.

Don't confuse flattery with praise. False flattery may be popular for a while, but it will be revealed in the long run, making people disgusted.