Chapter 23 Praise is like soup, the heat is very important

Why did Carnegie, the steel magnate, pay Schwab an annual salary of US$1 million?Is it because Schwab is a genius?no.Because he knows more about steelmaking than anyone else?Nonsense.Schwab himself once said that many of the people who worked under him knew more about steelmaking than he did. Schwarber said he got the salary in large part because of his people skills.He said: "I think I have the ability to inspire people's talents. This is the greatest resource I have, and the way to fully develop a person's talents is to use praise and encouragement." "The easiest thing to kill a person in the world is the criticism from the boss, so I never criticize anyone. I believe that motivating people to work will inspire their infinite creativity. So I am eager to praise, and I am too late to find mistakes. If there's one thing I like, it's that I'm 'sincerely rewarded and generous'." That's what Schwarber did.

If you don't judge the situation and master certain skills when praising others, even if you are sincere, you will turn a good thing into a bad thing.It's like you used very expensive raw materials to make a pot of soup, but if the heat is not well controlled, no matter how good the raw materials are, it will not make a delicious soup. Especially when praising superiors, it is even more necessary to master the heat of praise.We praise the ordinary people around us, even if the words are inappropriate, it doesn't matter too much, and others will not do anything to you.But when we praise our superiors, if the fire is not properly handled, the consequences may be very serious, and you may be depressed for the rest of your life; if you praise properly, you may be promoted to an official position.

Therefore, praise is like cooking soup, and the heat is very important.When you open your mouth to praise others, be sure to follow the following rules. The effect of praise lies in acting on camera, enough is enough.When someone plans to do a meaningful thing, the praise at the beginning can motivate him to make up his mind to make achievements, the praise in the middle is beneficial to the other party to make persistent efforts, and the praise at the end can affirm the achievement and point out the direction of further efforts, so as to achieve "praise a , to encourage a group of" effect.

People's quality is divided into high and low, age is different, and it varies from person to person, highlighting personality, and characteristic praise can receive better results than general praise. When you praise a person for his actions or contributions, your approval appears more genuine, and works best when the other person knows that he does deserve praise.Praising behavior is more likely to avoid utilitarianism or prejudice than praising the person. In everyday life, there are not many times when people have very significant achievements.Therefore, communication should start with specific events, be good at discovering even the slightest strengths of others, and praise them without losing the opportunity.The more detailed and specific the compliment, the more you know the other person and the more you value his strengths and achievements.

To praise others, mastering the heat is the most important thing.Only when the heat is well mastered, will the praise emit the most intense fragrance.