Chapter 21 Appreciate others from the heart and sincerity

Sincere appreciation is one of the secrets of Rockefeller's success in dealing with people.For one thing, when one of his partners, Bedford, mishandled a wrong deal in South America and cost the company a million dollars, Rockefeller had no criticism or accusation against him. He knew that Bedford had done his best, and at the same time the matter was closed.So Rockefeller found something to praise. He congratulated Bedford, and fortunately he saved 60% of his investment.Rockefeller said: "That's not bad, we don't do everything to our liking." Siegfried, the most astonishingly accomplished cabaret artist to shine on Broadway.He has repeatedly changed a very unremarkable woman that people don't want to take a second look into a mysterious and alluring stunner on the stage.

Siegfried was practical. He increased the salaries of showgirls from $30 a week to $175.He is also very loyal. On the opening night of the Follies musical, he sent a congratulatory message to the stars of the play, and presented a beautiful rose to each singing girl who performed. I once became obsessed with a "popular" hunger strike and went without food for 6 days and nights.That situation was not difficult, and on the sixth day I seemed to be less hungry than on the second day.But you and I both know that if someone deprives his family or employees of food for 6 days, he commits a crime.And yet they go 6 days, 6 weeks, or 60 years without giving the expected compliment like food to the family or employees.

Back then, when "Alphalit Lunt" played the leading role in the play "Coincidence of Vienna", he once said: "The thing I need most is the nourishment of my self-esteem." We take care of the nourishment our children, friends, and employees need in their bodies, but how little we give them the nourishment they need for their self-esteem.We gave them steak, potatoes, etc., to build up their physical strength, but we neglected to give them praise and those kind words. Some readers, seeing these few sentences, might say something like: "This is trite, flattery, flattery, flattery, I've tried it all, it doesn't work at all... It's not good for educated intellectuals. use."

Of course, flattery can’t fool sensible people. It’s superficial, selfish, and hypocritical, so it should fail, and it often fails.However, some people need appreciation, appreciation from the heart, simply too much. Sincerity is valued by everyone, and it is the most important principle in interpersonal communication.Likewise, it is an important principle in praise.Praise others sincerely, let others feel your sincerity, and your praise will be effective.