Chapter 13 Modesty is a noble virtue

A wise talker shows modesty and prudence in all aspects.No matter how others admire him and admire him, he is humble and humble.Few people are willing to talk to a person who is arrogant and arrogant; similarly, a person who is so narrow-minded that he can only accommodate himself is not popular. When talking with people, you must maintain a humble attitude. When talking to people who are lower than your own status, your posture can be lowered appropriately.Occasionally say words such as "I don't understand", "I don't know very well", "I didn't understand you", "Please say it again", which will make the other party feel that you are humane and have no airs.On the contrary, high-spirited, aggressive, easy to dampen the self-esteem of others, arouse resentment, so that he builds a defensive wall, which leads to his own passivity.

The reason why humility is respected is that it is the virtue of being a human being and the magic weapon of career success. However, in real life, humility is not something you can do if you want to.Some people are praised by their leaders and colleagues, and they really want to be humble in their hearts, but they can't find an appropriate way to express it.They're either bewildered, red-faced, faltering, or they're saying something that sounds phony with "credit to you all." In social situations, how to express your modesty in different ways, so as to leave a good impression on others?

If praise or praise makes you feel embarrassed in front of everyone, you may wish to find ways to divert people's attention, make yourself "get off" skillfully, and "graft" the object of praise or praise to others, but you must have a basis , otherwise it will appear empty and false. It is desirable to be frank and modest, but if not done well, it will give people a false feeling.Especially between two people, if you just say something like "you are much better than me", it is easy to be ridiculed.In such a situation, you might as well use metaphors to subtly express your modesty.

Any praise and praise cannot be without reason, or because of a certain event, or because of a certain aspect of achievement.At this time, you might as well draw a stroke lightly like a painting, and you can see the magic in the indifferent. In the face of other people's praise, if you say that you are worthless, not only will you not be humble, but it will give people a feeling of arrogance.As the saying goes: "Excessive modesty equals pride." In real life, situations like this are not uncommon.Therefore, modesty must master a certain measure. In the face of people's praise, sincerely soliciting everyone's criticism is the most effective way to show your humility.But be careful to be moderate, otherwise modesty will become false.

In our social life, we can constantly create ourselves and learn humbly according to different occasions, different environments, and different communication partners. As long as you are open-minded, strive to pursue a humble character, maintain a calm and candid attitude when talking, and respect each other, you will definitely become a respected person, and the weight of your words will increase accordingly.