Chapter 3 Use polite language appropriately
When dealing with people, you should start with a polite address.A proper address can make the other party feel cordial, and the two sides will have a basis for communication.Improper addressing will often cause the other party's displeasure or even sullenness, put both parties in an awkward situation, and lead to obstruction or even interruption of communication.
Words are the clothes of thought, and it can reveal a person's refinement or vulgarity.If you're going to tap into the emotional heat and keep your social life flowing, use polite language appropriately.
A long time ago, a soldier was riding on a horse, but he couldn't find the inn at dusk. He suddenly saw an old farmer coming in front of him and shouted: "Hey, old man, how far is it from the inn?" The old man replied: "Five li !” The soldiers rode their horses and galloped for more than ten li, but there was still no one in sight. "Wuli, Wuli" he suddenly realized, isn't "Wuli" a homonym for "rude"?So he turned his horse and rushed back and called out affectionately: "Old man".Before he finished speaking, the old farmer said: "You have missed the road. If you don't mind, you can come to live with me."
If polite language can be used in communication and conversation, it will make people feel like spring breeze blowing on the face, and the feelings between people will be harmonious quickly.For example: hello, thank you, please, sorry, you are welcome, goodbye, please take care of me, etc.
Greetings with people Many people are used to asking: "Have you eaten? Where are you going?" This seems too monotonous and a bit inelegant. In this regard, we should enrich our polite language.Such as "good morning", "good afternoon", "good evening", "how is your wife" and so on when meeting.The language must be gentle and kind, with a moderate volume.If you have a rough and high voice, or a baby voice, it will be difficult for others to have a good impression of you.When you use polite language, you should also pay attention to the beauty of your appearance and demeanor. When you ask others, you must be humble, hold your chest out, call them by their first names, or use derogatory names.
Proper use of polite language in communication can leave a good impression on the other party.
It's so easy to meet people and say "Hi" to each other.Don't underestimate this greeting, it conveys a rich message, expresses respect, kindness and friendship, and shows that you are polite, educated and personable.
Americans love to say "please" when speaking, writing letters and telegrams, such as "please sit down", "please speak", "please pass on".When Americans send telegrams, they would rather pay more for telegrams than omit "please". Therefore, the United States Telephone Bureau can earn an extra 10 million U.S. dollars every year from please.Americans are willing to spend money on the word "please". When we get along with others, saying "please" is effortless and does not cost money. Why not do it?
The three words "sorry" are indispensable in speaking. Whenever you ask someone for help, you should say "sorry", such as "sorry, I have to get off the bus", "sorry, please give me a glass of water", "sorry, I took up your time".When the police deal with violating drivers on the spot, they must first say "I'm sorry, sir, your speed exceeds the limit".When two cars collided, everyone first said "sorry" to each other.In such an atmosphere, the self-esteem of both parties is satisfied at the same time, and quarrels will naturally not occur.
Successful people pay great attention to polite language, such as "hello", "please", "thank you", "sorry", "excuse me", "welcome", "please advise", "I have long admired your name", "excuse me", "please bear with me", "hope Enlightenment", "please express your opinion", "thank you", "please" and so on.
The polite address seems to be a greeting ceremony, and it seems to be a passport to enter the social door.The polite language makes people feel elated and happy.