Chapter 2 The most flattering eloquence style for Lesson 1

A person's speech and behavior are like a mirror, which can reflect his cultural connotation, knowledge level and moral cultivation, and is the external expression of personal character, quality, taste, accomplishment, spiritual world and living habits. In daily life, to see whether a person's speech and demeanor is elegant or vulgar is actually to see whether his speech and demeanor meet the requirements of etiquette.Some people are careless in their personal speech and behavior, and regard uncivilized behaviors in daily life as trivial matters, and do not pay attention to them.In fact, civilized behavior starts with small things.For example, offering your seat to the elderly, the weak, the sick, the disabled, and pregnant women on the bus may seem like a trivial matter, but it reflects your cultural literacy and civilization.Civilized speech and manners can often leave a deep impression on people and make people willing to get close to you; while vulgar speech and manners will alienate people, which will definitely affect your social activities.From this point of view, personal manners are not a trivial matter. In interpersonal communication, one should make one's manners conform to the requirements of civilized norms.

The third president of the United States, Jefferson, and his grandson were driving out in a carriage. On the road, they met a strange slave who took off his hat and bowed to them.Jefferson saluted by raising his hat, but his grandson was too busy talking to the slave to pay any attention.Jefferson said solemnly: "My child, do you allow a slave to be more gentlemanly than you?" Gentlemanship is mentioned here, and we always talk about it in our daily life. This person has gentlemanliness, and that person does not. Gentlemanliness and so on, so what exactly is gentlemanliness?Generally speaking, the minimum content of a gentleman's demeanor is to be polite, courteous, well-dressed, well-behaved, and well-educated.

Gentleman demeanor, in the traditional sense, generally belongs to those who are rich, well-educated and well-educated.But being rich doesn’t necessarily mean being a good gentleman. In today’s society, there are more and more rich people, but there are not many people with a gentlemanly demeanor. The vulgar and barbaric speech and behavior of the rich often attract people’s attention. .Some people wear suits and leather shoes and famous brands, but they are actually full of rice bran. It's a pity that he is wearing such a good outfit. Behind the demeanor, it often depends on knowledge and talent to support it, otherwise it is ostentatious.The so-called "poetry and book spirit in the stomach" is also the same reason.The beauty of demeanor is not only external beauty, it has profound connotations.Excellent qualities, profound knowledge, broad-mindedness, strong will, open-minded temperament, lofty ideals, and sincere concern are all very inspiring and highly praised by people, and these are all obtained through personal cultivation.

Moreover, beautiful demeanor is actually inseparable from beautiful speech and manners. Wisdom in speech and elegance in manners are the cosmetology of demeanor, while free and easy appearance and thoughtful etiquette are also essential.Furthermore, a sincere and frank attitude and a full and high-spirited state of mind are also essential elements of good demeanor. To achieve civilized manners, we must first overcome the vague idea that manners are small problems, we must focus on small things, start with small things, and start from me; secondly, we must pay attention to the cultivation and accumulation of civilized manners.Only in this way can one become a person of noble character.To develop good habits of speech and manners, we must also pay attention to two points: one is to pay attention to politeness and etiquette. Politeness in speech and manner is the expression of self-sincerity, and a person's external speech and manner can directly express his attitude; All kinds of good personal habits, overcome all kinds of indecent speech and behavior.

Elegant speech and manners are the psychological reflection of the harmony and unity of external and internal, image and spirit, and are the concentrated expression of speech, mental state, appearance and behavior, and cultural accomplishment.