Chapter 14 Chapter 12: Children who have been scalded hide from the fire

Batu was born less than 100 days ago, I am learning to be a mother I was desperate to be cared for like a drowning man grasping at straws, for a mature man to say to me: "You need to rest more." "You can't eat too much." "You should wear thicker clothes." I'm ignoring an important principle in life: giving is happier than receiving.I was always too busy giving, too busy making myself happy.I don't know how to accept and I don't know how to accept. I neglect to let others give, that is, to ignore the right of others to be happy. It's a cliché, but it's also the absolute truth: Marriage needs to be managed, and it requires constant dedication from two people.The mistake is that I thought that 10 years can accommodate all the unspoken words and resolve all the stagnation that is too late to untangle.I thought that a 10-year relationship was comparable to a blood relationship, and I didn't need to correct my weaknesses. Anyway, he was used to it, and my "hard work" was enough to offset everything I did wrong.

It seems like 3 years ago, when I read the news of Li Zongsheng and Lin Yilian breaking up in the newspaper, I was inexplicably sad and had the urge to cry for them.I said to a friend: "They used to be so in love, so many touching songs were written by Li Zongsheng for Lin Yilian, and even they broke up. Love is really boring. What else can you believe in?" My friend hesitated for a moment and told me: "Dandan, that's how we felt when you divorced Yingda." I froze.If I hadn't felt deeply sorry for a pair of strangers myself, I would never believe that the breakdown of my marriage would affect or even shake anything in other people's hearts.

Yes, that winter, all my friends were shocked when they heard the news, and everyone was asking why. It must be honestly said that the divorce was initiated by me.At that time, I met a person by chance and quickly fell into "love". I had my first "affair" in 10 years.Within a few days, I called Yingda: "I'm having an affair, let's get a divorce." "OK." he said.No hesitation, no hold back.