Chapter 15 【Serial 10】Children who have been scalded hide from the fire

We were divorced on January 2, 1997.That morning we made an appointment to meet in front of the theater. He said to me before: "Dandan, we are a model couple when we live together, so we should be kind and happy when we break up. This is good for both of us." I said "Okay". I have always believed in his words from the bottom of my heart.So that day we walked into the Personnel Office arm in arm.The comrades in charge of personnel affairs stared like copper bells, "You two-- want a divorce?!" "Yes." I smiled, afraid that others would think I was in pain, or feel sorry for us.

To get a divorce we must bring a marriage certificate.As usual, Yingda left it in the car, and of course I had to go downstairs to pick it up. The theater has opened a letter of introduction.Let's find a place where we can do the formalities.We went in my car.As soon as I got in the car, Yingda said to me: "Dandan, let me send you a song!" Love to the end, water can't be closed Love Yoyo, Hate Yoyo Why do you want to be irretrievable just remember your tenderness Give me care, take care of me cause me a lot of sorrow waiting endlessly in the night cry alone How much I want to say I really love you

I want to say I'm sorry You cry and say love is over hard to go on, hard to go on just give me a little more time a little more tenderness don't take everything just give me a little more space a little more greetings don't leave me alone I cried into tears and didn't say a word. Let's go to the Dongcheng District Sub-district Office first, because the marriage registration is handled there.It was only after I went there that I learned that the divorce was handled in Zhongshan Park.Then we parked the car at the gate of the park. It was very cold that day, the ground was covered with thick icy snow, and the park was extremely quiet.Yingda was always afraid that I would slip and fall, so she hugged me tightly.We took out the deepest words to each other, as if we were not going to divorce, but dating.

"Inda, I have two requests." I said. "Go ahead." "Number one, the child lives with you, but I wish I could visit him anytime." "Of course, you're his mother." "Second, Dad (Ying Ruocheng) is getting more and more ill. If one day the old man dies, you have to tell me." "I will definitely tell you that he is your relative." When he gave me the above answer very positively, I felt very at ease, as if there was nothing else to worry about except these two. Of course, the divorce was not in Zhongshan Park, and we finally went to the sub-district office of Fengtai District, where our household registration is located.There was no divorce that day, but we were "celebrities" and made an exception for us.

Chapter 13: With a son (Figure) Batu is two years old and wears grandpa's glasses In the evening we broke up with the divorce certificate, and the 10-year marriage ended. Before the divorce, I also said to people: "Some people want to be young, back to 18 years old. But I only love the current age. Because at 18 years old, you still don't know anything: what job should you do? Who will you marry? Does it hurt to have a baby? And I have basically achieved fame now. I am doing my favorite job, married the man I love the most, and have the healthiest son." Well, I can't go back at my age. But they all returned to the original point.I was like a fresh graduate, carrying two suitcases, no home, no prospects.

When Ingrid Bergman fell in love with Rossellini and gave birth to a pair of twin daughters, she was criticized by the world and rejected by Hollywood.Bernard Shaw said to her: "God wants to make a great actress, but she must be frustrated." This sentence has always been my strength to move forward. The disintegration of a marriage made me painful and made me wake up.This is not child's play, I left not only a person, a family, but also the whole world of yesterday.I disrupted not only the lives of everyone in this family, but their entire world. If you ask me now: "Do you regret the divorce?"

I will definitely answer honestly: "No, I don't regret it!" But if you ask me: "If you go back to that time and choose again, will you still get divorced?" I answered equally honestly, "No, I will not leave!" When people come to this world, they have to bear the cross, endure some grievances, endure some loneliness, and think more about others.When a family is broken, it cannot be repaired. It is not only the husband and wife who are hurt, but also the mutual relatives, friends and children.It is very difficult to build a better home than before, and it requires too much luck and fate.It's just that I'm one of the particularly lucky ones.

I have checked myself very carefully, what I have neglected and what I have missed, and I have gained a lot of experience and lessons.But the matter was too strange, it happened suddenly, there was no room for turning a corner, and there was no room for turning back.So when it comes to marriage, no one is worthy of being a role model. When there is a relationship, you can do whatever you want, and when the relationship is over, everything will be wiped out. "Children who have been scalded hide from the fire." I was scalded.I guess fate is like this, there must be some ups and downs that cannot be bypassed, and there must be some darkness that must be experienced.