Chapter 110 endure a moment of calm

Manage love with sincerity, pursue career with persistence, treat friends with kindness, treat suffering with plainness, pray for happiness with sincerity, and repay the world with gratitude. If a person wants to make a difference and get along well with friends, he must have a calm mind. No matter what he does, if he is emotional, it is easy to do bad things. In a sense, "forbearance" means caution.One cannot be careless in doing things, nor can one be careless in making friends. "Forbearance" means the forbearance of righteousness. In the Southern Dynasties, Shen Linshi once went out and met a man on the road, saying that the shoes Shen Linshi was wearing seemed to belong to him.Shen Linshi said, "Is this your shoe?" He immediately took off the shoe and came back barefoot.After the man found the shoes, he returned Shen Linshi's shoes to him.Shen Linshi said: "Isn't this your shoe?" He smiled and took the shoe away.

Shen Lin's scholar can be described as magnanimous, and his generosity has won him a good reputation.It can be said that he is also a person who takes a step back and thinks about things.Treat your friends with this attitude, and your friends will sincerely associate with you. Take a step back to broaden the sea and the sky, and endure for a moment of calm. It is really difficult to reach the state. Retreat is not to retreat for the sake of retreat, but to retreat for defense.If you can do these two points, you will be able to grasp the art of balance, control the location and harmony, and you will not lose even if the time is not right, and there are few people who can do it in ancient and modern China and abroad.Only the wise and courageous can appreciate this.

The famous story of "Lian Po and Lin Xiangru" in history is also the best embodiment.Its content is very familiar to everyone.If Lin Xiangru lost his temper just because Lian Po said a few insulting words, accused each other, and attacked each other, both sides would suffer, and Qin would take advantage of it.It is precisely because of forbearance that a breath of "leisure" brings peace and tranquility to a country, and it is precisely because of "forbearance" that "friends who cut necks" appear. Therefore, retreat is not retreat, but tolerance; tolerance is not tolerance, but generosity.Your heart is like still water, your patience becomes steel, and there is only one step between self-esteem and humbleness. The difference is nothing but your heart.For individuals, any non-principle matters can be tolerated, such as personal sentiment and interests, etc.; for some principled issues, we must not make concessions.Therefore, it can be said that forbearance also has boundaries and limits.For unbearable problems, the method of "forbearance" should also be used to deal with it, and planning should be done in a calm mood. This is called "forbearance of righteousness".Forbearance of righteousness is not non-anger but a strategy.