Chapter 4 Chapter 3 My brother is a baby, and I am a black slave?

Since God created men and women, human beings have understood that this world cannot exist without men and women.Men are a symbol of strength and vigor, while women are the embodiment of beauty and gentleness.What is especially commendable is that since the birth of China's socialist system, equality between men and women has become a basic level of national morality in this great country and is admired by the world. But I don't know when, with low values, some people regard the embodiment of beauty and gentleness as a stumbling block to getting rich and honoring their ancestors.They shouldn't put the sinful shackles of patriarchy on their own flesh and blood...

China's population control policy has been in place since the 1970s, and it is particularly strict, especially in cities, where a married family having one child has been habitually accepted by most people.But in recent years, the family planning problem in rural areas and towns has been seriously out of control. The phenomenon of more children, more blessings, and son preference is very common. The incidents and phenomena of indifference to family affection caused by this are heinous and shocking. This kind of thing can be seen everywhere in the coastal cities and the relatively developed eastern regions: in the vast urban and rural areas of Guangdong, Fujian, Jiangsu, Zhejiang and other places, there are a large number of migrant girls from the central and western regions, and nearly one-third of them are different. The extent is that they were forced to leave the house due to family discrimination and went to work in other places thousands of miles away. In 2000, dozens of girls under the age of 16 were found working in private companies in Zhejiang. These children were all from poor Guangxi.This is just one case of child labor that was investigated.In fact, if you go to the economically developed areas along the coast, especially the private enterprises in Jiangsu and Zhejiang, where the textile and processing industries are the mainstay, you will find that many working girls there are child laborers, and most of them are child laborers. It is because she is not treated as her own child by her own family and parents.

Yu Tiantian, her name sounds nice, but her fate is so bitter. Yu Tiantian's family has an older sister and a younger brother. She is a child born within the plan, but in the eyes of her parents, she is the only redundant person among the three children in the family.The first sister is indispensable, one is to work for the family, and the other is that the younger brother must be taken care of.So as the second child, she became absolutely redundant.She only remembers two things when she was a child: once she ate an apple left by her mother for her younger brother, and her father punched a blood bag as big as an apple on her head, and she never dared to move easily Look at my brother's things.The younger brother was influenced by his parents and didn't treat her as a human being. Once he even pointed at his shit and let her eat it. She slapped him hard for this.When the father saw it, he couldn't help but slap her to the ground, pointed at his brother's shit and said: Your brother's shit is worth more than yours!What can I do if I take a bite?It is your blessing to make your brother happy!Eat, eat, show it to your brother——she put her face on his brother's shit in front of her father and that laughing brother... Yu Tiantian will never forget all this for the rest of her life.

At the age of school, Yu Tiantian envied seeing all the children of the same age in Murakami going to school, but when her brother who was three years younger than her picked up the schoolbag, she hadn't asked her parents to let her go to school. In the village to inspect and appraise the advanced units of education work, she may never be able to enter the school.After school, she had to carry her brother across the river in the morning, and after class, she had to help him copy his homework.He also secretly cheated for his younger brother during the exam.Every time she took the exam, she was terrified, not for herself, but because she was worried that the stupid brother would rely on her for everything.The teacher is not an idiot. After catching her a few times, he released her several times, because the teacher knew that if she was exposed, poor Yu Tiantian would be beaten by her father when she returned home.In the year of graduating from elementary school, Yu Tiantian shed so many tears that her stupid brother always asked her to help him every time he took an exam.After a few times, the teacher couldn't bear it anymore. The school was planning to keep her younger brother in a grade. When her father heard the news, he didn't say anything, but whipped her more than a dozen times with a horse whip, scolding her for not being able to take care of a younger brother. it is good.At night she rolled on the bed in pain, but the next day she had to kneel in front of the teacher, crying and begging: Teacher, I beg you, please don’t let my brother repeat the grade, if he repeats the grade, I will be punished. Dad killed it!I beg you... The teacher was convinced by her.But in the final exam not long ago, she and her brother cheated again. This time the teacher said that we can let your brother go, and you have to suspend school.Yu Tiantian became even more anxious when she heard this, and knelt down in front of the teacher with a plop, crying to death.The teachers were puzzled, what did Yu Tiantian do?Yu Tiantian wiped her tears and told the teacher very sadly: This time I am doomed.The teacher said it was so serious!Yu Tiantian said: No, if Dad knows that I can't go to school with my brother, he will definitely not let me go!What exactly is going on?The teachers are confused.Yu Tiantian said: This is not clear?I can't go to school anymore, and my brother must have no way to upgrade!It's no wonder Dad didn't beat me to death!I see.But the school's discipline is still strict, so in the end the teacher discussed with Yu Tiantian's father, saying that the school can only allow one of his children to continue to go to school, otherwise both children will be subject to disciplinary action and be expelled or repeated grades.Needless to say, Yu Tiantian has since lost the opportunity to go to school.

She was 13 years old that year, and her father spent 5,000 yuan to help her son go to middle school.When I got home, I scolded Yu Tiantian, the second child, and said that you returned the 5,000 yuan to my younger brother.In this way, 13-year-old Yu Tiantian went to Jiangsu with a group of older children from Murakami and worked in a textile factory of a private enterprise. Say yes, and cook and hold children.The boss smiled helplessly and said you should stay.Just like that, Yu Xiaotian is still in that factory now, she has grown to 1.52 meters now, and she just turned 16 years old... Yu Xiaofang, from Jiangxi, works in the same factory as Yu Tiantian. They were born in the same year and the same month, but Yu Xiaofang is now a family member.At first I didn't understand what it meant, but later I found out that Yu Xiaofang had already found a husband's family in the local area. Although it was impossible to get married due to her age, she had already clearly lived with her husband's family.After further inquiry, it turned out that the only son of Yu Xiaofang's mother-in-law's family has a disabled leg and foot, but he is not stupid or deaf. The mother feared that her son would have difficulty finding a partner in the future, so she fell in love with Yu Xiaofang who came here to work from out of town.But there is a price, and a gift of 10,000 yuan was given to Xiaofang's family.Yu Xiaofang knew that she couldn't run away. She had already sold her life to someone else. Fortunately, the place where she sold it this time was a rich place. Compared with the previous few times, she felt that her life was much better.

What is it not for sale?When the partners are together, Xiaofang always answers other people's inquiries like this.She remembered that this sale has been done three times.The first time she was very young, her mother took her by the hand and walked for dozens of miles. When she arrived at the house, she saw that it was a poor family with five bachelors. An old man in his 60s was surrounded by four sons. The youngest is 32 years old, and the youngest is 14 years old. The eldest and the second are all neurotic, and everyone in the village calls them stupid.The third child is not stupid, but he is blind in one eye, so he is called a one-eyed dragon.Only the fourth child—her future husband is still a decent little man.The family offered 3,000 yuan to bring her here to cheer up the sick old man, and the old man wanted to settle the marriage of the younger son first while he was still alive, so as not to wait for him to close his eyes. The marriage was messed up by some idiots.

For giving their daughter to such a family, people in the village scolded Xiaofang's father behind their backs, but Xiaofang's father had another account: his son—that is, Xiaofang's younger brother had to go to a key county middle school, tuition and sponsorship fees Adding up to nearly 20,000 yuan, when can I earn my son's tuition and sponsorship fees by relying on the few acres of mountain land planted by the family?Delaying his son's focus is tantamount to delaying his whole life, delaying his son's whole life, and delaying the next few lives of his Yu family!Xiaofang's father will figure it out!

But Xiaofang can't bear the life of the bachelors!Not to mention the two silly brothers who pestered her endlessly to play with big dicks all day long, but the other open eye of the one-eyed man made her feel as if he wanted to pierce her clothes when he saw her. Day and night all the time without fear.One night when she just fell asleep, she suddenly found someone touching her body in a daze. She woke up with a start, and in the darkness, she saw a gleaming eye that wanted to swallow her... Because of this, she fled back to the own home. When the woman came back, her father treated her like an animal and cursed her all day long. It is said that the bachelor's family found Xiaofang's father and asked him to pay back the 3,000 yuan that the Yu family had already collected, otherwise he would sue the Yu family for fraud. .Xiaofang's father was afraid and said that he would definitely return it.But the money was used up for my son to go to school, what should I do?The father stared at Xiaofang again and thought of an idea. After a few days, the father suddenly started talking kindly to Xiaofang, saying that he would take her to a good place outside the mountain.Before leaving, his father unexpectedly put on a new dress for Xiaofang that he got from nowhere.

The place outside the mountain is really good, with roads, cars, and buildings.Xiaofang was left in a family of three by her father. This time, the family has eyes and a nose, and it is hard to tell who is stupid or dumb.Xiaofang understood at a glance: she was sold by her father to this relatively wealthy family outside the mountain.That Yang Yang, who is two years younger than Xiaofang, is probably her future husband!Yangyang is nothing special, she is in the fifth grade, but Xiaofang calculated that she should be in the first grade of junior high school.She had asked Yang Yang secretly, but when she asked these questions, Yang Yang would turn red and say nothing to her.Once in a hurry, Yang Yang suddenly twitched all over, and then fell to the ground, foaming at the mouth, so frightened that Xiao Fang hurriedly called her parents.Yang Yang was sent to the hospital, and her parents beat her severely when they got home, and warned her: If you scare Yang Yang into trouble again in the future, you will die!

Xiaofang really thought that she had done something wrong, and acted cautiously from now on, just like a little daughter-in-law.But then one day she saw Yang Yang being carried home from school again, exactly the same as last time.At this time, Xiaofang heard that Yangyang’s epilepsy had happened again... Xiaofang didn’t know what it was, but she was too afraid to see the scene of Yangyang’s attack. As time went on, Xiaofang often woke up in the middle of the night from her sleep. Waking up with a start and slowly becoming dazed all day long.At first, Yang Yang's parents just scolded her and beat her, but after seeing her get rid of her problems, they went to the doctor.The day after Xiaofang came out of the hospital, they sent her back to her hometown in the mountains.

The miserable Xiaofang was later sold by her father again, but because the price could not be negotiated, the father beat Xiaofang severely after returning home, and shouted at her with a big wooden stick: You bitch, why are you so old? want?Pigs can be sold, but you are not even as good as a pig? Xiaofang was terrified. After that, she got on the train heading east by herself, and sold it to her current husband's family. After she sold herself, she entrusted someone to bring back 10,000 yuan to her father. A line was written crookedly on a small note to her father: I will not owe you a penny from now on, and you will never bother me again, because I am no longer your family's livestock.Xiaofang is very sensible now, although she often sheds tears in her future husband's house, she always sheds tears into her belly with wit... In Beijing, there are actually quite a few people who are similar to the fate of these working girls.A Liaoning girl surnamed Tan who drives an elevator in a residential building has been in Beijing for seven years and has never returned to her hometown. Every year during the Spring Festival, the migrant workers from the same hometown are busy shopping and going home, but she never wants to go back. .Someone asked her why she didn't go home. She said she didn't have a home. All the aunts and aunts in the residential building knew her and thought that the child really didn't have a home, so they gave her this and that food during the holidays. One day an aunt took her I received a New Year's meal at my home, which was a big bowl of hot dumplings. The kind-hearted aunt said: "Son, don't see outsiders. It's Chinese New Year. You have no parents and no home. It's not easy to go to Beijing to work alone. Auntie's here is your home. You come to my house every year during the holidays." Auntie, stop talking...I, woooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo...... the girl covered her face and burst into sobs, her thin shoulders trembling from crying, and then she I still didn't eat this New Year's meal at my aunt's place, and I was locked alone in the dormitory in the basement, crying from New Year's Eve to New Year's Day.Later, the aunt who worked in the neighborhood committee found out that the girl surnamed Tan not only has a family, but also her parents are working in a certain unit in Liaoning. Xiao Tan has always concealed her family background in the past, because it was an extremely dark past for her, and she couldn't bear to look back. Xiao Tan is 20 years old this year, and her parents work in a local state-owned enterprise. When she was 5 years old, her parents gave birth to a younger brother through some unknown relationship.After the younger brother was born, she began to feel that her status in the family had completely changed, especially when she entered junior high school, her parents simply didn't treat her as her own flesh and blood, and beat her at every turn, forcing her to go out to do things. For example, she went to the neighborhood to collect trash and so on, but she was not allowed to go to school seriously, and her brother was cared for in every possible way.Once the mid-term exam was about to come, and her father told her to use the daytime to pick up junk from a factory that was about to close down. She refused to go, saying that she had to go to school, and she would fail the exam if she delayed her review.As soon as her father heard this, he threw her schoolbag on the ground and said, "I didn't want you to read it anymore. It's best if you don't do well in the exam."You will go to the South to work next month, why don't you support me? I almost failed the exam that time.Although I could barely continue to go to school, my father and mother were laid off one after another at this time, and the family, which was already not peaceful, suddenly ping-pong-pong-pong-pong-pong-pong-ping-pong every day like a smashed pot.Later, my mother found a job as a cleaner in a nightclub, and my father complained to the parents all day because he didn't have a job, and took it out on her.What makes her little heart unbearable is that every time the school starts to pay the tuition fee, her parents always give her brother's tuition very happily, but she can't afford it anyway.For this she was criticized by the teacher.After returning home, she knelt down in front of her parents and begged her several times. She was either abused or punched and kicked. The most straightforward sentence was: "Your brother can study alone. What's the use of studying? " "I am human just like my younger brother, so why am I useless when he is useful?" She asked her parents puzzledly while crying. When the father heard this, his eyes widened and he told her frighteningly: "Your brother is a boy, and we will send him to college and study abroad in the future! Do you understand? Your mother and I were laid off because of our low education! Our family is like this. , is lack of diplomas, lack of college students! Your younger brother will get a high diploma in the future, and show them as a college student studying abroad! What is the use of your girl studying so much? You will not be part of our family in the future!" "I...why am I not a member of the family?" The father's words hurt the girl deeply, and she realized that she was not a member of the family in the eyes of her parents! She stopped crying in grief, and before graduating from junior high school, she ran to Beijing with a group of fellow villagers and started her difficult career as a working girl. Beijing is very big, and the little girl had both joys and sorrows when she first arrived in Beijing. The joy is that she will be able to go to the great capital of the motherland that she yearned for since she was a child, but the worry is that no one wants her to work at such a young age.It was very easy to find a job as a nanny, but within two weeks, because the temperature was a little higher when breastfeeding the child once, it burned the owner's child, so the owner kicked her out after scolding her.Later, she washed the dishes in a small private restaurant, and she paid 200 yuan a month, and she also took care of food and housing.But she did the same job, but she found that the wages paid by the lady boss was half of that of the migrant girls from Sichuan. She asked timidly, and the lady boss grabbed her by the ear and told her to remember these words: Look at yourself What is the age of the ID card?Who dares to use you in Beijing?I use you to benefit you!Don't you think about how much money your father earns at home every month?Hmph, you can ask for more money if you want, would you like to go to a brothel to sleep with those stinky men? She never dared to mention money again.Once the industrial and commercial bureau came to inspect the small restaurant, and the proprietress told people that she was a child of a relative, and because she didn't want to study at home, she came to Beijing to play, and these days she was helping the store.In this way, she was inspected by the staff of the Industry and Commerce Bureau.Later, for some unknown reason, her family found out that she was working part-time in Beijing, and she still thought about money, so her father asked her to send 500 yuan back. She didn't send it because she hated her parents.But within half a month, she had to take out all the only 380 yuan she had accumulated.This is a helpless thing - seeing that she didn't send money home, her father asked her younger brother to come to Beijing to find her. The younger brother cried and said to his sister: ... Mom left with a person she knew in the karaoke hall, Dad I only drink alcohol all day long, I haven’t paid my tuition for two semesters, and the teacher said that if I don’t pay it, I won’t be allowed to go to school in the next semester... She cried, hugged her brother and cried a lot. The next day, she took him to Tiananmen Square to play around, and then sent him on the train back to Chaoyang.The younger brother left, but the proprietress of the small restaurant where she worked dismissed her because she delayed her work. Later, the girl wandered around in Beijing for more than three months. In the end, an old woman from a neighborhood committee helped her find the job of watching elevators. It costs 500 yuan a month, works 14 hours a day, and lives in the basement of the floor. , sending 300 yuan to the family every quarter to support the younger brother and the laid-off father... Due to the influence of feudalism, some Chinese people have always had patriarchal thoughts. In fact, girls understand family affection and filial piety better than boys. This girl surnamed Tan is an example.However, I know that the above are just a few examples in life. In our real society today, girls like the above who do not get the warmth of their families, are bullied by their own relatives and suffer all kinds of misfortunes in the world are by no means One or two cases. Qiqi, a student of a middle school in Guangzhou, is 16 years old and was born on January 9, 1985.But this youthful southern city girl has become a child abandoned by her biological parents since the day she was born.The doctors of the Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology of Guangdong Provincial People's Hospital still clearly remember the scene of this unfortunate girl being ruthlessly abandoned by her parents: when Qiqi was born, when the midwife doctor took out the chubby baby from Qiqi's mother's belly , casually boasted: What a big fat boy!Unexpectedly, such a compliment ruined the flesh-and-blood relationship between Qiqi and her biological parents.It was because the speaker had no intention and the listener had intentions. When the mother and baby were sent to the Guangdong Provincial People's Hospital, the doctor on duty took the baby girl and said to the mother: You gave birth to a beautiful baby girl.Kiki's mother nodded.But on the second day, there was a consequence that even the hospital did not expect: the mother left the hospital suddenly, but the baby girl was not picked up.When the hospital questioned her family, the couple refused to accept their own flesh and blood. The reason was: the doctor who delivered the baby said it was a big fat boy, but now your hospital sent us a girl. This baby is definitely not ours.The doctors at the People's Hospital were stunned, and they couldn't believe a casual compliment. As a result, their biological parents didn't recognize their own flesh and blood!Helpless, the hospital had to temporarily adopt the baby girl in the hospital.Just like this day after day, people knew that they would have trouble with the hospital, and Xiao Qiqi stayed in the hospital for 15 months.The biological parents still do not claim it, and it is the first time that Guangdong Provincial People's Hospital has encountered such a strange thing in the decades since its establishment.But the child is growing up day by day, the hospital can't take care of them in such a vague way!In the end, the hospital had to file a lawsuit with the Guangzhou Intermediate People's Court, demanding that Qiqi's parents take back their child. But Qiqi's parents insisted on not admitting it, and still said that their child should be a big fat boy.In this way, in June 1986, my country's first paternity test case was triggered.The court heard the case publicly and invited three teachers from the Forensic Medicine Department of Sun Yat-Sen Medical University in Guangzhou to conduct multiple blood type tests on Xiao Qiqi, her mother Su Minmin and her father Chen Yuquan. The weight probability is 0.999, exceeding the international standard of 0.95 for determining the biological relationship.Therefore, the court ruled that Xiao Qiqi was born to Chen Yuquan and Su Minji in accordance with the provisions of the Marriage Law, and asked them to take care of the child.However, although the law sentenced Xiao Qiqi to her parents, because the couple wanted to get a big fat boy, they still regarded Xiao Qiqi as someone else's child.Misfortunes never come singly for Xiao Qiqi, who never had the affection and warmth of a family. Five years later, her parents broke up and divorced. , had to live with her elderly grandfather in a small one-story house of only 37 square meters. Now Xiao Qiqi has grown up to the age when she fully understands what family warmth and parental affection are. However, She often wipes her tears behind her little friend's back, because she was born without the love of her parents and the kinship of blood. She always looks at the sky in a daze, seeking a question that will never be answered: why is it that just because she is a girl, her parents Why don't you want me? Little Kiki's fate is worrying, but little Kiki's fate is not the worst. On the day of February 18, 2001, after I had lunch, I accidentally watched the Today's Speech Program on CCTV.The program tells the story of a case in which a father and grandmother personally mutilated a baby girl in Shanghai and Jiangsu in August last year.It is about a young couple from Taizhou, Jiangsu who worked in Pudong, Shanghai. After giving birth to a premature baby girl in a hospital in Shanghai, the child's grandmother was not satisfied with the daughter-in-law giving birth to a girl, so she gave birth to the baby in Yangmei, the daughter-in-law. The next day, the mother and daughter were asked to be discharged from the hospital. After persuasion by the hospital, they were discharged from this hospital in Shanghai on August 8, 4 days later.But on the 9th, the second day after Yangmei's mother and daughter returned to their hometown in Taizhou, the baby girl was buried alive in the edamame field by her vicious grandmother with the help of her father.The baby girl who had been buried for 15 hours was accidentally discovered, dug out from the ground and sent to the hospital for emergency treatment. She survived for a while, but ended her short life due to severe hypoxia.That cruel grandma said to the TV camera in the detention center: I just don’t like girls, I want to hug a big grandson... How pathetic and ignorant, it was her numbness and ignorance that made her a prisoner waiting for the death penalty.But there are still thousands of parents who do not treat their own daughters as human beings in life. Shouldn't they be judged by family affection and humanity most severely?Don't they really know that their daughter is also their own flesh and blood?Can't they hear the miserable cries of their daughters? I am ashamed and ashamed to have such parents and grandparents in the world. I don't know when Chinese society divided men and women into two species with completely different values?The earliest evidence I can find is the old adage that our sage Confucius once said, "It is difficult to raise a woman and a villain".Confucius should be a sage of the Chinese nation, but his words have caused women all over the world to suffer.For thousands of years, women were only fit to be accessories of men.New China finally gave women a chance to turn around. It can be said that equality between men and women is one of the main achievements of civilization created by China in the 20th century.However, who would have imagined that when we are applauding that half the sky is supporting this colorful world more and more and caring for our children with all our energy, and on the other hand, under the same blue sky, someone blatantly devalues ​​women , and reduced to worthless, even the most basic human value was completely deprived.isn't it?The few cases I listed above are by no means unheard of cases in our Chinese society today. Such phenomena are not uncommon in real life, especially in some economically backward areas.In these places, it seems that women are not worthy to come to this world, and it is a kind of superfluity or sin to come to this world. I have met a girl who has lived in Beijing for three years. She has been sent to juvenile detention twice by the public security organs, and each time it was because she stole dozens of yuan from others.A good-looking southern girl, but she does shady jobs all day long.The public security department sent her back to her hometown twice because she did not have any identification, but she returned to Beijing twice.Ask her why?She said that she loves Beijing and Tiananmen Square because she has no food to eat Cailun's family's money, and stealing other people's money is to survive.When the girl answered the police officer's words, she did not hide the slightest bit, nor did she have the slightest fear.What she told me when I was allowed to interview her alone was startling.She said she would never leave Beijing because the people in Beijing are just nice.I asked her, are you not afraid of the police arresting you again and again?She said, "I'm not afraid of arresting me!"Hello, uncles from the Public Security Bureau, they arrested me and gave me food because they treated me like a human being.I told her that you are a human being!She actually cried, saying that she has never been treated as a human being, and has never been loved by anyone since she was sensible. Because she is a girl, her parents cursed her to die early and was run over by a car at first, and then came to see her She couldn't die, so she didn't give her food and clothes every day. What her parents kept saying was: What's the use of raising you?If you die, you can have a son! She really left her parents and home when she was 7 years old - hiding in a small county town in her hometown.In a small county town, she became a little homeless girl and helped a flower dealer sell flowers on the street for a living. The flower dealer often beat her and scolded her, so she had to go back to her home.But when I went home, I found that my family already had a younger brother.When her parents saw her coming back, they were very nervous, and said: We told the village cadres that you were lost outside, and they agreed to give birth to your younger brother. If the village cadres see you when you go home now, our whole family will be hungry. You must die.She asked her parents in puzzlement: Why would the whole family starve to death after I got home?My father slapped her when he came over, and then told her: If the village cadres see that you are still alive, they will make us pay a fine, but the family has no money to pay the fine, and the village cadres will come and take away all the things in the house. We are not hungry. What else can I do if I die?After listening to her father's words, the filial girl nodded like a little adult, glanced at her younger brother who had just toddled, and walked out of the house again without saying a word.This is how she was forced out of the house by her biological parents.She said she knew her mother shouldn't have had her: people in the village only like boys, not girls.She couldn't tell why, but she knew that because she was a girl, she was not born to be loved by her parents. When she was 11 years old, she took the train to Beijing. Since then, she never knew the way home, but only knew that her home was called Xiaohezhuang.The vague accent made it impossible for the police officers to identify where her hometown was.That's how the girl stayed in Beijing until she was caught again and again and tried to escape again and again.When I saw her, I was near the Lufthansa shopping mall. I happened to see me with a lady who came to Beijing from another place to ask me to write a manuscript that day, so the little girl came over with a bouquet of flowers very cleverly and said, sir, buy a bunch of flowers. Give your girlfriend a bouquet of flowers.My girlfriend and I were surprised and amused, and I bought a bouquet of flowers just to be a gentleman.But I needed something in return—so I knew all about her.The girl is very frank and doesn't avoid it. She will say what you ask her to say. That kind of straightforwardness makes me not want to speculate with some intention, because I feel that facing such an innocent and unfortunate child , it is a sin to make her repeat her own suffering any time. On the eve of June 1st this year, Director Xiaoye of Beijing TV Station knew that I was writing this book, so she wanted to make a special feature for me. Coincidentally, she also met a little flower girl near Lufthansa, and gained a lot of money. First-hand materials.Director Xiaoye was deeply moved by the fate of the little flower seller living on the street and her straightforwardness. From the little girl, Xiaoye learned a lot about these unusual children.I haven't seen the little girl Xiaoye mentioned, but I seem to have a premonition that the girl Xiaoye saw might be the girl I met.However, I know maybe not at all, because I know another situation - only on the streets of Beijing, there are at least one or two hundred such little girls. She was tricked by others, or she was simply kicked out of the house by her parents and became a homeless girl. What's wrong with girls?But in our society, there is such an unavoidable fact: because you are a girl, in the eyes of some people, you lose the qualifications and dignity of being a human being.Some people say that this is the consequence of family planning.In fact, it is not exact. I take myself as an example. My child is also the target within the family planning - only one child, but I don't feel that she should not be cherished and cared for by the world.She is the heart and soul of her mother and me, the lifeblood of our parents.what reason?Very simple, she is our offspring, the continuation of our life.However, in our same world today, I know that many people have regarded having boys and girls as a kind of family and personal capital. In their view, boys are a kind of predictable capital, capital that can be appreciated, or It is said to be wealth in the future; but girls are not. In their view, girls are a disaster that restricts and destroys future wealth, a stumbling block that blocks predictable capital, and at most it can only be a loss-making wealth accumulated for others. That's all - even when they grow up, they still have to pay a large dowry. In the eyes of these people, girls are even a sin, a sin that hinders the family from getting rich and affects the succession of the family. The girl is therefore no longer a human being in the eyes of these people, and even if she is born, she will not be treated as a human being. I once visited a farmer who sold his own daughter to a trafficker and asked him why he did it.He answered with a bit of righteousness: why don't I?Raising a girl from childhood to adulthood costs at least a few hundred yuan a year, right?When she gets married at the age of 20, how many yuan will I have to spend?How much money can I get back from the fields after a year of hard work by farmers?To put it bluntly, if I raise a daughter, I might as well raise a few pigs!You can call me anything, but this is the truth!My son is different. I also spent tens of thousands of yuan to raise him. In the future, he can earn back the capital for me. Not to mention, he can carry on the family line, and secondly, he can make my family look like a dog in the village. Be bullied!You do not believe?Let me tell you the truth, why did my village chief become the village chief?It is because there are three sons in his family, what happened on the wheel, the three sons stood outside, who would dare to say no to the villagers?But if you have three girls in your family who don't have dicks, you won't be able to do anything, let alone you can't be the village head, even if you have a good feng shui, you won't be able to contract the land.Nowadays, it is all about efficiency and starting from reality. I am a farmer, and I am not stupid. I can get rich by having a child, and raising a daughter is equivalent to digging a hole for myself. Who wouldn’t pay for it? After listening to the words of the father who sold his daughter, I felt that the thousands of reasons that had been rushing in my heart suddenly disappeared... I can't find a good reason to convince this parent who sold her daughter as a commodity to traffickers, because it seems difficult to judge these abnormalities in a specific social background in a simple way of wrong and right. convince.In the past, when we talked about male superiority and inferiority, we always attributed the crime to feudal consciousness, and we generally believed that such patriarchal feudal consciousness rarely existed in cities, and this kind of feudal consciousness was very serious in peasants or rural areas.This is indeed the case, but when you carefully examine those places where patriarchy is more serious, you will find that the phenomenon of patriarchy today is not just a matter of feudal consciousness, but an additional one. A more sad and dangerous awareness, that is, some people have linked reproductive gender with family and future wealth, and it can even be said that pure value orientation is at work! ——If you give birth to a boy, it means that you or your whole family can get rich in the foreseeable future; —Your birth of a girl means that you or your family may lose wealth or delay getting rich tomorrow for the foreseeable future. So some people are very calm, very rational, and very sober when they choose to have a boy or a girl and make their own decisions.而一旦女孩降临时，他们就像看到了可预见的巨大财富的丧失，而此时此刻他们甚至完全不会把自己的亲生骨肉当做人看待，无数至今流落街头或者沦为鬼魂的女孩子因此成了无辜和不幸的对象，因此出现了像上面提到的那个江苏泰州的亲奶奶把自己的孙女活埋的灭绝人性的事件。当时我在电视节目里看到这位年纪并不算大的奶奶被抓进监狱时，脸上没有半点恐惧之感，有人问她为什么做出这等丧尽天良的事时，她的表情依旧坦然如故，而我正是从她那张坦然的脸上看到了一种比封建意识更可怕的精神意识，因为在这种精神意识的背后是利欲熏心的利益价值观在作怪和支配着，它因而比单纯的封建意识更可怕。几乎可以判定，所有今天被自己的亲人们抛弃或者歧视和侮辱的那些女孩子们，她们多数是这种价值观的牺牲品和祭奠物。 来听一听一位化名叫木易的女大学生的诉说吧： ……上大学一年级时，宿舍里的同学们自报家门，一个个兴高采烈地说起了自己的父母兄弟，惟独我一声不吭。 "where is your mom?" "She's gone." 同学们不经意地问，我轻描淡写地答，宿舍里静了许多，我没有再说下去。Mother?是啊，我的母亲在哪？可我知道我的母亲还活得好好的，只是我感觉她早已在我心目中消失了。她带给我的只能是痛苦的回忆，这是幸福家庭的孩子难以理解的。那一夜，泪水又在我的眼中泛滥。 父母正式离婚那年，我正上初三。导火线似乎还在我身上。那时功课紧，每天中午放学时我早已饥肠辘辘，脸色苍白。可家中并无做好的饭菜在等我。一回家，我就赶紧提水做饭。那天回家晚，我忙放下书包，阴沉着脸的母亲命令我马上去提水，因为我俄得慌，又见水桶里还有些水，就迟缓着嘟囔了一句。母亲立即火起，随手甩了我一巴掌。刚进门的父亲在一旁看不惯，就上前为我说了两句话，这下可好了，母亲立即像一头暴怒的母獅，开始把所有的怒火都向我袭来。而在这暴打中，我反倒平静了下来，只有眼泪从我眼眶中不停地流下，因为我不明白人家的孩子在母亲那儿是个宝，而我为什么就…… 八岁那年，母亲生下我的弟弟，因为父母都要上班，母亲就叫正在上学的我停学照看小弟。那时家里条件不好，似乎在我记忆中所有好吃的东西都要留着给弟弟吃。而瘦弱矮小、人称黄毛丫头的我，却要背上胖墩墩的小弟，站在齐胸高的水池边，用一双瘦弱苍白的手，洗着弟弟的尿布。有一回因为我又俄又馋，趁小弟睡熟的时候偷偷地揣着好不容易积攒的两毛钱上街买了一个眼馋了许久的包子吃，等我大口大口偷吃完再一路飞步赶回家时，醒来的小弟已尿了一床。我惊恐极了，生怕母亲看到，那将是我又一次灾难…… 透过这位女大学生对当年的回忆，我仿佛看到了一幅苦难童女图，而悲哀的是制造这幅苦难童女图的并非是万恶的地主，恰恰是苦难童女的母亲。由于采访和接触多了，我始终有些弄不明白，像造成这位女孩子饱受当年苦难的她的母亲，自己也是一位女性，虽然我们不知道她的童年是否也有过同样的经历，但有一点总难让人理解，即显然这位母亲是因为不喜欢女孩而喜欢她儿子才对自己的女儿如此冷酷，近似虐待。我不知道这位母亲有没有想过自己本身就是女性。我在想：如果她自己小时候同样地受过大人和家庭的虐待，那她就不该好了伤疤忘了疼；如果她没有受过大人和家庭虐待，那她现在这样对待自己的女儿，就只能说明她失去了起码的母性。一个不具备母性的女人，又怎么能成为一个真正的母亲呢？然而大千世界中，那些做了母亲的女人又何止是一两个已经忘却了自己也是女人啊！ 正是人世间不乏这样一些母亲的存在，使得许多家庭里的女孩的命运变得尤为悲惨。其实她们从出生的那天起，就被自己的亲人不当做人而视为多余的一件廉价之物，一件厌恶之物，一件非弃之不可之物，一件弃之而不悔之物。 有人说过：女人是这个世界的不幸之物。那么我要说，那些生出来就被抛弃的幼女们则是这个世界上最不幸之物。因为她们失去的不仅仅是亲情，还有做人的基本尊严。