Chapter 9 Chapter 8 "Wolf is Coming"——The Anxiety of Teenagers Studying Abroad

On November 12, 13, and 14, 1999, the weather in Beijing suddenly turned cold, and the northwest wind made Beijingers who had just passed the 50th anniversary of the founding of the People's Republic of China suddenly feel the coming of severe winter, but in the famous Beijing International Conference Center, in In Hall 17, you can't imagine how lively it is.It is not an exaggeration to say that there are huge crowds of people. It turns out that foreign universities have come to Beijing to enroll students! "Foreign University" went to China to snatch students - it was very lively and beaming.

The major mainstream media in Beijing put on a Chinese New Year posture to promote foreigners. After I went there, I didn't feel relieved for a few days.For some reason, I feel so sad as a Chinese.Seeing the beaming faces of the foreigners, and seeing the coquettishness and desire of my compatriots for foreign schools, I really wanted to shout a few times in the hall: compatriots, we are Chinese, why are we Do you take pains to train your children from elementary school to junior high school, and then from junior high school to high school, and finally send your children abroad to go to foreign universities?All the painstaking efforts you spent in raising your children in the past were simply handed over to foreigners in the end?

The sad thing is that when foreigners smile and ask our compatriots for 300,000 or 500,000 RMB (in fact, the general fee for a teenager to go to a better university abroad is more than 600,000 to 700,000 RMB) , our compatriots bowed three times to the foreigners, and murmured the phrase "Thank you!" ("Thank you") just learned I didn't shout loudly at the "International Education Exhibition" that day because I really lacked confidence.In fact, it should be said that our country lacks confidence.Because there are so many people in China who want to go to university, but they are blocked by the ruthless university gate!

It is said that it is because our universities are too few.Because the annual number of university enrollments is too small, only 10.05% of fresh high school graduates (by 2000), the education department has made up their minds to reach 100% of the international average in the next three years or so. fifteen.It means that at that time, 85% of the children are definitely trying their best to squeeze into the university outside the university gate every year.But it's not easy to squeeze!University enrollment cannot satisfy the vast number of knowledge seekers, and the fierce competition in social employment makes people feel that without a college degree or above, they are equal to the reality of inferior citizens. This makes parents and children desperately want to realize the dream of university—the dream of going to school cannot be realized , There is no way to talk about the realization of future ideals and future dreams.The dream of Americans is a dream of making a fortune in the style of panning for gold, while the most concentrated and prominent dream of the Chinese is to go to college.Without a college dream, it means that one's life is fixed, and one's life will not have much promise.

The college entrance examination competition is too fierce.China's university "single-plank bridge" is too scary for children, and parents are scared to death.Unless you devote yourself to helping and tutoring your children in the three years of high school (in fact, most parents start to pay attention to it from elementary school and junior high school so that their children can go to college in the future), otherwise you will be in vain.But many parents themselves are in a critical period in their careers and businesses. How can they spend so much time and energy on their children?Or even if you have the energy and time, your child may not be able to pass the "single-plank bridge" of the Chinese college entrance examination, so these parents are struggling to find a way to university other than the Chinese single-plank bridge.At this moment, the foreigners saw the opportunity and walked towards them smiling.

The most typical is the British gentleman.All countries are now pointing their fingers at the Americans. In fact, the most powerful people in the world are the British. Don't look at them as if they are weak now, but in fact their ambitions have never stopped expanding.In its eyes, the world has always belonged to its British.American cow, right?But the American continent was not the first to be discovered and pioneered by the British!Don't you Chinese take back Hong Kong now?Prime Minister Blair also participated in the handover ceremony that day. They returned a piece of territory in front of the whole world, but have you noticed that at the end of the ceremony, Blair intentionally gave the Chinese Premier a wink? The loser has a bit of the winner's smile.Just before attending the handover ceremony, Blair specially summoned a group of education officials at an important meeting in China, and told them clearly that the British Empire has ended its territorial jurisdiction in China, but there is still a huge world for us there. It is the market.It is a colony that is always beneficial to our British Empire, just like our ancestors drove ocean-going ships around the world to discover new continents.In the past, our ancestors went everywhere with the purpose of hanging the national flag and promoting English. Now we don't need to do such things that easily arouse the other party's resentment.Occupying the market is the magic formula for getting everything we want without having to fly our flag over others.The Chinese have taken back Hong Kong from us, and we can take back from them greater interests than one Hong Kong or even several Hong Kongs.Seizing China's education market is another "Hong Kong" that we can reoccupy from the Chinese!

After Blair finished his remarks, it aroused enthusiastic responses from principals all over the UK. "The market is MONEY (money), and we are willing to go to China to be the uncrowned governor of the 21st century." The returned foreign "wolves" came not only from the English Channel, but also from North America, Australia, New Zealand, and even the little Thai "wolves". In 1999, Beijing alone held two large-scale "battles" in which foreign "wolves" seized China's educational territory.The "International Higher Education Exhibition" held in the Beijing International Exhibition Center in the spring was unprecedentedly fierce. The "Sixteen-National Allied Forces" from Britain, the United States, Germany, France, Canada, Australia, New Zealand, and Switzerland were at the same time in the capital of China. The marching horn was sounded. Just after the Spring Festival in 2000, "foreign devils" flocked again. On February 26, the first "International Higher Education Tour Exhibition" was held in Beijing International Trade Center. Tens of thousands of people flocked to the exhibition hall within an hour of its opening. Its hot scene is more than ever.It is said that in the first half of this year alone, there will be three or four such "foreign university stall" activities, and their scale and frequency will exceed those in the past.Faced with such a large-scale attack by the crazy "foreign devils", the Chinese did not have any resistance; on the contrary, tens of thousands of people hugged these "foreign devils" with smiles and dollar bills, together with their beloved children. The scene was amazing.

When I heard and saw the Chinese people show "special love" in front of the "foreign devils", I suddenly felt a sense of "a big country with few people". In that crowded scene, the first thing I felt was that in front of the "Sixteen-National Allied Forces", China today is far from the blood and courage of the "Boxer" warriors back then, but there are many completely different landscapes. A man worked in the famous "Tiantan Red Bridge Market". He blushed in front of the British "invaders" and said: I have been looking forward to your coming.No, I've saved my hard-earned money for ten years, and I'm just waiting for you to come over and "recruit soldiers" to see if my child is okay?If it’s okay, money is a trivial matter if you can give it to a university—he took out a credit card and waved it in front of the British a few times. The "aggressor"'s blue eyes suddenly shone.

The other is a female civil servant of a state agency.In his forties, he still has the charm.The teenage daughter beside her also looks like a lotus.In front of the Canadian "invaders", the female civil servant looked very excited: I have heard about your women's college in Halifax, and my children are willing to go.If there is no objection, I am also willing to go with her.The hairy North American guy opened his warm arms knowingly and embraced the lady in his arms: very welcome, beautiful Chinese lady!At this time, the faces of many Chinese people present were full of envy, and the "aggressors" were all rejoicing.

Today, when the Chinese people have their own dignity, the "foreign devils" have indeed changed the way they used to enter Chinese territory with knives and guns. Today they all appear on the land of China with seductive smiles. To a large extent, the current Chinese have virtually lost their national vigilance and become prey on the bait.According to the introduction of the National Service Center for Overseas Students, there are very few international students receiving degrees from the government every year in my country, and only about 2,000 people go abroad as visiting scholars in recent years.Self-financed study abroad is increasing year by year, and there are about 20,000 to 30,000 people each year. Based on the minimum annual fee per person, this market size is about 400 million U.S. dollars per year.This refers to adult study abroad.The market for teenagers studying abroad is far larger than the one above.First, there are many sources of students.At present, there are more than 20 million school-age young students in China who have no hope of "hoping for their children to become a dragon", and about 30% of them are urban students.Among this group of people, those who can afford the money or cannot afford the money but are willing to do everything possible to study abroad account for about one-third, a total of about two million people.Of course, due to reasons such as visas, it is impossible for these people to study abroad as they wish, but in the past three years, the number of teenagers studying abroad has continued to increase at a rate of about 40%.It is estimated that there will be about 50,000 people in 2000.A woman who was planning to send her high school daughter to study in New Zealand calculated an account: her daughter went to New Zealand after finishing high school, and graduated from university five and a half years later. Studying in New Zealand is relatively cheap. For example, the cost of studying in the UK and the United States is about 50% more expensive than going to New Zealand.In other words, the annual cost of each young student studying abroad is about 15,000 to 20,000 US dollars. In this way, the current market for Chinese teenagers studying abroad is about 1 billion US dollars. The "foreign devils" have a much deeper and more familiar understanding of the market than we do. It is very easy to do business in this billion-dollar market, and it is much less troublesome than doing business in airplanes and mobile phones such as "Airbus" and "Motorola". .There will not be too much political trouble if the business is done by a different government.A CQ lady from the Beijing office of an American institute of technology told me clearly in Chinese: Her cousin is in the business of e-commerce, but it took three months to conduct a communication equipment business worth 20 million dollars with China. It took two years, but it still didn’t work out because it was either because the U.S. Congress set up trouble when deliberating on China’s most-favored-nation status, or the U.S. president made some tricks on the Taiwan issue. When the business finally came to fruition, he bombed my ambassador to Yugoslavia. The museum incident came out again.However, she was delighted that the matter of introducing Chinese middle school students to study abroad went so smoothly.She said that her college has just entered Beijing, and in 1998 and 1999, it has received extremely good results, and the enrollment plan has been doubled.The college can earn a large amount of income every year from the Chinese market alone.

When I asked her to talk about why Chinese parents are crazy about sending their underage children to study abroad, Ms. CQ explained very clearly: There are probably three situations: First, their parents think it is too difficult for their children to go to college in China Yes, even after going to university, employment is still a problem in the future.Graduate students, doctoral students, and foreign university diplomas are the basic requirements for the future Chinese job market.Rather than trying to put your child into a domestic university now, it is better to think about the future employment of the child from now on, and go ahead of the country and send him to study abroad, so as to avoid the domestic college entrance examination of "thousands of troops walking on a single-plank bridge" Fighting can also give children a better starting point for future employment.These parents calculated an account from another angle: to go to university in China, one has to start from junior high school. After six years of middle school, the various tuition fees, training fees, and living expenses spent on children are tens of thousands of yuan a year. .The problem is that these tens of thousands of yuan are often in vain!Once a child has poor grades in the senior high school entrance examination, he has to find a good middle school or a key middle school. If the score is not enough, he has to pay tens of thousands of yuan!After six years of middle school, once you fail the college entrance examination, you have to repeat the exam. Doesn't it cost you 10,000 to 20,000 for the annual repeat fee?Even if the child can go to college later, after four years of college, it will cost 100,000 yuan less.After graduating, look at the job market again. Do people want you as an ordinary undergraduate from an ordinary university?If you can barely find a job, the parents have to subsidize the children every month.Calculated in this way, 200,000 to 300,000 yuan has been posted, and nothing has been lost, so it is better to tighten your belt now and spend more money, seeking peace of mind and peace of mind, and even seeking insurance.These parents also calculated the energy they spent on their children's admission to key middle schools, college entrance examinations, and colleges.Especially those who are busy with work and career have more experience. During the six-year middle school period, the energy and effort spent by parents is far beyond what money can calculate.These parents represent the majority of young students studying abroad.They will therefore feel that spending hundreds of thousands of dollars is "value for money".Another part of the parents has the heart of "fulfilment".For example, a lady in Guangzhou said that she herself was a graduate of a prestigious university in China, but was unable to study abroad due to various reasons.But studying abroad is one of her dreams, especially seeing that China's environmental protection, social security, and lifestyle are far behind those in developed countries, so she pins her hopes on her children. "If the child can develop abroad, it will be a contribution to the country on the one hand, and at least there will be one less job competition. And I hope that after the child completes his studies abroad, he can find a job that suits him abroad. In this way, I can also I often visit him and have the opportunity to directly contact the outside world, which can be regarded as fulfilling my own dream of going abroad. Of course, having a high starting point for the child is much more important than my own wishes.” The third situation Yes, these parents have regarded their children's study abroad as a long-term investment behavior.A gentleman who works in a foreign-invested company in Beijing said very directly that he hopes his son will go to the most famous middle school in the United States to attend high school, and that he will be admitted to Harvard or MIT in the future. "Now I spend hundreds of thousands of yuan to send my child abroad, which is largely regarded as an investment. Because in China, even if I put a lot of effort into training him to be a university professor, his annual income will only be tens of thousands of yuan in the future. , or even less. But it is not the same in foreign countries. Graduates from prestigious universities and highly educated talents have a very high income. It is not reported that a Chinese student who stayed in the United States for ten years brought back two One million US dollars is equal to 17 million RMB! I don’t expect my child to earn that much money, can I cut it in half? That is to say, it can reach more than ten times the income of my current investment in sending him to study abroad! Of course, any kind of investment is risky, and the same is true for sending children to study abroad. Generally speaking, as long as a child can gain a foothold abroad after graduating from university, his life and income will definitely not be worse than ours. That is to say, my Investment will never depreciate. Of course, no one can guarantee that children will not fail. Even so, as parents, we are worthy of our children, and we don’t need to have any regrets.” Such parents say so. It cannot but be said that Ms. CQ is very good at analyzing the mentality of Chinese parents.The deciding factor for teenagers to go abroad is mainly the decision of the parents, seldom the choice of the children themselves, because there is a fundamental problem, that is, economic conditions.Parents control and weigh the fate of their children according to their own economic situation.So, can the wishes of parents really come true? Of course, in the thousands of worlds, as long as people think of it, it is possible to do it, and such cases can always be found.I myself met such a lady when I attended a seminar on Chinese international literature at the National University of Singapore.That day she was delivering some things to her children who were studying at the National University, and I mentioned her children in my chat.She is from Harbin. Her child's grades in China were mediocre, but she was very competitive. As a result, her poor grades dealt a heavy psychological blow to her. After a long time, the cheerful child became very depressed.After the senior high school entrance examination, the child was not admitted to a key middle school.In order for her to go to a good school, the family spent 20,000 yuan entrusting someone to enter a "key point", but because her grades could not keep up, the child seemed to be in great pain every day.So the lady discussed with her husband and decided to take out the original money of more than 400,000 yuan to buy a house and apply for the child to study in Singapore.At first, the child came first, and then she also came as a mother. On the one hand, she took care of the child and worked to earn money. After three years, her child went to school here. He became an outstanding student in the class, and went very well in the university entrance examination. "Our whole family is now in Singapore. My husband and I have jobs to do, our child's wish to go to college has come true, and we have bought a big house. Singapore has made our family's original wish come true!" A lady told me very happily: "If we only considered buying a house in Harbin at the beginning, if the child did not go to college, it would be like leaving the child a piece of cake drawn on paper, and she would not be able to eat it. Now, we Sending a child here to study in college is equivalent to leaving her a fishing net, even if we don’t buy her a house, she can still use this net to catch fish and make a fortune!” Mr. Zhang Heng and his wife, who live in the "noble" apartment in the Asian Games Village in Beijing, are only in their fifties this year, but they have already dismissed two national civil servants with more than 30 years of service in the past two years, because now they There is no need to care about the monthly salary of more than one thousand yuan.Zhang Heng and his wife have always been "poor households" in the work unit. Because others have high education and high professional titles, they are high school students and technical secondary school students, so they suffer from everything.In order to prevent the next generation from suffering such a disadvantage, the couple started saving hard-earned money when the child was in primary school, and there was almost no decent furniture at home. Later, they sent the child to Australia to study high school and university. The child graduated from university three years ago. Later, he became the Chinese general agent of a large Australian company in Beijing, with an annual salary of nearly one million yuan.The house, car, and wife are all complete, and I bought a big house of more than 100 square meters for my parents.Zhang Heng and his wife, who have endured hardships, are always full of pride and complacency when they talk about their "wise decisions" back then and their filial children. Perhaps it is this huge temptation to expect a child to become a dragon if you go abroad, or it is easier to become a dragon if you go abroad, coupled with the huge pressure of domestic exam-oriented education and college entrance examination competition, it is the parents of the majority of middle school students (even elementary school students) who are reluctant to send their children to college. The enthusiasm for studying abroad is getting higher and higher, so that the age of students studying abroad is becoming younger and younger.According to the person in charge of the Guangdong College Entrance Examination Office, in the past few years, the number of people from Guangdong who went abroad to study abroad at their own expense did not exceed 200 at most. In 1998, it reached more than 6,000, and primary and middle school students accounted for more than half of them.It is estimated that in 2000, the number of "teenagers studying abroad" in Guangdong Province alone will reach tens of thousands!The situation in Beijing and Shanghai is the same, and they are growing exponentially every year.An Australian expert who conducted a forecast survey of Chinese students studying abroad estimated that by 2005, there will be more than 100,000 Chinese students studying in primary and secondary schools every year. What is the concept of 100,000 people?One hundred thousand people is a market of nearly ten billion dollars!No wonder Laomei, Laoying, Laoao and even a small country like Thailand are waving to the next generation of China and their parents with smiles on their faces. When the 21st century comes, our Chinese nation is once again facing a "wolf is coming" era! Saying "wolf is coming" seems to be an irritating word, because wolves are cruel and eat people with claws and claws.In fact, the "foreign devils" pretending to be wolves are no longer what they were when the "Eight-Power Allied Forces" invaded Beijing and Tianjin.The current "wolves" are all smiling, like a savior full of warmth.However, a wolf is a wolf after all. Its nature has a man-eating side, and it also has a wolfish ambition to set all kinds of traps for the purpose of eating people... Please see—— Since ancient times, it has been very difficult for "foreign devils" to directly knock on the door of China, but almost every action is successful. What is the mystery?This is why "foreign devils" are too good at taking advantage of China's "traitors".When Hong Kong and Macau were invaded and occupied, it was because of traitors who tampered with them.More than a hundred years have passed, and the "foreign devils" have restrained a lot, and their tactics of plundering the Chinese nation have greatly changed, but the essence of their aggression has not changed.Take a look at the overwhelming number of "foreign-funded" enterprises or "joint venture" enterprises, and the offices of a certain country and a certain group in China, and you will find that it is often not those yellow hairs who are directly helping foreign companies or bosses plunder Chinese resources and funds. Blue-eyed "foreign devils", but Chinese "traitors" who are of the same race as ours. The above-mentioned Ms. CQ of a certain engineering university in the United States said: "A few years ago, our university presidents did not know that there were so many people in China who wanted to go to university. Chinese students who went to our university told us that investing in Chinese education It is the largest trade with China! So we started to focus on your mysterious country in the east. But when we started our business with foreign students, it was not ideal, because we didn’t know how to deal with Chinese students’ parents. We in the United States Parents of children have very different concepts from parents of your Chinese students. For example, some people asked us at the beginning: Can we solve the problem of accompanying parents to study with their children during their studies? A lot of money, why spend a bigger fee for parents to accompany them? Children can go to high school and college, which proves that they are completely independent. Why do parents follow them all day long? So we told Those parents: Our university and the secondary schools run by the university do not have adult accompanying study settings. Later, a Chinese student who studied in our school said, Miss CQ, you are so stupid, the parents of Chinese students and the parents of your American students are treating their children The issue is completely different. You Americans will be regarded as a violation of human rights if you lock your children in your own home, but once we Chinese drive your children out, it may be regarded as abuse. Besides, your school Why don’t you earn money? You can earn a considerable amount of income by bringing Chinese students to your school. If you allow their parents to study with you, they will have to live and spend money. You can’t get money from them Do you earn a lot of money? You earn double the money, and Chinese parents will still think that you are 'taking care' of them. This is such a good thing. Why don't you do it? Let's share the words of this Chinese student with the principal. Said, everyone's eyes lit up several times: Yes, I really don't understand what kind of consumption concept Chinese people have. We don't understand, and we can't understand. Later, our principal decided: We should let Chinese people be our school. Hua is the main management force to carry out the work, and the results have proved that this is very OK!" Chinese "traitors" are familiar with the national conditions, and of course they always "Ok" when they do it.But since it is a "traitor", it has something annoying. Over the past few years, as the number of people studying abroad has increased, various "intermediary" service agencies have emerged as the times require.According to the person in charge of the special activity of "Cleaning up Illegal Study Abroad Organizations" launched in Beijing in the summer of 1999, dozens of such illegal "intermediary" organizations popped up in Beijing alone in 1998.Most of them do not have a valid business license issued by the national education department, and only rely on a "entrustment" letter from a foreign educational institution to "open enrollment" in Beijing or other cities.This kind of "traitor" usually has a few tricks. First, they ask for a considerable "start-up fee" from the "foreign devils", and at the same time sign a "proportional commission agreement" for each student enrolled.After that, they began to recruit troops, hired a large number of "little traitors", and then sent these "puppet troops" to various schools and government agencies to carry out crazy propaganda and lobbying, to help those who were originally troubled by the "high school entrance examination" and "college entrance examination" The students and parents sent delicious "pizza".So under the half-pushing and half-pushing of these "traitors" big and small, some parents of students began to sign up and pay for their children.Of course, if you don't know anything, you have to send the first 10,000 to 20,000 yuan to these "traitors" who act as "intermediaries". "What's wrong? What your child can do in domestic school is an 'examination machine'. Foreign schools are different. They never put pressure on children and let them grow up in freedom. Such children are active in thinking, creating inventions and The ability to be self-reliant is strong. Besides, after three years of high school, your son’s ability in foreign languages ​​is still not up to the level of domestic professors?” The mouths of the “traitors” were thickly coated with sugar.Most of the children's parents are laymen who have never even been abroad. Hearing what the "traitors" say, they no longer hesitate. If you pay the money, you will be cheated and trapped. In recent years, the State Education Commission and Youguweimen have received more and more complaints against "intermediary" agencies, and the most complaints are about the deception and lies of "traitors".It is obvious to lie, but it is not easy to recognize lies.A parent heard the "traitor" introduce a certain school near London, England, which has a "long history, famous teachers, charming scenery, and excellent conditions" and other promotional words, and sent his child there after graduating from junior high school.It turned out that this school is not "nearby" from Lunduphine, and its history is not long. It has only been in operation for a few years. What makes Chinese parents most angry is that the school's "freedom" for students is almost to the point of laissez-faire and no care at all. On this point, even the children who have been clamoring for "liberation" in China think that British schools are "not like a school".There is no special person to tutor academics, no special person to manage the dormitory, and the teacher's "cherishing" of time in get out of class is counted every second. Even if you ask him a question after class, he will say "NO" and turn away. There is no make-up class.As a result, the child couldn't learn a foreign language, and the teacher didn't understand Chinese, so most of the time was taken up by chattering at the beginning of class.After a year and a half, the child insisted on returning to China.Helpless, the parents paid three to four hundred thousand yuan, which is equivalent to letting their children travel abroad once, and they have only been to one place-that is, a school that does not need to do homework.There are not only one or two such children. They had to re-enter the original grade after returning, but when they walked into the classroom at that time, they found that they were completely "college students"-the classmates were all one or two years younger than him (her). The parents were so angry that they asked the "traitors" theory of the "intermediary". The "traitor" said: Don't you want your child to go abroad?It costs money to go abroad!What "intermediary" fees are high?Does this blame us?At the beginning you were willing to say that we were willing to accept it, and it was consensual. It's useless if you take regret medicine.No one cares about the school over there?People call it self-education and open management. Aren't you and your children tired of China's exam-oriented education?What, you can't bear to give you freedom?What can we blame us for?If I don't want to change schools for you, it's best to make an agreement this time, don't go back to China easily, at least you have to wait until you finish college!How about it?Pay more!Do not pay?Ah, if you don’t hand it in, someone will hand it in later!Get out of the way! The faces of the "traitors" make people either angry or choked to death. Now many units in China see that "intermediary" teenagers can make a lot of money in studying abroad, so they have become "traitors" under various banners.Some have gone from illegal to official.For example, the "intermediary" pointed out in the report "Studying Abroad in Australia Possessing Hardship Students" disclosed by the "News" program of the Central People's Broadcasting Station at the end of 1999 was run by a regular school in Jiefang Road, Changchun City, Jilin Province. In 1996, the junior high school of this school distributed leaflets to the society, claiming that the junior high school of the school and a private school in Australia jointly opened a "China-Australia Language School" to prepare students for future Australian high schools.In addition to such a publicity campaign, the principal of the school also vowed at the parents' meeting: After finishing this "Australian school" with 30,000 yuan, he will spend another 100,000 yuan to complete high school in Australia.All of a sudden, the parents were eager for it, and the children were eager to give it a try. A total of 105 students started to go to school after paying 30,000 yuan each.The "overseas class" in this school was once all the rage because the parents firmly believed that it was run by a public school.There is no difference between public schools and those run by the state.However, the difference came out later, because the "public" school did something "intermediary" that it wasn't supposed to. During these three years, 105 students gradually came to understand that their parents helped the children find other ways to leave the "abroad class", and the remaining 28 students stayed firmly and waited for three years. The realization of the "dream of studying in Australia" in the next year.According to the parents of the students, the school kept increasing tuition fees during this period, and many parents dropped out of school because they were dissatisfied.Three years of hard work finally came to an end.However, with the words "the situation has changed", the school asked those parents who continued to send their children to Australia to "pay another 390,000 yuan to study in Australia".Now that things are going on, and for the sake of their children's "future", parents have to swallow the pain. In May 1999, the first batch of ten students finally got their visas, but the latter students were told "no period".The parents did not do this, and the Australian school saw that something was wrong, and hurriedly came to "talk" with the parents, promising to complete the children's enrollment visa within three months.But three months have passed, and the visa issue is still nowhere in sight.The defrauded parents finally took this "public" school and an Australian school to court.However, even if the court judges that the "intermediary" is at fault, who can compensate the children for their delayed studies?It is said that the studies of this "overseas class" did not follow the unified domestic syllabus at all, and almost all Chinese, politics, and history were cut off. Annual high school exam.It took them three years and tens of thousands of yuan in tuition fees, but in the end they didn't even get a junior high school diploma. The lesson could not be more profound. During an interview with an "intermediary" agency, a Ms. Wang burst into tears and snot when she opened her mouth.She cried and begged the people of this "intermediary" agency to "help me out again."The agency personnel ignored her, so she began to curse people, saying that you black-hearted people, you made a lot of hype about studying abroad, and you didn't care about anything after you took the child away from us.You are robbers!It's a traitor!All fucking things! The ladies of the "intermediary" couldn't help standing up and saying, why are you swearing?Ms. Wang stared and scolded even louder: Who else would you scold if not you liars?fraud!Traitor!Traitor! What followed was a scuffle.As a result of the melee, the side with more people won, and the lady was pushed out the door. Ms. Wang therefore became the subject of my interview.She told me the whole process of the matter and asked me to comment.She said that her daughter went to Canada to attend high school the year before last, and it was done by the intermediary agency just now.At that time, she was told that the various expenses for her child to go to school in Canada for one year were about 150,000 to 16,000 yuan.This figure is definitely a lot of money for her family, but for the sake of the child, she and her husband decided to send their daughter out.Before leaving, she also said to the child: We usually save a little more, and you can work some more there. After three years of high school, you will have a scholarship when you are admitted to university.The daughter also promised to study hard and repay her parents in the future. The Maple Leaf Country is beautiful, and the learning conditions are very good, but there is a unique disadvantage: everything is very expensive, without good adaptability and language skills, it is very difficult to find a job.After Ms. Wang's children went to high school there, they soon found that their financial situation was extremely tight: after paying the tuition fees, they were even short of money for meals, let alone some decent clothes.The daughter is only fifteen or sixteen years old, and she never even washes the dishes at home, so it is impossible to get the "two hundred yuan wages" planned by her mother every month.In order to pass the language barrier, I had to pay about 300 yuan a month for "remedial tuition".The more nervous the daughter who has no money, the more she calls home. Parents here are even more nervous when they hear that their daughter has no money. Not to mention other things, the phone bill alone costs more than 1,000 yuan more than before. "International long-distance calls are like a tiger. I always call in the middle of the night , but the tiger still eats more than 10,000 yuan a year." Ms. Wang said. She and her husband are ordinary government officials in China, with a monthly salary plus bonuses, plus some "extra money" from her husband, the annual income is only 50,000 to 60,000.My daughter spent about 180,000 yuan to study abroad in her first year.Among them, 50,000 yuan was borrowed by Ms. Wang from her sister.I originally thought that the child could earn some part-time work independently in the second year, but later my daughter told her that it was impossible, because the "policies" were the same everywhere in Canada, where she went to school, minors were not allowed to engage in part-time jobs at all, let alone Even at the age of adulthood, it may not be possible to find a job.孩子的后援本来就不足，前方又挣不到钱，所以女儿至少一个星期向家里叫急一次。 “我把所有的零花钱都积存起来，准备给你们打电话用。要是连打电话的钱都没有了，我一个人准死定在异国他乡了！”女儿的话把做母亲的吓坏了。无奈，她一次又一次向外人借钱给女儿寄去。债台就这样越筑越高，到了第三年，王女士为女儿留学已经欠下二十万元的债。夫妻俩到后来都紧张得不敢再去接电话，因为电话不是女儿打来要钱，就是债主来催他们还钱。 有一次女儿急了：“为啥几天你们不接我的电话？是不是让我死在加拿大？”女儿说完就呜呜大哭起来。大哭之后就骂：“你们不是我的父母！是王八蛋！” 做父母的气坏了，说你怎么能这样说？我们为了你上学，已经快家破人亡了，借的人家的债都可以把我们家门堵住了。你怎么能这样骂父母？你是不是留学了就没了良心啊？ 这边一句，那头一句，双方在国际长途电话里对骂了半天，最后是女儿“啪”地挂掉了话筒。 王女士这边有两个星期没有接到那边的电话，于是她和丈夫就有些坐不住了，打电话过去，对方没有人接。这就更着急了，王女士把电话打到那边的“监护人”那里，可人家是“临时”性的“监护”，你付我工钱了吗？No.没有你就别找我，找你女儿的学校要人嘛！无奈，只好找学校要人。 学校的人说：我们也在找密斯王，你们能提供什么线索吗？ “狗王八蛋要你们学校干什么呀？”王女士气得用中文狠狠骂了对方一通。但又有什么用？女儿没了，还得赶紧找啊！ 哪儿去找呀？又不像在国内，骑辆自行车，打个的，或者报个警。即使是国内，大海捞针一般找人也不容易。王女儿心急如焚，通过各种关系买了飞机票，赶到加拿大东部城市某学校。真是无巧不成书，那天她到学校的时候，女儿也回到了学校，只是她身后跟了一位年纪很大、满脸胡须的“老外”。 “你怎么跟一个'老外'在一起？”母亲严厉地责问女儿。 女儿瞪了母亲一眼：“你才是'老外'！” “少废话。你说说这段时间你到哪儿去了？” “打工挣钱去了。”女儿低着头说。 “打的什么工？” “打工就打工呗。只要有钱挣就行。” “你可给我说清楚了：我们是中国人，不挣那些肮脏的钱。” 女儿从鼻孔里“哼”了一声：“什么中国人不中国人，没有钱还不如狗屎！” 母亲“噌”地站起来：“宁可当狗屎，咱们也不去挣肮脏钱！你得给我说明白了：到底这段时间干什么去了？” 女儿沉默。 “说呀！到底干什么去了？” 女儿突然咆哮起来：“你说我干什么去了？给人家当妓女去了！你还要问什么？” 母亲愣住了，两眼发直，浑身也哆嗦起来：“真的？你说实话，是真的吗？” 女儿再不说话了，抱头痛哭。 这一夜，母女俩没有睡在一个房间。 第二天，王女士收拾起东西，对女儿说：我们不读书了，跟我回国。 女儿：不。I do not go! 母亲：不走你留在这儿还想干见不得人的事？ 女儿愤怒了：我是为了读书！ 母亲也愤怒了：这个书我们不读了！ 女儿说：你没有权利剥夺我的受教育权！ 母亲说：我是没有权利剥夺你的受教育权，但我有权教育自己的女儿。 俩人不欢而散。 机场上，母亲和女儿远远地望着，最后都是泪流满面…… “孩子现在还在加拿大上学。可因为家里供不起那么多费用，她后来把实情告诉了我们，说她不得不找个'靠山'来维持自己的学业与生活，那个上年纪的大胡须加籍人就是她的'靠山'。女儿说，那人每月给她一千元加市，条件是在大学毕业后必须嫁给他。女儿还不算太混，说可以，但也有一个条件：在大学毕业之前，俩人的关系保持一定距离……”王女士谈完她女儿的事后，说自己犯了一个致命的错误，就是不该在没有雄厚经济实力的条件下把孩子送到国外留学，另外则是太轻信“中介”机构的粗略介绍。 她希望我通过文章告诫那些准备把孩子送往国外留学的家长们：千万要把那边的情况了解清楚后再作决定。 水往低处流，人往高处走，是中国的一句老话，但如果在出国留学潮中人们也这么想可能事就麻烦大了。今天的中国人一想到出国首先想上美国，再不就是英国、加拿大、澳洲什么的，但没有几个人知道，这世界上还有不少国家把“红色中国”视为与伊拉克同等地位的“不受欢迎国家”，美国人对中国人入境差不多就是采用这样的礼遇规格。 几家留学咨询机构都反映说，学生家长到他们那儿要求最多的就是上美国、加拿大或者英国，你不管解释多少遍，他们就是不听，还说“出国留学不往美国英国加拿大走，还留什么学？”“中介”“中介”，既然是中介，你就只管收钱办手续就行了嘛！北京某留学机构的一位小姐说，她开始很认真地向一些家长介绍去各国留学的情况，特别是作为中介机构有责任向客户讲清楚那些可能给申请留学的人带来麻烦的问题，但来咨询的不少家长似乎都有一种“上帝”的酷劲，或者财大气粗的派头，你给他讲一大通，他根本不听你的，往往坐下不到十分钟，就命令式地对你说：我不听那么多废话，你只管说把我孩子弄到美国或者英国要多少钱吧？ 跟这样的主儿说事儿不是对牛弹琴嘛！这位小姐说，既然人家不在乎，我干嘛费口舌说闲话呢？吃了亏，再让他们叫苦吧！ 这不，李就是这样一位财不大气很粗的家长。他到某出国留学机构为儿子办申请时就一口认定“上美国”。交完一万三千元手续费后他就走了，到三个月时，机构告诉他对方拒签。 “狗日的，美国佬有什么牛的？老子给他送钱去，他还不给脸啊？等，看他到底签不签！” 又是三个月，美国佬像有意跟这位老兄较劲：再次拒签。 机构派人好心劝他别再“一棵树上吊死”，像新西兰、泰国什么的学校好签多了。不妨让你儿子到这几个国家去上学。 Why?老子堂堂大中国，干啥上那屁股大的小国家？他们能有哈佛吗？能有麻省理工学院吗？没有嘛！没有让我儿子去干啥？这老兄不服，非要再等不可。 如此来回五次，美国佬就不给他儿子签证。 这老兄急了，气得要上美国驻华大使馆“骂娘”。“你骂娘也没用，说不定还会被美军陆战队士兵把你毙了！” “他敢——！” 最后，这老兄还是没有实现把儿子送到美国读书的愿望。时间已经过去两年。儿子在家无事可做，整天跟游戏机作伴。等到老子为他改签到新西兰某学校时，这孩子已经没有了学习兴趣，成天里想着他的电子“伙伴”。一怒之下，他老子把自己在国内的公司也关了，带着老婆孩子跑到了新西兰。 不知天高地厚的这位孩子家长，到新西兰后顿时发现自己像头不会说话的傻狗熊，什么事都干不成，甚至连出门都要让低能儿子在前面领路——儿子多少还能说些英语。一家有三口之众，在新西兰又找不到像样的工作，一天从睁眼开始，样样都得付钱，不出半年，这位老兄苦不堪言地对老婆孩子说：我们回国吧，这儿不是我们呆的地方。 当这个三口之家从新西兰返回中国时，这位家长出了机场就情不自禁地大哭起来：说这几年一定是吃错了什么药，要不干嘛白白扔了近百万元钱却没落实成一件事？最使他痛苦的是，把孩子上学的事全耽误了。晃荡了三年的儿子，现在不但上不了高中，连职高都考不进去。他说是他不现实的出国留学梦，一夜之间把全家人从往日的“贵族”又变成了贫民。 据中国留学生服务中心的工作人员介绍，盲目使得不少人的少年出国留学美梦，反而成了一场场噩梦，这全因为许多家长求学心切和愿望过高所致。他说美国的哈佛大学、麻省理工学院，英国的伦敦、剑桥大学，都是全世界著名的学府，它们对学生的要求非常之高，收费也十分高，而且每年招生都有计划的人数。所以选择这样的学校，就得考虑自己各方面的条件是否够得上。中学也是一样的道理。美国、英国和加拿大等国，他们虽然已经对中国开放了，但毕竟是有条件的开放，一些家长一提出到美国读书，选择的不是纽约，就是华盛顿、波士顿这样的名城名校，他们哪里知道这些地方的学校，就连美国富豪达官贵人的子女也未必都能进得去。另一种被连连拒签的原因是，申请人常常不关心学校情况，也不关心孩子上学后会遇到什么情况，整个申请留学过程，使人容易认为有明显的移民倾向。 “废话。我送孩子出国留学，你们中介机构和对方国家管得着我有没有移民倾向？”有的家长正理讲不清，邪理讲得你真没法回答。 其实，“老外”对中国人的心事摸得就是准。有个女士与丈夫离婚后，一心想把孩子送出国上学，因为她不想再与前夫生活在同一个城市，甚至同一个国家里，眼下的生活，使她无法摆脱心头的那团阴影——她同丈夫离婚就是为了那次令她永远抹不去的一幕：那天她出差提前了一天回来，本来在临上飞机时准备给“老老实实”呆在家里的丈夫打个电话，告诉他一声她临时改变了计划，先回家，下次再到上海参加一个会议。可是一忙乱没打成电话便上了飞机。下飞机后她直奔家里，想趁他和孩子都没有回家之前准备些饭菜，好让小别的一家温馨一番。哪知在她开门进屋的一瞬间，她眼前出现了电影情节中的惊人一幕：自己的丈夫正赤身裸体地与一个同样赤身裸体的女人睡在本该属于她的床上。离婚后，她觉得心头的阴影一刻也没有驱散。孩子判给了她，因此她有个强烈的愿望：先送孩子出国读书，然后母女俩移民出去。在这样的心事下，她很快与女儿商定到新西兰或者加拿大或其它什么地方去都行，就是一条：离中国越远越好。或者与其说离中国越远越好，不如说离“他”越远越好。 钱交了，第一次申请的是加拿大。钱要的不是太多，她觉得努力一下可以维持孩子的上学和自己将来出去的生活费。 留学生机构对她说耐心等待吧。但几个月过去后，她得到的消息是：拒签。 这对她来说可是沉重打击，也许换了别人什么事都没有，但她不行。从此，她隔一天就到留学咨询机构跑一趟，追问人家凭什么对她孩子拒签。 拒签的原因很多，可通常中方工作人员是不清楚的，只有领事馆的“洋鬼子们”知道。她就开始跑某国驻华领事馆。人家客气地告诉她：请等等再说。 只好这样了，等吧。 突然有一天，她的电话响了，一个中文说得并不太好的“老外”对她说：尊敬的女士，我们非常抱歉地通知您：您的孩子留学护照没有批下来，我们认为您有移民倾向…… What?你们怎么就知道我一定有移民倾向？她先是一愣，后来迅速反应过来，反问对方，那边的电话已经挂断了。 “移民，我就是要移民，你们为什么不让我移民？为什么不让我女儿出国留学？为什么？”一场大病过后，她起床后第一件事就是直奔某国驻华领事馆，对着签证处的官员大声嚷嚷，不停地嚷嚷，重复地嚷嚷上面这几句话。 值勤的武警把她劝走了，她又重新回来嚷嚷。后来人家只好强行赶走她，可第二天她又来嚷嚷，再重复地嚷嚷那些话。公安人员不得不通知她女儿，女儿跑到派出所看到自己的母亲被关在一间又潮又湿的水泥房子里，哭着对公安人员说：求求你们了，我妈有病呀！ 有病还放她出来？公安干警瞪起了眼睛。女儿含着泪，只好把她带回自己的家。 那天，某留学咨询机构正式通知她女儿：她留学的事看来已经没戏，念她母女可怜，退还一万元钱。女儿双腿跪着给人家磕头，然后带着钱和母亲，朝市精神病院走去…… 在相关的出国留学服务机构里，工作人员与客户矛盾最多的要数“算后账”。所谓“算后账”就是出了钱的结果没有达到留学目的而发生的种种纠纷。显而易见，有的是服务机构事先没有把各种可能性告诉那些急于求成的客户，有的是出国留学者对前往所在国的留学过程中可能出现的各种情况估计不够。 西方国家的教育确实有很多先进的地方，但西方毕竟与中国不一样，文化、道德和信仰上的差异，使我们那些只有十几岁的孩子很难把握自己。 杭州有对夫妇的孩子是在高二时出的国，当时孩子在班里的成绩排在倒数第二，显然属于高考要淘汰的那一类学生。女孩子长得标准的西子淑女，但就是成绩上不去。父母不甘心让女儿将来就当个旅游公司的导游，他们希望她在“中国天堂”之一的杭州市能有所作为，于是，在四年前就通过出国留学咨询服务机构，把女儿办到了瑞士一所旅游服务管理专业学院留学。因为孩子的高中没有毕业，所以还得在那儿念大学预科和英语文化课补习，这么两年下来，孩子的成绩可以称得上“呱呱叫”。这一点西方人早有名言在先：世界的学生中，中国学生的考试能力堪称一流。一个在国内较差的学生，到了国外同等学校，也可以获得前几名的考试成绩。杭州这对夫妇的孩子原来上的是市属普通中学，却也是不错的老学校，所以她在瑞士大学预科班里成绩一直保持在一二名水平。往日西子湖畔的失落感，在这儿荡然无存，到处是受人赞美的目光，加上天生丽质，该学生骨子里的那种好胜与占有欲开始慢慢膨胀起来。先是嫌父母每月寄的钱太少，再就是觉得自己的黄皮肤不如人家的白皮肤，更嫌自己的头发不是黄的——这并不难，到美容店处理一下就可以。独苗苗一个，满足她吧！夫妇俩一个在杭州机关工作，一个干个体，年收入也就在十来万元，这些钱一分不剩寄给瑞士读书的“千金”还不够她开销。无奈，只能将希望寄托在干个体的老爸身上。原本安份守己做些小买卖的他，只好不时捣鼓些“黑”的、“黄”的，以维持生计。每一次“半夜'机'叫”（女儿打来的长途电话），都得让当老爸的心惊肉跳地跟工商管理人员“玩”一个星期“猫抓老鼠”的把戏。 去年，女儿的预科班结束前夕，正好在机关工作的母亲有十几天工休假，于是夫妇俩决定前往瑞士“监督”一下孩子考大学的情况。第一次出国的这对夫妇，生怕上了飞机就惶旎来似的，长途电话里跟女儿千叮嘱万“希望”，可一下飞机场连女儿的影子都没有找着，就在他们焦急万分又无可奈何时，一个棕色皮肤的印度青年拿着一块上面写着一行英文、一行中文的小纸牌走到他们面前，并说了半句刚刚能听懂的中文：你们好，我这里有……这对夫妇接过印度青年递过来的纸条才知道，这是女儿让同学来接他们的“委托书”。女儿在纸条上说她由于与朋友去度周末，不能来接，先让“二老”在安排好的一个公寓里住下。夫妇俩到达公寓后谢过那个印度青年，便开始打量房间：一室一厅，家什齐全，但独缺食物。女儿在桌子上留下一个纸条，说公寓下面就是一个超市，过马路是菜市场，你们可以自己去采购。夫妇俩一看纸条就气不打一处来：她当我们什么人了？大老远人生堤旎熟地跑来看她，她倒好，自己出去玩了，让我们一惊一咋地在异国他乡丢人显眼？第一天，夫妇俩没有出一步公寓门，在家里吃了一天自带的方便面，第二天当爸的就觉得肚子不妥，一个小时里稀里哗啦跑了四趟厕所。当妈的说我下去到超市看看能不能买点“止泻药”。她穿好衣服，换上鞋子出了门，可一会儿就空着手回来了，说超市里不卖药。当爸的说你不会问问哪个地方卖？她说还用问：肯定是药店里有呗！当爸的说那你干嘛不赶紧给我买回来？她说我正要问你呢！离杭州时我说要准备些药，省得到瑞士来咱订连一句完整的英语都不会讲，买不上药你说没事，有我们女儿呢！现在倒好，你肚子吃不消了，可女儿上哪儿去了？一听这话，当爸的就火冒三丈：时隔不到两年，她已经根本不把我们父母当人对待了！ 第二天，夫妇俩又在空荡荡的屋里守了一天。正在他们着急的时候，女儿上气不接下气地“咚咚咚”敲门而入。进门的第一句话就问：有什么吃的？快饿死我啦！ 躲在床头的父亲没好气地说：快饿死的是我跟你妈！我们上哪儿弄吃的？ 女儿不高兴了：什么？你们大活人两个在家闲着，就不知道自己买点东西？非得等我回来？ 当爸的火了：这里不是杭州！我跟你妈不靠你靠谁？还好意思说，就知道自己玩，连去机场接我们都不去，你当我们是要饭的？ 女儿也火了：不是已经给你们写得清清楚楚了？还嫌这嫌那！我当初到这儿才十六岁，你们怎么就那么放心？ 你、你……你怎么这样讲？我们还不是为了你好？ 为我？哼，恐怕是为你们的面子吧？ asshole!你花去了全家的积蓄，怎么就不知一点好歹？父亲开骂了。 好了好了，看你们父女俩，好不容易才见面，就吵架，像什么话？最后是当母亲的圆了场。但这开场白的不和谐似乎注定了这一家人水火不相容的局面。 当晚，母亲在跟女儿单独谈话时也批评她不该只管自己玩，把父母扔在一边不管。女儿不服气，说每个人生活都是独立的，我为什么一定要因为你们来了就打乱自己的计划呢？再说本来是要亲自去机场接的，但后来有朋友相约外出，就没有去接了。 母亲说这事不提了，于是便问起学习和生活的情况。 女儿没有回答，反问道：给我带了多少钱来？ 母亲有些生气了，说你这孩子怎么变成这样了？除了向家里要钱外，也该跟家里说说你自己在这儿的情况呀！ 女儿说：这里一切正常呀！没有什么好说的。我问你们带钱来没有是因为这是我最需要的，我挑最需要的说，有什么错？ 母亲不说话了，两眼阴沉下来：这孩子与过去不一样了。她长叹了一声，没有把心里的感觉说出口。 她默默地打开包，取出一个大信封，毫无表情地说了声：里面是五千块美元，你下学期的学费和生活费。 女儿什么话都没说，接过信封就站起身说：妈你们先歇着，我回自己的地方住。 当妈的吃惊道：我们老远来这儿，你不跟妈多呆一会儿？ 她说：天不早了，明天还要上课。她随手抄起张纸片，写了个电话号码，说有事可以打这个电话。说完，朝屋里说了声“爸妈，我走啦”便出了公寓。 女儿一走，当妈的就开始流泪，后来忍不住失声痛哭起来。当爸的气上加气，说你把那个电话号码给我，我找小混球说话！ 那时估计已经到半夜二三点钟了。那边的电话通了，但接电话的是个男的，且说着叽里咕噜的外语，当爸的什么也没有听到。后来他连续说了几遍女儿某某某的名字后，对方大概才明白过来。 Hey?是爸？ !Is there a problem?这回是女儿的声音。 当爸的一听奇怪地问：这是你住的地方吗？ 女儿说是。 那你身边怎么是个男“老外”？ 女儿没有回答。 Say it!他是你什么人？怎么跟你睡在一起？Say it!当爸的气急败坏地大声嚷嚷起来。而对方则“啪”地将电话挂断了。 当爸的两眼发绿，胸脯起伏对当妈的说：你赶快给我起床，我们要个出租车，去找你那个宝贝女儿！ 当妈的开始不信，后来亲自抄起电话又不停堤歃号码，但就是拨不通。 放心，她正跟不知哪一个毛茸茸的野驴睡得热乎，怎么会接你的电话呢？当爸的阴一句阳一句地一边说一边催当妈的赶紧穿衣出门。 你咋唬有啥用？这儿又不是杭州，我们到哪儿去找她？ 当妈的一句提醒，使当爸的一下倒在沙发上。半晌，他才对着黑乎乎的窗外说了一句：千不该万不该，最不该把囡囡从国内放飞出来…… 由于后来夫妇俩坚决要求女儿休学回国，而女儿也同样坚决不同意，于是，这个本来非常美满的家庭出了裂痕，以往的那种亲情，从此再也找不到了。 现在女儿仍在瑞士读书，但她已经不要父母寄钱了，自从那次不欢而散的见面后，她自认为与“不可能了解西方生活方式”的父母之间“距离