Chapter 14 Chapter Fourteen I Have a Dark Side Too

If the company is handed over to you, you have to work another job. Before the beginning of the month, you will have a headache for tens of thousands of necessary expenses. You only sleep for three hours a day, and you will be woken up by a phone call at any time. In this way In such an environment, would you have the heart to think about those men and women who love each other and love each other?In the process of making money, I often feel unhappy, and sometimes, not only unhappy, but painful to death.Sometimes, I think about a question, what stole my happiness?After thinking about it carefully, the reasons are probably as follows:

First, lack of faith. Second, always compare yourself to others. Third, do not cherish the beautiful things. Fourth, don't know how to give alms. Fifth, dissatisfaction. Sixth, high pressure, high standards, and easy anxiety. Seventh, dare not insist on being yourself. Eighth, a strong mind about gains and losses means worrying about gains and losses. Then think of Confucius, he traveled around the world, slobbered, and lobbied everywhere, but he was always a very happy person.So, how did he do this, or what is Confucius' way of happiness? I also thought about it for a long time, and in the end I couldn’t help combining it with myself, and found that there are about five points in the way of happiness:

One is good health. The second is to have ideals and beliefs. The third is that there are many hobbies. Fourth, there are many students (or there are many people who have been favored by me). The fifth is to be good at self-deprecating. Knowing this, I will adjust myself and try to make myself happy. People who have been hurt by emotions, and people who have been seriously injured, like me, don't believe in emotions anymore, at least for a while. In the company, I play more of a "big brother" role.If something goes wrong and the customer fails to win, I will help them solve it.K singing together, I sat for a while, drank a glass of wine, went out to pay the bill, and withdrew early by myself.So, I don't seem to be gregarious, I don't chase girls casually, I look a little different, on the contrary, I can attract girls' attention.

I can detect these things, and I am also a man with normal physiological needs, but I will not engage in gender-related matters in the company.Falling in love is explicitly prohibited in my company, and office romances are not allowed, not only in my company, but also in other companies. There was an employee under me who once got into trouble and had a relationship with two girlfriends outside, and accidentally got cheated on, and the woman ran into the company to make trouble.It has already affected the normal work, but the kid didn't try to solve it, he just avoided it blindly.I couldn't fire him at the time, because he still had tens of thousands of yuan in shipping fees that he hadn't recovered.

It is impossible for a company to be full of people who know how to restrain themselves. Some are capable but have no morals. They are drugs, and they need to use fire to fight fire. I said to the kid, "You have to fix this, if you can't, get out." It stands to reason that this is his private matter, and I shouldn't take care of it, but if it involves company management and affects the company, I have to come forward.This guy is a master in love, and he has also attracted many clients by picking up girls. He even picks up clients. He is ruthless enough. This is one of his methods.But those customers who were soaked still gave him business.

But this kid is okay, the rabbit doesn't eat the grass by the side of the nest, and he didn't mess around in the company.I said in the company that you are not allowed to fall in love in the company, and he knows it well. I don't care if you do it outside, but if you dare to do it inside the company, I'll do it for you. It stands to reason that chasing the opposite sex is a normal behavior of a person, but I cannot allow employees to mess around in the company, whoever messes up will leave. Falling in love in the company is a threat to me. If he falls in love with another female employee, do you know what the consequences will be?It's not to make the stomach bigger and eat more people.It's that they will leave and take away a lot of customers. For small companies, this may be a disaster.Therefore, large companies do not allow men and women to fall in love, let alone small companies.

A shopping mall is a shopping mall, and a love scene is a love scene, and they cannot be confused together. In our line of work, we need to build good relationships with many people, both explicit and covert, explicit rules and unspoken rules, we must understand everything and play with everything.Let's put it this way, gods from all walks of life must take care of it, otherwise, if any link is tripped, there is a danger of losing everything. What kind of person and what method you use to get him is very particular. As a business partner, the interests are equally shared, just give the money directly, but it is very happy.The power department is not easy to deal with. You have to spend money and eat and have fun.They are tired of eating thousands of dollars of big meals, and their minds are all focused on "playing".Everyone is an adult, and some of them have reached the age of being called uncle when they meet, so you must not ask them to play arcade, you can only go to pornographic places.

Everyone likes a young and beautiful girl. When she sings, she hugs her left and right, and takes the opportunity to wipe her oil. Once the youth is released and the mood is happy, things will be much easier. In other words, there are many ways of "adult beauty". Drinking tea, fishing, and reading are all healthy, but if you dare to do this, the other party will think you are playing him (unless he is naturally elegant), and you will die up. The hero is sad about the beauty pass, whether it is a "yongxiong" or an idiot, if you push it in "Tender Township", all of them will hand in their guns and not be killed.

Everyone sees that this method is good, and it has become a rule. If you want to do business, you have to be corrupt first, and it’s not good to let others be corrupt, you have to be corrupt along with you. Everyone jumps into the dye vat, you yourself look like a holy boy in white clothes, white socks and long johns, others will definitely not do it, they will think you are playing tricks. Frankly speaking, I am a big player in this kind of sensual venue, and I often take a group of people to "play" with bundles of RMB.For talking and singing alone, you need to drink foreign wine, good foreign wine, this is a consumption; there is also "accompanying singing", each order a girl, and sit next to it for "acupuncture".

It would cost several hundred for a girl, and if she suddenly became malicious, had the idea of ​​sparks hitting the earth, and took her out for the night, she would have to pay several hundred more. Counting all the way down, it is not uncommon to spend tens of thousands of yuan a night while drinking and karaoke. Don't look down on the lady who accompanied the singing, the income is actually very high, after deducting the "individual income tax" (that is, the protection fee) and the commission of the "mummy" (that is, the old bustard), the rest is your own. This is a bit like the contract responsibility system in Xiaogang Village, Henan Province in high school political textbooks. The land is the same, and it depends on how you sow the "seed" and fertilize it.

I personally respect the profession of young ladies (it has to be said, it is indeed a profession), they eat by their ability (making people comfortable is also craftsmanship), they do not embezzle, do not damage the interests of the country, and do not spend a penny of taxpayers. On the contrary, it is precisely because of the emergence of the young lady business that some economically underdeveloped areas have been invigorated by attracting investment, the local GDP has increased, and it has also contributed a lot of tax revenue to the country. At the same time, it also stimulated the development of industries such as medical care and health care equipment, promoted the tertiary industry, provided a large number of jobs, and made a group of beautiful, skilled and intelligent ladies rich first. I have a friend who works in a bank. There is a high-end club next to her unit, and the ladies there often come to deposit money, and the accounts are clear. Just looking at the numbers on the passbook, they should be the group of people who got rich first in the legend, and used their flesh and blood to drive the regional economic development.It can be said that the degree of economic development of a place is directly proportional to the prosperity of the local sex industry. Guangzhou is an economically developed area, and the sex industry can be seen. My respect for this profession is based on a certain foundation, and this foundation is: don't bother me. You are paid by me to sing along, and I am also singing along, the difference is that you can earn extra money, and I pay for it myself.So, I really don't like being harassed by these women (even though I paid for it). Once, when I was singing with a client, a lady came over and touched me, and it pissed me off.She ate a chicken leg before, and she didn't eat well, her mouth was full of oil, and she didn't wipe it, so she came directly to touch me.Frankly speaking, I have a little bit of a clean freak, and I am disgusted by such things as "grossing". They are women of romantic occasions, it's normal to be "passionate" and open to men (unless she doesn't want to make money), I can understand it, but I don't accept it. Come to think of it, they are actually quite pitiful.The people I brought with me were not young anymore, and they were fat and fat, which was very disgusting for women. I was caught in the middle, I was relatively young, and I looked pretty at first glance, so I was easy to become the target of "strike".It's not how good-looking I am, but those old men are too ugly to arouse the "sexual interest" of the young lady. Another time, after the guests were settled, I went to the toilet.When closing the toilet door, there was a young lady who was trying to force her way in. At first I thought she was drunk and went to the wrong bathroom, but later I realized that she did it on purpose, because she said in a very provocative voice outside: "Little boy, let's play together..." He speaks Cantonese, soft and attractive. I guess, she was disgusted by the group of old men in the room, so seeing me, a young man, like seeing a dish of "tofu mixed with shallots" in a table of red meat, she felt very refreshing and wanted to take advantage of it. Take this opportunity to do it. If I am willing, this is an affair, and the money for accompanying singing is given, which is extra and does not cost money. It's a pity that I didn't agree, I said: "I'm not pretty, you'd better go." She still didn't leave, so we fought a tug-of-war at the toilet door.She rushed a few times and was pushed back by me, maybe because she was tired, so she gave up and went back to accompany her old man. Compared with ordinary people, my experience is more complicated, I have seen more people and things, and I have a certain ability to bear some "sudden events". For example, when everyone goes to karaoke together, you push the door in after washing your hands and find that they are all "skating" (a name for drug abuse), what should you do? A lot of people would choose to leave, honest kids might even be scared away when they see this kind of scene for the first time, but not me.I would say hello to them, sit down naturally and relax, and play with them.I know what I should do and what I should not do. Lao Tzu once said: Do something, not do something.I think that's what it means. Lao Tzu who was thousands of years ago can clearly see what is happening today, so he is great. The saying "Do something, don't do something" is easy to say, but it is not easy to do. Modern society is very impetuous, the air is full of temptations, and people are animals with inflated desires, so it is difficult to control themselves. For example, as I mentioned before, the boy who liked to play with women when I went to Guangzhou to work hard together, was nicknamed "Every Day in Guangzhou".He still has this virtue to this day.You can make him not eat, but it is impossible to keep him away from women. There is only such a thing in his bones. "Death under the pomegranate skirt, even a ghost is a flair", this is the kind of person he is talking about. There is also a friend who also has this hobby, playing with women.It's just that he wasn't too careful, so he found a random woman and made her belly bigger after a single shot. I've seen that woman, at the wedding, she looked very average, even lower than average.However, her belly was indeed getting bigger. What's worse, she still knew who the father of the "baby" was, followed by forced marriage, and then the forced marriage succeeded. My friend definitely didn't want to get married, he wanted to have fun, but he didn't have the technology of "Ribian Guangzhou", and he screwed up. His current life is relatively poor. He works in Guangzhou, and his "picked up wife" has nothing to do. He plays mahjong every day, and he doesn't even have the money to buy milk powder for his children. His personal experience just verified a sentence: when you come out to play around, you always have to pay it back. The environment is the same, in Greater Guangzhou, in Dongguan, the world is rich and rich, it depends on who can control themselves. I admire Chen Daoming in the entertainment circle, he is a person who can control himself.The entertainment industry is so dirty, sex scandals, unspoken rules, today I kick you, tomorrow you kick me, even many model couples who seem to have almost become beliefs are going to divorce, who else can you trust?However, Chen Daoming is very indifferent, he does not think about those fancy worlds, and those fancy worlds will not bother him, this is a master.The plays he acted in did not make jokes about the disadvantaged groups, and did not have simple love between men and women, they were all thought-provoking things. I hope that I can also earn a lot of money and live a life with a limit like him. People need a bottom line, a life without a bottom line is like a ship without a bottom. My bottom line is, no matter where I am, I can't do whatever I want. My vision for a future wife is not very high. She can come from a poor background (which can actually win my favor), but she must be well-bred and have a common topic with me. If she can contribute to my career Help couldn't be better.Before such a woman appears, I will not just find a woman to sleep with. I hope that in the future, I can be worthy of my employees outside and my wife and children at home. I'm a normal man with normal biological needs, but I can control myself when it matters. Once, I worked late at the company, most of the employees had already left work, and the corridor was very quiet.As I was walking, I flipped through the documents in my hand, and I was suddenly hugged behind me. At first I thought it was a male employee joking and didn't take it seriously, but later I realized it was a woman. She is an employee in my company, she is very beautiful, and she may have followed me for a long time. The sign is obviously wrong. I usually strictly ask my subordinates not to have a relationship in the company. Instead, I am hugged by a woman in the corridor. If someone sees it, it will be very bad for her and me. I tried to get rid of it, but it was useless. She held on tight, as if she had finally caught a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity and never let go. I said: "What do you want to do?" She said: "I have always wanted to say those three words to you." I said: "No matter what you want to say, you'd better let me go first." She was not obedient, it was off-duty time, and orders from superiors to subordinates were invalid, let alone this kind of thing. She just kept hugging me from behind without any intention of letting go.I had no choice but to say: "Let's go to the office to talk. I still have a few urgent emails. If you don't believe me, take a look." I raised the document in my hand, and I said: "It must be sent out now. , waiting there." Business emails in a company are very important, especially in the logistics industry, where time is money, she understands. Whether it was an excuse or not, she finally let me go and followed me to the office, which, she thought, might be a better place.It's big, with loose sofas, and it's easy to do something private. We walked in, and I pretended to deal with a few emails, poured her a glass of water, and prepared to confess my thoughts to her. She talked about how she felt about me, she felt that I was cold on the outside, a workaholic, and the first one to leave when everyone karaoke together, and so on.It is a sense of mystery, everyone is enjoying life, but you are like a gentleman, out of tune with the world.She is a typical little girl mentality. I corrected her "blind spot of vision", explained the reason for the life of an ascetic monk, and said: "If I hand over the company to you, I will have to work another job, and I will have a headache for tens of thousands of necessary expenses at the beginning of each month. You only sleep for three hours a day, and you will be woken up by phone calls at any time, in such an environment, do you have the heart to think about those men and women, love each other?" She looked at me, and while I was sitting next to her, she suddenly jumped over and sat on my lap—it seemed that my words didn't work. She looked at me aggressively and said, "I'm just interested in you." I smiled and said, "You're interested in my money, right?" To deal with a woman, get rid of her, this is my most frequently used sentence, it is very direct and has enough lethality. The woman said: "I don't want your money, I don't want a house or a car, I don't even want a name, I want you." This can actually be understood as a choice between a pile of money and a money printing machine-don't Money needs a money printing machine.But the man was moved, so the machine was carried away. I wouldn't be that stupid. Although such a sentence was thrown out, I was still bewitched by a woman's body, which was soft and exuded a faint perfume smell. I have been single for many years, and I haven't hugged a woman's body seriously for a long time, let alone she is riding on my lap, and the tip of my nose touched the soft and obviously swollen part. I had a reaction at that moment, the reaction of a man touching a woman, and instinctively hugged her with both hands. There are only the two of us in the office, quietly, no one can spy on this dreamy two-person world. If things go smoothly, the sofa is a good battlefield. It is big enough to withstand any toss, and dry wood and fire can be burned very vigorously on it. She seemed to feel my reaction, as if she had received some kind of encouragement, as if there was a storm below. To my disappointment, the impulse only lasted for a few minutes. Years of experience in the workplace made me calm down quickly. I said, "I'm a man and I'd love to have sex with you, but I can't because I don't love you." She was riding on me, at a loss, like a wronged little girl.She said: "I am not interested in your money, but in your people, and I want to be nice to you." I put her off my lap, washed her face with cold water, and said, "Maybe you are right, but you are not the person I am looking for. If we do it today, it will not do you any good." In this way, an affair ended, and a seemingly "mistake that all men make" was bypassed by me. My life is a boat, and it must have a bottom. Although a little disappointed, when she left the office, she said: "You are a good person." A small heart will make small things big; a big heart will make big things small; look down on the vicissitudes of the world, and keep your heart safe.Enlarge one's heart and tolerate the world's things; empty one's heart and love the good of the world; calm one's heart and discuss the affairs of the world; set one's heart and respond to the changes of the world.Big and difficult things depend on responsibility, adversity and prosperity depend on the mind, willingness and willingness depend on wisdom, success and failure depend on persistence. Overcast October 31, 2011 Recently, the state is very bad, and many things are entangled around.Everything is tricky, and everything is troublesome, but it already feels like a common meal, and it feels a little tasteless to eat these simple meals often.I especially want to try another kind of life, "Pick chrysanthemums under the eastern fence, and see Nanshan leisurely!" When I read this poem by Tao Yuanming, I felt that the realm was very good, but now I read it again, but I yearn for it. Sometimes, I also understand that when people live in the world, they will always encounter miscellaneous things, and they need to deal with them one by one with a peaceful mind.You don’t have to be too shrewd to be a smart person. A shrewd person is born to live a very tiring life. Although you can see through people at a glance, the truth that when the water is clear, there will be no fish, and when people are most observant, there will be no disciples, and everyone understands it throughout the ages.But I can't always be confused, I can always see through some people and some things at a glance, and I have to take care of it, and it is very tiring to take care of myself. But people are not smart and easy to fall into the trap of others, and easy to be squeezed out by others, and even lose the right to survive, falling into the law circle of natural selection.From this point of view, a person can only be honest on the surface and shrewd on the inside.Is it really that good?The people around me are all honest and smart people, maybe many people like to live like this. Zheng Banqiao's four-character mantra "It's rare to be confused" sounds so full of charm at my age.