Chapter 9 wedding diary

△ month △ day Jiatai and I decided to get married. Many stories end with this sentence. But please believe me, things are not that simple, we live in a real world, and our story begins after we decide to get married. The first thing, Jia Tai said: "Tell both parents." "Ah," I put my thumb in my mouth, "ah, yes, both parents—but what's their business? It's not like they got married." Jiatai glared at me, "Artist, this has been a custom for three thousand years." "Don't get my job involved," I said. "Then you go and meet them."

"No, no, that's not the case," he said patiently, "It needs to be done in three parts." "Why?" I didn't understand, "tell me, Mr. Director." "The first time, I went to visit my father's hall, the second time, to meet my parents, and the third time, to book a table, we are a couple, and the two of them meet the old people." I didn't take it seriously, "I don't need it?" "Of course it is necessary, there is nothing simpler than this." Jiatai said with certainty: "They should have met a long time ago, but because we don't live with our family, that's why this happened."

"Okay," I couldn't help it, so I could only agree, "You tell me, how do you see the law, I will just listen to you." "There are more important things," he said. "Where do you live?" "It's whatever, your apartment, or mine, or sell the two small houses and get a bigger one," I said. "It's easy to say," he laughed. "It will take a month and a half to get started." "What else?" I felt chilly. Jiatai scratched his scalp, "How about a treat?" I resolutely said: "I don't treat guests. I'm married and has nothing to do with other people. These people didn't necessarily contribute much when I was lonely in my life. After I met you, they were even less worth a dime. Why should I add money to them?" Adding so much trouble?"

"Hey, don't be too small, don't be so extreme, okay?" Jiatai felt disgusted. "I'm not like you. I know all over the world. Everyone is a good friend." I was angry, "I'm a sinister villain. I have no relatives or friends." "Hey, hey, why are we arguing?" He said, "Don't be impatient, let's start over." I said: "Travel marriage, let's simply go to a foreign country to get married and save this expense." "Travel is travel, and marriage is a big event. You should take a month's leave and go for a walk, but you must invite a wedding party."

"Do two things separately, get married first, and treat guests later." I said. "Alright, where are you going to get married?" "Paris." "Our Yangjing French is not good enough. Once the pastor asked: 'Would you like to be Liang Jiatai's slave?' You didn't understand, but you agreed. Wouldn't it be a big disadvantage?" "That makes sense," I laughed. "Then let's talk about England. I have studied in England for four years, and I am familiar with England." "It's not as good as Canada. I know Quebec well."

"Okay, let's go to your land." I made a quick decision, "Let's talk about the marriage first; we have set a date, let's go buy rings, make new clothes, and book air tickets and hotels—Jiatai, things to do Why so many?" "Yes, I really don't know if I don't study it. Why do some people say that getting married is the easiest?" Jiatai also wondered. △ month △ day We took care of things one by one, arguing and working on them. Although the two of us have high ability to handle things, we still have headaches. I insisted on going to Disneyland, and I had to apply for a US passport. I had to wait in line at the consulate for half a day.

Then I went to the doctor for an examination, smiled and said to Jiatai: "You are the only child, if the examination result shows that I am infertile, then I should marry another lady." It cost several hundred yuan, but the doctor said that he could reach menopause at the age of fifty-five, and the Liang family was not afraid that there would be no prince to succeed him. The two white K gold rings weigh three cents and two cents in total, more than 1,300 yuan. I was shocked when I heard that, and I said, "In the past, it seemed that pure gold only cost tens of yuan." Jiatai asked: "Have you been married before?" This guy!

A suit cost more than two thousand yuan, and it had to be paired with leather shoes, a shirt, and a tie. Jiatai refused to wear a formal dress. He said, "It's not done well, like a head waiter in a western restaurant." I also wore a cheongsam suit. I fancy a skirt made of silk, wow, how beautiful is it?With dropped shoulders, slender waist, and densely folded skirt, if paired with satin shoes, short gloves, and flowers, she looks like a princess. But Jiatai said that Quebec is still very cold in February and May, so be careful of pneumonia. "Disappointment. So I had no choice but to sew silk and cotton cheongsams. Let me tell you, marriage is like other things in the world, and there are many unsatisfactory things.

△ month △ day I met Jiatai's parents, they are very amiable, the future father-in-law will look exactly like Jiatai, the voice is indistinguishable, very funny. Later he said to Jiatai: "This girl is good, choose one out of ten thousand." I am happy. Jiatai went to book a plane ticket, it was very expensive, I argued with him, saying: "The travel agency has cheap plane tickets." He just laughed and said nothing. So I called everywhere to ask my friends, but all the air tickets with 20% or 10% discount had to be booked a month in advance. I squeezed through the road car, helplessly, and bowed my head to Jiatai, wow, he was so proud.

I shared half of the marriage expenses with him, because he really couldn't afford that much cash for a while, and I always saved a little. I planned to buy a platinum diamond watch, but now I have to take it out for serious purposes. I asked the company for a month's leave. My colleagues congratulated me and asked to see Jiatai, but Jiatai had his hair cut and looked old-fashioned.He also argued strongly: "It's good to have an outstanding character, and you don't care what I look like on the other side." Li!What a big breath. However, Hong Kong people are very snobbish. When they hear the word engineer, they immediately look at him with admiration. This is why Jiatai takes advantage of it. In fact, Jiatai has no money. I just respect him as a professional.

Everything seems to be ready, the ring is on the hand, the ticket is in the hand, and the luggage is ready. If the marriage is as simple as registration, life will still be happy. But Mr. Liang and the old lady yelled strangely, "What, no treats? There is only one son, and it is impossible not to announce relatives and friends!" The kind old gentleman was a little sad and insisted on asking me to agree. I whispered to Jiatai, "We have no money." Jia Feng asked hesitantly, "How many tables do you want to invite?" The old lady didn't know what to do, so she immediately had the answer: "There are more than 70 tables, and the bride's house occupies 20 tables." "More than seventy tables? Twelve people at one table, a thousand guests in total? Where do I know so many people? Even counting the old servants, there are at most two tables." The old man said: "You don't need to pay, everything is done by us." "But—" I want to say, but we can do our best. The old lady interrupted me: "That's it, I'll order clothes for you, a red embroidered jacket and a gold skirt." Jiatai and I looked at each other in blank dismay. "We'll talk about it when we come back, we don't have time now." Jiatai said. The old gentleman reluctantly agreed when he saw that he would become stiff if he did not regress. After returning home, I complained to Jiatai, "Your Cantonese are really annoying." "Everyone is lively," he said, "The old man values ​​you so he is willing to spend so much money." "Where is it?" I asked. "Regent Hotel." "For a table of 4,000 to 5,000 yuan, order 80 tables?" I asked in surprise. Jiatai nodded... I just felt a sharp pain in my flesh, it cost me a lot. △ month △ day Looking for a house to find a Buddha was born. In our minds, the ideal house should be about 2,000 square feet. The kitchen should be large, and the rooms should also be large. When a child is born and a servant is hired in the future, there is no need to move. The apartment that Jiatai lives in now is 700-800 sq. ft., which is slightly bigger than my house. The two floors are sold, and the value is about one million. However, the apartment near 1,600 sq. Borrowing 600,000, the interest is simply usury, I can't sleep thinking about it. So the couple sat with a headache. I suddenly asked Jiatai: "Why are there so many people getting divorced? I'm tired of getting married even once. I won't get divorced. I'm afraid." Jiatai laughed, "No wonder cohabitation is popular." I sighed deeply, "Living together is not easy. Even if you have a house, you still have to decorate it. Everything is so expensive now. I can't bear it. Help me." "I know that Dad has a house, more than a thousand square feet, and asked him to take it back from the tenants for us to live in." I was listless, "Just kidding, how can we get it back? It's not like everyone has no place to live. Last time, there was a woman who took over the house and said she would live in it herself. She sold it within two years. She was informed and the court fined her 500,000 yuan!" Jiatai murmured, "What should I do?" "Don't think about it. It's useless to think about it. Get married first and live in a small house after marriage. Then you can settle down and think about it slowly." "That's the only way to go step by step." He shrugged. "However, we have to find a servant first. It is really urgent. Going out to eat three meals a day like this is almost bankrupt." I said. "Servant?" Jiatai seemed to have never heard of such a person. "Yes," I described it to him, "white clothes and black trousers, the kind of good helper who helps us clean up the place, wash clothes and cook." "Why hire a servant?" He asked back. "Because I, a housewife, have to go out to work!" "Still working after marriage? Don't tell me you haven't resigned yet?" He groaned strangely, "I don't like my wife flirting with male colleagues the most." "You don't have enough money to spend, so what if you don't do it?" My voice became high-pitched. "What do you want to spend? Of course I have to pay for the living expenses." He rushed to say. "Living expenses? Are there still people starving to death these days? I mean petty expenses. My daily expenses are not trivial. There is no reason to give up such a lucrative job." "Didn't you say you were angry at your workmanship?" His voice became louder and louder. "By the trachea and the qi, the salary level is enough." I said. "Who cares about the children?" "Babysitter, no matter how expensive it is, it's only three or two thousand. I have no reason to give up a salary of 10,000 yuan and not make any money. Going home and working as a maid in a disheveled state is not in line with economics, don't you think?" "I said no," he settled the score with me, "the children must be taken care of themselves." "Then you stay home and take care of them, half of the children are yours." "What?" He jumped high. "Your thinking is backward to feudalism, I don't accept it." "We'll talk about it after we get married." "You can talk about everything after you get married, but not this matter." He was dejected, "If I didn't love you, I wouldn't even want to get married." "Ah, Jiatai, you are not alone, and I feel the same way." I patted his back to comfort him. "This is a test. It turns out that marriage is a test of the firmness of love." Jiatai was right. But we still haven't found a house. Others seem to get married very easily, but we almost turned against each other. Take a computer to calculate every night. Travel: Travel expenses, accommodation and food, 27 days, a total of 40,000 Hong Kong dollars for two people.It costs 50,000 yuan to decorate the house and connect electrical appliances, and 30,000 yuan to buy a Japanese car...unless you win the lottery.Otherwise keep going. △ month △ day Today, I was full and my heart was full of lard, so I suddenly asked Jiatai with great interest: "Atai, you don't seem to have given me anything, why don't you even have a diamond ring?" "What?" He straightened his throat, "What are you talking about? Are you trying to kill me?" I swallowed my anger, went back to the room, closed the door, forget it, and didn't quarrel with him, he was about to collapse, and it would be no good for us to continue arguing, I'm afraid the marriage would not be concluded. But I don't believe that diamonds are so expensive, so I went to a familiar jewelry store to ask. Ms. Hui from Huiji Silver House said: "... a slightly better two-carat baguette is about 80,000 yuan." My jaw dropped in horror. I came home very unhappy, maybe I am destined to be Mrs. Liang with bald fingers in this life, so you say, everything is fate, no one is special, so don’t say that you don’t want to be a rich wife, without this blessing, I will keep it You can't do it. Not only is my enjoyment of life poor, but all my enjoyment is earned through hard work. I go to work every day, and even earn part-time jobs during holidays. Sometimes in a hurry, I envy those wives who enjoy everything ready-made, and can eat without having to do it—not that they are worthless, but that they are tired. But I love Jiatai. It is better to fight with two than one. At least in the trenches, you can rest for a while, let him stand guard, and the two of us will watch and help each other. Thinking of this, the spirit came again. Didn't you say that love is worth a thousand dollars? Because I have trivial things to do, I simply took a week off and traveled around. When I went to pick up the clothes, I saw some beautiful pieces of fabric, full of flowers, and I wished I could make more clothes.But we have to wait until we get back from our honeymoon, Jiatai is afraid he will scream. Now my money is his money, what about his money, or his own money, hahahaha.This old boy. Jiatai asked me out for lunch, and suddenly in the restaurant, conscience found out, and Yi said: "I am so lucky to have a wife like you." I rolled my eyes at him, "Naturally, these days, who do you find for a joint stock marriage? If you tell me, people will think I'm an old aunt who has nowhere to marry. I want to get married sooner than I am worth." He was very touched, and that boyish face softened my heart. "The money will be returned in the future." I said softly. "Okay, okay." "You received the bonus, remember to buy me a platinum watch." "What?" he said, "You have a gold watch, and a platinum watch? I don't even have a stainless steel watch!" Liang Jiatai doesn't have the art of coaxing women in his blood. I was so angry that I turned my face away when talking to him. "Original gold, platinum, pearls and precious stones should be provided by you." My eyes were red. "Okay, okay," he nodded, "let me work hard to make money." He held my hand tightly. "What a pity!" I blew my nose. "Come on, I said the wrong thing again." "You still owe me abstinence fee and doctor's fee." "Okay, I'll write you a check." "You have to argue with me about everything. In the future, he will go to the hospital and risk his life to give birth to your child. The one with one foot in the coffin is the only child. The daughter does not count in your family. It is too difficult. I quit, a person's endurance is limited." Jiatai sighed, "I was wrong, I was wrong." I laughed through my tears, "It's time for you to go to work." "Don't be angry, okay?" "Why do you keep talking to me?" "I'm honest." "You are an honest person, but you will bully your girlfriend." "Give me back my girlfriend, wife, you are my wife." He kissed my hand. "Goodbye," I said, "good work." "Be careful when you're running alone." "understood." I don't like Jiatai coming in and out with me. Most women like to have a servant to pick them up. I am an exception. Men have more important things to do, and it is useless to follow women. That's what Jiatai likes. Two people work separately, fast and good. △ month △ day Great breakthrough, great news. Jiatai said: "I found a good job, and I decided to teach. There is a dormitory for teaching, which can solve the housing problem. I sold my house for investment, and kept yours for our 'holiday'. How about ?” "Are you allowed to accept you?" I laughed at him. "Don't worry," he patted his chest, "Look at mine." I let him go, but I thought his idea was a good idea, and if successful, it would save a lot of trouble. A week later he brought good news, the job was successfully negotiated, and I jumped up for joy, women are as simple as that. The furniture provided in the dormitory is old-fashioned, but very practical. After solving this big problem, my heart suddenly relaxes, and I can't help being secretly proud of marrying a capable husband. "The place is huge," Jiatai said, "enough to have half a dozen children." I said, "My three-foot-by-six-foot desk can be moved to a new house." "No! That desk is too big, it steals the spotlight from me." "Liang Jiatai, why are you so annoying?" "My wife's desk is so big..." "Slutty, like Mrs. Liang!" I said. "Mrs. Liang asked why you didn't go and talk to her." "Where did I come from?" I said. "If you don't have time, you have to make time." "Don't do this with me. I still go to work and do things, and I'm not under your control. When I marry you in the future, it's not too late to marry a chicken and follow a chicken." "Hey!" He became more and more worried, "You have to honor my parents." "No, I will quarrel with them every day!" I laughed. He twisted my face, "I divorce you." "Okay, I will take the children to find a life everywhere." "I'll go too." Let's fool around together is also one of the programs. Everything is finally ready, come back after marriage, live in a small house first, and then move into a big house at the end of September. It's been a total of half a year. The two people's financial ability is not bad, and it's so complicated. I don't know how those teenagers get married. I am in favor of late marriage, and there are facts to back me up. △ month △ day It's finally May, and I'm so happy and excited to pack my luggage and go to North America. Jia Tai poured cold water on me: "This is just the beginning." "Yes." I know. Many people think that getting married is the completion of one thing, but the fact is that it has just begun, and the days to come will be very, very long. I made a list early on, and I didn’t miss out anything I wanted to bring. I wore the wedding ring early on, and I was afraid of forgetting or losing it. We take a big suitcase and a small suitcase, and we may have a little more stuff when we come back. The thought of visiting Disneyland with Jiatai made me very happy. I went there once in 1973. I felt lonely because I traveled alone. Now that I have Jiatai, everything is different. There are still a lot of quarrels with Jiatai, but it is harmless. They say that there is no couple who does not quarrel, but personal attacks must be avoided, and the most important thing is to seek truth from facts. Relatives and friends all came to the airport to see us off, but Jiatai and I both traveled the world alone. When we were studying, we traveled all over the country. Now this trip is nothing. The two of us took a taxi and arrived at the airport. We drink coffee while we wait for the plane. I said, "I have been doing this since I came back to Hong Kong. I haven't traveled far for three years. Last year, I only went to Hawaii for seven days." Ka Tai said: "It's like when I was studying, I left after drinking coffee, and when I went to see a movie in Hong Kong, someone would deliver it to me." I laughed, "It was a foreign girl who accompanied you on the trip back then, right?" He refused to admit it, "When it comes to where I went, I am pure and pure." I said: "I'm not afraid of embarrassment." Laughing. "It's time," he rolled up his luggage, "come on, let's go." "Yes." I followed behind him. I'm about to turn into a Japanese woman. When my husband calls out, he immediately responds with "Hi", and obeys. When I got on the plane, I rested my head on Jiatai's shoulder, feeling indescribably satisfied. This person is the only person in the world who can make me get married in a joint venture—whether I get it back or not in the future. Jiatai said: "Finally it's done." "Well," I said, "we'll discuss things like moving the house, asking the servants to resign, and inviting guests to write posts." Jiatai patted his thigh, "We also take wedding photos." I moaned, "My God, what are you going to do?" "A photo of the two of you." "Do you want to wear a wedding dress?" "You like that gauze dress so much, you might as well buy it for a photo." "I might not have it back in Hong Kong." I asked, "Who can I ask for the photo?" "Don't you know a lot of photographers?" "I was stunned after the shoot, because I was nervous." I said. "Always have to shoot." He shrugged. "Let's go back and talk about it." I escaped. Jia Tai said: "We might as well not go back to Hong Kong." "Good idea!" I laughed. "Mom will be furious." "Be filial to your son." I fell asleep on Jiatai's shoulders. I've never been so relaxed on a plane. It's so strange, last year today, we were still strangers, and now we have become lifelong partners. We will grow old together in the future and have a bunch of children and grandchildren. I met Jiatai in the desert sea of ​​time, and we became husband and wife. hold his hand. It was 3:00 pm local time when we arrived in Quebec. I've been to this place before, and it's naturally not as good as this time. I was eager to see Jiatai's alma mater. Jiatai felt that I was fooling around, so he rented a car and drove to the hotel quickly. He knew the streets of Quebec like the palm of his hand. We unpacked, showered, ate, and hugged each other.I plan to go to the marriage registration office tomorrow and get married in three days. I suddenly remembered: "Witness! Two witnesses, what should I do?" Jia Tai smiled, "Go to the university to borrow a professor and his wife as witnesses, are you satisfied? I have already written to inform them." "Jiatai, you are so great." I kissed him. "I don't know there are so many details if I don't get married." "It will be done in three days." "Where can I buy flowers? I want to buy a bunch of flowers." "I'll take you to buy it in three days." △ month △ day Go to the city hall to set a date, and accompany Jiatai to the university to meet his professor. The old man has white hair and blue eyes, and his spirit is shining. He hugged me and called Jiatai a genius. We made an appointment with the two of them to meet in three days, and Jiatai would accompany me around again.Since the snow had just melted and the weather was still quite cold, we went back to the hotel to watch TV. It seems wasteful to say it, I have come a long way, and I don’t have enough money to play, but in fact I like to spend this period of time comfortably, and rushing from one port to another is no longer suitable for me. Every day, Jiatai and I go to the park to sit, chat, talk about the future, think about the children's names, go to the department store, choose some daily necessities... When the wedding day came, I put on that cheongsam suit and pinned a pre-prepared silk flower on my head. The professor came to pick us up from the hotel and praised me for being beautiful. I'm not nervous, just keep laughing. When I arrived at the city hall, the officiant asked me: "...would you marry this man—Liang Jiatai?" I winked at Jiatai and replied, "Very willing." After exchanging rings, I will become Jiatai's legal wife. After having dinner with the professor and sending them home, I asked, "How was it? How was it, my husband, to be married?" "That depends on how you perform in the future," he said. "Me? I'm married, I can return to my original self, return to Hong Kong, quit my job, play 16 rounds of mahjong every day, go out to tea with my girlfriend, my boss and my wife are short, and I walk around the house with curly hair Go, smoke cigarettes and drink, wow, how great!" He turned blue with fright, "How dare you!" I laughed so hard. Ah, it feels so good to be married, and it's worth working ten times harder for it.