Chapter 21 let go of the righteous thoughts

The success recognized by others is the real success. In a certain travel program, the host went to interview a restaurant famous for its seafood noodles.While admiring the old lady's unique fish removal technique, the host asked her: "Grandma, you are so successful! What do you think is success?" With a kind smile on her face, the old lady answered the reporter without hesitation: " Success is when others recognize me. If no one recognizes me, even if I think I am successful, it is not really a success." This elder has experienced long years and countless failures, and finally achieved the success and wealth he is today , her conclusion deserves our deep thinking.During this period of time, young people are already disgusted with the life of fighting for the glory of their ancestors in the past, and think that there are many unreasonable things in this way of thinking of the older generation.However, in order to oppose such a point of view, it is very dangerous to emphasize "my life, as long as I am righteous and confident", and to have this kind of life value that is not recognized by others.Your wrong decision now is very likely to cost you a terrible price in the days to come.Women in their twenties often refer to "righteousness," which seems dangerous to me.Falling in love with someone you shouldn’t love, but beautifying this kind of infatuation as “have a clear conscience and be worthy of yourself”; for the sake of unnecessary self-esteem, giving up a profitable transaction can also be said to be “a clear conscience”; There are even people who have not even completed the work tasks of the day, but still get off work on time with confidence.Successful women seldom use words like "righteousness."Just like those hypocritical politicians love to talk about "a clear conscience", the more women who are used to making themselves regret afterwards, the more they like to use "a clear conscience" to rationalize these wrong choices.

First of all, success must be recognized by others, and then you can realize your own value.If you take the first step in life with a self-satisfied attitude from the very beginning, then it is very likely that you will get a life that is not recognized by others.