Chapter 13 Don't think that only the unfortunate know life

Don't be prejudiced against happy people Xiaoyu grew up in an unrich environment, but she has a strong self-esteem. She always treats her colleague Beibei with a jealous attitude, but at the same time she thinks she is superior to her.Beibei grew up in a happy family. From elementary school to college graduation, she never worried about tuition fees, while Xiaoyu worked hard with her single mother and did almost any job.Beibei always has a smile on her face in the company, and Beibei always chooses to say only good things about her boss or company's problems that she doesn't like.Xiaoyu hates Beibei's hypocrisy very much, and often tells other colleagues that Beibei has never suffered, and has no understanding of the world at all, and deliberately creates an atmosphere that isolates Beibei in the company.One day, several colleagues met to go shopping together, and one of them was slightly bumped by a passing car.For this accident, which was hardly considered an accident, a group of people clamored for the driver to be responsible, and asked the driver to leave his contact information just in case.The driver blushed and called them an "insurance fraud group", and the two sides started yelling and cursing on the side of the road.Xiaoyu, who was furious, felt that he should suppress the driver's aura first, so he threatened the other party and sent him to the police station for processing. "This group of people, seeing my good attitude, regard me as a sick cat!" As the quarrel became more and more intense, it would only make both parties feel worse, and it would not solve the immediate problem at all.At this time, Beibei stood up to stop Xiaoyu, and began to persuade the driver with kind words.On the way back, Xiaoyu began to complain about Beibei. "You just let him go like this? It's obviously his fault!" Xiaoyu's words contained her prejudice against Beibei. There was a dispute, and the liking ended in nothing.At this time, Beibei replied calmly: "We shouldn't have asked for his contact information in the first place, because no one was injured. Even if the problem is found in the future, as long as he is reported to the police, he will be charged with hit and run. Get criminal action. Just write down his license plate number to solve the problem, we waste a lot of time on the side of the road and lose face, why bother?"

What Beibei said was right, but all the colleagues including Xiaoyu looked at Beibei in surprise, thinking: "Is this the timid guy we know?" Happiness can be contagious The more experiences, the more lessons will be learned.However, it does not mean that you will become wise through suffering.There are many people, the more suffering they experience, the worse their temper becomes. It is also a prejudice to think that happy people are relatively naive.Happy people don't all live in this world with their eyes closed, they have their own way of accepting things.People often use "flowers in the greenhouse" to describe people who live in happiness, but in many cases, this adjective gently packs everyone's jealousy and prejudice.In fact, we all have an expectation that we will be compensated for the unsatisfactory conditions and suffering we have experienced.If these expectations can play a positive role and make us think that "suffering will not be in vain, I will work hard to live with confidence", it will be a blessing in misfortune.However, it is strange that some people like to soothe their own spiritual wounds by belittling the happiness of others, just like the little fish just mentioned.

Xiaoyu thinks that he has completed his studies more difficultly than Beibei, and he should get what he deserves.However, the facts are always different from expectations, and she did not get tangible benefits in reality.For example, if Beibei's ability to adapt to the company is not as good as her own, if Beibei's once prosperous family is now in decline, then Xiaoyu can happily say to Beibei, "I have finally paid off".It is a pity that the reality is not that the amount of suffering will be compensated for.On the contrary, when Xiaoyu is working part-time to earn tuition fees, Beibei can concentrate on learning and growing up, so the possibility of Beibei's life going smoothly is a little bit greater.Xiaoyu, who is unwilling to admit this reality, always asserts that "Beibei is ignorant of the world", but he can deeply experience life in order to gain spiritual comfort.Don't let yourself be immersed in the dogmatic evaluation that no one responds to, bravely approach and get acquainted with those happy people!Let the taste of happiness that was once forgotten because of hard work and arrogance be transmitted to you from those happy people.We should get rid of the thinking that survival is about being ready to fight with hands clasped, about being ready to fight with blood.If you have been stubborn for a long time and have drawn a line from those who seem to be happy, then now is the time to clear this invisible line, because they are worthy friends.If you are a person with a lot of complaints and dissatisfaction, then, especially, you should learn "happiness skills" from them.If you just treat them as flowers in the greenhouse and always try to teach them what is called "life", then your life full of complaints may not be able to shine brightly.No one can enjoy freedom in this unfair world, otherwise how could it be said in sociology that the only way to overcome natural inequality is to restore power!Rather than spending energy envious of those who are better off than yourself and living a happy life, it is better to concentrate on pursuing your own happiness.Those who are happier than me are not my competitors, but the ones I should learn from.If your current life is still a long way from happiness, then you should make friends with those happy people, those who are "hypocritical" by some people's standards.Learn from their "psychological tendencies to create happiness", and one day you too can be happy.