Chapter 13 Thirteen chaos

Yaping entered the door with a shiny forehead.After a day of intense mental work, the only feeling is that the energy accumulated in the usual time has gone to the forehead.Because of being tired, a bunch of yellow blisters burned on his mouth. Li Juan is snuggling up on the sofa pillow and watching TV. "I'm back, are you tired?" "Oh! I'm exhausted. Computers aren't for humans. Where are my thin slippers?" "You look in the shoe cabinet. It seems that your mother collected it." "Nonsense, you put everything on my mother's head. I still wear it when I go out in the morning!"

"Then I don't know. How can I blame your mother? Isn't this a compliment for your mother's hard work?" "Don't keep talking about my mother behind her back. You should be more polite when everyone is gone." "What did I say about me, why don't you just say that your mother took it? Don't take the opportunity to settle the score with me. Your mother is gone, it means my child is gone, and she runs faster than a rabbit!" "Hey! Li Juan, you're bored now. When my mother doesn't leave, you complain, and when my mother leaves, you complain. If you think so much about her being here, I'll catch her back by plane tomorrow."

"Go, go, hate!" Yaping walked into the kitchen to make a cup of hot tea for himself and Lijuan. The tea leaves were all in the cup. When he pressed the electric kettle, there was a snoring sound of sucking air, but no water came down. "Li Juan, I want to pour you a glass of water, but there is no hot water in the pot. Remember to check it often in the future, and add some cold water to it when it runs out." "I can't dip in cold water. Maybe my mother forgot to check. She always boils water to fill the thermos at home." "Okay, I'll burn it now!" Yaping went to pour cold water.

"I want to take a shower, and my body is covered with oil. The wisdom of my whole body is concentrated on the top of my head, and my hair is all stuck together." Yaping walked to the second floor, took off his clothes habitually, and only found the bathroom when he was naked. There were no bath towels, no change of clothes.Turning on the nozzle, being sprayed with cold water, I couldn't help shivering. Reluctantly, Yaping put the dirty clothes back on, went downstairs barefoot and said, "Honey, can you boil a pot of water for me tomorrow? I'm so dirty that I don't even want to go to bed. Also, wait until you are free." Can you find some slippers for me? It’s cold to walk barefoot on the floor.”

Li Juan gave Yaping a white look: "Young Master Li, according to your attitude, there should be three wives and four concubines in your family, and there should be a group of maids, otherwise how can you keep up with serving you. I understand you, seeing that you are busy. Let you take care of my confinement, you are still waiting for me when you come back, you have not changed your time and space, have you? Your mother is gone, and we should live on the right track. You didn't even think about helping me What about feet, huh?" Li Juan stuffed her feet into the arms of Yaping who was standing.

Yaping sat down, squeezed two hands randomly, and said: "Aren't I busy? I am thinking of you in my heart, but I am too tired to do what I want. Come on, rub it." Lijuan smiled slightly. Yaping's mother left, and Yaping's life returned to the original track.I slept until the last minute before I was late, and there was no matching work clothes on the bedside, only my wife who was sleeping with her head covered.Take a crumpled shirt from the hanger temporarily and put it on, and look in the mirror, the heroic appearance of the previous two days has become the current disheveled clothes.Walking into the kitchen, cold pot and cold stove, open the refrigerator, there is nothing but milk and bread.I used to feel that tofu stew or sauerkraut was not suitable for eating dry rice in the morning, but I missed my mother's cooking after only two days of quitting.On the side of the shoe rack, the leather shoes have been covered with fine dust. I tried to find a cloth to wipe it, but I couldn't find it.

"Lijuan! Where's the shoe brush?" "I don't know, your mother took it." "Lijuan! Where's the napkin?" "I don't know, where did your mother put it?" "Lijuan! Where's my pair of gray trousers?" "I don't know! It used to hang in the closet, but after your mother tidied it up, it disappeared!" "Juan, can you take care of the house when you are free? This is so awkward! It doesn't matter what you want, and it makes everything difficult." Lijuan replied coldly: "Am I at home all right? I'm on maternity leave! The country still takes pity on me and gives me half a month's rest. You didn't plan to cook for me when you came back, but you wanted to let me Work. Li Yaping, you really love me!"

"Look, look, I didn't say what you mean. If you want to, wait until I finish this part and come back to clean up." "Ten supermen can't find what your mother hid! Don't you think your mother has a sense of ownership, and rearranged the house according to her ideas without my consent. She only cares about her convenience and lives here for two months , We couldn’t get it back for two years. I asked her where the Band-Aid was, and she said it was in the cupboard next to me, and I could see it when I opened it. After I opened it, I couldn’t find it, so she ran over and pointed it out to me. Then how can I see it when I open it? I have to squat down to see it. Can her hand be at the same height as mine? Do you know what your mother always complains to me? The kitchen cabinets are hung too high , she can’t reach it. If she lives here for half a year, the cupboard must be redone according to her ideas, she can reach it, we will meet as soon as we go to the kitchen, haha!”

"Don't make excuses, Xiang Zhuang dances the sword. My mother has contributed a lot in the past two months. At least home is like a home. Now I go home and I can't even take a bath. Don't you miss my mother? You Don't you think, at least we don't have to fight about work when she's around?" "Bullshit! We didn't quarrel over work when she wasn't here. Once she came, your appetite improved, and you have to clean up this and that, and take a shower every day. The wages haven't reached the level of Europeans and Americans yet. , Life habits have evolved. You feel enjoyment when she is here, but I don’t feel enjoyment. Our home is not like home when your mother is away? Why do I think it is better than her? I saw a disposable tablecloth and sofa Towels and quilts, and greeting cards on the wall, I feel that the home is neither fish nor fowl.”

"Life is meant to be practical! It's useless to look good without tidying up! If you don't like it, just tidy it up! My mother has been gone for half a month, and I haven't seen any changes at home!" "Hey! Li Yaping, are you using the past to satirize the present, and your mother to mock me? I'm not practical, and I don't clean up. You did it before? When I recover from illness, I will do it naturally. Don't worry about it .” "Why are you a thorn? I can't even open my mouth. I have no other intentions. You have to dig deep into the root of your thoughts. You are misinterpreting my meaning again. I think it is good to have an old man at home." If your mother is willing to live with me, I welcome it too!" Yaping quickly changed his words.

"What do you mean, let my mother come over to be your nanny? You have a lot of money! My mother can serve me, why should she serve you? If my mother doesn't come to cook for me during the day, I will starve to death! Comrade Li Yaping, you have to correct your attitude, I am your wife, and I am here to be loved by you, why did you forget the oath you swore in front of my mother when you got married?" Li Juan began to twist Yaping's ear, quite forcefully of. "Ouch! Ouch! Li Juan, can we discuss the issue rationally? I think that husband and wife should be equal and there should be no affiliation relationship. There is no question of who takes care of whom, should they take care of each other? I love you, you You can’t stop loving me, right? My husband is like a consumable. If it’s used up, it’s useless. In line with the principle of protecting your own property, you should save it, right?” Yaping pinched Lijuan’s shoulder. "Cut, there are too many consumables all over the street, buy them after you run out!" Li Juan curled her lips. Yaping shook his head helplessly and sighed with a smile.He is dealing with Li Juan's principles now, trying to speak less reason and listen more.I was thinking about what his mother once said: A woman who has a home in her eyes and a husband in her heart is a good woman who lives a good life. Obviously, Li Juan is still a long way from being a good woman.Let's call her a woman. Yaping has always asked himself to be like a Shanghai man, to put his wife first.He also worked hard, but during the period of his mother's arrival, he discovered that Shanghai men have too high demands on themselves, a bit like Jesus giving me up.This kind of height is really not something that ordinary people can achieve.From the bottom of his heart, Yaping still hopes to have a woman who knows the cold and the hot, asks the cold and asks the warm, so that he can feel loved.Perhaps, choosing a Shanghai woman back then was an essential mistake.Coquettishness can only be used for viewing, not for living. After taking her maternity leave, Li Juan went to work.Probably because she didn't have a good rest, Li Juan's expression was gloomy and her confidence was pale. "Lijuan! You don't sit well for a confinement child! It looks like you are losing both energy and blood. Xiaoyue wants to be raised as a big moon! Xiaoyue hurts people more than a confinement child. It's ripe for a confinement child , recover quickly, Xiaoyue has lost a lot! If you don’t take care of it, your health will suffer a lot in the future.” Sister Cai, who is opposite, is very concerned.Lijuan smiled wryly. "Accidents are inevitable. How can there be a full moon everywhere? This is not a big problem. You are so young, and you have plenty of opportunities. Now you won't give birth. If you give birth, you can have as much as you want. You are pregnant. It’s fine for me personally. It’s much better than those who have never been pregnant. You have to have the will to fight, the more you get setbacks, the harder you get, and you are indomitable. Ouch, this word seems inappropriate! One fold is enough.” Sister Cai quickly corrected herself mockingly. "Sister Cai, this child's fall hurts so much! I wasn't prepared for it this time. It's really in my stomach. I have to worry about it for ten months. But this fall, I feel very uncomfortable. A life is lost. Yes. If it weren't for my recklessness, maybe you will see me going out with the baby in my arms after a while. I think what you said is very reasonable. A person must be fully prepared to have a baby. A little bit of hesitation is not enough. During the few days of my pregnancy, I always had nightmares, fearing that the child would have a cleft lip or six fingers. I think this should be due to immaturity.” "Then ask for it when the next opportunity is ripe." "But this miscarriage, it makes me feel that my mother's words have some truth. A marriage with the wrong family will cause the separation between husband and wife." "Nonsense. You and Yaping, Mandeng are right. To be honest, your family is just Xiaojiabiyu, and his family is not an official family. From the perspective of being well-matched, you are a good match." "You don't know, his family from the north has a heavy patriarchal thought. Without that soil, Yaping's bad thoughts would not germinate. This time when his mother comes, give him proper watering and fertilizer. All the signs of male superiority and inferiority in the back of his head came out. He always asked me to learn from his mother. Before his mother left for a few days, he began to remember his mother's advanced deeds here, with infinite fascination in his eyes .Think about it, I have to beat him, and I can't let him take his mother's words as my family's "sacred decree." "Yaping is not like this kind of person! I think he often calls to ask about the health and well-being, and he calls to report when he eats beef noodles at noon!" "That was before. He used to be really nice. He never picked on me or thought I was lazy. We are both working class and we are all busy. He used to have no problem cleaning once a week. Never picky The clothes have to be ironed, and breakfast has to be made. Ever since his mother came, tsk tsk, you haven’t seen how disgusting his mother is to him! He’s such a big man, and his mother even brought him some vegetables at the dinner table. Seeing him eating, smiling, that kind of disgusting, I just... the hairs stand on end!" "Your mother doesn't treat you like this?" "I'm a woman! He's a big man! He's going to be the pillar of the family!" "He is your man. In his mother's eyes, no matter how old he is, he is a son." "That's the problem. I can't treat him better than a fucking finger. My mother can tie her throat and she won't even look at anything her son likes to eat. How can I Can it be done? His mother can fry tiger skin meat for him, as long as her son says he wants to eat it. How can I do it? When his mother left, he took his soul away. Now, he asks me some whimsical requests all day long, such as asking me to polish his leather shoes every day, such as asking me to clean his house Clean up again. In the past, he took the initiative to serve me tea and water, but now he can do the work, but I can feel that he is completely perfunctory and reluctant." When Li Juan was talking about her family's troubles, she tried her best to keep her voice down so that no one else could hear her. Unexpectedly, through the baffle, Liu Bian, an old scholar, stood up with a teacup in her hand. Said: "Your words remind me of an allusion: There is a story in Han Feizi's "Shuo Nan Pian", which tells that Wei Linggong has a male favorite, that is, the gay man we are talking about today, named Mi Zixia. This male favorite When he was young, he was handsome and beautiful, and was very popular with Duke Ling of Wei. Once Mi Zixia's mother fell ill, and Mi Zixia borrowed the sacred oracle to steal Duke Ling's car and went home to visit his mother privately. This was a big crime at the time! His feet were about to be cut off. Later someone told Wei Linggong, and Wei Linggong said with a smile: "What a conscientious person Mi Zixia is! He is willing to risk his feet being cut off to visit his mother!" Another time, Mi Zixia picked a peach in the garden, tasted it, and it was delicious! He offered the bitten peach to Wei Linggong. Wei Linggong sighed again: "How much Mi Zixia loves Me! I don’t want to eat something delicious, so I want to leave it to me.” Later, Mi Zixia became old and pale, and Wei Linggong had a new love. Thinking of the past, he was very angry and said, “Mi Zixia is young. At that time, he bullied the king, and he threw me the leftover peaches!'" Liu Bian took another sip of tea loudly, and left. Lijuan was stunned, and asked Sister Cai: "What does Lao Liu mean? He is saying that I am old and decrepit now? So Yaping doesn't like me anymore? I can't understand every time he speaks." Sister Cai thought for a while and said, "I think what he means is that the beauty of the past does not mean the beauty of eternity. Time will gradually fade the relationship. Not all art is as enduring as Venus with a broken arm." The change of his attitude towards you now may not be caused by his mother coming or leaving. Don’t always lead this kind of conflict to the issue of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and don’t keep comparing yourself with Yaping’s mother. Think about it, yourself Is there any problem? Attacking his mother in front of a man is a very stupid move. You can't make him love you more because of this, but instead make him alienate you unconsciously. Think about it, a man has three wives and four concubines, and new clothes for old clothes Yes, there are, but how many mother-changers have you seen?" "Oh! I finally understand what you mean. My wife is going to bow her head and be willing to be a bully. She can only pull the cart with her head down, and can't look up at the road?" "No. A wife has a wife's way, and a wife is not a mother. You have to use your strengths to attack his mother's weaknesses. His mother can't act like a baby with him, right? If you coax him more, men have to rely on deception." "Why do I have to coax him every time? Am I wrong every time? Why do I have to please him and he doesn't come to coax me?" "Marriage's first strategy is to advance with retreat. Between husband and wife, what is right or wrong? We must grasp the main contradiction. Have you read Mao Xuan? The first chapter of Mao Xuan is the magic weapon for defeating the enemy: who is our enemy , Who are our friends? This issue is the primary issue of the revolution. Don’t escalate the contradiction with Yaping’s mother to the contradiction with Yaping. One is a contradiction between ourselves and the enemy, and the other is a contradiction among the people. You have to see this situation clearly. One is to be severely cracked down, and the other is to be spared and spared." Lijuan thought again.