Chapter 2 Preface love is able to withstand the plain fleeting time

Just over a year has passed since it was published in June 2008.Publishing a book a year is not considered intensive for most authors.But if among all the authors who have published books, there is someone who is extremely reluctant to mention his works in front of relatives, friends and other familiar people, then this person must be me. It might sound pretentious to say that, but it's true—because it's just a little bit special. Universal love can be understood as love, interpreted love, universal love (all love in the world). However, if you are looking for a heart-shattering romance novel, I suggest you don't buy it.If you want to watch an urban love story full of bizarre plots and exciting suspense, I advise you not to waste your money.If you want to read a book full of passion and depth of life and philosophy, please stop here.

I thought about a lot of rhetoric to summarize and summarize this book, but in the end I felt that the comment of my friend He Simao was the most appropriate, so I just quoted it directly—— "It's not a profound book, it's not a book that requires many experts to sit in a dignified way and give a seminar. It's just a little woman's self-report, just a record of a pair of ordinary little children. Touch. However, it is a book worthy of reading by people who believe in love all over the world, because in it, in every crack of their happy life, you inadvertently smile because you have found your own Mumu or Xiaolao."

It records the seven flavors of love between a pair of ordinary men and women who eat and drink in the vast world. In three months it will be my fourth wedding anniversary. Although it is an absolute statutory late marriage, compared to the group born in the 1980s, when people ask about it, they are still called "early marriages" by everyone.This may be directly related to the fact that the average marriage age of residents in major cities in my country has been increasing year by year in recent years.According to the latest data released in May 2009, the average age of marriage in 10 provinces and cities including Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou, Chengdu, Kunming, Xi'an, and Changsha is 29.2 years for men and 27.1 years for women.

In this way, it really is too early ^_^... But what's wrong with being early?What I have and enjoy is always the life I want. The four-year marriage found on the Internet is called silk marriage.One-year marriages are paper marriages, followed by cloth marriages, leather marriages, silk marriages, wooden marriages, iron marriages, copper marriages, electric marriages... Finally, the sixty-year diamond marriage. Inevitably a little bit at a loss.It turns out that there is still such a long distance between the relationship and marriage that I once thought was beautiful and sweet, and that I worshiped in every possible way, and the diamond wedding, which represents indestructibility, eternity and brilliance.The four years at this time seemed so insignificant.

Reminiscent of the friction and unhappiness with Mr. Mumu in life, I am a little pessimistic at the moment: I don’t know whether we, who have entered into this very fragile and easily broken silk marriage, can withstand the pressure from life in the years to come. Can the trials and tests brought about by various aspects withstand thousands of trials after the collision of reality and ideals? ——This dazzling eye that I look up to symbolizes the diamond marriage of purity and eternity. In the green years when I was in love, I used to have countless longings for love. I thought love was earth-shattering, love was vigorous, love was lingering to death.

I thought love was heart-stirring, love was blood-boiling love was full of happiness. I thought love was suffocating, crazy love was flowers before the moon, love was hot coals. I thought love was the madness of the heart Love was the surge of the heart Love was the eternal blue sky between two people. ... Please forgive the view of love of our generation, which is mostly influenced by domestic and foreign film and television dramas and romance novels (or, I really read too much). Life is not an idol drama with suspense, compact plot, and exaggerated and concentrated contradictions and conflicts that make people cry and get caught up in it.In real life, everyone has to live a long life, which is disturbed by a large number of trivial things that make people feel boring, boring, difficult, lengthy, unwilling, angry, painful, sad...

Preface: Love can stand the mediocre fleeting years He doesn't have a net worth of billions, and he can't spend money like water to give you expensive gifts and villas; he's not a popular superstar in the entertainment industry, and he can't be affectionate and persistent to you alone under the jealous and envious eyes of crazy fans; A dignified person cannot extend a hand of hope in your most embarrassing and dangerous moment. He is an office worker who wears a work bag on his shoulder and squeezes the bus profusely every day to make a living; Man; he is a "heartbreaker" who will forget your birthday, forget all kinds of anniversaries, and even be unable to visit you in the hospital due to busy work...

His sneakers stink.He often forgets to brush his teeth at night.He is very dark.He often forgets things.He is cheerful and occasionally grumpy and yells at you.He can cook a lot of food.He is proficient in the arts of human history and geography.He can fix the sewers.He will give you small gifts on a whim.He just wants to be the first to tell you what sad, happy, sad, and joyful things he has. He is the only one you can rely on after you leave school after graduation and step into the complicated and cruel reality of society. There is someone who won’t hurt you and can be honest with you without wearing a mask—your husband.

He is your husband. He loves you and is deeply loved by you. The time we have been together for a long time, life has become more and more ordinary. Those anniversaries that I have been trying to figure out how to celebrate a few months before the arrival have gradually become almost the same as any other ordinary day.There have been complaints and regrets, and even doubts about love and marriage, but later, I was relieved. Because I started to learn to understand, in fact, the so-called love can withstand the ordinary fleeting years. Just like making soup, when the soup in the crock starts to boil, you always have to change the fire to lukewarm and cook slowly to make a pot of fragrant and nourishing soup.It is also impossible for the marriage of two people to stay forever under the raging fire of passion when they are passionately in love. Only by blending can it be sublimated into eternity.

Later, I continued to check the information unwillingly, and found out that the reason why Westerners called the four-year silk wedding (silk wedding) in the first place was to take the meaning of entanglement. If this is the case, then after going through a time that is more resilient than a one-year paper marriage, more precious than a two-year cloth marriage, and softer than a three-year leather marriage, what we will welcome is our tightly wound and more Toughness, more precious, softer needs to be cooked slowly, which is getting closer to the eternal diamond wedding - silk wedding. Before writing, I have been insisting on creating novels, which may be published around the end of 2009.Short stories and essays have also been published one after another in magazines such as Minimal Story.I hope that everyone will not be labeled as "it turns out that Xiaolao can only write such words".Just like visiting a forum, an essay written with great care for my mother was one-sidedly commented as "a leap forward" by readers who didn't know themselves.

This is also the main reason why I did not want to directly publish "All World Love II? Four Years of Silk Marriage". Now that various opportunities have contributed to its early publication, I am also very happy to bring happiness to the readers of this book. If it can also bring you some inspiration and thinking, I think I will be happier. I will continue to work hard and write more words to share with you. Thank you all.