Chapter 53 Section 6

Ding Yi invited Professor Se to dinner. Nothing special happened at the banquet. Professor Se’s topic was not sexual at all. He didn’t talk about chickens, ducks, or even chicken wings. He only talked about international events and sports competitions. Her family of three had to do it. Be all ears and understand what you understand. It is very likely that the women in the laboratory did not explain clearly. They only said that Professor Se should pay close attention to dinner, but did not say that they should pay close attention to before and after meals. As a result, the "dogmatist" She said goodbye and went back to the laboratory, almost making her laugh.

As soon as her husband left, Professor Se's attitude changed obviously, and he began to talk about chickens and ducks: "I went to Beijing for a meeting last year and lived in a big hotel. Every night, women called me and asked me Do you need special services? I was so annoyed by them that I asked people in other rooms how to deal with those women." She asked curiously: "How to deal with it?" "They told me you just called yourself gay." "Then what did you do? Did you say you were gay?" "That said, it still works in restaurants, but it doesn't work outside."

"why?" "After I said I was gay, several men came up and pulled me." She couldn't help laughing. Professor Se looked at her proudly, as if she was proud of her jokes: "B, you look good when you smile, you should smile more. I find that you Chinese women don't like to laugh, it's too serious, it's not good. I My wife doesn’t like to laugh, but worries a lot.” She took the opportunity to ask: "I heard that your wife is very beautiful, can you show me the photo?" Professor Se generously took out a photo of his wife from his purse. It was taken when he was young. The photo of the two of them together. I don’t know if it’s a photo of love or engagement. Anyway, they are both young and radiant, which makes people sigh the time. The swordsman can really chop!

She looked at the photo for a while and said, "Maybe I shouldn't ask, but how did your wife die?" Professor Se made no secrets: "She died of cervical cancer." She didn't have any special feelings about cervical cancer, anyway, it was terminally ill, and it didn't matter where the cancer was, but because her breasts and cervix had been reexamined during this period, she was particularly sensitive to these words.She asked, "How did you get cervical cancer?" Professor Se shrugged: "Who knows? Maybe it's because she likes to worry and doesn't like to laugh."

"What worries her?" "I worry about everything, my child learns to play the piano, learns to paint, learns to drive a car, and worries about test scores." "Maybe all Asian mothers are like this." "Are you the same?" "Me? I can't tell. I also send my daughter to learn these things, but I don't have any special requirements. She can learn as much as she can. I don't expect her to excel in these areas. I just want her to live happily." "That's good, I like your character very much." She was a little embarrassed, and tried her best to bring the topic to Professor Se's wife: "What did your wife do before?"

"She doesn't do any work, she doesn't like to work, she likes to let her husband support her." "But how boring it is to stay at home all day!" "I think so too, but she doesn't think so. She can read books, play the piano, and draw pictures at home." She added: "Bringing the kids, cooking?" "She doesn't cook." "Then what to eat?" "I cook, or order food, and ask someone to do it." She thought that this woman really knew how to live. She didn't go to work or do housework. She played piano, chess, calligraphy and painting all day long. How could she still have cancer?

Professor Se asked, "Does your husband go to the lab every night?" "Well, he's busy." Professor Se shook his head: "Not good. I heard that Chinese men are all workaholics. They don't have their own life. It's not good. You are still young, you should find someone who can live." She was taken aback. She had always heard that Americans don't care about other people's private affairs. How could this professor not only take care of other people's private affairs, but also manage them so domineeringly?She said seriously: "We Chinese attach great importance to marriage and will not divorce easily."

"But that was cruel to myself and never really lived." Later she called Lu Ping and asked about Lu Ping's treats. Lu Ping said: "There is no news, just eating and chatting. He likes to talk about the international situation, sports competitions and other things. We don't understand at all, and we can't get in. He was talking there by himself." "Haha, why is it the same as here? But my husband went to the laboratory after dinner, so Professor Se got involved with chickens and ducks again." She sold Professor Se's homosexual stories to Lu Ping, almost made Lu Ping faint from laughter, and said after laughing enough: "Ding Yi, you have missed a great opportunity, if Professor Se said you should find someone who can live When you are in love with someone, you go on to say: 'If you know how to live, how about looking for you?' He must be crazy with joy."

"Do not make jokes." "I'm really not kidding, he said it himself, he likes Asian women." "What does it matter to me that he likes Asian women?" "Why is it none of your business? You are an Asian woman. I think foreigners must be more romantic than our Chinese men. You see, his wife has been dead for several years, and he still carries a picture of his wife in his purse. A Chinese man would do this? I’m afraid a newcomer will be found before his bones are cold.” She has never paid attention to men other than her husband. Now that Lu Ping has pushed her to think about it, she immediately feels that Professor Se is not her cup of tea. The professor loves too many people. As far as she knows, there is Lu Ping. Doesn't Professor Se have Lu Ping in everything?

If this is romance, she doesn't think it's interesting. It seems that men are so unsatisfactory. Either they are dull and do not understand romance at all, or they are frivolous by nature and show mercy everywhere.The worst thing is that a dull man is not dull in front of other women, and a frivolous man is frivolous in front of anyone. She asked Lu Ping back: "Professor Se also likes you very much, why don't you marry him?" "How does he like me?" "Then how do you say he likes me? Doesn't he treat us both the same?" "Of course not."

"Didn't he also write a letter of recommendation for you? He also had dinner at your house." "That's to cover up. If he only writes you a letter of recommendation and only goes to your house for dinner, isn't it too obvious?" "Maybe he came to my house for dinner to cover up." "Impossible. Every time I talk to him, he always mentions you, and he keeps mentioning you when we eat at my house. Even my husband can see it. He didn't mention me when he was eating at your house, right?" She thought about it, but she didn't seem to have it, but she made it up and said, "Why didn't you mention it? I've been talking about you all the time." Lu Ping was overjoyed: "Really? Then I didn't expect it at all. Since I gave birth, no one has ever expressed interest in me. I think I was chased by many people back then..." "He likes you so much, will you divorce and marry him?" "I won't. What a trouble, and he's such a flirtatious person. He's not as reliable as my husband." "But I think you still like him." "It's not that I like him, it's that I like him and me. People, it's not a bad thing to be liked by one more person. Even if you are married, you still hope that someone will like you and pursue you, but that doesn't mean I will divorce him." She felt that she might have had this kind of thinking before she got married, and she was always happy to have one more person to pursue.But after she got married, she didn't seem to have such a need anymore. Regardless of whether she was chased by someone or not, she had a husband anyway. Although the husband did not chase her back then, in the eyes of outsiders, having a husband meant that someone had chased her , and it was a deadly pursuit, otherwise how could he catch up? Perhaps this is the reason why women must marry.If you are not married, even if 10,000 people chase you, people will still think you are wanted; if you are married, even if your husband has never chased you, people will still think you are wanted.And whether someone wants it seems too important to a woman, as if the value of a woman depends entirely on whether someone wants it.What about a PhD?So what about the wealth?If no one wants it, people will despise you. A woman who does not get married when she is old is "no one wants it"; a man who is not married when he is old is a "diamond king", which is too unfair! She called her sister to talk about it, and her sister said: "The main reason is that there are too many 'scabs' among women. There are always many women who look up to men you don't like. Women have ruined their own business. Women are at a disadvantage. It's like the workers who went on strike in the past. You strike and don't go to work, but those 'scabs' don't strike, they are willing to take over your job, so the capitalists don't buy your account. Please 'scab' to do it." "How can those people be scabs?" "Those people are often unemployed. They usually talk about competition, but they can't compete with you. Now that you are on strike, he will take the opportunity to jump out and be willing to take over your job. Maybe when the strike is over, the boss doesn't like him and will fire him However, the boss is still willing to use scabs to destroy you now." "Scabs are too hateful." "Yeah, like your Xiaoman, you think it's not good at all, it's not good at all, but there are other women watching over there, making it impossible for you to reform him." "That's right, don't talk about reformation, I don't even dare to say harsh words, for fear of annoying him and running into the arms of other women." "It may be necessary to unite the majority of women to treat men together, as the Communist Party did in the past, so as to improve the treatment of women. Otherwise, you will strictly demand men here, and she will use loose policies to poach your corners there, and finally Men have become pretty, and their worth has increased a hundred times." She asked very attentively: "What kind of unity do you think women should have?" My sister laughed: "I'm just kidding too, this project is too big. I can only promise not to poach other people's corners. I don't feel bad when others poach my corners. As for uniting all women to fight men together, I don't have the ability .” She felt that she didn't have that ability either, so it would be nice to be able to reach the level of her sister. She also told her husband about Professor Se’s homosexual story, but he didn’t seem to understand the joke, and just said: “His wife has cervical cancer? It must be messing with a lot of people.” "Why do you say that?" "Cervical cancer is mostly caused by unclean sex life." "real?" "Of course it's true. I'm a medical student and I don't know?" After hearing this, she was relieved a lot. She didn't mess around with anyone, and her sex life was not unclean. The cervix should be fine. The next day, an email came from J State, and she was given a time frame, asking her to choose a time and go there for an on-site interview. All expenses will be borne by that side, but if she is given a job If she decides not to go, she will have to refund the fee. She was so happy that she almost jumped up, and immediately called Lu Ping, wanting to make an appointment to go to J state for an interview. But Lu Ping was very frustrated: "I didn't get an on-site interview invitation." "No way? Could it be that they haven't had time to notify you yet?" "No, they've emailed me saying that I'm good, but they have limited time and there's a lot of qualified people, so they're sorry they can't arrange me for an on-site interview this time." "They mean that it can't be arranged this time, and we can arrange it when we have time?" "What, do you believe these nonsense? This is just the employer's words to comfort you. They have already blessed me to find a job elsewhere. How could they arrange for me to interview with them?" She suddenly realized that she might have taken Lu Ping's position. Without her, maybe Lu Ping went to the on-site interview. After all, Lu Ping had already contacted the unit. Ms. Cooper decided to interview Lu Ping before the meeting. And at that time, she didn't know which corner to pick chicken shit in. Thinking that Lu Ping has worked so hard to help her study, she urged her to attend this job fair. Even the opportunity to talk to Ms. Cooper at the meeting was brought to her by Lu Ping. In the end, she got an on-site interview opportunity , but Lu Ping didn't get it, isn't this the same as Xiaosan robbing someone's husband? She apologized and said: "I'm so sorry, maybe I snatched your chance away, so I won't go." Lu Ping said: "Don't be stupid, this kind of thing can also show loyalty? No matter how good friends you are, entering the job market is based on ability and luck. If you have the ability and luck, if you get this opportunity, that is Yours, there is no such thing as someone taking someone's opportunity." "What about you?" "I have already accepted the admission notice from State H." "What about I State?" "I canceled the on-site interview, because H State can't wait any longer, and they will notify others of the admission. I'd better catch one or the other, or both ends will fail." When she heard that Lu Ping had found a job, she felt much better, and thanked Lu Ping like a savior before hanging up the phone. She talked about this with her sister, and her sister even praised Luping: "This person has a good heart and a good mentality. If he is a person with a bad heart, he will not be willing to help you in studies; if his mentality is almost People who see you get an on-site interview must hate you to death. Ordinary people, when they win the competition, will admit the saying that 'the job market has no friends', but if they can't compete with others, they will complain , I hope people can give up competition in the face of friends. Lu Ping is really a rare good friend, I hope she will be rewarded for being a good person, and her life and work will be smooth." "She has already got a job offer, but it's in state H, and the city is relatively small." "A small city is a good thing. The air is good, the environment is good, the house is cheap, and food and clothing are also cheap. Her annual salary is more than 40,000, which is equivalent to 60,000 to 70,000 in a big city." She said with emotion: "It's really like a dream. Everything is a mistake. If she hadn't persuaded me to go to this meeting, I would definitely not have this on-site interview opportunity, and I may not know how to find it until now." What's going on with the work, and I don't have any self-confidence." "It's not due to her alone. If you don't have the ability, then no matter how much she persuades you to attend the job fair, it's useless; of course, without Lu Ping to persuade you to attend the job fair, you don't have this opportunity. It seems that people You still have to go out and wander." "I'm on my fourth year. If I'm in China, I should consider retirement, but I'm still looking for a job." "This is also a good thing. People who are running for four can still compete with those young people and beat them. That feeling is not so good!" She felt that what her sister said was good, and she felt that it was really not so good, and her confidence was almost bursting.