Chapter 43 Section 1

Ding Yi took out a few frozen steamed buns from the refrigerator, steamed them in a steamer, ate two with pickles, put two in a grocery bag, and drove to school. There are two computer rooms in her department, one is a large classroom for undergraduates, and it is installed with Windows system, which is relatively easy to use.There is also a relatively small graduate student with only a dozen computers installed on the Unix system, and she is not very good at using it.The computer room for undergraduates is open all day and night, as long as no one is in class, they can use it, while the computer room for graduate students is locked all day long, and only graduate students in this department can get the door key from the department.

She usually goes to the computer room for undergraduate students first, and if no one is teaching there, she uses it there, and only goes to the computer room for graduate students if it doesn’t work. Fortunately today, no one is in the computer room for undergraduates, and no one is using the computer, and she is the only one.She found a computer in the corner and began analyzing the data for her master's thesis. After doing it for a while, she heard someone talking to her: "Ding Yi, I finally found you today!" She looked up and saw that it was Lu Ping. The two had taken classes together, and they were the same age, so they had a good relationship.

Lu Ping was originally studying for a Ph.D. in the Department of Biology. A few years ago, he followed the trend and added a master's degree in Biostatistics. However, he did not immediately find a job after completing the course, but continued to do a Ph.D. in the Department of Biology.Later, it seemed that I didn’t have a good time with my supervisor, so I decided not to get a Ph.D., but to leave with a master’s degree from the Department of Biology. Anyway, if you get a Ph.D. from the Department of Biology, you can only be a postdoctoral fellow. It’s better to rely on a degree in biostatistics to find a job.

Last semester, she took the clinical trial course, and it happened that Lu Ping came back to take this course, so the two became classmates. She used to learn foreign languages. The mathematics, statistics, and biology foundations required for biostatistics are very weak. Although she has made up a lot of lessons, she always feels that she is not so handy and often needs to ask others for advice.Originally, there were a few junior Chinese in her class, but they all had a science background and a relatively good foundation. When she asked a question, she didn't bother to answer it. She always said, "Take my homework and copy it."

But copying homework can only cope with the homework part, not the exam. If she doesn't understand the questions, how can she pass the exam? Only Lu Ping was more patient and willing to explain to her, even if it was not a class with two fellow practitioners, she was willing to explain to her, so she often went to Lu Ping to ask questions.But Lu Ping has two children and is very busy. Sometimes we meet at Lu Ping's house, so that Lu Ping can take care of the children and explain to her at the same time. Every time she went to Lu Ping's house, she would bring a small gift, mainly snacks for children.If she goes at night, she will also bring Tintin with her, because Tintin is not yet twelve years old and cannot be left alone at home.Ding Ding loves to go to Lu Ping's house to play with the two children, and the two children also like Ding Ding very much.

She and Lu Ping didn't take any classes this semester, so they didn't have much time to meet each other. They met today and felt very happy: "It's been a long time since I saw you. Ding Ding was still asking when he was going to Aunt Lu's house the day before yesterday. How are you, are you busy?" "Why are you not busy? You hang on the Internet every day to find a job." "Did you find it?" "There have been a few phone interviews, but nothing has been heard from them. What about you?" "Me? I haven't started looking for it yet, and I don't know how to look for it at all."

"By the way, I'm here to ask you about this. Are you going to the academic conference this year?" She knew that Lu Ping was referring to a national academic conference. In addition to academic exchanges, there was also a job fair, where job seekers and job seekers would meet. It was an important opportunity for her major to find a job. But the conference was held out of state, and it took six or seven hours to drive there. She had to pay for the plane and the hotel, because she didn't have a paper to present at the conference, and neither the department nor the graduate school would pay for it. She pays.

Like her, Lu Ping had to pay for it himself, and he was not very good at driving, so he didn’t dare to drive long distances, so he kept sending her emails, urging her to go, saying that two people would drive in one car, and they could switch to the hotel. The rooms can also be booked together, which can save a lot of money. She mentioned this to Ding Ding's father, but he didn't support it at all: "What are you doing so far?" "Looking for a job." "Are you going to travel so far to work?" "The place where the meeting is far away does not mean that the place where the work is far away."

"If you're looking for a job locally, do you need to go there?" She froze for a moment, then insisted, "Open your eyes and see the world." "How many days?" "It will take four or five days to go back and forth." "Isn't that a week? You're not at home for a week, what will Ding Ding do?" "You eat for nothing?" He was a little annoyed, but he didn't attack: "What job are you looking for? Just stay at home. It's not that I can't support you." "Then I haven't read all these years for nothing?"

"I told you not to read at the time, but you just wanted to read." "Are you distressed about those tuition fees? Don't worry, I will pay you back when I earn money." "I did not mean that." "Then what do you mean?" "Why do you go to work? Many women in the United States are supported by their husbands." "I don't want to be that kind of woman." He conceded and said: "If you want to find a job, you should also find it locally." "The local area is so small, where can I find a job?" "If you really want to work, I can ask you in our unit."

"You don't need to ask, I checked on your unit's recruitment website, but there is no such position." "What kind of position do you want?" "Biostatistician or something." He pondered for a moment: "Don't you have to find this kind of job? Can't you just find a laboratory and be an experimenter?" "I'm not a student, how can I be an experimenter?" "Actually, it doesn't matter if your major is right or not. The most important thing is that the family stays together." She also admits that this is the most important point, but she is not willing to be an experimenter, and besides, she still doesn't know whether people want her to be an experimenter. Just so hesitant, she never decided whether to go to that meeting or not. She shared her concerns, and Lu Ping said: "Don't be stupid, what kind of experimenter is that a human thing? It's tiring, and the salary is low. Isn't your master's degree in vain? The family is We want to be together, but why do you have to make sacrifices? Your husband is the leader of a scientific research project and has a lot of research funding in his hand. He is always wanted by people everywhere, so why not let him go with you." "but……" "He doesn't want to go with you, does he? All men are like this, very selfish." "Where's your husband?" "Isn't my husband the same? I got a master's degree in biostatistics a few years ago, and I was able to find a job at that time, but he refused to let me find a job, and ended up in this situation." "Which field?" "I missed the opportunity. A few years ago, those who studied biostatistics got a few job opportunities before they graduated. How difficult it is to find a job now, otherwise I wouldn't be bothered to drive six or seven hours to attend the conference." .” "A few years ago, why didn't your husband let you find a job?" "It's not because I'm afraid that the two places will be separated." "Can't he follow you?" "He is the most useless. He is afraid that he will not be able to find a job elsewhere. He is unwilling to separate the two places. He is afraid that I will leave the child to him. Anyway, it is all selfish considerations." She was a little surprised: "Really? I think your husband is a pretty good person. " Lu Ping laughed: "Everyone said so, and many people also said that he was blind, so he would find a dark, old and ugly wife like me." "That's nonsense." She said so, but she had to admit in her heart that "many people" were right. Lu Ping was indeed very dark, fat, with small eyes, and he was not particular about it. He always wore old-fashioned clothes. Clothes, a classic women's haircut, looks like an aunt in her forties.Although Lu Ping's husband, Liu Ping, was not tall, he was handsome and looked like Lu Ping's son, or at least his younger brother. As if guessing what she was thinking, Lu Ping laughed at himself and said, "Don't look at me now that I'm fat and dark, I was pretty good when I was young. When I fell in love with my husband, the whole family objected." "Really? Why should they object?" "Because my husband is not good enough for me. My family is from the countryside, people are rustic and small, and my parents are university professors. My sisters are looking for a better partner than I am looking for." No matter how hard she tried to imagine, she couldn't figure out why Lu Ping's whole family thought Liu Ping was not good enough for Lu Ping.But she immediately thought of herself, maybe when people saw her and her husband, they couldn't imagine that everyone thought her husband was not good enough for her.According to the current situation, it is very likely that everyone is as surprised by Lu Ping as she is, wondering why her husband would find such an old and ugly woman like her. Lu Ping said: "Now I can't think of what I saw in him at that time. The conditions are not good in all aspects." "Maybe others are good? They are always good to you. People at that time were very particular about their hearts." "The problem is that he doesn't treat me well! He doesn't chase after me, he doesn't talk, and he doesn't show courteousness." "Perhaps he is a good-looking man?" "Where is it, among the people who chased me, he was much better-looking than him." Speaking of this, both of them were a little bit embarrassed.Alas, good men don't mention their bravery, and good women don't mention their tenderness. Now they are in their thirties, and the baby is her mother, and she is fat and old. There is nothing to brag about. Lu Ping said: "You must not be fooled by your husband. All men who can earn money are like this. I wish you could be a housewife, take good care of him, and let him do something. When the career comes, he forgets your credit and despises you instead." "Does your husband look down on you?" "Of course, I always talk about how long it took me to get a doctorate." "How long have you been a doctor?" "Hehe, it's been a long time, mainly because of the delay in giving birth in the middle." She knew that Lu Ping's two children were both born in the United States. The eldest is a son and the youngest is a daughter.She said enviously: "That's worth it, look how good you are, one son and one daughter, you can make up a word 'good'." When it came to the word "good", Lu Ping was also very excited: "But it's true, if you don't rush to have one at that time, at this age, you won't be able to have one if you want to?" "How old are you now that you can't give birth?" "I am thirty-six, and now I am an advanced maternal age. After a woman reaches thirty, her fertility declines year by year. After thirty-five, even if she can give birth, it is very dangerous. Maybe she will give birth to a dementia child. " This made her very sad: "Really? Then am I too late?" "You want to have a second child?" "Ok." Lu Ping immediately changed his words: "It's not too late, the Wang next door is in his forties, and he gave birth to a son last year." "Really? Is the child normal?" "Pretty normal." "If I want to have a second child, do I still need to go to this meeting?" "Why not? Pregnancy doesn't affect the meeting." "But if I'm not going to work right away, why go to a job fair?" "You man, why do you only run to Hei on one road? You find a job and put it here, and you don't have to feed it. When the time comes, you won't go if you are pregnant with a child, and you will go to work if you are not pregnant. You can bend and stretch, no Okay? Let’s talk about finding a job, you can’t find it just by looking for it, you just think of it as military training, go to the job fair to communicate with the employer, and then you will be able to formally find a job in the future.” She thinks what Lu Ping said makes sense. Although she is a native of English, she is still a bit timid to talk to Americans seriously, and she has never looked for a job. Why don't you take this opportunity to practice oral English? Lessons from job hunting. Lu Ping urged: "Let's sign up first. Today is the last day of student discounts. Starting tomorrow, the registration fee will increase to $200." She thought for a while and said, "You're right. I'll sign up first. If I get pregnant by the time of the meeting, I won't go." So both of them signed up online. First, they filled in their personal information, paid the registration fee, and then mailed three resumes. Screen interview lists for job fairs. She signed up and paid the registration fee online with a credit card on the spot, but she decided not to tell her husband about it until the time came, maybe she was pregnant at that time, so she didn't go at all, why bother singing in advance and causing trouble? ?Anyway, she was in charge of the family's money bag, as long as she didn't tell him, he wouldn't even know that she had paid the registration fee. My husband is still very stupid when it comes to money. Not long after she came to the United States, she discovered that her husband knew nothing about credit cards. Every time the credit card company sent a printed check to let the user borrow money, he always picked it up and used it, but was charged by the credit card company. a lot of interest. She pointed this out to him, and he suddenly realized: "Huh? Is that so? I thought it was money from the credit card company." Later, my husband handed over the money bag to her, thinking that she was still saving money to earn interest, plus winning prizes, as she did when she was just married. , the husband does not know.