Chapter 31 Scene 29 Birth Control

It was dark and cold outside the car, but inside it was very warm and getting warmer.After the car left the road, the man parked the car in the woods.With the car's engine and heater on, the two occupants climbed into the back seat together.The girl's breasts have been exposed, her panties have been pulled up to her knees, and the man's palm is now placed in the warmest place in the car - between the girl's legs.The girl was fighting the zipper of his pants, and he was already very excited.The man kissed the girl, he kissed her neck lightly and moved to the side, his ears rubbed against the cold and wet car window.

Since he got his own car half a year ago, this is the third time he has been in a car like this with a woman.The first two times were with different women, and they didn't get the woman twice. That first time, he naively thought that all girls who were interested in sex were taking birth control pills.But the girl didn't.She insisted that he use a condom or she would not have sex with him.However, men did not have condoms at hand at that time.He begged and asked her to let him penetrate, while reassuring her that he would pull his cock out before ejaculating.The girl said that she had also been assured by men before that she would never trust any man again.After speaking, the girl lost all interest, so she asked the man to take her home immediately.

The second experience simply took the man by surprise.The girl didn't know the man well, but when he told the girl that he would take her home, the girl agreed, and on the way they drove home, the girl suggested finding a secluded place for them to have fun.The man was pleasantly surprised when he heard this.But just as he was about to penetrate, the girl suddenly stopped and asked him to use a condom.The man replied that he didn't have a condom handy.The girl pushed him away immediately after hearing this.The man offered to let him drive to buy condoms.But the girl, like the first time girl, lost interest in having sex on the spot, and she said she would go home immediately.

Both the man and the two girls had only one chance to make love.It is impossible for either girl to give him a second chance.After these two failures, he vowed never to miss another chance, so he started carrying a condom with him.And now, two months later, the aluminum foil bag of condoms that he carried with him was crumpled, but the lessons he had worked hard to learn were finally coming to fruition.He thought, if it doesn't work this time, it's definitely not because of poor preparation. The moment he was looking forward to finally came. Before the girl could speak, the man fumbled for the condom in his pocket.When he tore open the foil wrapping, the girl had already taken off her panties and was in the most comfortable position.The man took the condom out of the package and put it on the tip of his penis, intending to pull it up.But for some reason, it couldn't be pulled.The condom stayed where it was, refusing to move at all.The man held up the condom and studied it, trying to figure out which direction to pull it up, but it was dark and he couldn't see anything.So he flipped the condom over and put it back on his penis.But he immediately found that the thing on the penis would move, which really made him feel flustered.The girl asked him if he had any difficulties.The man lied and said that it was all right.In fact, the condom was only half pulled at this time, so he inserted the girl into the girl with the condom hanging on the tip of the penis.

When the man started to jerk back and forth, he knew the condom had slipped off, but he'd waited so long for this moment that he couldn't stop.After the penis was inserted, he fought desperately not to ejaculate while enjoying the "defenseless" sex to the fullest.It wasn't until several minutes after ejaculation that the man withdrew his penis, at which point he broke the bad news to the girl while pretending to be looking for a condom with his fingers.The girl fell into panic immediately. She cursed at the man and tried to get the condom out of her body with her fingers.But in the end, it was the man's longer fingers and a better angle that helped her get out the condom that hadn't been opened at all.The man repeatedly apologized to the girl, conceded that he might not have put the condom on properly, and then suggested that it was also possible that they had had sex so hard that they dropped the condom.

Later, on the way to drive the girl home, the man repeatedly told the girl that even if the condom slipped, there was no danger.Because the condom can still keep the semen out of her uterus, and the condom has chemicals attached to it, all the sperm will be killed.He also told the girl that even if the condom slipped off, it would still function as a diaphragm.That girl was so innocent, she actually believed the man's words completely.In the next few days, the man bought a lot of condoms and went home, practicing desperately to put on condoms.He not only invested a lot of money, but also practiced constantly.Finally, he had mastered a set of kung fu: no matter what the lighting, position, or which hand he used, he could put the condom on with absolute certainty.

The man never dropped the condom during sex since then, although, five times, he let the condom slip off on purpose.Those five times he had sex with different women, and all five times he had used a condom correctly.He felt that the sensitivity of his sensations was greatly reduced when he put on the condom, and whenever he felt frustrated by this, he just put the condom on lightly, and then, at about the same time he started to twitch back and forth, the condom would go away. slide. None of the five deliberate plans made his female partner pregnant.Four of them had just not ovulated at the time of the incident.Although the fifth female partner ovulated, but also fertilized.But at that time, it happened to be the most important exam in her life, the "incident" of the condom falling off, and the possibility of becoming a mother brought great pressure to her, so after the fertilized egg reached the uterus, there was no time Implanted on the bed, it flowed out directly.When the girl's period started, she went out to eat to celebrate.

This intentional misuse of condoms by a man ends up making him a father.But this result is not out of plan, but out of accident.The child's mother was the girl who first made him discover that condoms could be used to trick "unguarded" sex.The girl naively believed his assurances. She thought that the condom could be used as a diaphragm after it came off.Later, she waited for her period to come. Seven weeks later, her period never came. As we explained in Scenes 27 and 28, both young men and women must learn a number of skills by which they need to maximize their sexual opportunities.In modern society, young men and women must also learn the method of contraception.The young man in this scene misses two opportunities for intercourse due to his inexperience with women.He even nearly missed his third chance to have sex because of his lack of experience with condoms.

We also mentioned family planning in scenarios 16 and 17, and my conclusion is that the total number of children a woman has in her lifetime is almost entirely unaffected by modern contraception.But even so, modern contraceptive methods can indeed make up for the shortcomings of natural birth control methods. At the same time, when women want to decide "when" and "with whom" to have a baby, modern contraceptive methods can indeed help women master More initiative.For women today, modern contraceptive methods are an important tool in their pursuit of reproductive success.Modern contraception is an effective weapon for women to manipulate sperm warfare.Next, let us explain how modern contraceptive methods can help men improve their reproductive success.

The idea of ​​killing or blocking sperm ejaculating from a penis is not a new concept.As early as 2,000 years ago, Pliny came up with his idea: the sticky gymnosperm resin was applied to the penis before ejaculation.The predecessor of the condom—a sheath that protects the penis—has been widely known since Roman times, and the most primitive condom was used in many parts of Europe before 1700 AD. In 1500, Fallopio (Fallopio) designed the earliest medical hemp condom. Later, because the Royal Physician Earl of Condom (the Earl of Condom) suggested that King Charles II use this protective cover to prevent syphilis, so later the condom was named as Count Kant's name. Before 1890, all barrier contraceptives in modern use had been sold openly in Great Britain.However, the general public did not start to widely use such products until long after the 20th century.In industrialized countries in the 1980s, one in every two couples was dependent on the male for contraception.Only 30% of men and women use condoms, while the rest use external ejaculation.

The fact that withdrawal is so widely used as a contraceptive method for routine intercourse may reflect men's views on condom use.Most women noted that if they expected men to use condoms during sex, they would appear more arrogant about contraception.Of course, if we ask men why they don't like to use condoms, they will answer that wearing a condom prevents them from enjoying sex—the so-called raincoat syndrome.On the contrary, women's impression of condoms is much closer.The different attitudes adopted by the sexes towards condoms will seriously affect the effect of using condoms.On the other hand, since the function of the condom is to prevent sperm from entering the vagina, in terms of the benefits that sexual intercourse brings to both sexes, the condom will cause more losses to men than women. This difference in interests between the sexes, if you compare routine sex with "one-off" sex, the difference in the former will not be as significant as the latter.Once a man and a woman have established a long-term partnership, the timing, spacing, and number of children that one considers optimal are often optimal for the other.Because of this, an untimely pregnancy can be detrimental to both partners.Condoms can help both men and women achieve the purpose of contraception respectively. Based on this alone, we can easily mistakenly think that both men and women should be equally willing to use condoms.But in fact, even partners who have formed a long-term relationship still have different degrees of likes and dislikes about condoms.Why is this? The main reason for this phenomenon is that pregnancy is not the main function of routine sexual intercourse.On this point, we have already explained.For men, the function of routine sexual intercourse is to constantly replenish their own sperm in their spouses to cope with the sperm war, while for women, routine sexual intercourse is a means of concealing their own fertile period.From the point of view of the subconscious principle (that is, "bodies of both sexes are controlled by the subconscious mind in sexual behavior" proposed by the author in this book), condoms will not have any influence on women in routine sexual intercourse, but they will Makes men take a backseat in routine sexual intercourse.Since a woman can conceal her fertile period with or without a condom, it is clear that a man is defenseless in the sperm wars if his ejaculated sperm cannot enter a woman's fallopian tubes. Taken together, it's no wonder that men, whether consciously or subconsciously, are less likely than women to use condoms even when they're having routine sex.What's more, men are usually more vulnerable to the risks of occasional sex than women. The different attitudes of men and women to condoms are more obvious in the "one-shot" sexual intercourse.To understand why, let's first examine the stress women experience during "one time" sex, and how condoms affect "one time" sex.We have said before that, usually, when the two sexes want to have "one love" sexual intercourse, women will be more cautious and picky than men.However, whether or not a woman has intercourse at the right time, in the right place, and with the right person, she can still profit from such occasional intercourse as long as she does not become pregnant.For example, if she doesn't already have a partner in a long-term relationship, intercourse can help her get the right man interested in her.She can also use intercourse to detect a man's "sexual" interest and sexual ability, and even learn about his health or reproductive ability.And when a woman judges that a man may be suitable to be her long-term partner, she can obtain life protection, or financial and other support from the man through this "one-shot" sexual intercourse.On the other hand, if a woman already has a long-term partner, "one-time" sex can provide her with another "backup candidate" who can be immediately available in case her relationship with her current partner breaks down. use. Women don't need to get pregnant to get the benefits of "one-shot" intercourse.In fact, if a woman is not pregnant, she has more options at her disposal.Typically, a woman benefits from a pregnancy from "one-off" intercourse only under two circumstances: when she specifically wants to woo a particular man's genes; When a man becomes her long-term partner.In addition to the above two situations, women can not only benefit from "one-off" sexual intercourse by using condoms, but also reduce another price that "one-off" sexual intercourse has to pay—the risk of contracting infectious diseases . Of course, from the point of view of infection, men can also profit from condoms.However, in addition to contracting diseases, the pressure caused by "one love" sex to men and women is too different.We have explained these pressures in detail in Scene 28, and we have also explained why men are more impatient, wishful, and indifferent to "one-time" intercourse than women.Simply put, one of the main ways men pursue reproductive success is by seizing the opportunity to have sex with all the women they can.The children born between a man and his long-term partner are his main reproductive achievement, while the children born during "one-off" intercourse are his additional gains in addition to his main achievement. Although "one love" may bring extra gains to the man, the price he has to pay for this type of sexual intercourse is very little.For men, sexual intercourse seems to be a very strenuous task, but in fact, he only needs to ejaculate once per insemination, the work only takes a few minutes, and the possibility of him being infected with diseases is relatively low. very small.If a male has a reproductive benefit in forming a long-term relationship with the mother of his child, he may decide to take on the role of father.Conversely, he can leave the child and the mother alone, leaving her to raise the child alone, while the man can continue to pursue other sexual opportunities and look for more promising long-term partnerships. If a man wants to rely on "one love" to enhance his reproductive results, he will encounter one of the biggest problems at this time, that is, it is difficult to find a suitable partner.Although the male body is born to constantly look for "one love", but there are not many men who will really pursue it desperately and get this opportunity.And when men encounter this kind of opportunity, they are not willing to let go of any ejaculation opportunity for nothing, and this is also because they are born to be preset.The use of condoms during intercourse means that all chances of pregnancy will be excluded, which is tantamount to denying the basic reason for men to have "one love".So a man's body subconsciously recognizes a "fuck" that doesn't result in pregnancy as useless, while a woman's body subconsciously recognizes a "fuck" that doesn't make her pregnant. value.Let's not talk about the futility of "one time" behavior between the sexes, but why are men sometimes willing to use condoms during "one time" sex? One possible explanation for this phenomenon is that this new modern invention—the condom—has tricked the male body into performing behaviors that are completely contrary to its reproductive interests.The original preset program in the male body is: as long as he can ejaculate in the female body, the rest of the tasks will be automatically taken up by the sperm.Whether a man's mind understands this or not, his body cannot accept the fact that condoms may render the sperm hero useless.We already have some evidence to support this argument.For example, regardless of whether a condom is used or not, a man's body regulates the number of sperm ejaculated during ejaculation in order to replenish and fight the sperm war.In the case of condom use, the number of sperm ejaculated by men may be reduced by about 10%, but the regulatory effect is still the same (as without condom).In other words, the male body always "thinks" that the sperm it ejaculates are all responsible.Although this "thought" is just a "wishful idea", and this "thought" must come true when the condom accidentally falls off or is broken. But even if a programming error similar to the above phenomenon occurs in men, it is not worth making a fuss.Because from a relative point of view, male condoms have only been used for a few generations.Therefore, the natural elimination of generational alternation competition has no time to reset the proper program in the male body.Even if we find out now that condom use actually hurts male reproductive success, this phenomenon can still be expected to change in the next few generations.From the conclusion, those males who can use condoms to enhance reproductive results (rather than reduce reproductive results) will gradually become the majority of human offspring. First, our claim here that condoms enhance reproductive outcomes may be counterintuitive to our intuition.But in fact, condoms can function to enhance reproductive outcomes in at least three situations. In the first case, a man can trade a condom for the chance to have sex with a woman.In order to exchange for "defenseless" sexual intercourse in the future, he will take the initiative to take contraceptive measures when he has sexual intercourse with a woman for the first time (just like the situation we have described in scene 20).Then, by having sex with a condom, he convinced women that he was a suitable long-term partner.And at the end of the day, she might consider taking the risk of "unguarded" sex with him. In the second case, the condom provided a higher guarantee against infection, and the man was thus able to make up for lost ejaculation opportunities.Since the emergence of AIDS, people have only begun to discover the power of condoms in preventing infection.Men who use condoms strategically during sex are more likely to have above-average health and have higher reproductive success than men who do not. The third case may be a little more complicated to explain.A man can use (or misuse) a condom to entice a woman to have sex with him, thereby creating some chances of fertilization.According to statistics, if one hundred couples can use condoms correctly for one year, no more than three of them will become pregnant.But 20 to 30 women actually got pregnant.This figure is equivalent to half of the pregnancies (75%) among couples not using any modern contraceptive method.The most likely reason for such a high rate of contraceptive failure is that these couples did not use condoms correctly during routine intercourse.Is this failure rate due to genuine accident?Or intentional condom misuse like the man in scene 29?We have no way of knowing here. Regardless of the reasons for contraceptive failure, the failure rate of routine sexual intercourse contraception must be higher than that of "one-off" sexual intercourse.Judging from the above three situations, there is no doubt that many men will use condoms when they have "one-off" intercourse.For example, the young man mentioned in this scene has repeatedly misused condoms in exchange for sexual intercourse in the hope of impregnating women.At the same time, he also hopes to get more opportunities for "one-shot" sexual intercourse with condoms.The man once lost two sexual opportunities because he did not have a condom on hand.He'd probably never get the chance to ejaculate inside those two women again.After the man learned to carry a condom with him, he didn't miss out on having sex with six other women.Not only that, but he also impregnated one of the six with his child.It's just that the woman may have to raise the child alone.If the man hadn't offered to use a condom first, not only would he not have had the child, he probably wouldn't have had sex with six women later. Men like the ones introduced in this scene are probably not uncommon.In fact, there is another, deeply intriguing hypothesis: that the male already uses condoms to enhance (rather than reduce) his reproductive success.If this is the case, it means that the strategy adopted by the male body is as follows: first, he will try to have "defenseless" sex whenever he gets the chance; In order to increase the chances of having sex; thirdly, in addition to using condoms, the number of ejaculated sperm is also adjusted as much as possible, so that in case the condom is accidentally broken or falls off, it can provide the necessary supplements to deal with the sperm war; finally , Occasionally deliberately misuse condoms to cheat the chance of ejaculation.The above strategies may be learned behaviors, or they may come from innate instincts.Overall, this strategy resulted in higher reproductive outcomes for males who were willing to use condoms (rather than males who were not).At the same time, this strategy also justifies another phenomenon: the fact that public awareness of AIDS and the high use of condoms by teenagers eventually led to a huge increase in teenage pregnancies in the UK before 1990. The same reasoning can also be used to explain another reproductive strategy of males - external ejaculation.Of course, as far as "one love" intercourse is concerned, the chances of intercourse that a man can get when he expresses his willingness to ejaculate outside the body are far less than when he expresses his willingness to use a condom.As we mentioned in this scenario, a woman may be more willing to have sex with a man who uses a condom than a man who ejaculates.There are two main reasons: first, withdrawal is far less effective as a contraceptive than using a condom; and second, withdrawal is far less effective in preventing infection than using a condom.But as far as fertilization is concerned, if a man can successfully penetrate a woman by merely expressing his willingness to ejaculate outside, it should be easier to ejaculate and impregnate her if he expresses his willingness to use a condom.Because the failure rate of contraceptive method of ejaculation outside the body is much higher than that of using condoms.In general, if one hundred couples used withdrawal instead of condoms as a contraceptive method, and they all knew how to do it correctly, the number of women who would conceive in a year should be only seven.However, in fact, the maximum number of real conceptions in a year is as high as forty.Part of the reason for the failure of external ejaculation is that before the man withdraws the penis, a small amount of sperm has leaked out, and these tiny amounts of sperm have a very strong fertilization ability.However, the most common reason for in vitro ejaculation failure is that men often do not keep their promises and do not withdraw their penis in time. Men who are willing to ejaculate have fewer opportunities to have intercourse than men who use condoms, but they are more likely to inseminate women than men who use condoms, given the few conditions we have listed here.The success of these two contraceptive methods may mainly depend on whether the woman has enough experience.For example, the young man in this scene learns from the girl that if the woman finds out that the man promised to ejaculate outside just to trick her, she will be less gullible in the future.In fact, whether it's because the man didn't ejaculate outside the body, or because he didn't put the condom on properly, most women will almost never get cheated a second time.Because as long as she is cheated once, she will pay more attention to the behavior of men. Although humans are the only animals that know how to use condoms, humans are not the only animals that naturally use external ejaculation as contraception.Many male apes and monkeys are known to insert their penis into a female's vagina, jerk back and forth, and end up without ejaculating.Does this behavior mean that the male monkey is using his penis to get the contents out of the female monkey's vagina?Or is this just a tacit agreement between male and female monkeys to avoid pregnancy?How much of the above two factors each contribute to this behavior?We don't know anything yet.One thing we know for sure, though: If ejaculation represents a tacit bond between the sexes, female monkeys are sometimes tricked by male monkeys, just as their human counterparts are.