Chapter 4 Do you want to shine your face, or you want to be suitable for your family?

--Recipe, Shining Recipe, Shining.When the son returns home, it is suitable for his family. There is a truth about peaches.When the son returns home, it is suitable for his family. Tao Zhiyaoyao, its Ye Zhenzhen.When the son returns home, it is suitable for his family. ——"Zhou Nan·Taoyao" (superior) There is a poem by Bai Juyi: "In April, the beauty of the world is exhausted, and the peach blossoms in the mountain temple begin to bloom." I didn't think so before, but now I think it's beautiful and unspeakable.Peach blossoms bloomed very early, but now they have to wait until the other flowers have withered, and they bloom when they are tired. And it blooms in the mountains. There is an unspeakable restraint and tranquility in this excitement.This kind of attitude is not surprising to Holland and Lan, but it is rare to change peach blossoms, just like a beauty after a singing banquet with her heavy makeup off, she is so calm and startlingly beautiful.

Peach blossoms are originally flowers in early spring. I remember that it is not long after the new year, when the festive atmosphere in my mind has not yet cooled down. Like rain, some float in the water.Peach blossoms are always so mischievous, even withering, they are desperately lively; or there is a branch of tender red on the wall of someone far away, separated from the fresh green, delicate and charming; it is not my flower, and I can’t pick it, but I am still so happy, unexpectedly I can't tell the reason, maybe the Chinese people have a peach blossom-like fragrance in their bones, so they met the two on a blind date.

Peach blossoms are rural, common people's homes, fields and villages are everywhere, but they are also ethereal and pure. Who said that you can't escape the peach blossoms through her?Like Tang Bohu, who was frustrated and sober, lived in seclusion in Taohuawu, Suzhou, and named his residence "Peach Blossom Temple". , I also felt that it was too beautiful, so I wrote "Song of Peach Blossom Temple"—— Peach Blossom Temple in Taohuawu, Peach Blossom Immortals in Peach Blossom Temple. The Peach Blossom Immortal planted peach trees and picked peach blossoms in exchange for wine money.

If you are sober, you only sit in front of the flowers; when you are drunk, you come to sleep under the flowers. Half drunk and half awake day after day, flowers bloom year after year. I hope that I will die of old age in the wine room, and I don't want to bow before the chariots and horses. The car dust and horses are enough to show people's affairs, and the wine deciduous flower branches are destined for hermits. If you compare the obvious to the hermit, one is on the ground and the other is on the sky. If flowers and wine are compared to chariots and horses, why should we be idle?

Others laugh at me for being crazy, but I laugh at others for not being able to see through. There are no tombs of heroes in the five tombs, no flowers and no wine to hoe the fields. Frustrated talent's poems are dissolute, although there is a whining meaning of frustration, but this complaint is made beautiful by virtue of peach blossoms, so that future generations can only see the elegance of Tang talent, covering up the sadness in his heart. Peach blossom is difficult to draw, because she needs to be painted calmly.Peach blossoms are hard to say, often because she is unwilling to restrain herself, and she is so gorgeous that people are at a loss and cannot be evaluated.If you are not careful, the beauty becomes the source, so vulgar as if you heard a village girl named Peach Blossom, you look back, but there is no scenery where the peach blossoms reflect each other.

"Taoyao" is difficult to write, because it almost expresses the beauty of women to the extreme and exerts the skill of practicing Chinese characters to the extreme. It is almost impossible to have an interpretation that surpasses the original poem.If the average person has only read three Poetry Books, there must be one of them, "The peach is shining every day, and its flowers are burning".Liu Xie's "Wen Xin Diao Long·Wu Se Pian" regards the freshness of peach blossoms in the shape of "scorching" as a masterpiece that is difficult to read even after thousands of years of thinking.

I often read a few poems before going to bed, and feel that the rhyme is the sound of nature when human beings were born. No matter how hard the current writers exercise, it is difficult to reach the extreme, such as "Taoyao".Thinking about how naive and brilliant the ancients were, it is like a child seeing every leaf in the world is shining brightly. "The beauty of the peach is shining brightly." Maybe the ancients were like this at the beginning of writing sentences, saying what they saw, without needing to chew on words.Therefore, people today should envy the beauty that is just right. The word "Zhaozhuo" gives people a feeling of being eager to see, and it is so profound that it is indelible. Reading this poem, or even just reading the first sentence, makes people unable to distinguish clearly. Peach Blossom, or the woman who is as gorgeous as a peach blossom.

I remembered a sentence that described Tang Seng: "His master and his disciples stood under His Highness, and the three of them were blurred. She only saw him in her eyes. The bright red cassock was shining with gold, which could not hide his burning glory." This "burning" Two words can also describe masculinity. I actually don't like it. A woman who is as gorgeous as a peach blossom will become frivolous, even though sometimes even this frivolity is involuntary and helpless, being slighted by others and fate.The same is true for men, if they are too flamboyant, they will lose their manly qualities.Like the greedy elder brother Yu in the picture, he can't carry his shoulders, he can't lift his hands, he's indecisive when things happen, he doesn't know right from wrong, and when he's in trouble, he cries and waits for someone to rescue him. Apart from his white flesh, there's nothing good about him. Unfortunately, I am not Sun Erniang, so I don't need his meat to make buns.So I would rather like Sun Wukong.

Occasionally I watch the "Lycra Boys" talent show. The boys on the stage are all pink and red lips, more shy and tender than the women. I think Longyang, Dong Xian and others are just like this, and I feel cold sweat.With the sudden emergence of a new force, how can we who call us women not feel that there are dangers everywhere! Not much nonsense, let's turn around and come back to watch "Taoyao". "Taoyao" was written as a poem in the Spring and Autumn Period, or earlier.This has to remind me of the famous beauty in the Spring and Autumn Period—Xi Gui. (middle)

Xi Gui died of the Three Kingdoms because of her beauty.At the same age as her, Xia Ji, known as the "Queen of the Three Kings", has the same skill.Xia Ji is different from Xi Gui, she is a veritable generation of enchantress who never refuses men, but Xi Gui is too much involuntary, so the attitude of later generations towards her is like that of Xi Shi. There are also those.It is even said that she fled with Xihou later, but unfortunately she failed and committed suicide.The place where the blood of Xigui was splashed was covered with peach blossoms. Later generations pitied her poor life and built a temple for Mrs. Peach Blossom, respecting her as "Mrs. Peach Blossom".

But Mrs. Taohua is not just Xigui.There are too many "Mrs. Peach Blossoms" in the annals of history, and she is not the only one who is so beautiful?When all the glory and wealth are gone like a passing cloud, fate opens its palms to announce the final answer, maybe all people would rather not have a charming appearance, as long as they can avoid the suffering of the present and the ridicule of the future, everyone would rather be inconspicuous ordinary people. Unfortunately, who is the prophet?At the very beginning, look back at this life with incomparable calmness? Whether or not, some people also sang it when Xi Gui was married--Peach Zhiyaoyao, scorching its flowers.When the son returns home, it is suitable for his family.There is a truth about peaches.When the son returns home, it is suitable for his family.Tao Zhiyaoyao, its Ye Zhenzhen.When the son returns home, it is suitable for his family. I think it is a more aristocratic hymn, like "He Bi Nong Yi" or "Shuo Ren", she can't enjoy ordinary blessings, maybe she is destined not to be the kind of woman who should live in an IKEA house.Happiness is just an illusion of hype, wrapped in a bouquet, and the roots cannot be seen to be rotten. The peach blossom "Taoyao" is not the fatal peach blossom that bloomed in the south of the city in the Tang Dynasty.There will not be a man who will be lost because of a woman's smile under the peach blossom tree, and there will not be a woman who will die of grief because of a man's 28-character poem. "Taoyao" does not have the atmosphere of an erotic novel, she is upright and flying, she is like a peach blossom in the courtyard, reflecting the shadow of the sun, so Anxian.When she sang about women, first she was the first marriage of "Zhuo Zhihua", then she was a mature householder who "has a lot of money", and finally she was "Ye Zhenzhen" who had many children and grandchildren.Although it is vulgar, it is also obvious. This is the path that a woman follows, and it is also the normal life trajectory of women in the world. "Taoyao" clearly describes the woman's appearance, and actually praises the woman's outstanding character.Since ancient times, people's requirements for women are not only beautiful, and women's mere beauty is questioned by others.Most of the time, people agree that a woman's character is more than some external things.Because of this, King Xuan of Qi accepted Zhong Wuyan as his queen. A good woman must be virtuous and virtuous, and she looks like a well-educated woman; she must have no other thoughts, and will not attract bees and butterflies outside; she must naturally be suitable for her family, with many children and many boys; She even has to be good at handling the relationship within the family, and will not sow dissension and talkative.Such a woman is like Xue Baochai in the Red Mansion.In fact, from a social point of view, it is true that Baozhen is more suitable than Daiyu to be the young wife of a big family. With so many thoughts and responsibilities, how can she have time to sigh about her fate?In Daiyu's "Peach Blossom Journey", she sighed that "the peach blossom curtain is still open outside, and the people in the curtain are thinner than the peach blossom".As for Baochai's "Linjiang Immortal", the sentence "The good wind sends me to Qingyun by force", has undisguised ambition and undiminished arrogance, which can't be compared with other idle men.No wonder Daiyu died young, but she gritted her teeth and survived.What Baochai is not suitable for is Baoyu's wife.If you change to a man with secular ambitions, maybe how to be right! Character determines destiny! The first chapter of the Book of Songs is "Guan Ju", which tells the story of a young man who falls in love with a beautiful girl, who he longs for day and night, and longs to marry her.The second chapter "Ge Qin" describes the girl's mood before returning to Ning to visit her parents, and describes her diligence, frugality, filial piety and respect.The third piece "Juan Er" is about the husband's long-distance military service and his wife's miss.The fourth chapter "樛木" congratulates the newlyweds and wishes the groom good luck and fortune.The fifth chapter, "Katas", congratulates people for having more children.The sixth chapter, namely "Taoyao", congratulates the newlyweds and wishes the bride "be suitable for her family". The first six poems of the Three Hundred Poems are not insignificant.They write about falling in love, getting married, longing for husband and wife's parting, longing for more children, returning to natal family to visit relatives, etc. It can be said that all the main issues in married life have been discussed.The first few articles in the book are all about marriage and family issues without exception, which is very strange!No matter who edited the "Three Hundred Poems", no matter whether Confucius deleted or reorganized the poems, or did some positive work for the "Three Hundred Poems", all of them have undoubtedly explained a problem-the former People attach great importance to marriage and family issues. There are profound historical reasons for this.During the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period, the level of productivity was still very low, and the family was the most basic unit of society. Everyone relied on the strength of the family to meet difficulties, overcome natural disasters, and strive for a happy life. Of course, they hoped for family harmony and family unity and prosperity.Marriage is a big event, because it is related to the future of the family. Therefore, the most important hope for the couple is to "be suitable for their family". In that era, it was also very important for the couple to know how to perform sacrifices, which was the supreme virtue of being a woman. . For rulers, "IKEA" is equally important, and even involves the national economy and people's livelihood.The stability of society often depends on the harmony of each family unit.A good wife and a good husband are less likely to cause misfortune.Every small family is stable, and the people's hearts are also stable, and the work of political and ideological education can be done easily.Wei Wenhou, who listens to ancient music for fear of lying down and listens to Zheng Weizhi's voice without tires, has a famous saying, which is very thorough.He said: "If the family is poor, you will think of a good wife, and if the country is in chaos, you will think of a good minister. If you go up to inherit the ancestral temple and go down to enlighten your descendants, how can you live with it, and how can you be careless if you want it!" "IKEA" is for "appropriate country" .In the eyes of the rulers, "IKEA" and "Yiguo" were originally the same thing, and of course they were regarded as very important. ——It sounds very heavy, and it belongs to the problems that our generation is unwilling to think about.However, if we girls are really accompanied by a superb man like Huang Yaoshi, the owner of Peach Blossom Island, and have a private territory Peach Blossom Island, then "the son returns home, suitable for his family" is not a bad choice. I'm hopelessly worldly, I admit it. there is a distance called love ——There are trees in the south, unstoppable There are trees in the south, which is unstoppable.There are wandering women in the Han Dynasty, which cannot be thought of.The Han Dynasty is so vast that it is impossible to think about it.Jiang Zhi is forever, and it is impossible to think about it. The wrong salary is wrong, and the words are clear.The son of Yugui, said to feed his horse.The Han Dynasty is so vast that it is impossible to think about it.Jiang Zhi is forever, and it is impossible to think about it. Qiaoqiao made a wrong salary, and said to mow his beetle.The son returned home.Words are like horses.The Han Dynasty is so vast that it is impossible to think about it.Jiang Zhi is forever, and it is impossible to think about it. ——"Zhou Nan · Han Guang" Li Qingzhao's: I often remember that the sun is setting in the brook pavilion, and I don't know my way back when I'm intoxicated.Returning to the boat late at the end of the day, I strayed into the depths of the lotus root.Competing for crossing, fighting for crossing, startled a pool of gulls and herons. ——It is so well written, cruise boats and wine, fight among lotus root flowers.Yi An himself is from the north, but what is written in the poem, I think it must be the charm of southern women. Northern women can't swim, or it should be said that they can't play with water so delicately and intimately. I have always had the courage to admit that I am a southerner, and I am vain in my heart.This is thanks to the good foundation laid by the ancients. They painted a good color on the rice paper of the water town in the south of the Yangtze River, making us unbeaten for thousands of years.Southern women are always reminiscent of willow waists and skirts, with charming and graceful faces; think of Liu Yiyi on the bank, smoke rising from houses by the water, a small boat breaking through the water in the evening mist, and the distant shadow of the solitary sail gradually becomes clear, My heart is bright with joy.Northern women are also capable and well-managed, but they are not the same clean and clean, just like one is a water lake and the other is a dry land.Just take cooking as an example, southern women are meticulous in their bones, and they are not afraid of tediousness.Scallions and bean curds can also be prepared beautifully, and they can also be made into soup, but they are rarely stewed carelessly.Boil and boil again, stop at about three, three, seven, seven, like a good commander dispatching troops. "Zhou Nan·Han Guang" is about a young woodcutter who falls in love with a beautiful girl, but is unable to fulfill his wish.Emotionally entangled and unable to be freed, facing the vast river, he sang this moving poem and poured out his full of melancholy.Although it is not explicitly stated in the poem, I feel that the woman he loves is very likely to be from the south—this is my intuition as a woman. I have always felt that the woman "on the side of the water" written in "Jianjia" is a northerner (not only because "Jianjia" belongs to "Qin Feng"), but the "unthinkable" woman in "Jianjia" is more like a southerner .First of all, only southern women are happy to play by the water. They are busy and idle all day long, becoming "wandering women". Second, southern women are reserved and cunning, just like the distress that this woodcutter felt in singing— ——The rain of apricot blossoms when you want to wet your clothes, don't have a subtle annoying feeling. After understanding this state of mind, it is not difficult to understand the poems sung by this man, his singing is floating by the Han River every day—— In the south, there are big trees with high branches and leaves, and there are few pedestrians under the trees to rest.There is a wandering woman in the Han River, and it is futile to pursue her.The mighty Han River is so broad, it is melancholy that I cannot swim across the sky.The billowing Han River is so long, it is impossible to ferry the empty sorrow. The miscellaneous bushes grow tall, and the thorns must be cut for firewood.If that girl is marrying me, she will feed the shaft horse to its full.The mighty Han River is so broad, it is melancholy that I cannot swim across the sky.The billowing Han River is so long, it is impossible to ferry the empty sorrow. The weeds are overgrown and criss-crossed, and Artemisia betel is cut down for firewood.If that girl is marrying me, she will feed her pony and drive to welcome her.The mighty Han River is so broad, it is melancholy that I cannot swim across the sky.The billowing Han River is so long, it is impossible to ferry the empty sorrow. There is not a single word in the poem about the woman's face and appearance, nor her behavior, words and deeds, and the description of her is as broad as a dense mist.From the very beginning, she only existed in the poet's chanting memories, and became the spiritual totem controlling him—out of reach, high above, and impossible to get rid of.It can be seen from this that the annoyance of Jiangnan women is just like the attitude in this poem that is both far and near so that people can see but can't touch it, slipping like a koi, it's really disgusting! Chen Qiyuan summarized the poetic realm in "Mao Shi Ji Gu Bian" as "visible but not seekable", which is very accurate.What is shown is the so-called "desire situation" of Western Romanticism, that is, the object of desire and pursuit is far away and on the other side. It can be seen with eyes but not touched with hands. It can always be yearned for but never reached. realm. "Qin Feng·Jian Jia" is also an excellent work depicting "the situation of admiration". Compared with it, it seems to be ethereal and symbolic, while it is concrete and realistic. There are no specific events or scenes in the whole "Jianjia", and it is difficult to identify whether the owner is a man or a woman. The poet deliberately exaggerates a kind of longing but elusive mood.It is relatively more concrete and realistic, with specific characters: a woodcutter and a wandering girl; a detailed emotional journey: hope, disappointment, fantasy, and disillusionment; The descriptions of natural scenery in "Yong" are all specific. Wang Shizhen believes that it is the beginning of Chinese landscape literature, and it is one of the few poems in the book that "depicts landscape" (see "Poems of Daijingtang"), and it is not unreasonable.Of course, ethereal symbols can provide a broad space for imagination, but concrete realism is not easy to transcend aesthetics.Qian Zhongshu discussed the archetypal artistic conception of "enjoying the situation" in "Guan Zhui Bian", and believed that "Qin Feng·Jian Jia" was the main one in "Zhou Nan·Han Guang" as the supplement. Here it is. The scene of love between a man and a woman is actually just like what Cui Hao wrote in "Long Gan Xing": "Where does your family live, and my concubine lives in Hengtang. Stop the boat and ask, or I may be from the same hometown. My home is near the water of Jiujiang, and I come and go to the side of Jiujiang. The same He’s from Changgan, and we don’t know each other since we were young.” When a woman falls in love with a man, she doesn’t really want to know if he’s from her hometown, but she’s just taking the opportunity to strike up a conversation (if she’s not interested in him, He didn't call even when he lived in front of her house.), but he was able to speak in such a tactful and light manner, that he could attack and retreat or defend, which showed his cleverness.Such a playful and sophisticated woman from the water village is as lively as a fish swimming. It is easy for a woman to chase a man as long as she finds the right person, but it is much more tiring for a man to chase a woman.The woodcutter's affectionate melancholy made even us onlookers feel distressed. "Your son, Yugui, promises to feed the horse" (If the woman is marrying me, quickly feed the shaft horse to its full.) "My son, Yugui, promise to feed the horse" (If the woman is marrying me, quickly feed the horse and drive to welcome her. ) so deeply in love that I can't wait. (Masturbation!) At this time, he stopped talking about the width of the river, and it seems that as long as the person he likes calls, the Milky Way can be crossed in one step.It can be seen that the key to the problem is not the breadth and depth of the Han River, but the attitude of the woman.It's a pity that she doesn't seem to like him, and her reaction is very cold.Lovesickness is useless, on the contrary it is too expensive pain.This made the woodcutter vomit to death, and sighed loudly towards the Han River: "There are wandering girls in Han, so I can't think about it." King Xiang has a dream, but the goddess has no heart.This love really needs to be tossed and tossed.But the relationship between people is like this, how well you treat me does not mean how well I want to treat you.There is no rule of fair dealing here.You blame her for being ruthless, who told you to fall in love with her? Who is more sober than whom, and who is more cruel than whom. Some ancient poets interpreted "Han Guangyou Girl" as the goddess of Han River, who will be attached to be the love of man and god, but there are quite a few followers, which shows that people have a romantic side in their minds.However, it can also be seen that everyone's common perception is that there is no hope for this man!The love between human beings has risen to the level of love between human beings and gods, separated by immortals and mortals, this man is completely useless. Possibly the oldest poem about unrequited love.At that time, this man's devotion did not impress his ideal person, but after a thousand years, it touched countless hearts, people felt his infatuation and remembered him, or, what really moved people was not only his infatuation, but Everyone has experienced "the pain of not being able to ask for it". The gains and losses of life are so unpredictable. What's more, sometimes the love between two people doesn't necessarily mean everything will be fine.From the goddess of Hanshui, I naturally thought of the goddess of Luoshui, and I thought of Li Shangyin's poem: "Concubine Mi stays as a pillow for Wei Wangcai", which is about the indistinct love affair between Zhen Mi and Cao Zhi.After Zhen Mi's death, Cao Zhuzhi didn't know that out of guilt towards his younger brother, he still wanted to stimulate him harder and make him completely collapse. Anyway, Cao Pi gave the golden jade belt pillow left by Concubine Mi to him. Cao Zhi.Holding the pillow in his arms, Cao Zhi was so in pain that he came to the edge of Luoshui in a trance, and saw the dead Zhen Mi turned into a goddess to meet him.After waking up, I couldn't tell whether it was a dream or it was real, but the scene of the meeting was still vivid in my mind.A generation of talented scholars were filled with emotions, so they wrote down the "Luo Shen Fu" that has been passed down through the ages.In fact, it also has a more personal name called "Gan Zhen Fu". When Zhen Mi's son Wei Mingdi grew up, he felt that it was inappropriate for his little uncle to write about his feelings for his mother so blatantly, so he changed the name to "Luo Shen" Fu". It can be seen that whether it is a king, grandson or ordinary people, life is always unsatisfactory. If there is an inexhaustible meaning in everything, the creation cannot avoid me, and ghosts and gods cannot harm me.If the karma must be fulfilled and the achievements must be profitable, there will be no internal changes, but external worries.There is an old saying: when the moon is full, it will lose money, and when the water is full, it will overflow.Sometimes it's not necessarily a bad thing to have a little regret. People always have unfulfilled dreams, and they keep it in their hearts, so that they can make progress in the next life.