Chapter 13 Chapter 5.2

The names of certain foreign people, once Chineseized, seem to be portraits of their characters.From their Chinese names, you can appreciate their temperament, character, and even convey the characteristics and charm of their image... I think life can also be compared to a canvas.Someone's life is like a huge canvas, on which the scenes shown are magnificent and majestic.Some people's life is full of splash-ink style, freehand style romance, or drama full of ups and downs.Looking at their life canvas is like reading a comic book. But the canvas of most people's lives is small.My life canvas is an example of most people.My friends and I still jokingly call it "handkerchief life".Yes, it is in such a large size that I paint my ordinary life very seriously layer by layer with realistic, sometimes even fine-brush painting.

Childhood is the base color of the canvas of life.Even if a shadowy human figure is outlined on the background color, it often belongs to the kind of "point color" source and "impression" source.From a distance, you may still be able to distinguish the outline, but if you look closely, you can trace it into one piece with the background color.After all, the edge of the outline blends too flat with the background color, and cannot stand out from the background color... In my opinion, a teenager is the first sketch of a person on the canvas of life.At this time, the eyebrows of a young man on the canvas are slightly clear.Already his expression silently foreshadows his future disposition and character.Even, some congenital factors are implicit in his eyes, which heralds his future destiny...

Children who live in a carefree environment do not expect themselves to grow up quickly.They instinctively put off any sense of responsibility.However, a child in a poor family will look forward to growing up one day earlier, as if looking forward to putting on a piece of clothing. They or they instinctively hope to take some responsibility for the family one day earlier. Mothers of poor children are especially pitiful during festivals.At this time, compared with the black beast, human beings are helpless.The lives of birds and beasts are not divided into annuals, so their mothers don't need to worry about their extraordinarily overwhelming obligations day and night when certain days are coming.

Family ties are naturally based on blood ties.But I think—that part of the family relationship that goes beyond the blood relationship is also very worth keeping... The reason why I retweeted frequently is because my heart is gradually full of gratitude.This gratitude is the seed of the warmth of the world that has been photographed in a young man's heart.I went from youth to youth to middle age, and those seeds quietly grew on my heart like spring grass... A man's lifelong attitude towards women, as far as I think, depends on whether he is lucky enough to receive the care and love of various non-blood or even non-kinship women in his youth, which is beneficial to the formation of emotional texture.And what kind of subtle education can be obtained from them.

When a man knows that he has a friend who would never betray him under any circumstances, he feels that he has a special wealth. It is really a kind of fate in life that we come together from all over the world.We all need to cherish this fate.As for the others, we don't care if they are not what we want! I turned my head and looked at my life, I couldn't help but be amazed, then awe-inspiring, and then filled with a lot of emotion in my heart!Why, in my life, have there been so many kind and good people who have helped me, cared for me, and given me lasting or unforgettable friendship and warmth in the world?I am grateful and moved, how wonderful!Because in this way, the other side of life, such as disgust, resentment, hostility, and trivial grudges, will appear very petty, superficial, and mediocre...

People who live around good people will probably have this kind of temporary kindness in their hearts, and they can't always restrain this kind of self-expression impulse.It shows that if you are confident that you are still standing next to a good person, you will get a kind of comfort, and a sense of peace of mind and a sense of satisfaction and dignity that proves something. Once it is almost instinctive, we can only be in awe of it. I think that advocating business is an important and important part of human nature.I am convinced that the sublime is also an aspect of human nature. If the evil in human nature has a natural color, then the good in human nature also has a neutral color.Human nature has an undesirable tendency to attempt to degenerate, and degeneration often makes human nature happy.But human nature also has a noble tendency to desire sublimation, and sublimation makes human nature radiate charm.People who have been in depravity for a long time do not really feel happy for a long time.

Although human nature is born with a desire to sublimate, it is impossible for human society to design situations to satisfy this natural tension of human nature.This suppresses the noble tendency of human nature to desire sublimation. Like many people, the love of family is draining from my heart, piece by piece.I often say to myself that family affection is the most precious thing among others.But when family affection interferes with others, they often hopelessly regard others as more important than family affection.Like family affection is a walnut, something that can be placed for a long time.The others are grapes, which must be eaten up in time, otherwise they will rot overnight, and if they are rotten, they will make themselves very delicate.The most important things of contemporary people are often the most practical things.

The military uniform deprived them of the right to escape danger and escape from Chonggao.That's our human instinct and self-imposed privilege that we're not soldiers... If we look at life from a human perspective, we will find that even children and teenagers are often unavoidable to get old! The premonition of the wild fox before death is very strong.As soon as they realize that their time is at an end, they return as much as possible to their first den. Don't take anyone's word for those who declare that they have no nostalgia.When they announced this, they just said that—for them, the past must be constantly being cut, and the reason is still chaotic.

If a person really hasn't been old at all—then that seems enough to prove that his or her human quality is quite questionable. The life characteristics of most people are basically like this-looking forward when they are young, looking ahead when they are young, looking back while walking involuntarily on the road of life in middle age, and neither looking back nor looking up when they are old up.Old people are used to bowing their heads and meditating.Nostalgia is the emotional comfort of the elderly.He didn't need too many things anymore, so he searched without looking aggressively.What should be remembered is imprinted in his mind, so he doesn't have to look back frequently to find the so-called life - it's just a memory composed of nostalgic fragments...

"Love" is a noble and great state of mind. "Love" is always in the hearts of human beings, so that human beings will not degenerate back to the animal world. "Love" comes from the heart of fraternity. It is difficult for most people to reach this state.We can only awaken our half-numbed "love" once in a certain time, a certain place, a certain situation and a specific thing.Once we can treat people and things with "love", how gratified we will be to ourselves! Kindness is the foundation of "love". "Love" has a natural influence, unless people reject its influence, reject its influence, and resist its influence.

I have always regarded the feelings and friendship between me and them as "real estate", and I am afraid that if I use it, it will depreciate. Harbin people have an unacceptable "strength", that is, they almost don't regard asking for help as a thing at all. I don't care if the other party makes trouble.I don't care if I get rejected in person.In short, hurting the Buddha is a habit and a tradition.It's like kicking a stone while walking, and it happens that what you kick is not a stone, but a key to unlock something, you will be happy.I couldn't kick a key all the way, but I didn't feel annoyed, and continued to walk and kick all the way.The stone hurt my feet, and I frowned.Today you beg me, tomorrow I beg you, not only can't live easily, I thought it would be very tiring on the contrary. I advocate that we first imagine the difficulties we encounter in life, no one can ask anyone for help, and I advocate that we first put ourselves in a situation of isolation and helplessness.In Li's way, the result is very likely——we found that some difficulties are not as insurmountable as I estimated.Some things were accomplished, and even if they were not achieved, the loss was not so great as we estimated.We will find that for some purposes, if we give up, we give up.Aren't people living as long as they hope for something but fail in the end?In some cases, for ordinary people, asking for help simply means high-interest loans. What I said is not asking people to pay attention to their benefits, but that the interest paid is often the ambition of the person.With this ambition, the living state of a person often collapses on its own. Warmth often belongs to a small life situation.Rich people can't actually enjoy much warmth.Because of their wealth, they are doomed to pursue grandeur and luxury.And warmth is even a living situation that can be presented in the small broken houses of the poor.Warmth is the experience and enjoyment of ordinary people. In terms of material life, I am an absolutely ambitious person. Don't say that ordinary people are only worthy of living a small life, but change your way of thinking and experience some of the warmth of small people's small life.And like weaving a bird, weave a small warm home, savor every day of the common people leisurely and carefully. Retiring early or resigning altogether is tantamount to completely breaking off the "engagement" with the system that one relies on.It takes a lot of courage, the system will not compensate you like a rich husband. Pleasure sometimes requires money to sustain. If there is no sympathy for others, there will be no impulse for some people to hope to do something for others.Then there is probably only the impulse of people to be proud of themselves in the world.And the world has really come to such a point that even a merciful God would be disgusted. It is, of course, the law of revolutions that revolutions take place in the poorest areas. But why are the old revolutionary areas often still the poorest places on our 9.6 million square kilometers of land after the liberation of the Forty Middle School? It is not enough that we ourselves are a little less hypocritical.It is not enough for us to have certain feelings. What else can we do for those who are haunted by aggressive poverty? Only by making China prosperous and strong can the filial piety of the Chinese sons and daughters of all ages not be soaked in so long sorrow and so sad tears. Only by making China prosperous and strong, the premise of family affection is the warm family happiness; children can face the birth, old age, sickness and death of their parents more ideally; next thing Home - the most reliable "joint venture". Life is like a boat.After all, home is the harbor with the most right to dock.It is unimaginable for a person past middle age to live without a home.Divorcees, in the final analysis, are looking for another harbor.Without the support of this hope, divorce is just a misfortune... A stable family is like the most reliable "joint venture".Families with fictitious relationships, family relationships that exist in name only, are naturally like a "leather bag company" formed by two "joint venture" partners who have no morals to speak of.If one party is in trouble, it's no wonder the other party doesn't pull the trigger!The "joint venture" relationship of the family is of course not just a journal of income and expenditure.The "investment" of the two parties also includes their respective emotions, their sense of responsibility, and their respective spirits of enduring hardship first, enjoying later, sharing weal and woe, and sharing weal and woe. I am glad that I am working in a reliable "joint venture unit"-as a husband, as a father, as a son, and as a brother.Tired.Go all out. But I never had the idea of ​​​​"jumping bad".Neither of the husband and wife had the secret idea of ​​who was going to "fry" who was "disturbing the fish"... I wish many "joint ventures" such as "homes" to have good economic and spiritual benefits, and to be more "communist" rather than more "shareholding" and "private"... I often hope that at a certain time and in a certain space, I can become a person like a plant - I can hear and see, but I never think about it, nor do I have any ideas.I only enjoy talking about my instinct to hear and see.It's like a plant rolling its leaves lazily in the sun, and the instinct to stretch out the leaves in the rainy season, if the leaves are happy at that time. Even if God really exists, his disregard for the right to life is a damnable invention! The very birth of a human being is a miracle in itself. Since I became a father, I have always regarded my father's responsibility as one of the most important responsibilities in my life. I used to think I was a man who lacked paternal affection. After I got married, I was terrified of taking on the responsibilities of being a father too soon.Because I am too quiet in love. When I think of my 11-square-meter home, the sound of children crying, and a three- or four-year-old boy or girl crawling all over the floor, I feel that it is almost torture, and I am a bit creepy and generous. I often think that the vast majority of people in our generation are pulling our parents' ragged skirts, hoping to walk in the footsteps of the Republic.Why, when our next generation consumes anything, they seem to take it for granted and don't hesitate to resort to the wind of loss, which is much more than the children of rich families in rich countries in the West?As if we were their incredibly rich parents.Are we so absurd that we think so?If not, why don't we tell them something they should know?Of course, my son can learn to draw on high-quality copy paper, he can have many colored pens, he doesn’t need to carry a mended schoolbag, and he can have a “purple ice cream” whenever he wants to eat… But he must understand that all this is indeed one of the so-called "happiness"! I don't want to cultivate a person who seems to have everything when he is young, but when he grows up, he thinks that everything in this world is ready for him, so he can only complain and even hate. Being carefree and basically having everything you need can provide the future society with a person who is at least physically and mentally healthy, and can also "bring up" a group of young masters and ladies. This country and this nation can no longer afford to support so many masters and ladies.There's already enough of it! Is not it? A generation of young masters and young ladies is the greatest retribution for any country or nation.But against a poor country and a nation that is awakening, it is tantamount to revenge. Who doesn't want to have a little garden?The field is probably one foot long!If there is, contemporary people will definitely surround it with wooden fences.The wooden fence, I think, will be made as beautiful as possible according to everyone's conditions and wishes.Then remove the flower seeds in spring, or transplant the flower ranks.So, looking forward to my favorite flowers, the fields will grow and spit out camps every day, and they will bloom in purple circles and red in summer.Although it withers in autumn, it is not sad.I took the flower seeds carefully and planted them next year. I believe the flowers will bloom even more beautifully... Really, who hasn't harbored such a dream? Every inch of land in the city is worth a fortune, and the price of land is getting higher and higher.It will be higher in the future.The hope of having a small garden is nothing more than a luxury and a dream for ordinary people.Certain cadres above the ministerial level, and those with senior qualifications, may wish to realize it.So ordinary people envy and squint. I think, in fact, everyone has a small garden, and everyone has a nursery. This is our inner world.People's intelligence needs to be developed, and people's inner world also needs to be developed.The difference between humans and animals, in addition to many well-known aspects, is probably that humans have an inner world.The heart is just an important organ of a person, while the inner world is a kind of landscape, which is gradually formed by the external world constantly acting on the heart.Everyone pays so much attention to the health of their own heart and those of their loved ones, that even the slightest illness makes them feel anxious all day long.But not everyone pays attention to the inner world of themselves and their loved ones. I am a layman, and I can only teach with layman's ideas and methods.As for some mystical statements of the family and even the Zen ancestors, I have always held a disrespectful and light attitude.Thought to cast anything really "esoteric" except for the wit of sophistry.Among modern people, I have never met a person who is "empty" with inner security.There are many people who are full of "emptiness" but are actually full of material desires and never forget fame and fortune.What's more, I don't want my son to become a monk in the future and become a wandering monk.Therefore, my first teaching to my son is that the inner world of a person, or the mind of a blind person, is probably the most likely to attract dust and dirt, and "wiping it frequently" will not help. The cleanliness of the mind can only be relative, just like the cleanliness of a person's dwelling can only be relative.Not wiping the face at all, or even not being happy for others to point out the dust and dirt, is an extremely undesirable attitude, just like a patient avoiding medical treatment. There is no way to be jealous.From the great to the ordinary, there is jealousy.There are no people who have ever given birth to jealousy. It is impossible for all so-called good things and good opportunities to happen to you as a matter of course.When it happens to others, you should say to yourself, my chance and luck may be next time.Also, some things don't really matter. All these phenomena related to people's inner world will also be related to a person's happiness in the future. I really feel sad for the children from the bottom of my heart - lack of friendship, lack of happy time, all day full of grades, rankings and pressure from both parents and schools. In such a juvenile stage, in the future, there will be no content worth returning to billions of dollars, right?It's also good to have a son who is somewhat rebellious.Such a son always reminds me that I am just the father of a tough second boy.Other than that, maybe nothing.There is no capital to be proud of.My son taught me to be a man with my tail between my legs at home. Making friends with your sophomore son is not going to be easy.Sometimes he seems to regard you as a friend, but in his heart, you are still just his father. All the beauty in the world is first discovered, created and appreciated because of the existence of women.Women are trees of beauty, constantly bearing the fruit of beauty.There is no doubt that many beautiful things have been discovered and created by men.But if there were no women in the world, men would not have the urge to discover, create, yearn for, and appreciate beauty.So there is no art at all.Human beings without art are just animals that treat the earth itself as a wild zoo.And the imagination of technology also does not come from the minds of men. For the world and human beings, women's first contribution is not to reproduce offspring, but to reproduce beauty.Furthermore, human beings can tolerate the absence of a new generation, but absolutely cannot bear the absence of women. Being born a woman is something to be proud of.The beauty of women is the quality premise of the beauty of the world. Women, for a better world, make yourself more beautiful!The world will be more beautiful because of women's more beautiful images; it will also be more beautiful because of women's more beautiful hearts and temperaments... Men always want to marry beautiful women as wives. Women always hope to marry a man who has social status, money, power, or handsome and unrestrained style. Regardless of men or women, most people are willing to make "useful" friends. Therefore, heroes have something to say-"When a man lives in the world, he should be a hero to all four." Therefore, the literati have a saying-"There are great Confucian scholars when talking and laughing, but there are no white people in communication." proud of.be proud of. Therefore, "there are few public holidays and few old friends in the poor alleys". Therefore, "Life is a noble, and every time you talk about the common people. Whoever is willing to live in a pavilion can still read grass"——then sighed with emotion in the world. But the mother loves her most "useless" children the most. So my current wife left my life one day.She was innocent and a little silly.At the age of twenty-six, he is resolutely unsophisticated.To say that she is a big girl is to "flatter" her, at best it can only be said that she is a big girl.Maybe it has something to do with her being fourteen or fifteen years old in the countryside... She was "recommended" to me by a deputy secretary of the party branch of our literature department. I feel like I was so stupid. "Love" does not necessarily have to be married!Since I need some tenderness and femininity in my bachelor life, why refuse the opportunity to "love"! ... This flash of thought is actually very selfish.It can even be said to be pretty bad. I told her what a poor kid I was when I was a child, what a pauper I am still today, and how I was in poor health, with stomach problems, liver problems, early heart problems, and so on.Moreover, my family burden is really heavy wow!And thinking that such a man can be a husband just by making do, means that he is making such a terrible and serious mistake.A girl is absolutely incapable of making things up, making do with, or being sloppy in this kind of matter.But, if you are a good friend in a general sense, I am still very affectionate.The situation at that time was just like that sung in a song-I told her about my childhood/She stared at me with big black eyes/Looked at me stupidly... I have successfully frightened away a few girls who I thought had no "destiny" with me in this rather hypocritical and cunning way.