Chapter 34 Bian Yinhe said: They are all my children (1)

In addition to taking care of Bian Mengfei, there are several children in Beijing who need to be taken care of by Bian Yinkai.Bian Huan, Bian Hong, Dong Anfan and Bian Guoer, the daughter of Bian Hong.When it comes to Bian Guoer, I want to talk about it.Bian Guoer called Bian Yinhe his cousin. When Bian Lang was sentenced in 2000, Bian Guoer was in the first grade of elementary school.After Bian Lang was sentenced to death with a reprieve, in order not to drag his wife Jiang Qian down, Bian Lang took the initiative to file for divorce, and at the same time asked Jiang Qian to leave his daughter Bian Guoer to him.Jiang Qian was reluctant, logically she had every reason to leave Bian Guoer.But she has feelings for Bian Lang, she feels sorry for Bian Lang, thinking that he has nothing left, and she can start over, so she agrees.From then on, Bian Guoer lived with her grandparents, and Jiang Qian would often visit her daughter.Bian Guoer’s teacher knew about Bian Lang’s matter, and the teacher knew about it, so it spread to the ears of some parents, and the parents passed it on to their children, and the children passed it on by word of mouth. Gradually, the whole class knew about it.In this way, Bian Guoer has a low self-esteem. She who used to have a lively personality has become quiet and reticent. She doesn't like to talk or play with her classmates anymore. She likes to be alone, even if her classmates don't openly look down on her.

The grandfather, Bian Jinli, was afraid that his granddaughter's personality would be distorted because of this. His children had failed in life one by one. This granddaughter was his offspring, his treasure, and his hope. He must let her grow up healthily.After much deliberation, I think that sending Bian Guoer to go to school in other places is the only good strategy. In Lanzhou, whichever school Bian Guoer transfers to, she has to face the embarrassment of teacher home visits and parent-teacher meetings. The status will also be guessed by teachers and classmates, which is actually no different from knowing the truth.In other places, it is completely normal for classmates and teachers not to meet Bian Guoer's parents. As long as Bian Guoer doesn't talk about her father, no one will know her background.The only place that comes to mind is Beijing, because Beijing has a niece Bian Yinxuan, and Bian Yinxuan is just outstanding. Bian Guoer grows up with her, and the psychological impact will definitely change from inferiority to self-confidence; self-confidence is a necessary condition for healthy development.After thinking about it, he was a little hesitant and embarrassed, thinking that Bian Yinkai was not his own daughter, so how could he cause her trouble, although he would not rely on Bian Yinkai for money.When trying to get Bian Yinxuan, Bian Yinxuan sincerely told his second uncle Bian Jinli that the family should stop talking about the two families.While Bian Jinli was moved, he decided to send Bian Guoer to Beijing to go to school.

Since Bian Jinli was determined to raise his granddaughter Bian Guoer well, when Bian Guoer arrived in Beijing, he arranged for her to attend a top-notch private boarding school.The tuition fees of private boarding schools are very expensive. Because of Bian Lang's incident, the family's financial situation has long been worse than before. In exchange for the rosewood official hat chair.After Bian Guoer arrived in Beijing, Bian Jinli, who was over 70 years old, dragged his no longer strong body, strengthened his spirit, and began to revive the company.He thought sadly: After raising his children and granddaughter, by the time his granddaughter grows up, he might have already fallen into the loess.In his life, he could never hope to enjoy family happiness.If there is a next life, his life, he must think carefully about it and leave.What he was thinking about was actually the consequence of every step he took.He thought, the most important step is to marry a woman.Because the woman will bear him offspring, and the offspring is the joint creation of him and the woman; different women will have different achievements.At the same time, his temperament and disposition will also be cultivated in different ways.There is a saying that goes well: what kind of marriage you have, what kind of life you have.It's a pity that he understands this truth in the 21st century.He sighed: life, not too much, two lifetimes are enough.Do exploration in the first life.

As a well-known actress, Bian Yinhe is very busy with constant film appointments. She spends half of the year away from Beijing. Speaking of which, the time she has to take care of Bian Guoer is limited.Fortunately, Bian Guoer went to a private boarding school.The time to take care of Bian Guoer is limited, and the time to take care of several other children in Beijing is also limited.But as long as Bian Yinhe is in Beijing, she will take care of every child in her limited spare time.She treats those children equally and impartially; if you buy them food, clothing, and clothing, everyone has a share, and she never favors one over another.On weekends or holidays, she will try her best to spend time with them.

The more Bian Yinhe participated in filming, the more money he earned.Since the beginning of the market economy, the standard of remuneration for actors has been increasing year by year, and there has been a so-called "star price".Bian Yinhe is a famous actor, so he naturally earns "star price".When he became rich, Bian Yinkai bought a big house with three bedrooms and two living rooms, and got his own car.She is alone, buying a three-bedroom house is a bit extravagant, but she is not thinking about herself, she is thinking about her parents, sisters, younger brothers and all relatives in the family. When they come to Beijing, they will have a place to live.In the long run, if parents are willing, they can follow her and settle down in Beijing.

The children came to Beijing one after another, and Bian Yinkai's big house came in handy.When the niece Bian Huan came to Beijing, Bian Yincai had just moved into a big house, and when Bian Huan came, she lived in Bian Yincai's house.Later, even if Bian Huan got a job, no unit would care about her living as a foreigner, so she always lived in the house of her fourth aunt Bian Yinhe.She has the house key, and the fourth aunt's home is just like her home.Next, Bian Hong, Bian Guoer, and Bian Mengfei came to Beijing to go to school in line. Although they live in the school, if they catch up with Bian Yinxuan in Beijing on weekends and holidays, she would rather give up some unnecessary gatherings than Be there for those kids.She would drive to the school to pick up the children one by one, take them to her home, and spend a day or two with them.She may take them out to walk around the street, or to play, or just to have a good meal, no matter what, they always come in and out of this house.At that time, Bian Yinkai's house was full of people coming out and going in, and it was full of popularity; when she stayed in the house, her big house was filled with their laughter, excitement and people.Whenever she was caught among the children, with vigor and vitality, she seemed to be the oldest child.

After Dong Anfan came out of the detention center, he was determined to repent, but he didn't want to go back to Lanzhou. He decided to learn a skill and find a job in Beijing. In Beijing, he could earn much more money than in Lanzhou and improve his quality.His parents had no idea what to do for him and said whatever he wanted.Bian Yinxi agreed with Dong Anfan's career in Beijing, but told Dong Anfan to go back to Lanzhou to visit his parents before coming back.Dong Anfan nodded in agreement.Bian Yinkai bought him a train ticket and gave him some money, so he went back to Lanzhou to visit his parents.Half a month later, Dong Anfan returned to Beijing and joined the Bian family's children in Beijing.Bian Yinhe paid the money, and Dong Anfan went to a decoration design class held by a university.Dong Anfan doesn’t care about food and lodging in the training class. For the time being, Dong Anfan is just like Bian Huan. He has the key to the house of his fourth aunt Bian Yinhe and treats him like his own home.

The relationship between the children and Bian Yinxuan is interesting. Bian Guoer calls Bian Yinxuan her cousin, Bian Huan, Bian Cong, and Dong Anfan call Bian Yinxuan her fourth aunt, and Bian Mengfei, who is younger than Bian Huan, Bian Cong, and Dong Anfan, calls Bian Yinxuan her cousin.This reflects the prosperity of their family.No matter whether they are called sister Bian Yinkai, aunt, or aunt, in Bian Yinkai's heart these children are all her children, and she treats them with equal care.Although she will explain in detail when talking to outsiders, saying that this is the eldest sister's child, that is the uncle's child, etc., but at the end she always emphasizes: They are all my children.People looked at her energetic appearance and deliberately said in an exaggerated tone: You don't look like a child's mother, you are more like a sister.Bian Yinkai made a proud look and said: Does it look like it? The facts are there!People will follow up and joke: Well, even if you don't get married and have children, you will have a house full of children and grandchildren in the future.Bian Yinkai smiled and said: Yes.There was a look of relief on his face.What she was gratified was not herself, but her family, whose prosperity gave her support.

Although Bian Yinkai had few gatherings with the children, she had exclusive gatherings with the children, and she felt really close to them; one good meeting with them made up for the lack of contact she had with them since they were born.When she became an actress, Bian Huan was only one year old. Dong Anfan, Bian Hong, and Bian Mengfei were not born yet, let alone Bian Guoer, who was born in the 1990s.When they were just old enough to remember, Bian Yinxie had already been transferred to Beijing.The rare opportunity that she returned to Lanzhou once a year or even once every two or three years made her just see them in a hurry, and she didn't have enough time to get in touch with them; she never fully understood them. The "joking" with them by chance is completely superficial, and it should be etiquette.What she knew about them was just what she said, what she heard occasionally from their parents, it was just a general idea.What she knows is: Bian Huan's studies are mediocre, always complaining; Dong Anfan is eloquent and clever; Bian Hong is smart, sensible and eager to learn; Bian Mengfei is the most general, everything is okay, and the comprehensive development seems to be balanced. ; Bian Guo'er is at least ten years younger than them all, and she is still growing, so I won't talk about it.Having had personal contact with them, Bian Yinxie knew the yearning, confusion and ambition deep in the hearts of the children.It's all about their parents, their family.

Since Bian Yinhe was their elder, he always had to tell them something targeted.But she never said it rigidly, it was because of emotion.Bian Huan and Dong Anfan envied her, saying that it would be great if their mother was as good as Fourth Aunt in all aspects.Bian Yinhe told them with a smile, I am your mother, and it is not you who gave birth to me.Then she would tell them, don't complain about your parents, complain about your birth.Parents gave you life, that is your greatest luck and happiness; otherwise, how would you have the opportunity to see the world, how would you have joy, anger and sorrow, how would you know poverty and wealth, how would you have complained and envied.Therefore, children must always have a heart of gratitude to their parents.Parents are the root of children; at any time, the root cannot be forgotten.Children will also say that parents should also be responsible and have greatness. Bian Yinxie said: As long as parents do their best to support them, they are great; as long as they provide you with education and give you free development, they are responsible.How to develop depends on oneself, not on parents.To understand parents, to know gratitude; this is an endless belief and inheritance.Bian Huan and Dong Anfan revealed it more than once, so Bian Yinhe also said it more than once.This is also the indoctrination of concepts. When accumulated, Bian Huan and Dong Anfan will be touched, and they need to think about it.Although the words were meant for Bian Huan and Dong Anfan, Bian Cong, Bian Mengfei and Bian Guoer would also hear them, but Bian Yinxuan knew that Bian Cong could rely on his innate ability or his self-awareness, and he no longer needed it. Reminder, he is setting a model instead, just like his intelligence, which will only make people admire him; since Bian Mengfei has understood the divorce of his parents before he went to college, if he has parents divorced, he will not divorce his parents, It is inevitable for his thinking to mature; Bian Guoer is still young, and her growth has just begun, and the thinking she opened to Bian Guoer is also just beginning. Bian Guoer followed her, and she would not let Bian Guoer get out of her eyelids. Down to disappointment.

Bian Yinxie's understanding of "life" is the result of her thinking.She lives alone in Beijing, unmarried, without a family, and outside of work, she spends enough time alone.Being alone makes it easy to get lost in thought.She often thinks about life.When thinking of life, Bian Yinhe always thinks of her grandpa and grandma first, and she can't help but take out the family heirloom left by her grandparents, the silver dollar engraved with the equal sign that grandpa used to buy grandma back then.The silver dollar has been oxidized, its color has turned yellow and darkened, and the two "equal signs" still exude the sharpness of the tip of a knife. Looking at it, it seems that I saw my grandfather in his youth, full of blood like the tip of a knife. Edge power.It was his determination that gave birth to their family.In their family, everyone lives differently, what kind of life does everyone encounter!No matter how lamented, no matter how lost, no matter how sad, they will continue to stimulate the process of life, expand the family, expand life, and dare not neglect life.Grandpa and grandma are the roots of their family; silver dollars are the historical witness of their family.The family is a family, how can she not love the children of the family? Bian Yinxie's thinking about life is not because she has any troubles or misfortunes, but it is precisely because she has a lot of beauty in herself.Her beauty often moves me, and after being moved, I am grateful.Her gratitude runs deep and is endless.She thought that the birth of a life is a series of accidents.There is an intricate network inside, and any line that deviates from the direction will produce another result.How blessed is every life born!If grandpa hadn't stolen the silver dollars, hadn't been able to "buy" grandma; father patrolling the road, hadn't followed mother, hadn't rescued mother, and so on, grandpa and grandma, father and mother, how could they meet and stay together later?There will be no descendants of them of all kinds in this world.After thinking about it, there will be countless links connected, how accidental life is, and how powerful it is!While being grateful for life in this way, we should also be grateful for the accident; that accident is everyone's blessing and luck.Looking back, this blessing and luck is always given by my parents, how can I not thank my parents?Gratitude is also connected in a circle, everyone is relative, and it is passed down from generation to generation. Bian Yinxi's gratitude was even deeper.In addition to her parents, there is also her grandma. Without her, how could she have such a beautiful face as her grandma?She often celebrates her natural beauty; her natural beauty has made her an actress, famous, and enjoy a life beyond ordinary people.This is not only material, but also spiritual.The life of an actor makes her life rich and prosperous. She has both real life and life in the play.A certain part of life in reality has not yet appeared on the stage, so she is allowed to taste it in advance in the play.In fact, it should be said that her life developed after the life in the play; this is also a parallel development of material and spiritual.She has the lead in life in the play, and she walks in real life firmly and without regret.In this way, she has actually been the same for two lifetimes, but, regardless of the front and the back, they are blended and staggered, taking turns to appear on the stage.Drama condenses the essence of life, and life is the creation and extension of the essence; drama is the outline, life is the details, and life is framed and walked in the drama.Drama is bigger than the sky, and life is infinite.This enables her to transcend reality, but not completely; she is down-to-earth in reality, and draws on the experience in the play, but the two stages can complement each other;She lives from a wide range of experiences and has a wider range of experiences.Experience is the rich substance in her life, which makes her live clearly.She often has a feeling of being cultivated, going deep into life, whether it is rich or poor, happiness or suffering, ups and downs or sorrows, perfection or shortcomings, she seems to be able to calmly enter at any time, and at any time to come out calmly.Compared with him, how much life did the brothers and sisters lose?She is very happy.Life is supreme, as long as there is a heart that is grateful for life, the heart is like a play, bigger than the sky.Looking far and deep, what can't be surpassed, what else can be complained about? Bian Yinxuan got to know the children, and the children also got to know Bian Yinxuan.In the past few years, during their limited meetings with Bian Yinxie, they only felt that she was beautiful in appearance, and they heard her comments from many people in the family, just like Bian Yinxie's comments on them were heard from the adults.The evaluation of Bian Yinkai they heard was just one word, good.They felt that Bian Yinxi was in a hurry, except for what the adults said, that was the superficial phenomenon they felt.She is gentle, enthusiastic, and kind to everyone; she is generous, and she will give them gifts every time they meet, often with adults; Every time we run into her parents' house, she always has work to do, either cooking, washing dishes, mopping the floor, wiping the table, and washing clothes, with a happy face, as if labor is a very happy thing.Sometimes, she can be seen beating and massaging her grandparents' back very vigorously, and her grandparents look happy.They have seen relatives in the family, and many of them have had quarrels with their parents or siblings, but they have never encountered anyone in the family who has blushed, quarreled, or even argued.Now that they were all around her, they felt more and more for her.She has some time, and tries to give it to them as much as she can, making their time outside of studies enjoyable.Every time she gathers, she always thinks of ways to let them eat, drink and have fun; she cares about their studies and their lives, and when she participates, she gives more love than their parents.Has anyone other than their parents ever cared for them so enthusiastically?Their evaluation of her is the evaluation of her by adults in the past. There is still only one word, okay.They didn't understand her work, but they thought to themselves, she was such a nice person, no wonder she was famous. In addition to the feelings Bian Yinhe brought to the children, the children also had comparisons and feelings with each other.Bian Hong felt more and more the greatness of his mother, and she never let go of her efforts.Bian Mengfei felt that although his parents were divorced, his life was still much better than everyone else's. He couldn't live up to his existing excellent material life foundation.Bian Huan gradually felt guilty.Being "educated" by her fourth aunt, she sent all the money she had saved to her mother a few months after she came to Beijing, saying that it was to pay back the family's debts and buy a house to subsidize; Every month, some money will be sent to the family; after that, if there is any need at home, just call her; in the long run, she will also say that if she can establish a family in Beijing in the future, the mother will take care of the grocery store. Move to Beijing.Bian Huan's words became warmer each time, and his mother, Bian Yinhua, didn't know how to answer her words.Mother and daughter naturally cross the barrier.Bian Yinhua thought proudly that her daughter was not born in vain.Bian Huan's words made her work and live hard.Not to be outdone, Dong Anfan made a ten-year plan for himself, with goals divided into elementary, intermediate, and advanced stages.The primary stage lays the foundation for work, so that you can stand up in business and not be afraid to go anywhere; the intermediate stage is stability, the core is work, salary and girlfriend; the advanced stage is the result, he becomes a family, has a house and Car, life is going to be well-off. After getting to know Bian Yinxuan, the children will also wonder: Why doesn't Bian Yinxuan, a person who is good in all aspects, not get married?The year when Bian Yinhe and Nanyang fell in love, except for Bian Guoer who was not yet born, the other children were at least in elementary school at that time, and their memory of Nanyang is still clear.Although Nanyang only came to Lanzhou twice during the Spring Festival with Bian Yinxuan, Nanyang left a deep impression on them, and they felt that Bian Yinxuan and Nanyang were a family, and they remembered Nanyang deeply in their hearts.In the first two years after Nanyang's death, Bian Yinxie returned to Lanzhou alone, and they were still not used to it.Gradually got used to it, Bian Yinxie always came back alone.Year after year, it remains the same.Looking at her young appearance, she is actually not a few years younger than their mother.Now, these children in Bian Yinkai's eyes are young people. Standing in front of Bian Yinkai, Bian Mengfei and Bian Hong are taller than her.But she is not married and has no children. They got in touch with Bian Yinxie and knew that there were never many people who pursued her, because when they were alone, they would often encounter men calling her that were not about work.They are young people in the 21st century, well-informed, enlightened early, sensitive and quick to respond, and from the tone of her voice, it can be heard that the other party is interested in her.She also speaks softly to others, without any disgust, but she just can't accept them.Occasionally she accepted some, and brought them for them to see.They have met three of them, and each of them has distinct characteristics: one is a famous professor in the university, elegant and talkative; the other is an actor, good-looking and free and easy;They have different temperaments, but they all have mature and stable postures. They are the best among ordinary people.When they met these children, they were enthusiastic and attentive, which made them like them, and the conclusion they drew was "good".But it was useless for these children to talk about it. Every man disappeared from their sight after dating Bian Yinxie for a period of time.The one with the longest relationship is a university professor, almost a year; the other two have not been more than half a year.Of course they know what's going on, that is: it's not appropriate.This result was decided by Bian Yinkai, and he knew it from the youngest Bian Guoer's questioning.Bian Guoer was not shy about his words, so he asked whenever he wanted to.Bian Yinkai was a serious person, and she didn't treat Bian Guoer like a child. Although she used the tone of speaking to a child, the tone of her words was true.The "inappropriate" she explained was not being able to like it. This disliking was just like Bian Guoer's refusal to do things that her child didn't like to do.Bian Guo'er immediately understood, and stopped asking further questions.They thought, since she is a nice person, she shouldn't be too picky; what kind of man does she like?Their questions were kept in their hearts, and no one was ashamed to ask them directly.After all, they were juniors in front of her, no matter how civilized they were, they still had to be polite.Their thoughts were uttered by Bian Guoer, who had no taboo in children.She asked her cousin, what kind of uncle would she like?This sentence seemed to catch my cousin, she thought for a while and said: When my cousin finds an uncle she likes, you will know what kind of uncle my cousin likes; only when my cousin meets her will you know.Bian Guoer was a little confused, so Bian Yinhe gave her an analogy, saying that what kind of toy or story she likes, she must have seen and heard it before she likes it. Can you know if you like it?Bian Guoer seemed to understand immediately and nodded frequently. Bian Yinhe had an unforgettable Nanyang, how could he not know what kind of man he likes?But Nanyang has already left, and Bian Guoer doesn't know about Nanyang, so it's useless to mention Nanyang to Bian Guoer, and mentioning it will make her hurt again.Nearly ten years later, Nanyang still occupies a place in her heart.But with the passage of time, she has adapted, adjusted, and rationalized. She is no longer as immersed in the past as she was in the first two or three years, unable to extricate herself, unable to extricate herself.She thought that her living a good life might be the best comfort to Nanyang; Nanyang loved her and absolutely did not want to see her live without support.That would actually be a desecration of her life. In terms of personal issues, Bian Yinkai had thought of starting over a few years ago.Starting over is not a matter of make do, she still has to "hit it" with her, she has to meet the "standard" of a man in her mind, and the standard is still set in the past.This state seems to be what she was in after she broke up with Bai Yaming and before she met Nanyang.But looking back, she has been "old" for many years, and there is a love that she misses in her heart, and she left a name of "Nanyang".But she was not as lucky as she was so many years ago, and soon met Nanyang.Not only did she not meet soon, but she talked a lot with each passing year, but most of them were superficial and could not go any further.Sometimes, she wonders, is that her problem or someone else's problem?She pondered over the details carefully, and after pondering, she strengthened her judgment, it wasn't because she had the psychological effect of "Nanyang", and in the end she still had no reason or feeling.In the middle, she also developed a good impression and stepped forward to a deeper level.Such few, very few.Over the years, she has officially dated only two men, one in 1998 and one in 2001.The former one was a director, and he stayed there for a longer period of time, two years.It was said to be two years, they were busy with each other, and the time they spent together was actually only half a year.They broke up after two years.This director, except Bian Huan, the other children have not come to Beijing yet, and have never met.The latter was a university professor whom the children met, and they broke up after less than a year.The reason why she broke up with them was very simple, that is, she no longer hit it off.Bian Yinxie thought that the fate of people also has its long and short.No matter how long or short the fate is, fortunately, she and them are very cautious, and they didn't enter into marriage easily.As for the actor and chairman who have been dating for less than half a year after the university professor, that half year can only be regarded as the stage of contact, nothing to talk about. Having never been married, Bian Yinkai was at peace in his heart, and it was his parents who were worried.They always remind her not to be too demanding, as long as she looks good.Bian Yinxie just said lightly, if there is a suitable one, of course she will not give up.I don't explain a lot to my parents.She knows that her parents can't think from her perspective and can't understand her "picky" life, which is precisely a serious and responsible attitude towards life.But she can understand them from the perspective of parents.They don't have a life of "playing bigger than the sky", without extensive knowledge and vision, they are chivalrous and simple, they have their life principles, life goals and life satisfaction, so they concentrate on their spiritual realm, Without the slightest distracting thoughts, the belief is firm and unshakable.It is a quality of being content with one's duty and abiding by the rules from the heart, and it is also an attitude of conscientious living.Such elders are also worthy of her respect.She has no reason to correct her parents with a life of "playing bigger than the sky"; nor will she change her consciousness just because she wants to respect her parents.Bian Yincai thought that she would never marry for the sake of marriage; if she ended up with marriage, it would be perfunctory life.As long as her life is there, she has to wait, waiting for love, a lover who can share a voice with her; no, she would rather be single for the rest of her life.But in her heart, she absolutely does not want to be single for the rest of her life. No matter how helpless she is, she also hopes, and she also looks forward to it.She thought, in such a big world, with so many people, there must be a man she longed for quietly waiting in a corner, waiting for her arrival to change her life. In the New Year of 2004, a man named Hai Xinshi changed Bian Yinxie's life.He married Bian Yinxie. Bian Yinhe and Hai Xinshi met on the plane to Sanya.They can't talk about love at first sight, but they hit it off right away. In August 2005, at the Maternity Hospital, Bian Yinxie gave birth to a baby boy by caesarean section, named "Ocean".The child is healthy and beautiful.Bian Yinxuan felt indescribably moved and grateful.What moved her was that life gave her happiness again; what she was grateful for was still life, the power of continuity and chance!At this time, Bian Yinhe was forty-four years old, the same age as her grandmother Hou Cuicui when she gave birth to Bian Jinrong.This is not just a coincidence, but a symbol of the cycle of life. June 1, 2004 to March 1, 2005 Revised in August 2005