Chapter 21 Wang Xiangping said: These three daughters are not fuel-efficient lamps (1)

"A daughter who is married off is the water that is poured out." In the eyes of Wang Xiangping, who has a sense of tradition, this is the truth.In addition to the fourth daughter Bian Yinhe in Beijing, after the other three daughters around her got married one after another, she felt that the daughters became family members. Her own home, someone else's home, she can't care much about her daughters, and the daughters no longer depend on her much, so she can worry less about their hearts.Life went on, but not like this. It was Bian Yincao, the youngest who had problems first, who got divorced after less than three years of marriage.But it was not because Bian Yincao was pregnant and had a cold and did not take medicine and injections and insisted on giving birth.The child was born in the spring of 1983, a healthy boy.The child was named "Gao Hong".

The life of Bian Yincao and Gao Guoqiang after marriage is not like what Bian Yincao had imagined, romantic and harmonious, like-minded, and caring for each other.Before marriage, Gao Guoqiang did not accompany Bian Yincao across the street, and neither did he after marriage. Bian Yincao asked for something to buy at home, and Bian Yincao said let’s go together. to go.After a long time, Bian Yincao got used to it.What made Bian Yincao unacceptable was that Gao Guoqiang never handed over her salary. Before marriage, Bian Yincao's mother had formally raised this topic, saying that whoever runs the house will manage the money.After marriage, Bian Yincao took care of the family, but Gao Guoqiang said that each of them took care of his own money.Bian Yincao's salary is not as high as Gao Guoqiang's, and buying vegetables and shopping is Bian Yincao's business. Naturally, her money is not enough. She thinks that it is the same for the family to spend first, so Bian Yincao Pay attention to spending her own salary first, and then ask Gao Guoqiang for it when she has finished spending it. When she asks for it, Gao Guoqiang always asks carefully, and after calculating the approximate cost, she will give Bian Yincao as much as she wants. It was hard to give more, but it was not more than two or three yuan.If Bian Yincao bought something for Gao Guoqiang, Gao Guoqiang would not say anything; but if she bought it for herself, Gao Guoqiang would say something about "saving" and "speaking plainly"; if she asked Gao Guoqiang for money to buy something, Gao Guoqiang would ask To be more specific, you must make sure that Bian Yincao really needs to be bought, and he will not say anything if you don’t want to buy unworn or used ones. Otherwise, he thinks Bian Yincao is extravagant and wasteful, and he doesn’t support it.The differences in this aspect are not on the surface, but imprinted in Bian Yincao's heart. At that time or when she thought about it, she could only sigh in her heart, thinking that she had become a "Grandet".He also thought that it was a good thing for Gao Guoqiang to control money like that. If he saved money, he would save it for his family, and the family would use it together, so it didn't matter.She is like this, when she is dissatisfied, she can't help but think about the other side. This side is bad, but that side is good. When she thinks about it, she gets comfort. Forever, she is the one who comforts herself.

After marriage, in front of Bian Yincao, Gao Guoqiang always had a superior posture. He was like a commander to a soldier. He spoke to Bian Yincao in the tone of giving lectures and orders, and he had to direct both inside and outside. Bian Yincao works.At first, Bian Yincao believed him because he was educated, so he willingly suppressed his self-esteem. Gao Guoqiang said what he said, and he pointed to the east or the west, so he did as he asked.She doesn't argue with Gao Guoqiang on the outside, and is often commanded by him. There will always be some conflicts in her self-esteem. If it accumulates, it will breed boredom. If she wants to sing the opposite tune, she will sing the opposite tune. There was a lot of quarreling, all of which were hard in softness, but the two became more and more at odds with each other.

In addition, after marriage, Bian Yincao took care of the housework alone. Gao Guoqiang was like a son, and Bian Yincao took good care of him.Every morning, she got up an hour earlier than Gao Guoqiang to prepare breakfast. After getting off work in the afternoon, as soon as she entered the house, she plunged into the kitchen and was busy making dinner.Whether Gao Guoqiang came back early or late, he just sat on the sofa with his legs crossed, either holding a book or a newspaper in his hand, and casually flipped through it, never thinking of helping Bian. Yincao took the hand.Regardless of breakfast or dinner, after the meal is ready, Bian Yincao will serve and arrange the meal, just waiting for Gao Guoqiang to take his seat slowly; Bian Yincao cleaned up alone.Gao Guoqiang's attitude is actually a continuation of when he was a guest at Bian Yincao's house before marriage. His mother Wang Xiangping couldn't get used to it, but Bian Yincao was used to it;

At first, Bian Yincao was willing to accommodate Gao Guoqiang. She thought that he was a cadre with his manners and habits, and that he was an educated person, so labor was naturally not his duty.She can understand it all.In particular, when Gao Guoqiang was holding newspapers and books to read, she liked the cultural atmosphere on him, which made her work so hard without complaint.She thinks he's doing well, that's why their family is good.Gao Guoqiang seemed to know Bian Yincao's psychology, and always said that he spared more time to study, read books, and read newspapers, all for work. If he wanted to keep up, he had to know more things. If the job is beneficial, if he does a good job, he will be promoted.When talking about these things, Bian Yincao would smile and say: Okay, just work hard, I support you.Bian Yincao supported her from the bottom of her heart until she was pregnant with Liujia.When she was six months pregnant, Bian Yincao's stomach was already stretched out, and her movements were somewhat inconvenient.In the unit, the surrounding employees all know to take care of her, and do less work if they can.But when she got home, Gao Guoqiang acted as if nothing happened to her, and remained in her original posture.Bian Yincao was doing housework with her belly outstretched. The same job required twice as much energy and three times as much energy as before, so every time she finished a job, she felt weak all over and always wanted to lie down. On the bed, take a good rest.When she couldn't do it, although Gao Guoqiang had time to catch her up, he still couldn't keep her completely idle. From time to time, he called Bian Yincao to help him, and Gao Guoqiang retreated after doing his job.Bian Yincao would also be dissatisfied, nagging him that he would not love anyone.Gao Guoqiang argued arguably that she did more work because it was actually good for her.Work is exercise, and more exercise will help future childbirth.For such a reason, Gao Guoqiang always emphasizes it every time; the emphasis is repeated, nothing more than to explain that it is okay to do some work during pregnancy.Every time Bian Yincao heard it, her heart was sore and sad, and when she thought of her four-month pregnancy and caught a cold, Gao Guoqiang was afraid that she would give birth to a silly child and wanted to escape, so she thought, it’s the mother who can see the truth, and Gao Guoqiang doesn’t care her.He thought again, he didn't care about her, he just didn't love her, why would he marry her if he didn't love her?Thinking of it, she was a little impulsive. She wanted to ask, but she didn't. She knew it in her heart, and she tried not to reveal it in her mouth, in order to stabilize her emotions and not affect the health of the child in her stomach.Without asking, she tried her best to pretend that she had no psychological reaction, but seeing through Gao Guoqiang's heart, she had the strength and reason not to accommodate Gao Guoqiang anymore.After that, she decided not to accommodate Gao Guoqiang anymore.Because of her pregnancy, she was struggling every day, and she tried not to do housework. Gao Guoqiang couldn't say anything, so he had to do it.

After giving birth to her child Gao Hong, during the confinement period, Bian Yincao saw through Gao Guoqiang even more.At that time, Bian Yincao needed to eat and drink well to nourish his body. Except for some nourishing products brought by his family members, Gao Guoqiang and his family did not buy any extra nutritious food for Bian Yincao. Congee and porridge, if you should eat steamed buns and noodles, eat steamed buns and noodles, and tell Bian Yincao to eat whatever he eats, but Bian Yincao can eat one more poached egg every day.Just like that, he thought it was unnecessary for Bian Yincao to specialize. He said that Chinese people are more particular about confinement than foreigners. If you believe in science, the body during confinement is actually not much different from normal.He put aside the supplements sent by his family members and said not to touch them, so as to save them from buying them in the future.Bian Yincao was saddened to hear and see his theories and actions.Not only that, but he also expected Bian Yincao to contract the housework again during the confinement period. Bian Yincao couldn't do all of it, but he did as much as he could.Being disappointed with Gao Guoqiang again, Bian Yincao became more determined not to accommodate him in the future.

One day in the middle of the confinement, she unceremoniously formally showed off to Gao Guoqiang, saying that they should divide the housework equally, and that she would be unable to do it alone if she had a child.Gao Guoqiang couldn't give a reason for not doing it, and said "yes" with a surprised and unhappy expression on his face.However, when the time comes, Gao Guoqiang's original habit will follow from time to time.Bian Yincao wanted to call him to do it bluntly, so she called him over.Gao Guoqiang came over to do it, but he was unwilling, so his face became calm, and Bian Yincao also competed with him, unlike before, when encountering such situations, he would always find an opportunity to resolve the stalemate.Neither of them showed any weakness, and the atmosphere was condensed and cold.This kind of scene happened almost every day, and over time, their faces froze with indifference when they were together.

The coldness spread and penetrated into every part of their lives, the most intimate life between husband and wife, they also became indifferent, mutual, no one is interested in the other.The child was supposed to be the link to maintain their relationship, but it became the lock between them; Bian Yincao put the child in his arms to sleep, and did not want Gao Guoqiang to approach her, and Gao Guoqiang also used Bian Yincao to hold the child in his arms, and deliberately pulled away from her. There was a space, with his back to Bian Yincao, curled up.Later, Gao Guoqiang deliberately set up a single bed in the hut, which was also their dining room. Needless to say, he naturally went to sleep in the hut every night.Even if it's not time to go to bed, after dinner, he leans on the single bed and reads his books and newspapers solemnly. When Bian Yincao doesn't ask him to do something, he always hangs high. , children, and wife have nothing to do with him.The indifference and indifference made them more and more incompatible with each other, more and more repulsive, and they were completely in the same shape when they were together.Bian Yincao wanted to change this situation from the bottom of her heart. She thought that a family should live like a family, otherwise what's the point of living under one roof!She is in pain, so she often thinks about their problems. She can't figure out why Gao Guoqiang doesn't care about her. As she thinks about it, she thinks of some details of her and Gao Guoqiang's acquaintance and relationship before marriage. She loves her form and expression. At that time, she liked Gao Guoqiang, and psychologically felt that what he did was to please her. Now that I think about it, his past and present performances actually echo each other, and there is no such thing as " Transformation" concept.

In this way, Bian Yincao couldn't figure it out even more, thinking that Gao Guoqiang didn't care why she chased her to marry her.She is a person with self-respect, and she cannot tolerate hypocrisy!The psychology she wanted to pursue became stronger day by day, and finally, one night, after putting the child to sleep, she came to the hut and seriously addressed the question.She thought Gao Guoqiang would deny it, but he nodded following Bian Yincao's question, saying that he really never really liked her.Bian Yincao was so angry that his voice trembled a little, and asked that he didn't like her, why did he look for her?Gao Guoqiang laughed at himself and said: He is too old to survive.After all, the corner of his mouth grinned triumphantly.Bian Yincao instinctively scolded "shameless".Gao Guoqiang was stimulated to become even more unscrupulous, and he turned his face down and said: I used to talk about the children of cadres, all of them were better than you, what do you think I like about you?Bian Yincao listened, the blood rushed to the top of her head, she was a little dizzy, she calmed down, she gritted her teeth and said forcefully: I want to divorce you!Gao Guoqiang sneered and said, "Okay, let's leave."Bian Yincao stared and said angrily: "Okay, just wait!"

Bian Yincao's willingness to divorce was very firm. She endured and resolved it alone, without revealing any information to her family.Gao Guoqiang still maintained his posture, did not bow to Bian Yincao, and the divorce proceeded.The child Gao Hong was breastfeeding, so he was naturally sentenced to the mother, and Gao Guoqiang was sentenced to pay the child 20 yuan a month for living expenses. Bian Yincao gritted her teeth.The judgment said that there should be Bian Yincao in the house, half of each person, how to live is their business, Bian Yincao has no intention of having it at all, she wants to go back to live with her parents.Bian Yincao did what she said, and returned to her parents' house with the green-skinned divorce certificate and the child who was less than one year old.She said to her parents: You were right back then.

The parents stared at the divorce certificate, dumbfounded.After calming down, his father sighed and said: Gao Guoqiang is like that, just leave. The mother said to her daughter realistically: If you have a child, divorce is not good for you. Bian Yincao raised the corner of her mouth indifferently and said: I want to live a better life without him. The mother said: With the child, you will not be able to remarry in the future. Bian Yincao said unhappily: Then I will live alone. My mother said unhappily: "It's easy to say!" Bian Yincao said nothing.The mother sighed and said: If I knew it was like this, why did I do it in the first place! Bian Yincao pursed her lips and said for a long time: If you think it is unnecessary for me to come back, I can move out.She thought that her parents might have divorced her because they disliked her. The mother knew that her daughter had misunderstood her, and said angrily: "Go out and live, and don't call me mom anymore!" Bian Yincao knew that she misunderstood her mother and said the wrong thing, so she kept quiet. Mother gave her the steps without saying a word.The topic of divorce ended in silence.Everything will start again. A few days later, Bian Yincao went to the police station to apply to change his son Gao Hong's surname. After a few weeks, his son was called "Bian Hong".In the second month after the divorce, Gao Guoqiang took the initiative to come to the door and paid the child support for three months. After the expiration, he never came to pay.If he didn't come, Bian Yincao didn't pursue him either. She had always held the attitude of not wanting Gao Guo to raise the child by force, so she naturally didn't care.Gao Guoqiang completely disappeared from Bian Yincao.Looking back, Bian Yincao felt that her marriage was like a dream, and it was only the son beside her that made her feel that she was no longer the single person she used to be. Bringing a child, as the mother said, is not good for her to remarry.She said that she didn't care about living alone, but she actually hoped to have her own home again. She couldn't live and live with her parents all her life.After the divorce, many people worried about Bian Yincao and introduced many partners to her. Some of them didn't succeed, but a few were because she didn't like her, and most of them thought that she had brought a child. In particular, she brought up a son. In the long run, she felt that the son was bloody, not easy to discipline, and he would bear grudges and grudges. Some said that she had no objection to her raising a child, but said that if they got married, they hoped that the child would not live with them. Usually put the child with the grandparents, she just picks up once or twice a week.After all, it also despises children.These people have both good and bad conditions.The reason came down to her son, and Bian Yincao didn't regret having her son at all. On the contrary, she said that no matter how nice she was, or how nice she was to her, she would not care if she had prejudice against her son Bian Hong.With such a clear position, she was the first to express it when she met the people who introduced her, and some people left the stage.Some people advised her not to always put her son first. She should think about grabbing people's hearts first and not letting them run away first.Bian Yincao just ran away, she would rather have a son than a husband.Others felt that her condition and attitude were unacceptable, and fewer and fewer people introduced her.This kind of situation made my mother think about it. She felt like she was reincarnated into the embarrassing situation she encountered when she was introduced to someone when she was young. She thought that if she could get through the difficulties smoothly, so could her daughter. However, Bian Yincao was not as lucky as his mother to meet his father.Over the past few years, her parents' home has moved from a bungalow to a building, but she still hasn't met a suitable person.She has a strong personality, and she will never settle if there is no suitable one; the external conditions can be lowered for her to find someone, but the internal conditions can never be met. In addition to being able to get along with her, her son Bian Hong is still valued. In the first place.Her conditions are "strict", so it is difficult to find her.She didn't remarry, so she took the children and lived with her parents. Someday is the end, she has no goals, she is indifferent and not in a hurry.But her parents are more anxious than her, saying that she is as old as one day, and it is difficult to find her for one day.After a long time, her parents are like a daughter, they are indifferent and accustomed to whether she remarries or not. However, one day, Bian Yincao brought home a simple and honest young man.The young man's surname was Gan, and Bian Yincao called him Xiao Gan, saying that Xiao Gan was four years younger than her, and he was a worker in their unit.Xiaogan was originally in the countryside, and he took over from his father to work in the factory six years ago. Because his family is from the countryside, with many brothers and sisters, the financial situation is not good, and it is difficult to find a partner. He has not yet talked about a girlfriend at the age of 26. .He took the initiative to find Bian Yincao. He said that it was her love for children that made him fall in love with Bian Yincao.As much as she loves children, she loves others as much.His words moved Bian Yincao, so he started dating him.After a period of understanding, Bian Yincao found that although he came from the countryside, he loves to study and read books. If he is not mediocre, he can chat with him; Yes, regardless of his family conditions, decided to get along with him.In fact, in her heart, she felt that if she was married and had children, it was Xiao Gan who had better conditions than her.When the parents met Xiaogan, they felt that he was a good man, and that he was more than enough to match his daughter, but his family conditions were not good, and they felt that his daughter had wronged him.It's a bit iffy about them.The daughter kept saying that she didn't care, so they didn't say anything. Xiao Gan used to live in the single dormitory building of his unit, where he shared a room with several people.In order to take care of him and Bian Yincao, the unit adjusted a dormitory for them as their wedding room.For food factories that can't afford buildings yet and their employees still live in bungalows, it is enough to have houses for marriage.Bian Yincao was married second, so she didn't want to hold a wedding. For Xiao Gan, not holding a wedding would save money, and he couldn't afford it.The two thought of being together, so they decided not to hold a wedding, but just bought some candy and sunflower seeds, and distributed them to relatives, friends and colleagues, to express their intentions.Their new home is simple and simple, and almost all the furniture and articles in the house are pieced together as gifts from Bian Yincao's family.The mother thought sadly, this daughter suffers from poverty like everyone else, but she is really a "grass" life; if I knew this, I really shouldn't have named her "grass" in the first place.Thinking of this situation, there is no way to change it. If the daughter accepts her fate, she can only accept it as a mother. Bian Yincao moved out of the house, and like before, he only came to visit his parents on weekends and holidays. Just a year after I saved myself from worrying about Bian Yincao, something happened to my eldest daughter, Bian Yinhua.Bian Yinhua was expelled from the unit because she took advantage of her position to steal things from the unit.He ended up without a job, and because of a discord with her husband Zhou Dayou's parents, she brought her two junior high school children, Bian Huan and Bian Hu, back to her mother's house to live.The house immediately became noisy. After having two children, Bian Yinhua fulfilled her wish to be the "boss" and a big boss at home, which was the position she had expected before.In this position, she exerted her abilities to the fullest.Not to be outdone in everything, she strives to be the first, cook the most delicious food, clean the house the best, knit the most beautiful sweaters, etc. The "most" standard is to win the family, family People and colleagues, neighbors around up and down recognized and praised.Everything is related to physical strength. She has been trained since she was a child, and she is not afraid of hard work. If she is idle, she will feel itchy and uncomfortable.When she was at home, besides sleeping, she had to find work when she had no work, and she kept the house in perfect order. As time went by, Bian Yinhua saw that: Uncle Bian Jinli, Aunt Ye Xiuzhu, Uncle Bian Jinguo, and Bian Jinrong were all changing for the better, and their family life was getting better; while her sister Bian Yincao married A cadre (Bian Yincao was not yet divorced at the time), Bian Yinduo was a lazy person, married a capable suni, and Bian Yinxie became an actor, and the bright future was obvious.Later, Bian Hong, Bian Yue, and Bian Yin, among their cousins, were admitted to universities one after another. Bian Yinyu returned to Shanghai. The future prospects are also bright, and their future homes will definitely develop well.Bian Yinhua regrets that she didn't like studying back then, but it's no longer useful. Although she didn't study much, she is the "big boss" and she can't fall behind.She is using her brain to change her job, she can't always be a salesperson at the counter.She wants to rely on her own ability to get through the leadership and make her "rise up". She doesn't have a clear goal for her ascent, as long as she is better than her current position, the leader can figure it out.She thought flexibly that the Tangye Tobacco and Liquor Company had no shortage of tobacco, alcohol, and candies, so she bought fruit, tea, and two feet of pure woolen fabrics and went to the leader's house.The leader was entrusted by her father-in-law before he transferred her in, and she could only find this leader she "knows" so that she can talk to her.But she didn't want to rely on her father-in-law anymore, it was to show her ability, so she didn't tell anyone in advance.The leader is almost sixty, and will retire in two years.Bian Yinhua was so attentive and casual in front of the leader. The leader got up casually while talking to her, and reached out to touch her buttocks and breasts tentatively. Bian Yinhua was already a mother of two children, so she didn’t make any fuss when the leader touched her. .Bian Yinhua pretended to be shy, but she was a little happy in her heart. This was actually a signal that the leader would do things for her.She wasn't worried at all whether the leader would do anything bad to her, whether it would be better, and she was not afraid or ashamed if she met, her husband was like a half-fool, he could only be led away by her.In addition, judging by the leader's age, she estimated that he had more than enough heart, but also not enough strength, and he didn't have much strength to do excessive behavior to her.As Bian Yinhua guessed, the leader never acted excessively, but just touched her buttocks and breasts a few more times. Half a month later, Bian Yinhua was transferred away as she wished and became a warehouse keeper.Sometimes, when the leader is free, he pretends to stop by the warehouse and sees Bian Yinhua, just stroking her.At that time, Bian Yinhua cooperated, it didn't matter. Warehouse keeper is a position that is easy and can take advantage of the public, and everyone is rushing to get it.Bian Yinhua went in with her "ability", very proud of herself.Sitting in this position, she instinctively took advantage of the nearby water tower, and took home some tobacco, alcohol and candy from the warehouse from time to time.At first, I took a small amount and only gave it to my own family. Later, I got bolder and took it out in boxes and bags.But take it home or put it in a bag a little bit and bring it out of the factory.For example, she planned to take a box of wine, a bag of five catties of candy, and a box of cigarettes, so she took them apart and packed a bottle of wine, a catty of candy or a carton of cigarettes every day, and took them out in ten days ; If you want to take it, you can do it again.If it is continuous, how much can you get?Bian Yinhua does not take it every day, but takes it in boxes and bags every month.The things she took back were distributed to the family members, and every family had a share.When I said it, of course I said she shared it.From time to time, she divides things and calls family members. When she talks about it, she praises her work unit. It seems that the work unit is good for her. She is very proud.Especially, during festivals, when family members get together, she pays for the wine, candy and cigarettes they drink. At that time, she felt how important her position in the family was, and she also felt that she was Back to the old boss position.Otherwise, she doesn't have much ability, who would envy her.The things she brings back are continuous, and the speed of consumption cannot keep up with the speed of increase. There is a surplus in her own family, and every family in the family has a surplus;Among them, she gave the most to the fifth uncle Bian Jinrong who opened the restaurant, and Bian Jinrong almost used it in the restaurant.Bian Yinhua seemed to have made a contribution in front of Uncle Wu. When she was happy, she stopped calling Uncle Wu and called Jin Rong.Bian Jinrong smiled indifferently and said: You are already older than me. The items Bian Yinhua took didn't need to do anything, just take them quietly if you want to.To take is to steal.Her courage comes from her observations.The goods in the warehouse are piled up like a mountain. Although there are accounting records, the inventory of goods is negligent.Staff only know how to count superficial quantities.The inventory counts are all informed in advance, when the time comes, Bian Yinhua will just put the empty box she has taken into it to recharge.All kinds of goods are brought in today and shipped out tomorrow, and there will be no vacancies of any kind, and the empty boxes she takes can always be turned around in the middle.It is worth her attention that she must remember where the box she emptied was placed.She is good at adapting to various situations and can move the "goods" freely. If the workers find out when picking up the goods, it will be a big deal. However, in the end, Bian Yinhua's matter was revealed in her most reassuring inventory.That day, it should be done.One of her empty boxes was placed on the second floor, and the inventory staff stood in front of the empty box during the counting, not intentionally, but unintentionally talking to someone, and then stood down, the staff member seemed to be hyperactive, talking, He patted the empty box with his hands in a rhythmic manner. Once he patted it, he discovered the problem. The sound of the empty box made him more vigilant, and he immediately asked someone to take the box down to see what was going on. After checking, everything was exposed.Next, the staff inspected a circle of boxes stacked on the outside. The empty boxes left by Bian Yinhua were all stacked on the outside for easy access.It turned out that there were twenty-three empty boxes for tobacco and alcohol.Bian Yinhua had to admit it in front of the facts.Later, the factory leader specially asked someone to take a careful inventory of the warehouse in two days, and found out that there was a shortage of nine bags of candy. The candy was packed into a bag of five catties.Naturally, Bian Yinhua was responsible for this deficiency, and if she found out, she would have to admit it.At this time, she had been working as a custodian for two years.The leader she was looking for has retired, and there is no one to speak for her in the unit.However, when disposing of Bian Yinhua, the unit dealt with it leniently. It did not make a conclusion of corruption, and did not publicly announce it in the whole factory, but only communicated the decision internally.They looked at it because she had a younger sister, Bian Yinxi, who was a star.This was said to her openly, and she also said: The face we save is actually for Bian Yinkai, and it is also for the audience.Bian Yinhua cried, not because she was moved, but because she felt sorry for her sister's glory. The result of the unit's disposal is: delisting and a fine of 10,000 yuan.It was communicated in a small area and executed quietly.The 10,000 yuan emptied her savings of more than 2,000 yuan, and the remaining amount was volunteered by two rich uncles, Bian Jinli and Bian Jinrong. After the accident, Bian Yinhua stayed at home without a job, and the parents-in-law who lived with her looked down on her, so she was able to show it on the outside.Bian Yinhua's self-esteem couldn't stand it, and she felt that her father-in-law and mother-in-law didn't help her at the critical moment, so she was also angry, so she confronted them and opposed each other.After several days of stalemate, Bian Yinhua felt that living together like this was too awkward, so she took her two children back to her natal home.She has no plans to divorce Zhou Dayou, and she wants to return to her husband's house when she looks good again. Parents and family members are tolerant to her and have no complaints. Seeing that her boss used to be strong and capable, she suddenly became depressed and inferior. On the contrary, she felt a little sympathetic to her and felt sorry for her.I don't talk much about her, just express my heart silently.Bian Yinhua could feel it, and she was about to cry. After staying at home for more than a month, Bian Yinhua went to help sell clothes with Quan Chan, whom she should call her aunt.In the future, she plans to only be a self-employed person, but she hasn't figured out what to do specifically.Thinking about working for a day is a day, save some money and then talk.While staying at her natal home, her husband Zhou Day came to see Bian Yinhua and the children from Monday to Sunday. Every time he came, he brought some snacks, sausages, and fruits, and every time he asked Bian Yinhua to come back to their house, saying that his parents had already passed away. Stop blaming her.Bian Yinhua firmly said "no". She didn't go back out of anger, but because she wanted to be strong and didn't want to be a person who couldn't hold her head up.Her parents also wanted her to go back to her home, but she said unhappily that if their parents thought she was redundant, she would leave.These words were like what Bian Yincao said that year, and his parents were naturally unhappy when they heard it. His mother said: If you think like this, don't call me mom!Bian Yinhua whispered: You are my mother, so I am willing to follow you.Seeing her aggrieved look, the mother sighed helplessly and said: You are a married person, so it's nothing to live with me all the time.Bian Yinhua said that Zhou Dayou would divide the house sooner or later, and when he did, she would leave. Living with her parents, Bian Yinhua showed Quan Chan the clothing store, did not go home at noon, and came back late at night, so the two children, Bian Huan and Bian Hu, were left to their parents to take care of them.The parents have less free time, and they don't complain, thinking, who called the child's surname Bian.A year later, Zhou Dayou divided the house, and Bian Yinhua moved out with the children.The parents breathed a sigh of relief. After half a year, Bian Yinhua came to her parents again, saying that she wanted to borrow some money, and she wanted to open a small shop herself. She said that her parents-in-law would contribute a part, and she would contribute a part. She had no money here, so she had to rely on her parents.Originally, she wanted to borrow money from her rich uncles Bian Jinli and Bian Jinrong, but she thought that they had already helped her and she still owed them, so she couldn't open her mouth.The parents understood, and withdrew all their savings of 7,000 yuan, and when they handed it over to Bian Yinhua, they sighed and said: "You have four children to raise, and you lined up to get married when you grow up. You didn't save much money. That's all there is to it.Bian Yinhua felt sour, thinking that she, the boss, should contribute to her parents, but in the end she always burdened them.I also swear in my heart, do a good job, and then repay. After Bian Yinhua opened a small shop, she felt stable.The hearts of the parents also calmed down a bit.Life is also peaceful. It has been peaceful for more than two years, and it is not peaceful again.The second daughter, Bian Yinduo, and her husband, Heizi, were both laid off, and their life became difficult.Heizi reached out to his parents for help, and Bian Yinduo naturally reached out to her parents. Bian Yinduo and Heizi were the first batch of laid-off workers from the environmental sanitation company.The two of them had to be laid off when the conditions came; no one was more qualified to be laid off than the two of them. Bian Yinduo has always been inactive in work, afraid of suffering, and lazy.In the 1980s and early 1990s, the environmental sanitation company hadn't implemented the reform of contracting, so she mixed her work, and she just passed day after day. As long as she didn't miss work, she received her salary and bonus as usual.When her younger sister Bian Yinxie became a star, she was very proud of herself all day long, and she carried a photo of her younger sister on her body, showing off to everyone she saw.Everyone in the unit was amazed by the completely different image and temperament between her and Bian Yinxie, and at the same time, they naturally had some good looks towards her. People who looked down on her before all smiled when they saw her. It was something Bian Yinduo had never experienced since joining the sanitation company.She followed the "cow" to get up. When she was working, she simply quit. She was not afraid of sitting or standing still. Unlike before, her colleagues would talk about her when they wanted to. For the sake of the star Bian Yinxi, they gave her Save face, let her go.Bian Yinduo brandished this kind of advantage, so he was reluctant to let it go, and wanted to rely on this "advantage" to support him to the end.However, after being new to her colleagues for a while, the strangeness became weaker. Her "advantage" gradually lost, and her status returned to the previous status. Colleagues should say that she scolded her as before; Bian Yinduo's attitude was also the same as before. If you can be strong, just say a few words, or just ignore it.You can't correct her. One day in the summer of 1992, on his way home from get off work, Bian Yinduo saw a qigong society promoting a qigong called "Tianlinggong" on the street and recruiting Tianlinggong students at the same time.The propagandists talked eloquently about the wonders of Tianling Gong, foaming at the corners of their mouths.Bian Yinduo stretched her slender neck and listened intently, her small eyes narrowed into a line.She is not interested in qigong fitness. What is exciting is that after practicing qigong, she can achieve a state of immortality and godlikeness, and she will taste the feeling of her soul leaving her body and going to heaven and earth.She thought that the state of becoming a god like a fairy must not be the trivial appearance she was born with; if her soul can go out of her body and enter the sky and enter the earth, then her temperament will be extraordinary.The more she thought about it, the more excited she became, and she paid a membership fee of 100 yuan on the spot, and joined the club.After that, she went to the class on time every day after get off work, and devoted herself to practicing after class.She is eager to cultivate the scene she expects, so she practices diligently and meticulously.As she practiced, she became obsessed, and she couldn't even think of her "deliciousness".People become thinner and thinner as they practice, and they have not yet become a fairy, but instead become a skeleton.It looks uglier than before.She didn't practice enough in her spare time, so she practiced during working hours.Others were working, but she closed her eyes, put her hands on her chest, and said luck and words.同事说不动她，就告了领导，领导找她谈话，并严厉地警告了她，她在单位就收敛了些，但整天脑子里就想着修炼成功，六神无主，活儿还是不好好地干，即使干着活儿，脑子都是走神的，扫着地眼睛不看地，直勾勾地看着前方，像前方要发生什么事似的。后来，天灵功被查处，宣布是骗人的，卞银朵痛哭一场，好长一段时间才回过神。 卞银朵在单位不好好干活，在家里也是全靠丈夫黑子伺候的。黑子也无怨无悔，觉得老婆依靠他，是把他当男子汉看的。他的精瘦矮小的形象，在外历来被人看不起，觉得他不像男人，卞银朵跟了他，他只有在卞银朵面前才能施展他男人的力量，从一开始这情形就下来了。起初有劲头，年复一年下来，他身子就吃不消了。但惯出卞银朵的依赖病是难以收敛的，家里的事，他干不动时，卞银朵也不干，说卞银朵他是说不动，也不敢说的，他没有威武的脾气；看不过眼，他不想逞能也得逞下去。一天一月地下来，他的身体整天地休息不过来，体能总是提前被透支，人变得像个小老头一样的苍老，慢慢地，他整天浑身没劲的，在单位干活的劲头想提也是提不起来，能懒就懒上了，积累下来，就进入了“懒人”的行列。不仅如此，他体质下降，免疫力降低，头疼脑热便频繁出现，在他们的组里，他报销药费最多，请假最多。 九四年下半年，环卫公司改革，实行了承包制度，每个部门的承包人，可以自由用人选人，卞银朵和黑子所在的组，承包人不客气地精减了他们；其他的组，对他们的情况早有耳闻，加上他们又从没在那里待过的，人家是不会要他们的。他们就率先下岗了。下岗后，他们每月领到的生活费微不足道，不够维持他们的基本生活，更何况还要养孩子。他们没有其他能力其他本领的，还没有志气，只能向他们各自的父母伸手求助了。 卞金锁夫妇之前存的钱给了卞银花开杂货店，靠他们的工资和在北京的卞银薿偶尔寄来的钱，在两年间只存了四千多块钱，有了卞银朵这一出，他们今后是不能再存钱了。本来他们想好好地安排一下他们的经济，给往后的退休生活作个安排，他们的安排就是将来用他们自己的钱，力所能及地去到没去过的地方走走看看。看来暂时不能为自己想了。他们夫妻商量，每个月接济卞银朵二百块钱。女儿再是嫁出去的人，也是姓卞，与他们永远也脱不了干系的。 想起这三个嫁出去的女儿，个个没有消停，没叫人省心过。说起来，王香萍就会叹口气，对丈夫卞金锁说：这仨女儿，都不是省油的灯。卞金锁就点点头，又摇摇头，承认和无奈都有了。说起这三个没叫他们消停的女儿，说来说去，根源是她们没有嫁好。高国强对卞银草好一些，卞银草就不会离婚；周大有有点头脑，能干些，卞银花不会总是想逞能，去拿单位的东西，把这当本事了；有黑子的帮助，卞银朵也许会渐渐改变懒惰的性子，他们互相督促进取，哪会下岗。她们已经定型了，重来转变不可能了，他们便把期望搁在了远在北京，是演员的四女儿卞银薿的身上。在他们夫妻看来，卞银薿是他们制造出的一个奇迹，那三个女儿的运气、精气加在一起也敌不过卞银薿一个人；卞银薿将来的日子一定也是比她们都要美好。