Chapter 6 about marriage

Everyone has different attitudes and choices when it comes to marriage. A male friend of mine chose not to get married. He said that because his parents’ marriage was not happy, it cast a great shadow on him. Commitment, so he chose to be single. One of my girlfriends, she said, actually for a period of time, she fell in love with someone crazily, which was very painful, because the other person didn’t know, she kept thinking whether she should confess to the other person, but the problem is, after confessing, it’s very painful. how.Can she leave her husband and her children? She thought about it for a long time, and I watched her suffer for almost two years.At that time, she was not in a very good mood, and there were often some frictions in getting along with her husband.Finally one day, she said to me, I figured it out.Now that I've decided not to break up the family, I should try to get along with my husband.Although I have a lot of dissatisfaction with him, if we want to live together, I have to accept him.Another few years passed, and the couple lived in peace.

My other girlfriend, a few years ago, she found that she and her husband had nothing to say.But because of the child, she tried to continue living with him.But her husband's temper became worse and worse. They often quarreled and had cold wars in front of their children. Finally, one day, she said, let's separate.After her husband heard it, he kept begging her, so she thought, for the sake of the child, or take another look.So the two lived separately under the same roof, and several years passed quickly.Now they are still not divorced, just living together like this.My girlfriend said, maybe wait until the children grow up and work.At that time, I will move out to live by myself.

I respect these friends of mine because I think they respect marriage as much as I do.I have seen many people, they maintain their superficial marriage, but their bodies and hearts no longer belong to the family, just because of various practical reasons: money, official career and so on.There are also some people who get married because they feel that they are not too young and should get married, so they will find someone who thinks it is pretty good, or someone who also wants to get married, and get married. I think there is a price to pay for maintaining a marriage.One cannot have everything and wish to give nothing.It is precisely because of this that people suffer and need choices.

Just like extramarital affairs, I believe that many extramarital affairs are beautiful and pure at the moment they happen.The question is how to proceed and how to deal with it.If one respects marriage, one is honest and responsible, one should make a choice. I think it is a very beautiful thing for two people to fall in love and hope to live together.Seeing my friends wearing wedding dresses, I bless them from the bottom of my heart.But, getting married is just the beginning.I am especially envious of those old people who are still very old and still walking hand in hand, and hope that I can have such a day.I believe that when they have such a day, the road they have traveled must not be smooth, they must have put in a lot of effort, and they must have made a lot of mutual compromises.

One day, I chatted with my friends about our children and their future.I said, I will tell my children that they really should find someone who is in the same family.This well-matched family does not refer to their family status, money, etc. The well-matched family I mean refers to the closeness of two people's values ​​and world views.With such a foundation, two people can often understand each other when facing life and choices. I will encourage my child to date more, and I don't want her to rush to get married as soon as she starts dating.Because I think that only in this way can she know more clearly what kind of person she is suitable to live with, so that her marriage can be longer and more stable.

As for myself, although my first marriage failed, it never broke my longing for marriage.In my mind, the most important thing about an ideal marriage is mutual trust and dependence.Share the good and the bad together.For me, if I really fall in love with someone, I definitely want to be his wife.Just like the lyrics of a song, let two people grow old together slowly.