Chapter 13 Chapter Thirteen Survival Wisdom for Living Like a Fish in Water in the Workplace

Chapter Thirteen Survival Wisdom for Living Like a Fish in Water in the Workplace Wen Zi said: "The way of ordinary people is to have small desires, great desires, full wisdom, desire to act, desire to be able to do more, and desire to die less." Don't dare to indulge your desires. Those with "big ambitions" cover all countries, all of which are unique, right and wrong converge, and the middle is the center. "Wisdom is round" means that there is no reason for the end, the direction flows far and wide, and the deep spring is inexhaustible. Those who "walk in the square" stand upright without scratching, plain but not dirty, poor and difficult to manipulate, and ambitious without ambition. Those who are "able to do more" are equipped with civil and military equipment, and they are also graceful in movement and stillness. Those who "have few things" will abide by the contract and rule the country, and stay quiet and wait for trouble. ―Tang Zhao Bo, "Long and Short Classics, Debiao Eleven"

The Mystery of the Smile It is said that in the color TV market, the three brands of Hero, Royal Family and Xiaobawang are forming a trend of competing for world hegemony.As the boss of the royal family, the history of Liu Bei's fortune has also become a hot spot for many students.Soochow International Business College spent a lot of effort and finally invited him to come to the school to give a report.In the spacious auditorium, it was full of senior students (they will soon leave school and look for jobs everywhere, so they especially need the guidance of seniors with successful experience like Liu Bei).

In fact, Liu Bei also had other intentions.He hopes that through this lecture, some outstanding graduates will be attracted to the Royal Family.Now, sitting on the podium, he looks very humble and sincere, exuding the charm of a mature man.He held the microphone in his hand (a little awkward at first, but soon became more relaxed), and said: "I am 20 years older than everyone here, and I have achieved some achievements that are recognized by people. Many People think that I have some kind of magic secret of success, but in fact, all the secrets are written on my face. It can be said that this face has concentrated the essence of my life of fighting north and south for decades. Back then, I just graduated from Changjiang International Business Administration University. I married Guan Yu and Zhang Feiyi in Jinlan, and hoped to have a big career. At that time, we showed our strengths, were full of vigor, and had a newborn energy that was not afraid of tigers, just like you do now But, you are luckier than me, because you can read such a face now, but I didn’t have it at that time.” In the auditorium, a boy named Zhou Yu stood up and asked: “Mr. Are you too good at bragging? Everyone has a face, so what's so special about your face?"

Liu Bei took a sip of water and explained with a pleasant smile, "Everyone can see clearly, this is the most classic smiling face in China's 5,000-year cultural history. The knowledge on this face is very broad. Luo Guanzhong studied this face, Wrote one of China's four major classics. Li Zongwu wrote a wonderful book because of studying this face. Why did Cao Cao say "Heroes in the world, but the king and Cao Er"? It is because of my thick skin , can be called the double treasure of the world with his black heart." Zhou Yu sneered and said, "According to what you said, we can easily achieve success by doing a lot of hard work?"

Liu Bei nodded and replied: "Everyone can understand it in this way. But I think that with your current experience, the degree of understanding will be very limited. Considering that you will soon enter the early stage of your career, let me tell you some simple Practical tips to ensure that you can be a talent that the boss can't use you in the fierce competition." Indeed, the face theory is too profound for young college students.However, as a fast food culture, tips are quite popular with them.Studious children like Huang Gai, Lu Su, and Lu Meng immediately opened their notebooks.Only Zhou Yu was still stubbornly competing with Liu Bei, which made the whole speech like a talk show.Liu Bei, who is well versed in the way of keeping a low profile, was not surprised at all, and managed the scene smoothly during the question and answer.Zhou Yu asked tricky questions, but Liu Bei answered brilliantly.Lu Su, who is good at shorthand, recorded the whole process verbatim. Afterwards, he organized the notes into a document and sent it to the "China Human Resources" magazine for publication.

The following is Liu Bei's speech, which is divided into four parts: "Five Advice for a Perfect Professional Image", "Five Weapons to Be Proud in the Workplace", "Five Solutions to Save People in the Workplace", and "Five Reasons to Hate Workplace Beauty". part.For ease of reading, Zhou Yu interspersed with questions in italics. Five tips for perfect professional image As recent college graduates, all the students present here will soon appear in various companies as newcomers in the workplace.At this stage, the most common problem is that many students are unemployed soon after their initial employment.So, how can we quickly become a tumbler in the workplace?I have worked for Dong Zhuo, Tao Qian, Cao Cao, Yuan Shao and other famous entrepreneurs successively. Now I start my own business as a boss, and I also have a group of people under me.I would like to tell you some of my personal experience, hoping to learn from you.I think the most important thing is to pay attention to the small details in your professional life.Because some subsections often have a very negative impact on our professional image, it is very uneconomical in terms of revenue and expenditure costs.For example, even if there is only one black spot on a white paper, people will think it is a dirty or waste paper.

Zhou Yu: What should I do if one or some black spots have been stained on the white paper? There are four ways.The first method is to "keep oneself clean", effectively protect the white paper, and fundamentally reject black spots.The second way is to "abandon yourself". Since it has been polluted by the station, just throw it away as waste.The third method is to "renew the surface", wipe off the black spots with an eraser, and restore the white paper to its whiteness.The fourth way is to "take the risk", which is what people often say, "If you don't do it, you won't stop". You simply paint the whole paper black.There are four ways for you to choose.Here, I only talk about how to "clean yourself" in the section of professional life.For the five most common subsections, here are five suggestions: don’t gossip during working hours, don’t be lazy, don’t take company property home, don’t dress up differently, and don’t use working time to deal with personal affairs.

Zhou Yu: Gossiping is not a good habit, everyone knows this truth. The truth of the world is like this, many people know, but few people do it.And wow, do you know that listening to gossip is not a good habit either.Think about it, if a colleague chatters with you during working hours, it will have two bad influences. One is that the chatterer thinks you are as leisurely as him, and the other is that others think you are both very leisurely.You say, isn't this being taken advantage of? The second piece of advice: don't be lazy.Many people think that my face-skin theory is just pretending. They only know one thing and don't know the other.For example, they like to work hard in front of their boss, but slack off when the boss is not around.As a result, people like me can go into top positions in any company, and they often don't even pass the probation period.why?Because the effectiveness of the work at hand is discounted, and sooner or later it will reveal what you are doing.

Zhou Yu: In our impression, you are also a person who changes jobs quite frequently.Excuse me, how are you different from them? I keep changing jobs and they keep getting fired. The third piece of advice: Do not take company property home.Even if it's a discarded mouse pad or an extra promotional gift.Otherwise, people will think you are a cheap eater.Remember, the habit of not being petty and cheap brings you a reputation of incorruptibility.In this regard, my second brother Guan Yu has done a very good job.The twenty-seventh chapter is "Yuan Benchu's defeated soldiers and generals, Guan Yunchang hangs the seal and seals the gold".What is hanging seal gold?It means to seal all the dormitory, bank card, mobile phone, uniform and other property assigned to him by the company when he resigns, and return it to the company cleanly.Some people are not like this. They are equally noble, but they just don’t care about details, and their reputation has been ruined by a little profit.You say, why is this necessary?

Zhou Yu: You mean, you can sacrifice your reputation for the greater good? [Liu Bei pondered for 20 seconds] You can understand it like this.Strangely enough, if you're willing to fight for the greater good, you could end up in infamy like Dong Zhuo, or forever like me.This is a subtle thing, it is worth you to taste it again and again! The fourth piece of advice: don't dress up differently.You may think that what you look like reflects your personality or your sense of fashion, but you have to be aware that this is the workplace.Girls can't wear the trendy half-foot platform shoes and holey jeans, and boys can't wear ponytails.An alternative dress will create an atmosphere that is extremely disproportionate to the business.

Zhou Yu: Everyone has the love of beauty.Everyone wants to look good and be an office star, is that understandable?The enterprise will also be full of vitality because of this. Why do you criticize it?Do you understand that an employee without personality is a mediocre employee? The more consistent an enterprise is in culture, the purer its culture will be.The purer it is, the brighter it is.The brighter it is, the stronger it is.This pursuit of the enterprise is no exception in the dress of employees.Of course, companies should encourage us to find some innovative ways when we consider problems, but any innovation should not harm the consistency of the company.Otherwise, the enterprise will not be able to concentrate its internal attention and actions to point to the same goal. The fifth piece of advice: Do not use working hours to deal with personal affairs.Some employees seem to be very smart, there is always a way to disappear and reappear quietly during the day, and use this time to do personal things, such as shopping for clothes, manicure, beauty treatment, and haircut.Listen to me, don't move around like a boy wonder, or people will think you're unpredictable and unreliable.Don't lie to your word either, you will make all those connected with you live in fear. Please pay attention to the small details in your life, otherwise you will lose points in credibility and conduct. The board will appreciate such an employee. Zhou Yu: Our respected Comrade Cao Cao said: "A man doesn't care about trifles." How do you explain this? [Liu Bei was taken aback by the question, but soon came up with a brilliant idea] Ordinary people at important moments, and important people at ordinary moments, can be informal; other cases are exceptions. The Five Weapons of Smiling Proudly in the Workplace Many people think they are working for their boss, as if he is doing a good job.The truth as I see it is: everyone is working for himself, whether he is to support himself, or to pave the way for his own future.Therefore, although bosses and supervisors have the power to assign an employee's work, the relationship between him and his boss and other colleagues is actually a work relationship.If we can maintain good workplace performance, we can get good performance reviews.This kind of workplace performance and performance evaluation will have a positive impact on our careers.Being responsible is one of the most commendable workplace performances.Many employees are used to waiting and doing what their supervisors tell them to do, as if they can be irresponsible and not blamed for mistakes.Such a mentality will only make you appear short-sighted and will never list you as a candidate for a promotion. Zhou Yu: However, taking responsibility is a risky behavior after all.There is an old Chinese saying, "Peace is blessing." It seems a little unwise to take risks in order to get ahead. I want you to "have the courage to be responsible", not "blindly responsible".If you have no confidence at all, who would dare to hold you accountable?In terms of character, those who are brave enough to be responsible are heroes, those who are blindly responsible are idiots, and those who are irresponsible are mediocre—what kind of person would you like to be? Zhou Yu: What's your answer? My answer is: on the surface, it is the courage to be responsible for the work, but actually it is the courage to be responsible for yourself-do you understand? Being good at discovering happiness from work is the second secret to success in the workplace that needs to be learned. Don’t make a bitter face every day, which will have a negative impact on others and yourself.If you really can't find happiness from work, then you have to find a job that makes you happy, because happiness is one of the key factors for personal career growth. Zhou Yu: Teacher Liu does not suffer from back pain while sitting and talking!Looking for a job that makes you happy?How easy it is to say! Do you think you are picking products in a supermarket?Now that the employment situation is so grim, it is not easy to find a job. How can you talk about happiness or not? Really!So, do you know what kind of work you are suitable for or like? Zhou Yu: I...I really don't know what kind of work I like to do.Since you don't know what kind of work you like to do, how do you know you can't find it?As long as you can identify and find a job you like, then that job will suit you and make you happy.There is no denying that even doing a job you love can be difficult.What kind of attitude is used to face work is the primary factor to measure whether an employee's performance is excellent.Attitude is the expression of your heart. A positive attitude shows that you are brave enough to accept difficult challenges, while a negative attitude shows that you have no confidence and try to escape.The third secret to success in the workplace that deserves attention is to face difficulties with a positive attitude. Zhou Yu: Is there a third attitude, which is neither negative nor positive? [Liu Bei looks at Zhou Yu like a philosopher] No emotion is peaceful, either a touch of joy or a touch of sadness.Likewise, a non-positive attitude is a negative attitude.As a state of mind, a positive attitude favors hope over despair, creative interest over tedium, effort over meddling, and joy over sadness.Obviously, in an era of such fierce competition for talents, only those who are constantly growing can sing all the way and have the last laugh.We must always look for some newer and innovative ways to do things, face the work with the attitude of "what else can be done", question our own methods and steps, and improve them, so a positive attitude is very important. The fourth secret to success in the workplace is a strong sense of teamwork.In the era of increasingly fierce market competition, the role of the team is becoming more and more important.If you appear eccentric and alone at work, it will affect the collaboration of the entire team.However, if you can be loyal to the team and are willing to make the necessary sacrifices, then you can be a very popular team member.In this regard, our "Taoyuan Three Brothers" have always done a good job.Especially my second brother Guan Yu, even if he rides thousands of miles alone, even if he passes five stages and kills six generals, he still has to return to the team. Zhou Yu: But, why didn't the "Taoyuan Three Brothers" accept new members and grow into the "Taoyuan Four Brothers" or "Taoyuan Five Brothers"? [Liu Bei sighed expressively] I miss Taoyuan very much where our three brothers, Jin Lan, became sworn brothers.Over the years, the "Three Brothers in Taoyuan" has become a symbol of brotherly love, and a cultural work that "can be gathered inside and summoned outside".In this work, It contains a powerful spiritual force, which will effectively promote the continuous growth of me and our common business.Of course, in the process of our business, we are still adding new brothers. I am considering whether to change the name of "Taoyuan Three Brothers" to "Taoyuan Series Brothers".If possible, Luo Guanzhong had to revise it.Zhou Yu: In Zhong, I am the commander in chief who set fire to Chibi, how can I just change it?Yes, history cannot be revised, but it can be carried forward.There is a famous saying: "Study hard and make progress every day." The ability and habit of learning has become an important factor in the pursuit of success and continuous progress. Developing the habit of lifelong learning is the fifth secret to success in the workplace.Recently, some group companies have attached great importance to the reorganization of human resources, and the top management of the enterprise has issued a warning to employees that "change people without changing heads".As a result, "changing heads and surviving" has become a grim reality for employees. One of my classmates, Cai Wenji, returned to China and served as the marketing director of a network product, shouldering the important task of determining the future of the company.She and Dong Si were newly married not long ago and did not spend their honeymoon.I got sick recently, my neck was too stiff to straighten up, and I only took one day off.She never complained and always maintained a radiant professional image."Because I can't relax for a moment to pursue my dream, I have to do it," she said. The famous physician Hua Tuo was hired as the product director of a medical device company a few years ago.As an expert employee, I always remind myself to change my head.He said: "In an era of increasingly fierce competition, innovative companies need innovative employees. The market will eliminate lagging companies, and companies will also eliminate lagging employees." Five ways to save your popularity in the workplace If in your attendance records, you have always been a good employee who strictly disciplines yourself, never arrives late or leaves early, never takes possession of the company's property and stationery, is a model of self-discipline, can complete work tasks in time, and never complains about being tired, Well, congratulations, you did a great job. However, measuring the pros and cons of a person's work performance is sometimes not just based on personal achievements.If you have too much discord with your colleagues, it will also become a reef on your way to success, which should not be underestimated.Of course, focusing on interpersonal relationships at work doesn't mean you have to go out of your way to mingle with everyone in the company.But in general, good interpersonal relationship will undoubtedly make the work go more smoothly and make your efforts get twice the result with half the effort. Once you become a "workplace hater", your character and popularity will be negatively affected.I list five specimens of "workplace bugs" below for reference when you enter the workforce in the future. WORKPLACE BUG #1: Small jokes in the gossip-monger's office are harmless, but beware of them developing into intimidating gossip or even hurtful rumours.Many people who don't know how to think twice before speaking often spread rumors and stir up trouble for the sake of smooth tongue or other purposes.There are also some people who also like to join in the fun, adding oil and vinegar, and fueling the spread of rumors. Rumors of a rescue plan are limited to the wise, especially when it comes to the private lives of colleagues.Learn to keep your mouth shut and don't be a villain in vain.At critical moments, you will realize how valuable the trust of your colleagues is. Zhou Yu: Some people just like to disseminate information by nature, otherwise why would they have a career as a reporter?Regardless of insider rumors or gossip, since word of mouth spreads, there must be a reason for it.You don't have to beat him to death with a stick, do you? Perhaps relying on various "insider secrets" can quickly make you a celebrity in the pantry.However, no one will ever take an outspoken babbler with sincerity.Regardless of the purpose of spreading rumors, if one's character will be questioned, after all, it is a matter worth weighing. No. 2 "Workplace Hate": The Whiner is full of complaints and resentment, these are the most obvious characteristics of this kind of person.For the sake of friendship, there may be someone who will listen to your grievances.Maybe you regard complaining as a way of being open and honest, but you must pay attention to how much is enough, and endless complaints will make people around you miserable. Talking about the rescue plan is a good way to vent, so you vent out everything that has caused you troubles and pain.Talking out is also a good way of expression, so you hope to gain understanding and assistance through talking out.However, you also have to be aware of other people's feelings.The best solution is to adjust your mentality and deal with your problems in a positive way.It's kind of like diarrhea, you have to treat it.If it can't be cured in a while, you have to find a bathroom, so as not to make a mess of smoke everywhere. Zhou Yu: According to your theory, talking and listening will become an ancient way of emotional communication and disappear from human society? [Liu Bei makes a helpless gesture. ] The patient will always groan and hum in pain, which will not only make him feel better, but also attract the attention and sympathy of others.Just as the sickness cannot go away, neither can the groaning go away.Likewise, pouring out cannot go away. Yes, being compassionate is a good moral quality.However, if you don't actively solve the problem, but only blindly ask for sympathy from others, then it is your fault. Workplace Bug No. 3: The self-righteous half-assed person who always thinks he's right and says it all.In the office, no matter who has any opinions, he will forcibly insert other people's conversations, and take it for granted to point fingers.Everything was so clouded by him that he couldn't figure out the truth, which made many people who didn't know him admire him.Maybe he doesn't mean to fool you, but you really can't keep a clear mind in front of him, and you can't communicate effectively with him. Half a bottle of vinegar is like this. They like to use their own half-knowledge to influence others, but they don't care about the consequences.However, consequences do happen after all.If such things happen again and again, who will believe him? The self-righteous half bottle of vinegar always hopes that he can impress people in a short time, and he needs to understand the profound meaning of "silence is golden".In order to keep his mouth shut, he should turn his interest to the search for truth.As long as he can keep his mouth shut for a minute, he will find that something new has emerged.When he knows more and more, he will become more and more humble and cautious. The courage to admit mistakes is the second quality that half a bottle of vinegar needs to cultivate.Why do you have to prove yourself right? "People are not sages, who can be without fault?" There is no shame in admitting mistakes.In many cases, the courage to admit mistakes often wins the respect of partners. Zhou Yu smiled and said: Do you really need a face like yours to have the courage to admit your mistakes? [Liu Bei first acquiesced, and then gave Zhou Yu a thumbs up] Ruzi can be taught.If you can also have this kind of comprehension in the middle, you won't be thrown blood to death by Zhuge Liang's "Three Qi Zhou Gongjin". No. 4 "Workplace Hate": A sycophant who flatters his superiors and bullies his inferiors. The motto of this type of person is: "A good wind will send me to the top of the sky with its strength." Therefore, they are always following the trend, focusing on capturing any opportunity for prosperity, but Pay less attention to communication with subordinates or even colleagues at the same level.Originally, it is a common mentality for people to go to high places.However, if you go too far, you will naturally be nicknamed a sycophant, and the leader will question your character because of this, and you will be beaten in the end. The rescue plan treats all colleagues equally, including those who start from the bottom of the office, and treats them with sincere respect and appreciation.Why do you bother to make enemies everywhere?As the saying goes: "Real people don't show their faces." Even those little unknown people may give you an unexpected blow. Zhou Yu: You mean: first, you should cater to your boss; second, while catering to your boss, you should also take care of everyone's emotions—right? 【Liu Bei nods yes】 The nickname "sycophant" is a bomb dropped by those who are unhappy with you.If you can win their support, no one will drop bombs and cold shots at you. No. 5 "Workplace Annoyance": A vixen who makes a show of himself. The motto of this type of person: The smell of wine is afraid of the alley being too deep, and the beauty of the person is afraid of the clothes not being short.Self-confident that she is pretty, and always seizes the opportunity to display her femininity in front of male colleagues, and does not hesitate to become the butt of jokes and thorns in the eyes of female colleagues at the same time.Once upon a time, there was a woman named Zhao Feiyan who especially liked to attract men with the faintly visible garter belt, but she had no idea that men and women in the office regarded her as a laughing stock.The Office of the Rescue Program is a public place that rejects pornography, please stop discharging. 5 Reasons You Hate Workplace Girls Zhou Yu: Women are a beautiful gender, hot everywhere, do you want them to wear a veil to work? [Liu Bei heaves a long sigh] Among the employees I lead, there is indeed not a single beauty in the workplace.My experience is, don't mess with beautiful women in the office, and it's the same in life.People will think that you have two major stains on you, first, you are lustful, and second, you are stupid because of your lust. Zhou Yu: You are an insult to the beauties!You are "you can't eat grapes and say grapes are sour"! Why do you contradict me like this? Zhou Yu: Because... because my girlfriend Xiao Qiao is one of the two campus flowers of Soochow International Business Administration University.The other flower is her sister Da Qiao. That being the case, you are no longer qualified to refute me because you need to avoid suspicion. Zhou Yu: But, I still want to know, why are you so taboo about beautiful women? I'm jealous of beautiful women.There are five reasons: First, beautiful women are born with a sense of superiority, and receive special care everywhere in their work and life. Even if they make a mistake, it is a "beautiful" mistake, resulting in the degradation of all aspects of ability. Second, social corruption, unhealthy trends, etc. have always been the detonator for beautiful women. If all beautiful women are extinct, men must work hard without distracting thoughts. Third, the existence of beautiful women makes cosmetics and high-end clothing sellable, but in fact beautiful women are a kind of devil or parasite who are good at "painting skin". Fourth, beautiful women are on the street. I have been distracted by driving twice and hit a telephone pole once, and the pain has persisted so far. It can be seen that beautiful women are a hidden danger to traffic safety. Fifth, if you are jealous in the company because of beautiful women and bosses, you will be persecuted for trumped-up charges.History is a lesson, students, Dong Zhuo was defeated by a beautiful woman, Lu Bu was defeated by a beautiful woman, and Cao Wang and Cao Zhi brothers fought each other because of beautiful women. Since ancient times, beauty has been a disaster, and it is the same in the workplace. The beauty who didn't fall in the workplace, but fell in the venue first Liu Bei had just finished speaking, and the lingering sound was still lingering, when a very unexpected accident happened suddenly.Xiao Qiao, who was sitting next to Zhou Yu, couldn't bear it any longer. She stood up abruptly, pointed at Liu Bei, as if spurting blood with excitement, and spat out a word: "You!" All the teachers and students panicked for a moment, and the smile on Liu Bei's classic face suddenly froze, until Xiao Qiao fainted from extreme anger. Zhou Yu yelled, "Call 120 immediately!" The host of the meeting, Wu Guotai, the chairman of Soochow International Business College, hurriedly grabbed the 166-in-the-box and announced the end of the meeting. author comment When a newcomer enters the company, he must not only learn how to work, but also learn to get along with others until he can get the approval of his colleagues.Office politics is a problem that every employee must face in career management. Looking at office politics from another angle, it is actually the embodiment of company culture. Its ultimate expression is who is reused, who is promoted, and who is left out.Not even the top management of the company can be detached.Because of office politics, you can assert authority, or be forced to compromise. In order to make office politics have a positive impact, your best choice is to guide a healthy company culture by yourself, help everyone find their place in the company, learn successful workplace skills, and avoid empty bombast and intrigue In order to create a harmonious, harmonious, friendly and mutual-help relationship with Li.