Chapter 9 page nine

He is really a "Chairman of Kan Association". "Okay, let's talk again. Last time we talked about the ideal family. I thought of another one." This Liu Shuhuai is really nice, he is very serious about things.The interviewee is so active, which really makes the interviewer happy. "What's the second one?" "A guest every Sunday." What?What kind of trick is this?Treat, once a week?Just about to ask, but before asking, Liu Shuhuai has already explained his theory in the smoke with a serious face: "Invite guests once a week, and you'll have something to do. At least, from Friday night onwards, the husband and wife will discuss who to invite and what economical and good dishes to cook. On Saturdays, they are busy shopping and have to stew the soup at night. You also need to clean up, so that guests don't see your house is full of dust. You have probably noticed that our house is very dirty..."

"These two times, it seems to have cleaned up." Liu Shuhuai looked around embarrassingly, smiled, and continued: "On Sunday, I got up early in the morning and was busy cooking. After a while, the guests came, and everyone was happy, saying hello, and drinking tea. Then sat around the table, drank two cups, and praised Mrs. Madam's cooking skills. .At the end of the day, I feel happy and fulfilled. Even if couples want to fight, they don’t have the atmosphere.” Fang Fang was still flustered with exhaustion for her master: "Oh, when the guests leave, you wash the dishes and tidy up, aren't you asking for trouble?"

"No, no. While washing the dishes, you can also relive the interesting conversation just now and taste its aftertaste. You do the math, invite a guest once, and you will be busy for three days. You have something to say in three days, and all you say are happy words. Husband and wife The two of them worked together, stood together in the same trench, wouldn't the atmosphere in this family be much better?" He spoke earnestly and sounded original and interesting.Fang Fang almost forgot that she was here to interview their family, not to listen to him talking about the necessity of having dinner.She really wanted to listen to his unconstrained chatter and see what other unique tricks he had.

Now it seems that conflicts, worries, and fears of entering this home are superfluous.He talked eloquently and calmly, talking about an ideal family as if he were talking about a scientific proposition, which had nothing to do with his own family.There was no cry of heart, no bleeding wound, no moan of pain.His arguments are clear and his witty words are like pearls, giving people a sense of relaxed detachment.Fang Fang even had a suspicion, living with such a chatty and laughing person, how can family life be boring?Maybe, they are not boring at all, maybe, they are harmonious at all.Is it your own guesswork?

"You are really good at talking." "In our unit, I am the chairman of the 'Conversation Association'. The highest record is nine hours of continuous chatting, from night to dawn." "If I have time, I'd love to hear you continue. Listen to your third, fourth..." "Then I'm so happy." "Not right now, though. We don't have time. I want to know something concrete, down to earth. For example, from when you started your family..." "That's easy to handle. I have always been opposed to talking about the truth. In today's talk circle, everyone knows that there are three major schools. One is the talk school. Zen, Taoism, the universe, and regression. Real style, there are several ways to eat ducks; it is better to save RMB or spend it; how many tricks are there in playing cards. They are down-to-earth, but vulgar and boring. Emptiness, there is emptiness and reality, and the combination of emptiness and reality, so it is suitable for all ages, and it is suitable for both refined and popular tastes."

It's amazing!Fang Fang almost laughed.She had already heard of the current popularity in Beijing such as "Kan Yeh", "Kan Dashan", "One billion people and nine hundred million people are talking, and there are still 100 million people who are developing" to "One billion people are one billion people talking, overseas Chinese are developing" and so on. Trendy language.As for Kan still has a forum, Kan still distributes, which is news to her.Of course, it’s Kanye’s fabrication again, so I can’t let him go on talking, and I still can’t get to the point after nine hours:

"Old Comrade Liu, let's get back to the book and talk about your family!" "Our family is similar to other families." He set the tone first, and then continued, "We are in free love, and Xiao Erhei got married voluntarily. Of course, there are also introducers. As for the introducers, let's connect. To build a bridge, in the final analysis, we came together from all corners of the country. We are happy, we choose, we find this burden, and we can’t blame the sky or the ground. There is nothing to complain about in this kind of marriage, right? " She couldn't comment.

"It's the same choice, but the situation is different. We can say that we made the final choice under the specific circumstances at that time. At that time, I was 28, the eldest was not young, and she was also 26. According to the current leverage, it is enough. I'm a second aunt, and I'm not actually close, but I was called that when I was a child. I have a little contact with a relative in their family who doesn't know what to do. Let us get to know each other, and we will know each other." After talking for a long time, it did not exceed the scope of his wife's "introduced by his second aunt".This person seems to be unrestrained, but in fact he wraps himself very firmly.He understands what to talk about and what not to talk about.Some things are difficult for Fang Fang to ask, for example: did he have a girlfriend before he met Zhang Fenglan? How could he get married as soon as he was introduced?

"I am a person with a glass of plain water. I am unattractive. I am a technical graduate, a technician, I am up and down, my face is not white, my eyes are not big, my clothes are disheveled, and I am lazy. Even if I am 1.8 meters tall, it is not too much. Feeting two feet of cloth is not an advantage. Who cares about an unobtrusive person like me? Therefore, before I met my wife, I was a blank sheet of paper and never had any love affairs.” She glanced at him.His "self-portrait" is really not far off the mark.It's just that now he is concentrating on talking, his eyes are bright and shining, quite energetic.

"She, as you have seen, is not a woman who is very attractive to men. She is mediocre, not well-educated, works to earn money, dresses and eats, and nothing else. The two of us, just make do together gone." Turned back again. "Make do with".The couple who came to the door for the first time sang and explained clearly, why did they come again.It can't be improvised from the beginning, can it?Fang Fang didn't dare to ask directly: Did you guys get married just for the sake of getting married?Are you just making do for the sake of making do?Don't you have the most important relationship between husband and wife?Then you are too miserable!

"I'm afraid it can't just make do with it?" Be obedient and listen to the sound, people in their decades can't hear anything.Besides, Liu Shuhuai is not stupid at all.He smiled, changed a cigarette, and continued: "Of course, you can't say you don't have emotions. But what is emotion? I think, if you ask a hundred people, ninety-nine can't answer it. You can't see or touch this stuff, it all depends on your feeling. If you feel it, you have it. Feeling Nothing is nothing. Unlike hot steamed buns, you can see them at a glance. According to my point of view, if you can get together, it’s a relationship. Of course, it’s not a high-end high-end product.” It is difficult for Fang Fang to agree with the saying that feelings can make do.Buying a skirt that doesn't fit you can't make do with it, how can you make do with the relationship between the two?She couldn't figure it out.But at this moment, she had to believe that what Liu Shuhuai said was not a lie.Indeed, it is hard to imagine a passionate love affair between this lazy man and his wife.how do you know?How do you know they haven't?Perhaps, this situation is normal.Perhaps, many families are built on this basis?Fang Fang was confused, as if someone hit her.She was so concerned about the fate of this makeshift couple: "and after?" "Later, later I made do with it." "So, when do you feel that you can't make do?" "I didn't say I couldn't make do with it. I've been making do with it for so many years, and I can make do with it. People live to make do with it, and make do with it for a lifetime..." "This is terrible!" Fang Fang couldn't help crying out.Empathize with the person speaking. Liu Shuhuai raised his eyelids, glanced at her, and said with a smile: "There's nothing terrible about it. No one can die. Don't you think it's a kind of happiness to make do with it? Of course, it's not high-end. It's just high-end stuff." Big stuff, big stuff!Those three words hurt Fang Fang.She felt disappointed and sympathized with this home that had made do and would go.The harmonious family she imagined should not be like this, so what is it like?She couldn't imagine it.She timidly asked: "So, you are very satisfied with all this?" "I mean make do, not very satisfied. Satisfied is not make do, and very satisfied is not make do. Make do means almost make do. Our family can't afford meat, and the family doesn't even have the money to pay for gas. It's more than enough than not enough." That's enough. I've talked about the ideal family, which is to say I don't think my current family is ideal." He fell silent. What else did she ask?Her heart was full of doubts and sympathy, but the interview about the harmonious family could not go on, so she had no choice but to be polite: "Comrade Liu Shuhuai, our interview can end, thank you for talking so much." "Despite your gratitude to me, I can still feel your disappointment in me. I didn't provide you with specific materials, you..." "It's nothing." "Allow me to express a little opinion on the work of journalists?—Of course it's a matter of course." "Okay, please tell me!" "I don't think the specific details are very important, especially when it comes to family issues. Why and how a couple quarrels, who is right and who is wrong, is not important and can't be figured out. So as the saying goes, It is difficult for an honest official to decide on family affairs. I often say that there is no dispute between socialism and capitalism in the family. Therefore, I think that writing about family issues is very difficult and often thankless. Therefore, I suggest that it is best not to write. "