i'm just a lover It was an ordinary afternoon in the summer camp of the elementary school. A group of thirteen and fourteen-year-old children were sitting in the classroom. After class, the teenagers gathered together to play dominoes, to see who could draw a domino, and let the whole stack of dominoes crumble. The dominoes are falling, they just love this kind of game, with a little regret and more excitement. The girls gathered together to chat, and they already had the appearance of women, and they were not of the same age and class as those frizzy boys. However, the atmosphere at the girl's place suddenly became stagnant. They formed a small circle, guarding the crying girl sitting in the middle. "Someone is crying." A relatively peripheral person reported the news to us, "She is broken in love." I don't know who sent further news.When I walked up to the girl, the first thing I saw were the "sisters" surrounding her. They all had a sad expression on their faces, a kind of "empathy" in their distressed eyes, which is the knowledge that can only be obtained after real experience. solution and pain.Then, I saw the girl who was sobbing with her head down. A round and complete teardrop of hers slapped, as if it had weight and sound, and fell to pieces on the jeans.

The teenagers at the side drew dominoes to a critical moment, all of them gearing up, blushing and thick-necked; the girls here. I leaned down, patted the girl's back lightly, and said to her: "Don't be sad. It's useless to cry when the relationship is gone. We will learn a lot in love. If you love again, you will love again. When you fall in love, you will meet someone who is more suitable for you. Love is better every time. Love will come back, there is nothing to be afraid of." The girl sniffed and looked up at me. A trace of surprise flashed in her eyes. I didn't tell her that you are still young and don't know what love is, so you should study hard.

I know that when she starts a relationship, she has become a lover.There is no need to teach or teach it, there is no age limit, everything is involuntary. What can I exhort or admonish her?My love affair started so late. At the age of thirteen or fourteen, I was still in the childish and ignorant stage that boys hate.Fortunately, once you start falling in love, it becomes a never-ending pursuit. A love that started so late seems to never end.It's like learning the most amazing secret magic, and I can't bear to give up my martial arts. I can know the frequency of every love, whether it happens to me or not.There have been many times, like a fortune-teller, I have accurately predicted the beginning or end of the love affair between so-and-so and so-and-so.People who heard it felt that my sixth sense was too keen, but in fact, I could only feel, in the depths of the calm and unwavering heart lake, the slightest whirlpool and shock, about the birth or death of love.

Because of this, my own love always has the fear of walking on thin ice. I listen to the enthusiasm that freezes into ice little by little in the deep night; My lover held my hand but it was no longer as firm as before, so I cried loudly in the wasteland of my heart alone. If we've never been in love, maybe we can always be in love.Does that sound contradictory?Not at all.However, to really love each other, even if what is waiting ahead is disappearance, it is better than never being in love at all, much better. In the past, I always hoped that someone could teach me how to love more gently and calmly?The energy of love is so powerful, sometimes it is even rough, giving and asking for anything, making people give up everything but never let it go, exhausted physically and mentally but still have more to say.Now, I gradually understand that the essence of love lies not in the disintegration at first sight, but in the reluctance to leave in the long years.

I found out later that I was good at waiting.The feelings that long-distance love brings to me are always absolutely pure and rich.In the many days when I can't see each other, the feeling of love is the most complete, and therefore, I often imagine that I should be a good unrequited love. "You don't have to love me, but loving you is my freedom. You don't have to answer, but waiting is my freedom." There was a person who said such words to me not without domineering. I must understand that such freedom must be respected.I nodded slightly, saluting from the bottom of my heart.When we decide to love someone, we are already a lover, no certification is required.

Lovers are the most creative people, and sometimes they can even create miracles.The lover said that there is light, so the dark hearts are illuminated; the lover said that there is water, so the dry pupils have accumulated the fountain of life again. It has been twenty years since the release of the first collection of essays "Depending on Origin and Immortality", and it has also been twenty years since I have been a lover. I live life slowly in love; stick to my creation and dream; hold kindness and tenderness to the world, all because of those who love me and those I love.Therefore, twenty years later, my collection of essays is dedicated to lovers.

The lover is my family and my number.Can love and be loved, never give up. I'm a lover, I'm just a lover, I'm so humbled and so honored.