Chapter 18 Love must be relaxed

When it comes to love, be sure to take it easy.I read Hu Lancheng's autobiography. Hu Lancheng's mother told him: If you walk with a bowl full of water in your hand, don't stare at the bowl. The more you stare, the more water will spill out. Falling in love, of course, is just as thrilling. ——The water you cherish so much is held in your heart with both hands. As you walk forward step by step, the water ripples and ripples. The more you worry about the water splashing out of the bowl, the harder you use it; The more you spill, the more you end up with a half-empty bowl—whether it's water or love.

Then, take it easy. When you are in love, you must be nervous.Nervousness is the basic attitude of love - only when you worry about gains and losses and are suspicious, can you talk about love.I've never heard of a calm lover, and I wouldn't believe it if I heard about it. Love is God's music, but humans are God's musical instruments. As musical instruments, stringed instruments, and percussion instruments, if we are not stretched enough, how can we play God's love music? People in love must be relaxed.Every time I say to the person in love: "We must work hard", that wise lover will definitely answer me: "Yes, we must work hard to overcome it by doing nothing."

It is really a lover who deeply understands the difficulty of loving each other. People in love must be nervous.In other words, you have to be nervous to be "fun".Believe it or not, as a lover, the "evil virtues" that are most often complained about are "magnanimousness" and "modesty".If you're not often jealous, vexatious, or nervous, then you might as well go to sleep. Love is for you to have a big dream, not to let you have a big sleep. Lovers, take it easy.Because what love requires are mostly noble but clumsy qualities, such as: honesty, loyalty, carefulness, patience, and so on.These cumbersome contraptions are only barely bearable if they are carried out lightly.

If you are poor and nervous and use brute force, you will definitely have blue veins bursting out, blushing and thick neck, and if you have a good relationship, you will make it ugly and ugly. Lovers, be nervous.A competent lover must be considerate and well-informed, so that he can constantly detect the other party's mind, constantly provide all kinds of surprises that hit the heart, and constantly perform all kinds of tricks that the other party did not expect. How can you intercept and interpret enough information if you don't raise your heart, keep your ears open, and turn on the radar in all directions? !

You still want to relax? !