Chapter 14 Thirteen, there are not so many jerk dads-1

I feel that when it comes to children, all grown-ups, male or female, have no rights but obligations.And when a man fulfills his obligations to a child, he is very touching and sexy.Hollywood knows this best.For example, the actor (starred by Tom Hanks) in the very popular movie "Sleepless in Seattle" ten years ago is a very responsible single father.A while ago there was a British movie called "About a Boy" (starring Hugh Grant).The story is about a diamond king who is entangled by a little boy who doesn't care. There is a scene where Hugh Grant pretends that he is a very hard-working single father, so he gets the care and love of a beautiful single mother.Hollywood is particularly aware that this kind of movie is popular with women. It can be said that most women have a special love for men who like children.

I don't remember any Chinese movies with the same image, most of the Chinese movies have the image of "Dad" not like this.For example, how the emperors of the past dynasties killed their sons and gave away their daughters in the name of Jiangshan. This is ancient; Men who don’t recognize it belong to modern times; then there are men who don’t want children at all for career and so on, which seems to be contemporary.In my impression, it seems that all single fathers who are good to their children are good-natured, big-faced people, and they hope that their children will succeed if they are good to their children, as long as they are better than themselves.Those who are not good to children are all emperors, generals, and successful people. It seems that once a man loves his family, he will have no future.All in all, in our place, when it comes to men and children, most of them are jerk fathers.

In fact, there are many good fathers in our life.I especially like the relationship between Xiaoping and his son.We have always been a couple who can sleep late, but a month ago, Xiaoping actually took the alarm clock very seriously on Saturday night. "What for?" I asked. "Take the band," he said. "What band?" I was completely confused. "Rock and roll." "What rock band?" "My son's rock band." He grinned. At ten o'clock on Sunday morning, four children from the French school jumped out of Xiaoping's car, each holding a musical instrument in their hands, with expressions of "angry youths". When they saw me, they frowned and said: " Hello, Auntie", then quickly turned around and approached the guest room on the first floor of our house.After a while, deafening sounds came from the room, including drums, guitars, bass, and vocals.But the relationship between these sounds is a mess.The neighbor on the first floor of my house is the studio of photographer Wen Xiaoyang.His two assistants were startled by the sound in the morning, Xiaoyang also came over to work overtime, checked whether the small band was going to rehearse every Sunday, and then immediately turned around to buy earplugs for himself and the staff.At noon, I saw Xiaoping driving out in a hurry, and came back in a while, carrying two pockets of McDonald's, and went to buy lunch for the band.When I came back from the outside at night, I saw Xiaoping leaning against the car at the door and listening to the band inside. It was still a mess, but he felt a little more rhythmic than in the morning.

"Why don't you go in and listen?" I asked him. "It's okay, a group of children, let them play by themselves." He smiled and lit a cigarette. "Then why are you out there?" "It's time to send them back later, I'll just wait here." It has been more than a month. Every Sunday, he picks up the band early in the morning, goes to McDonald's at noon, and sends the children back in the evening.Xiaoping and I have a group of friends who are engaged in music, and everyone wants to help, tune up the voices of these four children, and train them. Maybe the next Cui Jian in China will be practiced in our guest room.

"It's just a bunch of kids, as long as they're happy." He didn't expect his son to become a dragon.He just wants the kids to be happy. I listened to it again this morning when I was going out, and it actually sounded like original music. When I told Xiaoping, every wrinkle on his face smiled with a father’s pride. Thirteen, honey, shut up, you are my urban girl-2 I learned a new word called Metro Sexual, which is the most popular name for a man with women now.Their biggest characteristic is that they have the sensitivity of gay men, but they are still heterosexual.First of all, they are very good at dressing and know what is fashionable.I know to wear suits designed by Slimane and Paul Smith to work, and I know to wear Zegna and Prada for leisure after get off work.Secondly, they like Shopping. When they accompany women to buy clothes, they are very involved, commentary, and fully interactive.At the same time, these men are gourmets. They not only know the most "in" restaurants in the city, but they can also take charge of the dishes themselves, and they have very moving cooking skills.The most important thing is that these men are excellent listeners. They can listen very attentively to women complaining about love tragedies, and at critical moments, they generously lend their shoulders to let women cry on them.In addition, associating with this kind of man has no side effects, and he is so good at dealing with women that he still communicates as a "confidant" after breaking up with many women.Friends who came back from New York said that this kind of man became popular with the TV series "Sex and the City", and this is today's Prince Charming.

My men are not like that.He never pays much attention to dressing, he doesn’t even have a suit; when I go shopping, he smokes outside; when he eats, he doesn’t care about the environment but only about the food, and the treat he asks is just a meal of hot-boiled mutton.He's not very talkative, so it's a good fit for a talkative like me, but sometimes I'm talking while he's dozing off.And there are a bunch of old men and friends around, they go out to buy second-hand goods, buy pocket watches, watch football, even if they have girlfriends, they hide them well, without revealing them at all.We're doing pretty well, and if it wasn't for these New Yorkers bickering about Metro Sexual, we wouldn't know we're not hipsters anymore, our lifestyles are depreciated.No wonder I don't like to watch "Sex and the City", I think the women in it are "sucking" enough.

I went to Sanlian Bookstore yesterday, and saw it in the most conspicuous place as soon as I entered the door.When I was in middle school, this book was a must-read for English class. I have almost forgotten all the contents in it. I also watched a half-pornographic movie. Although the scenes are all fake, some scenes Still fresh in my memory.I thought about it for a while, and decided to compare the differences between Mrs. Chatterley, Sex and the City women, and the man I like: lady chatterley sex and the city women i Professional, blue-collar, urban fashion, human beings, anyone can do except artists

Looks strong and dresses up as a lumberjack talkative not talkative not talkative, not talkative I also like to listen to women talk I don’t know what these two words mean when shopping. It’s almost as long as a professional shopping guide doesn’t stop me from spending money. Live in the same high-end apartment where the servants live, save money It is impossible to eat together and go in and out of the food together "in" places Don't even think about socializing, you must show it to others, relatives and friends Wealth is poor, rich and rich, and we support ourselves

Rival widows who are literate in love Thousands of divorced middle-aged girlfriends of the same age in cities single woman Carefully analyzing the results of this comparison, we can infer the following: 3. Women increasingly need men of social status.This is quite interesting, once the sex is liberated, women also have high demands on their lovers It seems that she can't be as free and easy as Lady Chatterley.At that time, lovers had an affair in a log cabin, but now lovers should be able to go to various scenes, go to cocktail parties, and speak foreign languages. Second, women are becoming more and more selfish, hoping to have a man who can revolve around themselves.This is quite natural, women are now

Having his own career and earning money, men who are completely self-centered are becoming less and less flattering.Anyway, self and property are in negative ratio.You have to have a lot of money before women can tolerate your big EGO.Otherwise, why not! 3. We have completely entered the world of consumption. If a man does not know how to consume, he will not please women, and even Not even a common language, let alone a lover.Nowadays, for men, having a good consumption concept is more important for finding a lover than having a good world view and moral view. Fourth, the most important point is: ancient and modern, all over the world, no woman likes a man who talks a lot, so shut up and use your

ears to talk about love. I found that with such a comparison, my sexual consciousness is very outdated, between Mrs. Chatterley and the women of Sex and the City.I hereby invite local Sex and the City women to write this column of Sextalk, and I don’t want to talk nonsense about things like me that are starting to rust.It would be even better if there is a Metro Sexual man instead. As for what I should do, I know very well, just continue to advertise.