Chapter 18 indecent party

The so-called party, Yi Shu concluded: "Although there are many guests, they are all old faces. You decorate my banquet today, and I will decorate your party in two days. Come and go without indecent assault. Dozens of people come and go. The dignitaries, the next day the photos were published on social media for ordinary citizens to watch." Talk about a colonial era party.Although the parties in the post-colonial era are not "indecent" to the extent that "these dozens of small citizens come and go for the high-ranking officials to watch", but in the final analysis, the so-called party people come and do not indecently - of course

However, it is still "indecent" for a single person to come and go. To be "polite", you must also meticulously do "right" all the things that the host "assigns" to you.Among these "sent" things, the most important thing is what to wear and how to wear it. In other words, "being there" is not enough, you must wear appropriate clothes to send yourself to the door. In fact, compared with "prom" or "banquet", the special feature of "party" lies in the casual and "informal" clothing and atmosphere.The dictionary's explanation for it is: "An informal dance party. Because it is not as grand as a formal banquet, the participants can wear simple clothes. Such as: 'family party', 'birthday party'".For some reason, "unofficial" came to us and automatically "became a regular" and was promoted to a higher level.The vast majority of the party invitations I get have a "dress code" of "formal" or "dressy."Under normal circumstances, although dressing itself is the ultimate goal of a person attending a party, even if he is a "party animal", he is still dressed like a beast, and his outfit is essential.However, "what to wear" is only one aspect of the problem. The troublesome thing is that there is also a problem of "how to wear". Whether a person's affairs are done right or not basically depends on what other people wear and how they wear them.

According to the TPO principle, the correctness of dress is reflected in the "appropriateness" of time (Time), place (Place) and occasion (Occasion).In terms of time, place and occasion, parties all over the world are actually similar, but I think it is necessary to add the element of "weather" to the party in Guangzhou. "The land in the South of the Five Ridges is where the sun is accumulated and where the summer heat is damp." Three hundred and sixty days a year, the sauna weather is so severe that it is almost day and night.This kind of weather has made Guangzhou people pursue a stubborn pragmatism and all-weather casualism for a long time on the issue of what to wear and how to wear it, and implement this principle into various parties held in the city without hesitation.In addition, Cantonese people have always had the habit of "doing nothing but not talking". When they moved from business to party, they became "do nothing but wear it", a kind of Lingnan-style business casual.

If truth is always naked, dressing is inherently a form of speech and rhetoric.The most difficult thing in life is to wander between truth and words.At the party in Guangzhou, this Werther and Stein-style pain manifested itself in what to wear and how to wear it: this time, in order to respect the host, he followed the invitation to dress up or dress up, but when he arrived, he found himself surrounded by a group of T-shirts. Among the party animals in jeans, I can't help but feel really cheap.The next time, you pretend to be casual in order to respect everyone, but unexpectedly you are surrounded by a large number of people who dress up to respect you, that embarrassment, that embarrassment, you can't wait to dig a hole on the spot and get in.

To deal with this complication, my own personal long-running battle with local party animals has worked out a men-only solution: If you wear it, I'll wear it, and if you don't wear it, I won't either. You jump, I jump.If people are not stupid, I will not be cheap; if people are cheap, I will be even more cheap.If you receive a party post in Guangzhou that says "formal dress" or "dress", in order to avoid trapping yourself in injustice, it is recommended that you only wear a T-shirt before going out, bring a bag, and keep a Top coats that meet the "dress" or "dress" requirements.After arriving at the scene, he was not in a hurry to enter, but chatted with the host who welcomed the guests at the door, and at the same time scanned the attire of the guests who came to the meeting calmly with sharp eyes.If the visual inspection tells you that more than half of the "wolves" have not put on their "sheep's clothing" tonight, you can enter the venue swaggeringly; otherwise, go to the bathroom and put on the coat hidden in the bag not too late.

The latter kind of behavior always makes me feel a bit like the killers in the movie who sneak into the bathroom and touch the gun. In fact, the most direct way is to conduct a thorough investigation of the organizers and invitees beforehand. Inquire, inquire, and exchange opinions with each other.Once, I was anxious to ask a certain organizer that I had no idea, so I said angrily on the phone: "You can wear anything, but it's best not to wear it." In fact, there is also a scientific name for "not wearing" parties called "Naked party," which has the obvious benefit of guaranteeing that the most embarrassing "dress-up" incident at a "dressed" party won't happen.However, according to the first item of the "Four Principles of Party Etiquette for Naked Group P" formulated by New York social writers Emma Taylor and Lorelei Shaqi in the book "Naked Party Sex Etiquette": "Although parties usually No clothes, but it's better to dress up when you go to a party" - God!What to wear and how to wear it turned out to be an unavoidable trouble for a nude party.The only consolation is that compared with nude parties, non-naked parties are not only morally justified, but also much simpler in terms of etiquette, because in addition to the above troubles, the former may also have to face "what to take off and what to wear." How to get rid of it" is a new question.