Chapter 73 Why Men Are Afraid Of Commitment

A man is afraid of commitment because he doesn't love that woman too much, but also because he loves that woman too much. He doesn't love her very much, so he's stingy with promises."Promise me you'll never fall in love with someone else," she said. He didn't agree, because he didn't love her to that extent.He was reluctant to give up other opportunities for her.He didn't love her deeply enough to regard her as the most important person in his life.A man's promise is precious, and he will not give it easily. He was unwilling to promise to a woman he didn't love very much, but he couldn't promise to a woman he loved deeply.

He loved her so much, he wanted to commit, but was afraid of being tied down.Once bound, maybe he won't love her as much as before. He loves her so much, he wants to promise, but he is afraid that he will make her sad when he can't. He loves her so much, he wants to commit, but once he promises, it means that he has to give up other fantasies, and it also means that he has to change his life.He couldn't help wondering whether she loved him as a person or his promise.If he refuses to commit, maybe she doesn't love him. If he loves a woman deeply, there is no difference at all whether he is committed or not.Even without a promise, he lived his life as if he had a promise to her.It is easy for a man to lie to a woman, but difficult to lie to himself.He is a responsible person.He is afraid of promises, and he knows that people are responsible for their promises.Some men commit casually because it doesn't occur to them to be responsible.

Commitment is originally a struggle between men and women. Sometimes everyone is happy, but most of the time it is a lose-lose.