Chapter 9 women together

It wasn't "March 8th Women's Day" and it wasn't a meeting of the Women's Federation. On that day, the people sitting in the sapphire hall of the "Oriental Everbright City Hotel" were all women. They sat in the dim light, although their eyebrows were blurred. I couldn't tell this from that, but I glanced at it for a while, and I felt that the surroundings were filled with a pleasant temperament, which was as harmonious as the elegant atmosphere of the "Sapphire" hall.It complements each other that way.Soon, I recognized them one by one, they were all wonderful women who had made a difference in all walks of life, which was common.There are also differences, and the living situation is different. Some have husbands and are very competent wives, and they have sons and daughters who have just been picked up from kindergarten by their side; some have no husbands, and they can never find a suitable one. Wherever you go, you are alone and carefree; there are some who used to have husbands and now they are gone, but it is not clear whether they are incompetent husbands or incompetent wives; the rest have husbands but are far away in the sky, Competent or incompetent has no concrete meaning.And whether there are husbands and children, or what kind of husband and children are there, this is the most specific definition of a woman's situation.One of the highest generalizations: luck or misfortune?However, whenever only women are together, the differences in circumstances seem to become unimportant. It can also be said that when only women are together, these differences in circumstances are particularly important to them. Moreover, only women When they are together, they will naturally open their hearts and reveal their real situation and true selves, because the atmosphere of women together is like sisters together.

There is nothing more touching than truth.And more people can't be authentic more of the time.Have no courage to be true or get used to being untrue.Therefore, I like this kind of occasion, and I like real communication, no matter luck or misfortune, they are all real, just like an actor stepped off the stage after the curtain call and took off his makeup, no longer performing the characters in the play, but returning to a real person in myself.This kind of authentic atmosphere is rare, some mask-like cover can be temporarily removed, and you will feel a burst of genuine ease, like a small fish being released back into the sea by a fisherman.

Once upon a time, someone called the atmosphere of such an occasion a "women's salon". "Salon" is a kind of aristocratic gathering. I don't like to use this name, it's a bit arty.In fact, we all live in ordinary situations, and when we get together, we are more willing to talk about some daily life topics, talk about our thoughts and feelings very casually and frankly, and everyone is straightforward and frank. cute.Straightforwardness is a good thing, it can bring hearts closer and make people become one with others.Of course, frankness is hard to come by. There is a lack of frankness in our lives. We only open ourselves up in very few moments and occasions, and have a particularly frank expression.In fact, everyone likes to be straightforward and everyone is willing to be straightforward.I once received a very short letter from a reader. She told me that she was a forty-year-old woman with relatively good living conditions, but for some reason she felt more and more inexplicably confused, "I thought of you, I really want to talk to you." I was moved by her simple but accurate expression: "I really want to talk to you." Talking—as a person, this is indeed the most basic ability and requirement, but Think about it carefully, we have all had this experience, when things don't go our way, when we really want to talk, we find that there is no suitable person.There is no suitable occasion for you to tell your thoughts. As a result, it is often better not to speak, and hide your thoughts deeper.In order to write the novel "Psychiatrist", I interviewed some mental patients. There are too complicated reasons for the occurrence of this disease, but before their onset, they have some thoughts.Some psychological problems.Some ideological contradictions and confusion, if you can find someone to talk about it in time, even if it is not for solving the problem, just talking about it, pouring it out and venting it, it will probably ease the mood to a certain extent.Of course, it is more ideal to get specific help and get out of conflicts and confusion without becoming depressed.None of us are saints, we all have times of distress, and we all encounter some unexpected problems and need to talk to someone—this is an indispensable activity and a kind of help in life—religious people seek a priest for confession Pray to God, people who are in love talk to their lovers, but more and more people do not live in religious beliefs or in passionate love, and wanting to "talk" becomes a problem.Therefore, I am often willing to join in the fun and chat with some girlfriends, the pleasure of "talking" and spiritual inspiration.Satisfaction is unmatched by other entertainment.

There is a saying: Three women play a drama.This is somewhat derogatory, thinking that women and women often make trouble together.In fact, women and women often have things going on when they communicate. Don't underestimate the trivial conversations between them. It is precisely these trivial conversations that are the most personal and practical content in life. It is precisely such conversations that Can solve trivial matters little by little, and gain a little bit of ease.And the real and solid friendship between people is precisely established little by little in trivial conversations and interactions.French female writer Beauvoir said: "I think that many women's friendships can last, but true friendship between men is very rare, mainly because women talk to each other much more than men." Visible , "Speaking" is so important, all of us need help in a long life, and the help given by friendship is the most permanent and reliable.