Chapter 8 I see men

His official career was prosperous, and he had recently been promoted to a position of considerable rank.That day, he came to tell me about his new office and new phone number.I half-jokingly said to him: "When you become a bigger official, don't forget to tell me." He tried his best to conceal his smug complacency, but he couldn't hide his joyful eyes.He took the road of official career, which is not what I expected.I have known him for a long time. We were in the same class in middle school, and we went to the countryside together to the Great Northern Wilderness.In school, he was an active member and worked as a large and small cadre.When he arrived at the farm, he still showed his talents and was quickly reused, always as a leader.People say, "This world is a man's world", men are leaders, men are in power, and men are superior, as if it is only right and proper.Therefore, men are not only pampered by the world, but also bear the burden of the world.To be a man is to make a difference, to be successful, to gain status, to be honored.He also followed the path prescribed for thousands of years, and even marriage and family had to obey this pattern of life.

Back then, he fell in love with a gentle and elegant Shanghai girl on the farm, but she came from a bad family background, her father was a rightist, and her mother also lived in a cowshed during the Cultural Revolution.When inspecting young cadres, he faced the choice of continuing to love her or continue to be promoted.This is undoubtedly a painful choice, and you can't have the best of both worlds.It was the choice to cut love this time, and he learned to smoke so hard.Of course, while suffering bitterness, he gained power again, and was soon transferred to the field department as the main leader, which made him quite satisfied.Between bitterness and satisfaction, the latter overwhelms the former.Besides, time will dilute the bitterness.A few years later, he fell in love again, and she was still a good girl, lively and enthusiastic, and soon she was selected and sent to college, and became a lucky, honorable worker-peasant-soldier college student who could stay and work in the city after graduation.She wanted him to find a way to leave the farm and come back to the city.It is not impossible for him to return to the city, but the price is that he will give up everything he has obtained: the deputy director, the director, and even the greater future that he has the confidence and ability to look forward to.But after "doing" and returning to the city, he is just an ordinary educated youth.After weighing repeatedly, he asked her to wait patiently, and she was impatient after waiting for a year.Just after she became impatient, he suddenly worked hard for several months and was admitted to a prestigious university as a graduate student, which surprised many people.But this time, he seemed to be trying his best to prove himself to her who had betrayed him.Although he lost his love again, after all, his path has been broadened a lot after he went to graduate school, and the world suddenly opened up to him a broader prospect.It's just that he has learned a calmer attitude towards love: he married the daughter of an old Red Army.After graduation, he went to work in a certain department in Beijing, and his wife and daughter still stayed in that city.I met him in Beijing.I asked him why he didn't want to find a way to transfer his wife?He first said various reasons and various difficulties.I frankly said to him: "These are all excuses, can you tell me some real thoughts." After all, he is an old classmate, and he said bluntly: "I am not satisfied with my current situation. I predict that I will have many changes, many In turmoil, it’s less trouble to be alone. Besides, the union between me and her is just to get married..."

He lived in the government dormitory and ate in the cafeteria. Such a celibate life was too difficult for a grown man, but he gritted his teeth and accepted the hardship.It's really the so-called "only by suffering all the hardships can one become a master".In the past few years, I have been mobilized three times, and each time I am more successful and each time I am promoted. At the beginning of the year, there was a reunion of old classmates, and he was too busy to spare time to attend, so he sent a telegram to express his heart.Among this group of old classmates, he has a high position, of course he stands out from the crowd.But I know that he still lives in the single dormitory, and it is said that his family is about to move.It can be counted, he is fully forty years old.On the road before the age of forty, he worked extremely hard and finally climbed a mountain, but did he have a real life?Has he really loved anyone?The situation after the age of forty, although he is expected to be promoted to a high-ranking official and enter the ranks of power, he still moves into a family that is only married for marriage. Living in such a family, everything can be imagined...

He undoubtedly succeeded.As a man, in this wild forest of the world, he is proud enough to stand upright.But every time I see him, I always feel a terrible coldness in my heart. At least, I will not admire him no matter what, even if he may become a bigger official... This is the traditional mission left by China's thousands of years of accumulation to Chinese men.Such expectations, such a load, men will be loaded with life in the journey of life.Do women understand?