Recently, I read a book that discusses such a subject: how to be a wife?There is also a special chapter in the book discussing "femininity", which implies that a successful wife must have enough "femininity".Obviously, about "femininity" is the core part of this knowledge.The first reading of this book is very fascinating, and it will make people "learn and apply" from time to time, and they can't help but check their own shortcomings, experience and lessons as a woman and a wife.However, after reading the book, looking back and thinking about it for a while, I feel very uncomfortable.It should be said that teaching women how to please their husbands and how to use intelligence to guard their own lives is indeed an elusive science.But, think about it the other way around, why is there not such a book that tells men how to be a good husband so that all women can get great satisfaction in family life?A good marriage must have content that pleases and attracts each other.Therefore, the knowledge of educating women to be good wives to please their husbands must be based on the standpoint of men and summed up from the standpoint of safeguarding the interests of men. This is one-sided knowledge and traditional knowledge.So, I really want to know, is the author of this book male or female?It is understandable that the author is a man, but if it is a woman, it would be a bit sad, because, after all, teaching women how to please men, even if it is reasonable, is more or less shrouded in sadness.

However, if you go to the bookstall and take a look, you will find books and periodicals related to this aspect everywhere, and they are very popular.Looking around in life, there are indeed quite a few women who are troubled by the role of wives. They long for happiness and love and care from their husbands, but their lives are often not so satisfactory, and some are even very bad.It is conceivable that when faced with "unsatisfactory" and "very bad", they will eagerly need to understand the crux and crux of the problem, and they will eagerly need to find a way to solve the problem. Therefore, such books and periodicals It has many, many of the most loyal readers.The question is, what kind of "channel" does our kind of books and periodicals give them?One of the most common "paths" is this common saying: "Women tolerate those who please themselves." For this reason, in the knowledge of "being a good wife", the first point is how to "accept" for those who please themselves.This "contains" from the outside of the attire.Make-up, to the words and deeds of every frown and smile, we must pay attention to how to be full of "femininity" - this is the highest generalization, it goes without saying, this is also the most important part of being able to please men - so about doing The knowledge of women being wives is derived around the theme of "femininity".If you think about it carefully, the so-called "femininity" is a specious standard. If you go in this direction, you will go astray and make women more passive, because the standard of "femininity" is the standard that men put forward for women. It is women who meet men's aesthetic standards and use such standards to demand women.Measuring women, as a result, will only make women gradually lose themselves and their perfection as human beings under the norms of men.

In fact, in real life, as a female role, no matter the daughter of the parents.A husband's wife or a son's mother are both natural roles, and women are inherently "feminine" in their nature. Logically speaking, there is no need to emphasize how to be a wife.How to be a woman's knowledge.For a woman, the most important thing is to perfect herself as a human being.A woman who can be called excellent in the sense of "humanity", I believe that when she is a daughter, wife and mother, she will not be far from "excellence". From this point of view, we should be vigilant against some books and periodicals that teach women how to be women to please their husbands and make themselves invincible!