Chapter 3 childhood

When we look directly at distant childhood with the purpose of recognizing our own personality, most of us will feel hesitant.Childhood, especially childhood at the age of one or two, is dimly hidden under the horizon that memory can hardly illuminate.Whether it is intentional forgetting in the psychological sense or unintentional forgetting over the years, most childhood experiences are difficult to recall. Even where memory is available, we still feel a dodge in our reluctance to recall it all.Most of the stories that emerge in front of my eyes are stories that I am willing to recall; and those stories that are hidden to avoid my eyes may be more important.because of that

It contains moral and ethical taboos, shame and humiliation, trauma and pain, guilt and guilt, just like scars that you don't want to touch. As for the night dreams and day dreams of childhood, they are more vaguely hidden from our search field of vision. Searching for childhood is difficult; however, knowing one's personality requires entering childhood.Now, we've found a way to touch on childhood memories, and that's by starting with familiar fairy tales (and myths). Those widely circulated fairy tales (and fairy tales) are the stories of all mankind, and the dreams of all children.

The reason why fairy tales are deeply loved by children and resonate with them is because they express the dreams of children; the reason why fairy tales are also loved by adults is that even though they are adults, there are still deep emotions in their personality psychology. Everything from childhood. The analysis of fairy tales in this book tries to touch readers' hearts, activate childhood memories, light up a sky on the distant horizon that seems to have been forgotten, and illuminate everything that has been disturbed and experienced in childhood. When a person connects what he thinks and does today with his childhood experience and dreams, he will see clearly what kind of horse he is riding from the horizon at the beginning of his life.You also see the history of your personality formation.

The formation of personality is the growth process of a person's ability, temperament, character, motivation, interest, ideal, and belief.Exploring the formation process of this system is undoubtedly too vast for an ordinary person.Except for those who are really interested in exploring psychology, generally speaking, there is no need to exhaust all aspects of the process of forming one's personality.For busy people today, it is most important to be able to clearly know the most important aspects of their personality that they must know. In this way, in the process of exploring personality, we have to introduce the concept of "complex" in psychology: "complex (complex) is composed of some ideas (that is, unconscious thoughts, feelings, perceptions, memories, etc.) that are suppressed by consciousness. A complex psychological phenomenon with similar core functions. It can absorb a lot of experience, making the party's thoughts, behaviors and emotions susceptible to the influence of this complex and follow a certain way to form a fixed behavior pattern. Complex is a psychoanalytic school Basic concept. Psychoanalysts call the boy's instinct of "loving mother and hating father" "Idipus" based on the allusion that King Oedipus in ancient Greek mythology was "destined to commit the crime of killing his father and marrying his mother unintentionally". They also refer to the little girl's affectionate preoccupation with her father, and her desire to put her mother aside as superfluous and take her place (the latent wish to 'love father and dislike mother') as Do 'Electra complex' (Electra complex). They also called the subconscious fear of having their sex organs removed for no reason called 'castration complex' (castration complex). Freud believed that the love complex is The root of psychoneurosis. The complex is often produced by a major injury in the personal emotional experience. This injury is buried in the subconscious, and will be fixed in the human consciousness in a special concept form. This idea becomes must be full of emotion, and always affect his thoughts, feelings and life." ("Psychological Dictionary", edited by Zhu Zhixian)

Regarding Freud's "Oedipus complex" (also translated as Oedipus complex) and "Irek's complex" (also translated as Electra complex), we discuss in the text of this book Will also talk about.The use of "complex" here has the original meaning of psychoanalysis, and it refers to some "complex psychological phenomena composed of ideas repressed by consciousness and having similar core functions", and it may be applied more broadly than them, such as What we see in our daily life is that overseas Chinese have a "fallen leaves returning to their roots", Chinese writers have a "Nobel Prize complex" and so on.

Everyone must find those complexes that have strong dominance and influence on themselves in the depths of their hearts, which is a prerequisite for understanding self-personality. A complex is a kind of energy, a dynamic pattern, a trend of psychological movement, a program for people to deal with external things, a deep-rooted psychological existence, a mysterious force that influences people throughout their lives, and a continuous Dreams are the source of power that drives a person's behavior. Only by understanding the main complexes hidden deep in one's heart and knowing the origin of these complexes can one have a clear understanding of the most important characteristics of one's personality.