Chapter 16 Part 2

why push people too much We often criticize people as "ignorant". "Ignorance" means not knowing how to look at face, shameless when others give you face; when others give you a step, you don't follow the steps. In the same way, when someone wants face and steps, if you don't give them to him, you are also "ignorant", because you cause embarrassment to each other. You know, every "bragging" is a lie; every magic trick is a lie; every subterfuge is a lie. Most of these "lies" are not malicious, but for the sake of performance, for the sake of face, why do you have to expose them?

He knows you know something, but he doesn't expose it, he must be grateful.On the contrary, he hopes to find an excuse to excuse, if you insist on blocking, he will definitely hate you even more. Growth enables people to see through lies and deceptions. Maturity also enables a person to know when not to expose a lie and when not to expose a deception. Like using soldiers, you just leave a gap. You can hunt him down and catch him all; you can also let him go, let him appreciate you and become your future friend. Avoiding direct conflict is an important skill in life. The Story of the Fifth Column Forming an Army

Things are so wonderful in the world.You will find that people seem to have a special sixth sense, try to associate those clues together, start to guess, start to ask, and generalize from the other party's reaction, and finally draw a conclusion. How cruel!It's just that there is no way, in order to reduce resistance and "injury to each other", he has to do so.If it were you, wouldn't you do it? Now, you can better understand why news about personnel, policies, deals, and diplomatic relations cannot be leaked in advance.And what will happen the next day, the person involved pretended to be surprised and said:

"Don't talk nonsense, it's totally impossible!" You must also learn from the preceding stories and discourses-- Even if you are 100% sure, you can't show it in words or in any action, even if you have "unconcealable joy".Otherwise, you may end up having fun in vain. On the contrary, if you are the "key person" who got the news, you'd better not say it.Because when you "love present", you may also cause yourself a lot of trouble. psychic xiaoyou Therefore, if you are a small person, you should know that those who boast that they "have inside information" are often fake.If you entrust him, not only may you suffer a loss, but you may also make things worse.

If you are an official in power, you should also know that everyone who inquires about the news around you can expand the small news as soon as they turn around, and then become a "comprador", gain benefits, and even make you a scapegoat. Of course, in every corner of this world, there are people who are truly up to the heavens.The more the country is "ruled by man", the more such people there are; the more the country is "ruled by law", the fewer such people.But even in countries with the most rule of law, early leaks of information may still lead to unexpected results.

Kicked by him at the door Everyone has this problem - they can't hide their words in their hearts, especially when they are kind to others, and they wish that the other party would know early on.Many personnel and business news were exposed early in this way, and as a result, major events were ruined, or credit was taken away by others. You should know that if you find that your company or executive has taken the initiative to consider something you hoped but did not say, you must not rush forward. When you think that "opening up" may make things develop faster, it is very likely Instead, you lose what you will get.

when walking down the hill If you don't want to see the people below see the wind turn the rudder and leave one by one, you must not let the people below feel that "the wind direction has changed" early. They followed you, you changed, it was you who let them down, and you let them down. When you have lost power, don't give them too many chances to rebound. Especially, when you "want to continue" and "don't want to continue", you should not show a little "tiredness".Otherwise, not only will you not be able to "take the initiative to step down" honorably.Instead, it will become embarrassingly "forced to step down".

What a big gap there is! I feel the need.I think everyone, whether you are an officer or a subordinate, a politician or a commoner, should understand the principle of "don't say immature things". Many people fail to do this, which not only ruins other people's good deeds, but also destroys others. own good deeds. Old Zhao's Town Hall Treasure In the collection world, this has almost become a kind of natural truth-- Since you are a novice, you should pay the tuition fee, avoid being "deceived" from "learning", and "learn" from "being defrauded".A novice suffers a loss once, learns a good job once, and gradually becomes a veteran;

Why do you all do this?The reason is very simple. Since you are obsessed with it and forget to eat and sleep, you become a collector and a "crazy".Become a "crazy". Of course you love that stuff, to death. The biggest problem in this world often lies in love. When you fall in love with a piece of king, a piece of porcelain, or a painting, which is the only one in the world, you love it so much, will you give it to others? A person can be very clean and never greedy for extraneous wealth.But when he becomes obsessed with things, seeing that thing is another matter.You must not use his "attitude towards money" to infer his attitude towards "collection".

Because money can be earned at any time, but rare collections are hard to come by. If you ask me the safest way to collect things, I would like to suggest: One, you can ask an expert to introduce you, or buy directly from him "although it is a high-quality product, but it is not a high-quality product that he can value".Since he doesn't see the upper limit, just "no dispute" in his heart, and he can think about you objectively. Second, if you really plan to collect good things, but you are not an expert, you have two ways to go. Go to an internationally renowned auction house and buy "see catalogues", that is, things that are known to have been collected by someone before and printed in the collection catalogue.

Or go to a gem or antique appraisal class first, study hard, and then go out by yourself and buy calmly after learning. remember!In this world, the most difficult thing to change is human nature, and the most likely thing to trust is yourself. The tour guide is polite I say so much to tell you what is human nature, and I also suggest you: If you introduce a friend to a familiar store to buy things (especially expensive ones), you should tell the store owner in front of the friend: "This is my good friend, I don't want any favors, you treat him as me, try to be cheap!" " And when you get the kickback like Xiaoying in the previous story, you should return it to your friend. If you are the boss, always pay attention to the relationship between the vendor and your staff.Public is public, private is private, and it is human nature for manufacturers to give small gifts during festivals.You should let employees share. If "they" are getting closer, you have to prevent the disadvantages. If you are an employee. I hope you will be a clean stream in this troubled world.When the businessmen you come and go with want to give you "unreasonable" preferential treatment, you should know that it is an undeserved advantage. Tell him solemnly, and even at the beginning of your public purchases, say to him: "I don't take any favors, and since I buy from you myself, I won't ask for special discounts. Please give me the cheapest Price." You will gain his respect because of this, and it will be passed on to your boss, and you will be more likely to be reused.Most importantly, because of your uncompromising morality, you will not be subject to greater temptation. I'm not teaching you to cheat, I'm teaching you to recognize the "human nature" of everyone, including yourself. The duel between the boxing champion and the little girl It is human nature to sympathize with the weak.It is human nature to sympathize with women when men and women are fighting. People would think, why would the weak fight back when they knew they couldn't beat the strong?Of course I was rushed!Those who are persecuted deserve sympathy! It's like, when a kitten pounces on a big dog, whether the kitten is going wild or not, it's always applauded. In the same way, when someone weaker than you decides to go all out, even if you are much stronger and have 120 reasons to support you, it is best not to confront him head-on. good!You are very strong, you can chop off his head with one knife, but he can only chop off your leg at most.In the end, you must win and he must die. The question is, not only is it not honorable to win, but can you still be called a hero when you break a leg? compassionate sorrow "Don't fight people who don't want to die!" When you find that your opponent is sacrificing his own life, the lives of his relatives, or his "second life" to deal with you to the end, even if you are justified, you'd better avoid it. When you find that a person loves you more than himself, even sacrificing his relatives for you, think carefully whether he will sacrifice you one day. The more successful, powerful, rich, and famous you are, the more careful you should be! neither good nor bad person After much deliberation, I found that, in fact, many people in the world are such neither good nor bad people.When you are not careful, they will take advantage of you; when you have friendship with him, he may give you back. I also found that in this rapidly changing era, everyone seems to have become a tourist. When you are a little strange, a little amateur, or do not understand work ethics, people may bully you before guiding you. It is the purpose of this book to teach just this lesson-- When you work, what positions must you stand on? When you have personnel arrangements, why can't you disclose them in advance? Why should you ask for a fair price, not the lowest price, when you compare prices on something? Why should you react early when you find small signs that are not good for you? When you feel tired, why can't you show it? When you become a judge, a doctor, a teacher, a secretary, a receptionist... what taboos do you have at work? Although on the surface, they are all frustrating stories, or reveal some human deceit, but what is to be discussed in the back is the way of getting along with each other. I want to emphasize once again that everyone is a "human being" with human greed, selfishness and warmth, just like the driver and art shop owner I talked about earlier.We can never forget that he also has human weaknesses because of the goodness shown by the other party.Not to mention denying his lovely side just because of his temporary despicableness. , compared to the previous episode, it is indeed deeper and hotter.I sincerely hope that every reader can understand the purpose of my writing this book-- I am not teaching you to cheat, but to teach you to recognize human nature. Don't forget their badness because of their goodness; don't forget their goodness because of their evilness.