Chapter 3 Part 3

Tiger Wang takes office Remember, many people in this world will ask your opinion on third parties.His purpose may be to investigate, or it may be to "tell your words".When you find someone else talking, you can't say a word. As for general chatting, if you find that the other party wants to criticize someone related to you, the best way is to remove the topic in time, or hint to the other party about your "relationship". Otherwise, as soon as the other party's criticism comes out, as in the story, many side effects will occur. In short, it is best not to spread words if you can not pass on words; it is best not to use cliche words if you can.Can not get involved in "background criticism", it is best not to get involved.Let yourself be like a beach, when big waves come, they caress the beach and recede wave after wave.And don't be like a rock, which makes a small wave also stir up a high spray.

shameful justified When Xiuying entered the door today, her complexion was not good, she threw her leather bag on the sofa, and sat there silently. "What's wrong?" Xiao Wang approached softly. "What's the matter?" Xiuying turned her face away: "Ask yourself!" The moment she spoke, she became even more angry, and her face was flushed all of a sudden. "You really humiliated me enough today, in front of a lot of colleagues, I really want to find a hole to slip in." "Our director and I, visiting your company, how could you lose your face?" Xiao Wang was at a loss: "It is because I am a celebrity in front of the director that he will take me there. Why doesn't he bring me?" What about others? Besides, you have to think about it, the director doesn’t visit other factories, why is he looking for your factory, and I introduced him?” The more Xiao Wang said, the more angry he said: “Your factory, from top to bottom, If you make this deal, you should thank me, that is, thank you, how can you say that you are ashamed instead?"

"Of course it's embarrassing!" Xiuying turned her face: "Before you went, I told my boss and colleagues that you are a senior in my department, a high-achieving student, and an expert in this field..." "You're right!" "Big mistake!" Xiuying stared, then lowered her head suddenly, covered her face and began to cry: You are following next to your director, looking like you don't know what to ask. Obviously, the machine you know best can be done by you Introduction, why don't you speak, and keep asking your director.He knows shit! "

"What the hell does he know?" Xiao Wang paused for a moment, and actually laughed: "He also learned this, even if it's outdated, he's always the director!" (think about it) I deliberately only told half of the above two stories, leaving the ending for readers to guess. Assistant Professor He is indeed a smart young man. He can be used by ten people alone. The problem is that "smart" includes not only knowledge and reaction, but also wisdom in dealing with the world. When young people fail, they often fail because they don't know how to express themselves in time, and they often fail because they over-express themselves.The more you behave, the more proud you are, and you forget the existence of others.

On the contrary, Xiao Wang, who stood behind the chief in the attitude of a staff member, worked silently and did not show himself, understood the samadhi of being a human being.In the story, Xiao Wang made it very clear: "He (Director) also learned this." If the director is a complete layman, it is absolutely natural for Xiao Wang, an expert, to explain on his behalf.However, when his supervisor is also an expert, Xiao Wang rushed to speak in front, not only to steal the limelight, but also to show the momentum of "I am more expert than you". Salesmen know a kind of speaking skills; they know that the other party does not understand, but say "I believe you must be an expert, know...".Then, speak out the idea that you want to sell.Doing this is much more effective than saying "you need to know...".Because the former expresses agreement, the same position, and respect; the latter expresses the assumption that the other party does not understand and needs guidance.

Everyone loves to wear a high hat, and of course the former is the most flattering. In addition, people like to show off. Everyone who knows a little thinks he is a half-expert; and every expert hopes to be an expert among experts.What situation would be more embarrassing than acting more expert in front of an expert? I once saw with my own eyes that a "master" took his apprentice to a calligraphy exhibition, stood in front of a cursive script, and the master shook his head and read word by word.Suddenly, a word was written so sloppily that even the master couldn't recognize it. When he was thinking about it, the apprentice laughed and said:

"It's just a" hair head! " On the spot, the master changed his face and angrily said: "Is it your turn to talk?" The mistake made by the apprentice was to "behave the teacher in front of the teacher". The problem is, it is his teacher after all. Speaking of this, we often hear graduate students complaining in the academic world: "Most of the papers published by a certain professor were written by me. He just set a topic, and all the research was done by me, but he later used his name. " There are many such facts, but we also have to think about it. When that professor was a graduate student, did he also help his professor do research?

Some "ethics" have been developed over a long period of time, which may seem unreasonable, but there is some truth in them. "One general is successful and ten thousand bones are dead", small soldiers can say "White knives go in, red knives go out, we are fighting, why are all the famous generals?" When he says this, one should think: First, which general did not rise from the lower ranks? Second, when a battle is defeated, such as the Second World War, those who go to the gallows are those generals and war criminals, why not murderous soldiers? I once watched a doctoral dissertation oral examination, the supervisor said very politely to the students who passed the oral examination:

"To be honest, you are an expert in this area after you have studied it for so many years. We are not only testing you, guiding you, but also asking you for advice." The students bowed again and again and said: "It is the teacher who guides my direction and gives me opportunities. Without this opportunity, how can I perform?" Here, I especially want to emphasize to young friends who are new to society that this society is like many orchards. When you enter, the owner of the orchard may say: "Okay! That piece of land is for you to plant!" When you grow the most fruitful fruit, even far surpassing the orchard owner's previous ones, never forget who let you in and who gave you the land.

When we are complacent, we must not forget our roots. Of course, there are great skills in advancing and retreating between people, some of which are so unreasonable that they can even be called skills. For example, in ancient times, when the emperor's imperial conquest was in person, even if the general who was fighting the enemy could defeat the enemy in one fell swoop, he did not have to work for the emperor, but as long as he heard that the imperial conquest was going to be personally conscripted, he would often stand still.Wait for the emperor to come, and then fly the emperor's flag to conquer the enemy.

Standing still may appease the traitor and let the enemy take a breather, causing great losses. Why not beat him down in one go? In addition, how much public salary will be wasted if the royal driver personally conscripts and labors to mobilize the crowd?Why not spare the emperor's trouble, wouldn't the emperor be happier? If you think this way, you are wrong, and you may even be so wrong that one day you may be inexplicably demoted, or even lose your head. You have to think about it, why is the emperor's personal conquest?Isn't there "great joy" in it?Would he have known that the enemy was about to surrender, so he drove himself to fight.He didn't "conquer in person", he came to "take merit" in person! Who should I show my merit to? Show it to the world!Show it to the people! Look!As soon as the emperor came out, the stubborn enemies bowed their heads and surrendered. So even if the emperor just stood by and watched and let you defeat the enemy, you still have to shout "Long live my emperor!" It is the emperor's heavenly power that deters the stubborn enemy. Is it wrong to say so? There is nothing wrong with that either.Because your general rank was given by the emperor.Your army is also sent by the emperor.The source of drinking water is still the mighty grace of the emperor. Having said all this, some things are really confusing and chilling, but this is the real society, the real "human nature" and "humanity", I have to say it, you have to understand it. correct!The end of the previous two stories—— Assistant Professor He later took the test for the research institute in his department, but he failed the test.The director often sneered, and Assistant Professor He finally left the country. Sure enough, Xiuying's factory got the order, and Xiao Wang later became the director.