Chapter 9 Nine

A man pulls himself away from a woman if he doesn't know when. A woman pulls herself away from her child if she doesn't know when. It's hard for them to get ahead! get off the table In the morning, the gardener came to cut the grass, and we asked him to raise the low basketball hoop to ten feet, and tried to shoot a few shots. Then I went into the house to work, but I saw you shooting basketballs in a row, a little bit like you couldn't stop, I called you several times in a row, and you answered "yes", but continued to play until I yelled "You play ball!" The sound is affecting my writing", you reluctantly stop, and walk back a "and a half", and ran to the basket to throw a few balls.

"It's early in the morning, a few shots are enough, you should grasp the best mental state, do something that requires special thinking! Play again when you have time in the afternoon!" I said: "And most importantly, you must Learn to control yourself, if you want to stop, just stop!" "Of course I can stop if I want to, as long as I put the ball away, won't it stop?" You rolled your eyes in disbelief: "What's so special about this?" So let me ask you, which gambler is sitting at a gaming table with a gun pointed at him, telling him to keep gambling?Instead of stopping if you want to stop?But how many people think: "Let's gamble again! Just one bet is fine! If you win, go away!" As a result, one after another, the loser loses everything and loses his family and children!

Isn't the sentence in his heart the same as your saying, "Let's throw another ball! Just one more ball! Go in and go!"? Isn't it also possible for a gambler to collect the remaining chips at any time, say "I don't play anymore", and then get up and leave? So don't think that "throwing another ball" is nothing unusual. Many people in the world procrastinate, procrastinate, and fail in the end, all of which are caused by this mentality! I remember that I loved eating chocolate when I was a child. Every time your grandpa brought chocolate back, he said to me:

"This kind of chocolate is not cheap, eat it slowly every day, don't eat it all at once!" The problem is that the chocolate is not divided into compartments like the current chocolate bars.I had to bite from the raised part and eat the sharp corners first. But after biting and biting, there are always some uneven places, so I continue to bite. Although I know that I have eaten a lot, I always say in my heart, "One more bite will be fine!" In the end, I was covered in chocolates, and in my sticky hands, I was holding a piece of chocolate as small as a sugar cube...

I simply swallowed it in one gulp! If that chocolate represented money, wouldn't I have given up on myself without knowing how to control myself and compromised step by step, and finally lost everything and nothing? From this we can see that "self-compromise" is really human nature.But you must also know that if we cannot overcome our nature, it will be difficult for us to achieve extraordinary achievements! I often say: "If a man doesn't know when to pull himself away from a woman; if a woman doesn't know when to pull herself away from her child, it will be difficult for them to stand out."

The question is: Isn’t it human nature to love the opposite sex and love children?Is it necessary to go against nature in order to be successful? So let me digress first: Do you remember how I used to always have a bird feeder hanging out of my bedroom window?Every spring, I hide behind the shutters and watch the big birds bring their little ones to feed. Sparrows always have a lot of children. Four or five small birds in a row are crowded together with fluffy feathers. Every time the big birds fly close with food in their mouths, the small birds will keep vibrating their wings, opening their mouths wide and making squeaky noises. cry.

At first, the big birds came to my feeder to eat millet, then went down to the ground to chew, and then returned to the small birds.But gradually, the big bird reduced the frequency of feeding the young birds. Some of the young birds chased after their parents, and the big bird was so disturbed that it barely fed them a few mouthfuls. But after a while, the situation changed. The big bird not only stopped feeding, but also avoided the small bird, and even attacked to peck the small bird back. So I began to reflect, maybe it is also a kind of nature to drive children away from me, because if I don’t do this, it will be difficult for parents to succeed, and it will be difficult for children to be independent.

Having said that, even birds know self-control, stop when they should stop, and pursue greater progress.We human beings, can we not be like this? remember!One more game, one more bite, one more gamble, and one more minute of sleep may sound trivial, but the "self-compromising" bacteria in it may erode your bone marrow and make you unable to stand up straight for the rest of your life! He himself made a demonstration, so big a person, It was like a thin piece, sticking to the ground. The ball crosses the street!People don't cross the street! We were playing ball in the yard tonight, and we accidentally let the ball roll down the hillside. You chased and blocked the ball all the way, and saw the ball rolled to the side of the road. Fortunately, you didn't rush after it, because a car was speeding past in the night.

Do you remember what I yelled after the ball rolled to the curb?I shout. "The ball crosses the street! People don't cross the street!" When I was young, your grandfather often warned me like this, so whenever I encountered a ball rolling across the street, I would think of that sentence in my heart, stop, look at both sides of the street clearly, and then go to pick it up.Of course, although it is said that "people don't cross the street", in fact people also cross the street, but they don't rush over without thinking. Later, when I was in junior high school, not far from the station, I suddenly saw a car, and after desperately chasing it, I fell down a lot, and my palms and knees were all worn out, and your grandma scolded and said, "Didn't your father tell you when he was alive?" ?'The ball crosses the street! People don't cross the street!  …

So the ball became a car! For thirty years, this sentence has often appeared in my heart.The "ball" that my father said was also replaced by a passport.Watches, pens, money and most cherished creations... When I was robbed in a narrow alley, when I was sketching on a bridge, my work was blown to the side of the bridge; when I was climbing a mountain, my backpack rolled to the cliff.Many times, if I just rushed up, I might snatch things back, but I adopted a calm and conservative attitude, like a child standing on the side of the street in the early years, watching his beloved things roll away.

You may be very surprised that the seemingly strong and energetic father has such a cowardly side.But why don't you think about it, just because I always take care of the overall situation, I can go through many dangers and still stay in the green hills. When I served in the army, there was a platoon leader who was burly and high-spirited. Every time he wanted to teach someone, he just had to stand forward without opening his mouth, and he had the power to intimidate people. I remember one time when I was training to crawl forward. Whenever the platoon leader saw someone whose heel was too high, he would go over and kick it hard: "If there was a real war, your heel would have been smashed by a machine gun!" Then he made a demonstration by himself, unexpectedly such a "big" person, such a big pair of feet, actually seemed to be a thin piece, sticking to the ground. "Show it! Don't show it at this time, otherwise you won't get to 'show'!" He roared: "People who only know how to fight hard and want character are easy to break!" The year before last, when your grandma and I went back to the mainland, I heard that many relatives who had prominent backgrounds in their early years were tortured to death during the "Cultural Revolution".Several elders who survived sighed and said: "We can survive because we don't think about the glory of the past. If we lose our lives, can we wait until today to be rehabilitated? Not to mention the glory of the future!" Finally, let me tell you another interesting thing! I recently saw a research report. According to statistics, those children who can see things in kindergarten and are not in a hurry to eat, but rather wait a little longer to get better food, generally have higher grades in high school. If the food is a ball rolling across the street, wouldn’t the children who know how to wait and think far ahead just stand on the side of the street and observe calmly? "The ball crosses the street! People don't cross the street!" I learned this sentence from your grandfather, and I give it to you now, I hope you will benefit from it in your life.