Chapter 92 give the heart flower a peace

A white-collar lady met her colleague Fan Jie in front of the elevator at work early in the morning, she nodded and said hello, Fan Jie immediately looked at her and commented sharply: "Hey, why does your hairstyle look so awkward today! You are so sharp! Don't make such a fuss about your chin face!" After speaking, he clapped his palms and laughed.Sister Fan's two "cool comments" made her feel stuck all day long. A retired engineer met a neighbor who came back from a certain activity on the road. After greeting each other, the neighbor asked him what he was going to do. He said to go to a movie. The neighbor immediately "commented" after hearing the name of the movie: "Hi, That kind of petty bourgeois taste! You don’t need to watch it!” After breaking up, the engineer still headed towards the movie theater, but he kept the words "small bourgeois fun" in his heart. When he arrived at the ticket window, he felt guilty. Buying the ticket and going shopping instead, but it is still difficult to restore the original happy state of mind.

The life of each of us, from a psychological point of view, actually exists in continuous emotions. Good emotions, or interest, interest, are like flowers blooming on the tree of mood. , or has already opened up brilliantly, they are all precious to the existence of life, I need to cultivate more and cherish them even more.As for others, it is not a problem to turn a blind eye and be insensitive to it, because it is difficult to ask others to add fragrance to your good mood. , Just like being jealous of flowers and wind and rain, destroying the pistil and breaking the petals, it would be unkind, and it is not a lesson.If we change positions and others are interested, we are not adding to the fun but spoiling it. Thinking about it, some things seem to be very small, but the psychological harm caused to others by our "cool reviews" is sometimes even described as "cruel and inhumane". Not too much.

Of course, malicious misdeeds that deliberately defeat people's interests are rare in life.Like the two examples mentioned above, the reason why the big sister Fan is like that is mostly due to the so-called "outspoken" personality. She didn't realize that she was defeating other people's wishes, but she would vent in the "speaking out" Gaining instant pleasure and making others unhappy for a day, she didn't realize it.The master who bluntly said that the movie that others want to watch is "small citizen's taste" has a strong sense of "cool review". Obviously, he has always been derogatory towards the retired engineer in the same building, that is, he doesn't think highly of others, and always thinks that he The level is high, and others are not level, so in that encounter, his ridicule was on the verge of breaking out, but if you want to say how vicious he is, it may not be so. Everywhere and everything must belittle the heart of the retired engineer.

In private, back to back, it is unavoidable for us to express some ridicule and criticism of others, but it is not a big problem, but we must not "head-on" the good intentions of others.Once in the park, my wife and I saw a pair of lovers holding hands walking across the road. The man was a head shorter than the woman, and his face didn’t seem to be pleasing to the eyes. My wife and I came home and talked about it. , but we did not exchange views at that time; unexpectedly, several other young men laughed strangely in front of the lovers on the park corridor, and some deliberately shouted: "Hey, Wu Dalang Pan Jinlian!" The pair of lovers were like blooming flowers, when this kind of evil wind hit, they suddenly became annoyed and changed color. Fortunately, they didn't attack, and they couldn't resist arguing with the bad guys. I don't know how long the gloomy mood after being cut off and disappointed will last.

We must be deeply aware that not only is it sacred to choose a lover, but also to change hairstyles, clothes, earrings and pins, what book to buy in the bookstore, what kind of snacks we like to eat...especially It is because of these ordinary things and small pleasures in daily life that a person's heart flower opens its petals and scents, the dignity of life cannot be desecrated.Not only for your own heart, but also for others.This kind of self-cultivation is something that everyone should possess.