Chapter 90 Colleague distance

I couldn't help smiling when I received a luxurious New Year's greeting card inscribed as "Congratulations from all my colleagues" in an organization.A young man in the unit once told me frankly at my home: "Colleagues are those who are physically close every day, but their hearts are often far away." At that time, I debated with him, because my generation, I firmly believe that although I come from all corners of the country, I have come together because of a common revolutionary goal, so I am united as one person.He smiled and said, what you are talking about is the political relationship between people in the unit back then. Now, as far as civil servants are concerned, such a relationship that is commensurate with comrades should indeed be maintained.But now there are countless non-official business entities, why do people in these organizations come together?It should be driven by the personal economic interests allowed by the law, which constitutes the basis of their cooperation, so I send you a greeting card, and the inscription is not called "all comrades" but "all colleagues".Don't look it up in the dictionary either, the difference between "comrade" and "colleague" is "unspoken"! When I first heard what he said, I was heartbroken and asked: "What kind of tricks can you work together if you don't agree? Come?He laughed and said, if there is a complete disagreement, or even a conflict, then of course we will break up, and not only the boss fires you, but you can also take the initiative to fire the boss; but the situation is often heart-to-heart" Although the center of the circle does not match, the scanning of the "radius" forms a large area of ​​overlap, and sometimes the overlapping part will be reduced to a leaf-like "cutting", and it can also be "separated" in the "cutting" area , even if it further degenerates into that the two circles are only "tangent" at one point, then they may still last for a long time at this point.He said that this kind of "swimming cooperative relationship" that "each has its own center" has become the normal state of life for his generation, and he didn't understand why I made such a fuss about it.

Later, I gradually digested the earnest teachings of this young man, and realized that there is a distance between colleagues, which is true both at home and abroad, ancient and modern.Now that our social life has entered into a pluralistic state, and the possibility of each person choosing an interpersonal combination has greatly increased, then, as long as it is legal and does not violate the basic morality, seeking "swimming cooperation" "colleague relationship" should be regarded as normal matter. Unexpectedly, the young man came again two days ago, talking about colleagues in their organization, who had a picnic gathering in this warm winter. The head of the band, talking about childhood memories, turned out to be like a magnet passing magnetism, and one by one, even rushing to talk about their childhood joys, distresses, fears, sorrows, fantasies, ecstasies... "Suddenly , "The young man told me, "When we looked at each other, there was a feeling of eye-to-eye and sparks... At that moment, we all thought at the same time, as colleagues, it would be great if we could always be like this. !" It happened to be him again, suggesting a new way of thinking to me.Yes, is it only under certain circumstances, in some special groups, and only within a certain period of time, can a state where the "centers" of colleagues all converge on one point?We live a hard life in this hustle and bustle, should we focus on pursuing "reasonable and legal self-interest", or should we focus on seeking harmony with others?