Chapter 88 appear when necessary

Even though they are neighbors, and even live on the same floor in the apartment building, they often don't see each other for many days, and occasionally meet each other at the elevator entrance, but they just nod and smile.The friendship between neighbors is as light as water.There are some benefits of lightness. Modern society provides individual life with the possibility of highlighting individuality, and also provides more ample privacy space. Atmosphere, intruding into one's private space at will, even if it is out of good intentions, overflowing with enthusiasm.People are more and more willing to "be the emperor behind closed doors" and take charge of their personal lives.

However, even for highly independent people, there will always be times when they need help.It is often a critical moment when neighbors who usually get along with each other indifferently appear in front of them and extend a helping hand in time, so that the immediate distress begins to be resolved.It may be nothing more than calling an ambulance, making a necessary call, or simply uttering a few words of advice that are invaluable in that particular situation... and once your situation is slightly eased, it will be necessary. People who appear from time to time, but fade away, not expecting the slightest gratitude, let alone expecting something in return.

In interpersonal relationships, some acquaintances only show up when necessary, and have a close relationship with you at critical moments.Generally speaking, they are close to you, close or distant, like friends but not friends, and treat each other with courtesy. You can't expect them to share your heart with you, and you can't link your long-term fundamental interests with them, but you However, under certain circumstances, when you are unaccompanied, when you really cannot solve a specific problem independently, you can ask them for help with confidence.And some of them may also take the initiative to answer the call when you think it is necessary, or even come uninvited, so that you can feel the most precious kindness in the world during that special time, or even just for a moment. with integrity.

In the interpersonal world, on matters that only concern ourselves, the conscious avoidance of others is a blessing in our life; and the timely appearance of others when necessary is the highlight of our life. Ask yourself, as others in the consciousness of others, for example, neighbors as neighbors, colleagues as colleagues, passers-by as passers-by, can you not intervene, interfere, and pester unnecessarily?In particular, can assistance appear in front of their eyes when they need it most, as necessary and in a timely manner? Of course, the boundary between redundant intervention and necessary appearance is often difficult to draw.I am afraid that it requires not only rationality, but also the perception accumulated in the heart of goodness and sincerity to make a decision in an instant and quickly put it into action.For example, when I suddenly heard a neighbor's strange exclamation, I vaguely remembered that he was the only one living in that house, and this person never made loud and atmospheric noises at ordinary times. Hearing the strange groan, he went back to his home decisively and called 110 to call the police... The police came and entered the neighbor's house from the balcony, and it was confirmed that it was an acute attack of hernia, and he couldn't move his body for a while... Then he called an ambulance and escorted him to the The hospital paid the money in advance and handled the formalities until his nephew arrived.When the doctor and his nephew were discussing the operation, they appeared when it was necessary, and then quietly left when it was no longer necessary... The neighbor recovered from the operation and returned home. He came to thank him with his nephew, stayed for a while, and accepted the expression of gratitude A gift that is not too outrageous - a set of Nescafe coffee, and I wish it a healthy future when I send it out.But after that, I didn't follow along, let alone explore: why do you usually live alone?What is your nephew's occupation?What do the nephew's parents do... like this, with ample advances and retreats, and proper proportions, can they do it?

Self, others, the sparks at the point of contact, it is best not to be redundant, but when necessary, it is as brilliant as a star.