Chapter 87 Undertake talk

Nagging is certainly not a good thing, and it can be annoying at times.However, sometimes people just want to talk to someone, and they don't necessarily need the deep sympathy or advice from the other party—as long as they can listen quietly, they will be inexplicably grateful.Generally speaking, women's needs in this area are stronger than men's. So I thought of Mr. Lu Xun's "Blessing". If we analyze it from the perspective of human nature, the most valuable part of Mr. Lu Xun's masterpiece may be that it expresses this strong need in human nature-confession.

Of course, Sister Xianglin was extremely unfortunate, especially after she and He Laoliu's beloved son were taken away by wolves, the greatest crisis of fate appeared.After He Lao Liu's death, she had no choice but to go to Master Lu Si's house again.According to the description in the novel, the fourth master and Mrs. Lu's family can barely accommodate her, but they just taboo her "unlucky" and don't let her participate in the sacrificial ceremony at the end of the year.They finally fired Mrs. Xianglin mainly because she became nervous and nagging, always wanting to tell people how "unexpected" her beloved son was taken away by wolves in winter. Undertake this confession, and feel that it is a symptom of a person who is completely useless, so Xianglin's sister-in-law became a beggar, and in the cold winter, talking to herself in the style of "Heavenly Questions", she fell to death in a deserted street wild alley.

The great misery of life lies in the fact that the desire to confide cannot be accepted by even just one "other". Those who refuse to accept Mrs. Xianglin's confession are not only the master and wife of Lu Si, but also those who are of similar social status to Mrs. Xianglin. What's even more frightening is that sometimes some people tease the confidant by pretending to accept it for entertainment, and the scars on the confidant's heart are deeper and more painful. Talking out is a dignified act of life.Any practice of profaning, playing with, suppressing, banning the behavior and the person who confides is wrong.Even "morbid confession" must be respected. Can doctors disrespect patients?

Aunt Xianglin ended her miserable life in the great distress of "confiding desires" and not being able to have any even slight successors. In my opinion, the most valuable part of "Blessing" is not only reflected in the aspects of "anti-feudalism", "anti-ethics" or "accusation of the old society". Ground appeal: Human beings should know how to accept others' confidantes, and gradually achieve the great harmony of human beings in the mutual acceptance of confidants. According to my way of thinking, the so-called friendship is actually mainly a kind of interpersonal relationship in which each other undertakes and confides.

What about love?Sexual love may be able to achieve the short-term pleasure of "skin promiscuity" beyond mutual confession and acceptance, but love must also add this factor.In the famous Chinese classical literature, the love between Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu runs through a confide--acceptance--unsatisfied with the degree of continuation--do not confide in anger--beg to confide--finally confide--obtained in the process of confidant and continuation Great joy--a new round of desire to confide--a new round of demand for acceptance--a new round of contradictions between the fit of confession and acceptance...

A good social group must be able to provide a variety of confide channels, and have a multi-level, good mechanism for mutual confide. Some people may ask: So, what is the value of silence? The answer was: Mr. Lu Xun, didn't he say it?If you don't break out in silence, you will perish in silence.He also said, listen to thunder in a silent place. I have repeatedly combined the implication of Mr. Lu Xun's "Blessing" with these compatible words, and I only feel that there are many new ideas that have not been tasted before, like blood drops like water, and they are soaked in the soul.