Chapter 59 don't be afraid

Weini is a northern dialect, but southerners can understand it literally.Wei Ni is stuck in a muddy quagmire. It is a metaphor for encountering troubles that cannot be resolved, being in an embarrassing situation, and quite embarrassing.This is a state that each of us will inevitably encounter in the journey of life.Some young friends will say, doesn't that mean encountering difficulties?What are you talking about Weini, is it suspected of "reposting"?There are many situations where you encounter difficulties. For example, two organizations are willing to hire you at once, and the two organizations have their own strengths and weaknesses for you, making you unable to make up your mind for a while. This kind of difficulty is different from Wei Ni.The reason why I say muddy mud is to refer to the kind of difficulty that really makes you accidentally fall into the quagmire and get out of the mud.

The embarrassment when throwing mud is difficult to pull out, and the image is ugly.How to extricate yourself from the quagmire, or ask for help to jump out of the quagmire, will not be discussed here.Most of the onlookers will laugh at you or even gloat about your misfortune. This is the most self-respecting and difficult to deal with.People with sensitive personalities, don't say they can't bear the clapping and applause of others, even if they see someone turning their heads to cover their mouths and sneer, it's psychologically unbearable.Some people can't struggle out of the quagmire for a long time after being sprained. Whether the method of overcoming specific difficulties is right or not, and whether the skills are high or not come second. He mainly feels that he has lost face and is in pain. A lot of time and energy, especially emotional and emotional Consciousness is all used in self-pity and blaming others.

So when you are in the mud, in addition to the specific methods and techniques to get out of the quagmire, there is also a psychological adjustment issue of how to deal with other people's non-benign reactions or even malicious reactions.French philosopher Sartre, he advocated "existentialism", the idea is to simply "see through" people other than himself. He has a famous saying: "Others are hell." It means that other people are full of malice against you anyway. Yes, you will never take pity on you when you are pissed, so you don't need to seek sympathy and assistance from others at all.Thinking about it this way can make one's heart as cold as iron, as long as there is no one else present, and he can handle his own affairs well.But in fact, Sartre's philosophy is not so simple and clear, and according to my personal life experience, the relationship between individuals and others in this world is not so pessimistic.My idea is that if you encounter someone who gloats or ridicules or ridicules after the mud, as long as he is not adding trouble (or "filling the mud in the pool"), then you may as well refer to Sartre's statement and hold that "there is evil in human nature." , this kind of reaction is not surprising, don't pay attention to him, let alone get angry" attitude, after a glance, you don't even have to turn your eyes to those people, and after you pull out of the quagmire and your situation improves greatly, don't talk to them "Theory", let alone retaliation.Of course, at that time, some of them may come to cheer you up and flatter you, and you must never accept it, just deal with it lightly.I also think that when you are in the mud, there is no sympathy, care, pity or even anxiety for you, no one is willing and practical to help you more or less, it is rare, so you must be good at Cherish even a little bit of kindness from others, draw strength from it, and use it to offset the stimulation of those vicious reactions to you, so as to help yourself get out of the predicament as soon as possible.

Don't be afraid of Weini.In the future, with self-love, self-improvement, self-respect, and self-reliance, coupled with the encouragement of people who treat you kindly, and the support of all benign factors in the entire social and cultural environment as the backing, you will definitely be able to "bring a bright future to another village". "of!