Chapter 58 say "bad change"

In the northern dialect, "Dao Gai" means sarcasm, even teasing. Yesterday in front of the newsstand on the subway platform, I heard someone pointing to a photo of a celebrity in a newspaper hanging on the stand, and said loudly to her companion: "Look at her virtue! Do you know? She is a work-study student. Graduated from school... At that time, my mother used her as an example to scare me all day long: don't be like her and fall into a work-study school... When she returned to our dormitory compound, how many adults would not let the children follow her? Playing..." Not only did her companions sound interesting, but also strangers who were buying newspapers and waiting for the bus, including me in the

I couldn't help but listen to it. So I thought, in the depths of human nature, one of the most difficult things to bear is the sudden success of those who have been familiar with me in the past. When information about the achievements of those familiar with the past appears in the media, similar ridicules will be heard like cicadas: "In our class back then, he was the one who failed the most times!" "He, he was the most popular in our unit back then!" "I have returned at least 10 drafts from him after passing through my hands... It's really useless! Just his current one... I have to return it to me!"

"You know? She didn't take any exams at that time!" "Look, look, his eyes are typical triangular eyes!" "...Don't mention it, back then...if it wasn't for me..." Perhaps, when things come to an end, "hands-on-hand combat" will congratulate him or her in person, but seeing his or her success attitude, there will always be "a villain succeeds", "the monkey wins the crown", "how long will it be?" Feelings of contempt and contempt. This "unbearable lightness of being" is often the most unbearable among people of the same sex, generation, and especially among "same family".

If it's just as mentioned above, at certain "occasions", I can't help expressing some disdain and ridicule, and even "casually" speaking when relatives, friends and colleagues are sitting around, or at social dinners. One or two small stories about how "that lord" was so miserable back then, to be honest, they all belong to the category of "human nature", and they are not considered as serious evils in human nature. If sometimes, when encountering a certain opportunity, I actually face the "smug" person, or squeeze it out from between the teeth, or pack it with a smile, and "dedicate" to the disappointing person, especially to expose the "old bottom" or "scar". As long as there is no trouble, it is nothing more than a sour "spiritual collision" between people.

If one can only keep contempt and disdain in one's heart and not show it in color or sound, then one's virtue, it should be said, is quite high. Sartre said, "Others are hell." Too serious! But in the eyes of others, for successful people, especially those who appear as "flooding lotus", it is really not heaven.Behind the "starchasers" of fans, there will be many pairs of eyes that are not just picky, staring and scanning like searchlights. Think about it carefully, the never-ending waves of "jealousy", "dissatisfaction", "disagreement", "see how long you will be popular" in the ocean of human nature may be an indispensable balancer for human groups.

After all, the world does not exist only for outstanding "successful people". When "successful people" taste the "fruits of success", they must pay a price, and that price must include others—the main thing is not necessarily the same. Members of the "successful group", but those who have not necessarily achieved the same success, or people who have not even talked about success-the ridicule and disdain, or in the vernacular, it is "bad reform". A successful person who is aware of someone's "bad change" and doesn't take it for granted may use that "bad change" as a whetstone and put himself

The heart can become stronger and sharper through wear and tear. In this way, the human instincts of "bad reform" and "out of water lotus" should be classified into the category of human goodness.