Chapter 53 A ginkgo tree outside the window

In the autumn of that year, because the flight was delayed, I arrived at a hotel in another province at night. I was very tired and fell asleep.Xiangtian woke up and opened her eyes, only to feel that her eyes were full of golden light.It turned out that there was a ginkgo tree outside the window, and the branches were covered with fan-shaped autumn leaves, shining through the morning light with such a fascinating luster. I leaned against the window to admire the ginkgo tree, and when my companion came in to greet me, he said to me: "Ah, that's a bachelor—maybe, a bachelor lady, anyway, a bachelor..."

Among the arbors, ginkgo trees are indeed quite special. They are dioecious, and they are the "single family" in the arbor. Beijing is an ancient city with many ginkgo trees.Some ginkgo trees are thousands of years old. For example, in front of the Vajra Throne Pagoda in the Wuta Temple, one east and one west, two ancient ginkgo trees are as thick as four or five people can enclose them, and as high as ten-storey buildings. The two giant umbrellas and golden tents stand upright, so magnificent!The two trees, one male and one female, are both independent and intercourse. In late autumn, they bear a lot of fruit - that is, ginkgo biloba, commonly known as ginkgo.When the wind blows, the ripe ginkgo fruits crackle and fall to the ground, often forming a large piece.Ginkgo is poisonous, and it is extremely dangerous to eat raw. If it is fried or boiled, the toxicity will be greatly reduced and it can be eaten, but it is still slightly poisonous, so it must not be eaten in excess.

In ancient times, ginkgo trees were planted with one male and one female as much as possible, reflecting a traditional ethical concept.Now ginkgo trees are often selected as ornamental trees in green spaces or street trees on the street—for example, in Beijing’s Wangfujing Pedestrian Street, which is comparable to Ginza in Tokyo, Japan, Ginkgo trees are planted equidistantly in front of the magnificent commercial buildings— —But the current planting method is intentionally unisexual in one site, either all male trees or all female trees, which is functionally speaking to avoid increased fruit drop after fruiting in autumn The difficulty of cleaning the ground also prevents problems after the poisonous fruit is picked up by ignorant and greedy passers-by.In addition, I always feel that this also somewhat reflects the more enlightened ethical concepts in modern society-why do males and females have to be paired?Why can't you be single?

Single, as I understand it, has two modes.One is to refuse sex, not only do not look for a partner, do not consider marriage, and do not look for partners of the opposite sex or the same sex to live together, but they may pay more attention to family and friendship. He or she may live with their parents for a long time. Many classmates from middle school to university maintain a relatively warm relationship, and often become very close friends with several couples in the same generation, and become regular guests in other people's love nests.In addition to being asexual and not married, such singles are not very single in their way of life, and even they are more emotionally dependent on their relatives and friends than many married people. Even if they are alone in a room, they like "Congee on the phone".If they are not entertained by relatives and friends for a period of time, they will be unhappy. Their personality is close to that of underage children. Most of them are kind-hearted and simple, and they are easy to be satisfied. Even if they are in a bad mood, they will not go out of their way. Performance.The other kind is having sex, but not planning to get married, and not planning to have a cohabitation relationship with friends of the opposite sex or the same sex.He or she would never want to live with even the kindest relatives and friends, and the sign of their singleness must be having their own private space—whether allotted or borrowed, rented, bought—and Purchasing a private space that is completely their own and not easily opened to outsiders is their top priority in their material pursuits in life.Their social activities are generally held in public spaces such as restaurants and tea houses. There may be many such activities, but what they feel most happy is the indescribable feeling when they are alone in their private space-they are in What exactly do you do in your private space?It may not be the so-called "shady things", it may be listening to music, watching CDs, roaming on the Internet, reading newspapers and magazines, tasting classics, writing diaries, drawing on easels, and photographing your own "performance art". Published poems and novels, making gadgets, touching collections, and even just staring at the lights and shadows flickering on the ceiling, meditating.

I can understand both types of singletons above.I respect their life choices.In fact, like me, I am not only married, but also a typical non-single person who lives with three generations of "the old at the top and the young at the bottom". Come and disturb, and get a kind of dignity and pleasure like "I am myself, I have my own space, time and free mind". I remembered the scene of leaning against the window admiring the swaying golden ginkgo tree.Each tree has its unique beauty of life, Including the consistently single ginkgo tree...