Chapter 4 Four, big man

My only nephew: See you. A few months ago, I wrote you a letter about desire, about women being one of the greatest desires, about how men and women should get along.Your mother said that the writing is passable, but you are not in high school yet, you are still a boy, and you are still growing your body and mind. In the process of becoming a man, the letter a few months ago was written a bit. Early, should write a letter, talk about how to be a good man. I discussed with your mother, I don't think I'm qualified to talk about this issue.First of all, I am very lucky, and my ancestors rewarded me with food, so it is not easy to follow suit.When your grandma and your grandpa gave birth to me, DNA matching was very lucky. Your grandma always scolded the streets and scolded the world, people and beasts neatly, but there was no rules. Your grandma admitted that I have been cursing logically since I was a child. It is said that she scolded like throwing sand, and I scolded like stringing chains.Your grandfather was born with no attachment to this world. He started eating, drinking, whoring, and gambling at the age of thirteen. Every day was like the last day, but he never felt the pain of upside-down dreams and worrying about gains and losses.Secondly, I have always had a big hairy monster in my heart. I haven't killed it for thirty years, maybe it will pop out one day, and maybe it will become a monster that doesn't meet your mother's standard of a good man.Maybe, before I was 40 years old, my pure pornographic book about monks in Tang Dynasty was published, which made me lose my job and was beaten by monks. My poetry collection about love was published, which made me lose my wife, so I broke the pot Falling, drinking, drugging, deceiving people with gossip, napping, fooling around, and studying two or three very obscure knowledge.In fact, if I hadn't secretly promised your grandma when I was a child to live in a house with many toilets for her, I might have thrown myself like a broken can, and thinking about it makes people fascinated.Your mother said, then you should focus on writing before you are forty years old, and educate your nephew.

Well, the following is my high-level summary of making a good man in the world. As a good man, in real life, you have to deal with seven things in your life: Wealth (money), Women (women), Wine (wine and meat), Work (work), Watch (treasures), Workout (body), Wisdom (wisdom). We need a little money, but not too much, as long as we can be self-sufficient and financially independent.Too much, and life is a burden, with false good people and real enemies around you.Having a lot of money at the time of death is a very stupid thing. Whether it goes to heaven or hell, it is the first thing that will be laughed at.How much money is suitable?Enough is enough.Obscenity can be rich, but life should be simple.Life is simple, and the requirements for enough are not high, so you don't have to spend money for money.

Women (or men, if you like men more than women) are better off looking for ones that are similar to your universe and lifestyle.Otherwise, if you watch porn, play online games, or go to a cafe in Amsterdam, she will think you are a freak.Otherwise, you are addicted to spicy food, she is afraid of spicy food, you are afraid of cold, she is afraid of heat, you like house, she likes to go shopping, life will be difficult.Love and marriage are basically two unrelated things, although it is very easy to confuse them.But there is an important connection between the two. If you and that woman had love at the beginning, even if the love disappeared completely later, the vestiges left behind are the best cornerstone of a stable marriage.

Drinking and drinking with friends is very sad.There are not many friends, but long time. "It's okay to meet each other. Farewell, I will always remember you." If you are my age, there are two or three men that you can't help but miss. You must sit down and drink two or three bottles of good wine in two or three months. many.Also, too much alcohol will hurt, choose the lesser of two evils, it is better to hurt the stomach than to hurt the liver.After the big drink, go spit. It is best to do what you like to do and what you are good at, even if what you like to do and what you are good at doing is coding, washing vegetables or weeding.It is best to work around a small group of people who you like and also like you. In this world, work often occupies most of your effective time. If the people around you are boring, life is likely to be boring.Also, don’t underestimate work. Work can make your life more balanced. Even if your woman and your friends steal your money and run away, if you still have a job, you are not afraid.

Playthings will not be discouraged, but you must maintain a playful attitude and don't take it too seriously. You must go to every large auction.When playing, buy good things that you really like at a reasonable price, don't be greedy for cheap, and don't follow the opinions of various so-called masters and experts. The body is given to you by God for nothing, but it is not for you to spoil.If you use your body too hard, your body will make trouble for you.In fact, it is not difficult to be in good health, living in moderation, eating well, not in a hurry, drinking plenty of water, enjoying sexual intercourse, doing exercises regularly, and practicing Tai Chi.

Wisdom is more important than your looks, more important than your body, more important than the size of your penis.Wisdom is a matter of urgency.Think independently, often forget the standard answers, read history, go to more places, listen to your grandma scolding the streets, heaven, earth, people, and beasts, it is helpful. To be a man or a gentleman, there are three recommendations for extended reading.First, "Jin Ping Mei Ci Hua" tells about women who are as beautiful and powerful as plum blossoms in money and bottled wine.A good version that is relatively easy to get is the photocopy of the first edition of the Ming Dynasty Embroidery Image published by the People's Literature Society in December 1957.Second, "Mr.Jones' Rules", a practical manual written by the editor-in-chief of British GQ, includes how to ask for a raise, shave, jet lag, watch porn, etc. It is very concrete, specific, and practical.Thirdly, British novels in the nineteenth and early twentieth centuries, especially those by Maugham and Stevenson, with pearls and jade characters and gentlemanly sentiments.

Boys, be ambitious (boys, have ambitions)! The second is the driving force for the progress of this world. We have passed the second, and it is time for you to be the second. Feng Tang