Chapter 12 Chapter 12 The highest realm is thick black

The Master said: "If three people walk together, there must be my teacher. Choose the good ones and follow them, and change the bad ones." This sentence means: When there are more than three people, there must be one person who is stronger than me in a certain way. If I discover his advantages, I will learn to follow them seriously; , to remind myself not to make the same mistake. This sentence has also been passed down for nearly three thousand years, and it sounds so logical that it makes people nod repeatedly.However, we are most afraid of the word "seriousness" in everything. If we think about it seriously, we will find that there are too many problems, which Confucius did not mention.

First of all, why did Confucius say three people go together, but not two people?Doesn't it mean that when there are only two of us, the other must be a bastard tortoise, must be so bad, rotten, and hopeless that we can learn anything good from him?Why must three people be able to learn?Is there no need for two people? Secondly, what should we learn from others?What is kindness?What is unkindness?Is it good to be short-tempered and strong-tempered, or is it good to be gentle and calm?Is it good to be clear and sharp, or is it good to be vague and vague?Just two such simple questions made us break out in a cold sweat.

Now that we know it, it’s no wonder that although this sentence of Confucius has been passed down for nearly three thousand years, because there are two crucial problems that have not been resolved, so the inheritance belongs to the inheritance, but there are very few people who can really learn from this sentence. There are very few, and I am afraid that none of them will be found. Did Confucius deceive us?no!Confucius did not deceive anyone. For three thousand years, we have always deceived ourselves.You must know that the words of Confucius condense the extremely complex human wisdom. The simplest words are used to carry the most complex thoughts. Therefore, the words of Confucius are never meant to be listened to. Instead, you need to refer to your life practice and experience , I have been thinking about it all my life.

Just like here, why can you find my teacher if you go with three people, but you can't find it if you go with two people?This is because when two people meet, the lonely nature of human beings will make them have a natural instinct for intimacy, so when two people get along, it is easy to reach a mutual compromise.Let each other take a step and live in peace.Although disputes or conflicts between two people are not uncommon, their probability is much lower than that of more than three people. And once the number of people reaches three, or exceeds three, then, at this time, at least two ideas, two philosophies of life, or more than two political views are colliding with each other, and the result of the collision is bound to erupt. fierce conflict.

You should know that in the situation of two people, even if one's point of view does not agree with the other party, it is harmless to give in a step.But if there are more than three people, once a person's point of view is refuted, he will feel that he has lost face under the eyes of everyone. With this mentality, it is difficult to end, and he will argue with reason or even argue with arguments.The little ones had a big quarrel and fought, and the big ones killed Ying Ye and laid down millions of corpses, which was nothing more than trivial matters. What should we do if we encounter this situation?

Confucius said: "Choose the good and follow it, and change the bad." The meaning of this sentence is not to let you stand up and support the side you think is right.Come on, everyone is an adult, who doesn't know what's right or wrong?Who can't tell right from wrong?The reason why they kept arguing and refused to give up was just out of face considerations, and they were unwilling to admit defeat in public.If at this time you jump out and criticize others for their mistakes, wouldn't you be asking for trouble? Since we ask ourselves not to be involved in conflicts, how do we "choose the good" and "choose the bad"?

During the Three Kingdoms period, there was a Mr. Sima Hui, known as Mr. Shui Jing, who was a close friend with Zhuge Liang of Wolong.As the saying goes, lying with a tiger is not a good beast, but flying with a phoenix is ​​a handsome bird. Since this Mr. Shui Jing has made friends with Zhuge Liang, he must have something extraordinary. The extraordinary thing about Sima Hui is that he never talks about other people's shortcomings, and when talking with people, no matter what, he always says "good good good good good good" and nods repeatedly.Once, a guest came to visit and asked Sima Hui that he was safe. Sima Hui replied: "Okay, okay." die..." Sima Hui nodded repeatedly after hearing this, and said, "Okay, that's really great."

The guest was furious and turned away. Sima Hui's wife scolded him and said, "Why are you like this? When the guest came to the door, he regarded you as a kind and honest gentleman, so he told you his private affairs, but how did you listen?" When someone’s son dies, instead of persuading them to mourn, why don’t you keep saying yes?” After hearing this, Sima Hui nodded again and again, and said to his wife, "Well, well, what you said is really kind." Now we have a word called "Mr. Good Man", which is specially used to describe those old slippery people who are in the world.And the source of this sentence is Mr. Shui Jing, Sima Hui.

No wonder Zhuge Liang's eyes are higher than the top, even Liu Bei pays three visits to the thatched cottage to give him a rare lift of his ass, but he only takes a look at Sima Huigao, for no other reason, just because, this Sima Hui's thick black technique has reached the highest level of perfection. As we have already analyzed, the reason why Mr. Shui Jing has reached the unattainable thick and dark realm is precisely from this sentence of Confucius.From the three of us, there must be my teacher, to the intensive practice of thick black art, what a detour has been made, if we don't think carefully, how can we discover this wonderful wisdom?